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I need some advice on getting over a relationship after my partner ended it suddenly by text.
Q. I need some advice on getting over a relationship after my partner ended it suddenly by text. We went away for a few days over August Bank holiday and all seemed great. Her teenage kids from her defunct marriage got on with me as well. The first ...
A. 22 September 2007: what a cowardly and dispicable way to end a relationship (my ex, suprisingly of 5 months also, did the exact same to me!)
but after alot of thinking, i decided that sometimes when you care about somebody but not as much as they do you, you find... (read in full...)
Helppp!!! How can I control my jealousy?
Q. I am going out with a boy I have been chasing up for a year now and finally he says he loves me a lot and I really do believe him as we wouldn't be together otherwise as he has never had a girlfriend before and he used to blow girls off a lot, which ...
A. 22 September 2007: i think your are quite insecure and that is wh yyou feel jealous about minor things which are not really posing a threat to your relationship.
you wanted this guy so much that now you have him, you are petrified of loosing him, which ironical... (read in full...)
I want to apologize but I feel like he owes me one as well...
Q. i accidently insulted the guy i'm crushing on about his looks. i was only joking around and i didnt think it was really hurtful. but apparently he did. he now acts coldly toward me and even told a friend of mine that i joke around a lot but someti...
A. 22 September 2007: you have completely knocked his confidence, through a harmless joke or not and maybe you don't realise how insensitive you are when you "fool around" but it clearly upsets others. next time you make a joke, stop and think about the consequences. ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man unsure about the age difference between us. He's nearly 21 and I'm 17.
Q. I have been interested with this 20 yr old guy for a while, and when we were talking the other day he said he liked me but he was unsure about the age difference. hes turning 21 3 months before i turn 18 and he thinks its weird. i told him i have no ...
A. 22 September 2007: age is just a number, when you're 20 and he's 23, it'll be nothing! honestly, just explain that and he shuold realise that if you both like each other, you've got nothing to loose!!... (read in full...)
What are the first steps to an abortion, once you discover pregnancy?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone could help me, once you find out you are pregnant, what are the first steps to getting an abortion? Do you HAVE to go via a GP in the UK? Also, do you have to persuade the doctor to let you have the termination or do ...
A. 22 September 2007: Your GP will refer you. no persuations necessary, but be prepared to be judged and lectured bu the doctor. then he will transfer to an abortion clinic and they will make sure your decision is absolutly the one you want to make, it'll be called ... (read in full...)
So hurt after our break up, but we both want to try again! What can I do?
Q. Hi Everyone. I need help sorting my head out. My partner and I split up in February after just over 4 years together. After quite a few conversations in between then and now, we decided to try and make it work again. He was the one though that ...
A. 22 September 2007: if in doubt, the best way is out.
i'm sorry but i always think that an ex is an ex for a reason. there are always times when we ponder over whether we made the right decision or if our feelings will rebuild themselves iof we try and make the rela... (read in full...)
Sooo many problems that I need to sort out. I feel like a nobody. Please, please help me!
Q. can anybody help a looser?? i feel like a complete nobody at the minute. i am so depressed and yes i know its my fault but i dont know what to do about it. i am a 15, female and live in the uk. have a mum, no dad, no grandparents and no other fa...
A. 22 September 2007: none of this is your fault!
i'm so sorry you have had a hard time time throughout your teenage years but you have coped well in my opinion. nobody would handle their dad, gran and grandad dying much differently to you. most children experime... (read in full...)
We want Sex, but can't have it because the kids are around! Any advice?
Q. Ok hi, me and my wife need some advice on how to stop wantign sex when we can't have it such as when we are out or in the day when the kids are in, ones 17 and the others only a baby. We both work during the hours that our youngest is at ...
A. 22 September 2007: i think it's great that your sex drive is still high in a long marriage. as for making it go away, asides for thinking about something really off putting, then no.
sometimes a quicky isn't such a bad thing, and your kids would never know! as... (read in full...)
My wife became depressed after having our first child. She has now met new male friends over the internet. Is there a cause for concern here?
Q. My wife and I have been married three years and we've had a great relationship. She was recently depressed after having our first child and turned to the internet to find happiness. She has new male friends, should I be concerned? She told me she ...
A. 22 September 2007: it sounds as though she suffered with post natal depression and if she didn't seek medical help for it, she will still be feeling vulnerable, regardless of how old the child is now. she needs to see a doctor and he will help with the depression.
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My online interest... seems to be losing interest! Am I being unreasonable?
Q. i am so confused, i met a guy on a bbw internet dating site a few months ago. we have spoken threw the site and msn for a month or so now.we have exchanged phoned numbers and he has called me and now wishes us to meet, however....he doesnt seem to ...
A. 22 September 2007: its hard to trust someone you haven't met and it appears your putting more in than he is. a compliment costs nothing but means everything.
i think that youneed to talk to him, seriously and tell him your fed up with the way he acts and he eithe... (read in full...)
My bf has had a vasectomy and I want a baby, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend has had a vasectomy and i want a baby we've been together 3 years and have talked about marriage, etc, what should i do? he is 41 i am 31...
A. 22 September 2007: he's young to have had one done but maybe that implies he doesn't want any children and if you do, you need to consider whether marriage is the right option.
he could have it reversed but it'd hurt, and if his heart isn't in it the emtional... (read in full...)
Do you wait until the person is completely over her ex or help her find a new meaning of love?
Q. I want to see what everyone thinks about [me] getting involved with someone who is making an attempt to get over their ex and trying to move on with their life. Do you wait till she has completely recovered? Or do you date to help them find a...
A. 22 September 2007: bad idea.
she'll be on the rebound still and may result in you feeling rejected if she decides it was a mistake, but what's to say she is interested in you? i think you need to be there for her but give her space, time and you'll know when she... (read in full...)
More information about bj.
Q. How do you give a blowjob? People say "suck me off" but then it's called a "blow job". What excatly do you do!? Suck or blow? And do most people use a condom when giving one? Does this turn a guy off? Does it taste bad doing it without a con...
A. 22 September 2007: okay, i have given many bj's (to the same guy!) and never used a condom. in my experience, a guy gets excited at the thought of receiving head so he won't complain.
you don't really blow, it's more sucking and as you do, just gently move your mou... (read in full...)
I fancy a guy, but I think he hates my guts. Any advice how I can approach him?
Q. Ugg... Dude, I hate love. Ok, well, there's this boy in school. I'm 14 and he's 16. Well I was friends with one of his close friends, who is also 16. When I was hanging round with him, I used to p off this other boy becasue I just did'nt like h...
A. 21 September 2007: guys do things when they are drunk.
he's 16 and you were probablt overwhelmed by the fact he payed an interest in you. unfortunaltely, he more likely than not can't even remember it, so my suggestion is to move on and find someone else.
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It's been two years now... But I still like him!! How do I forget him?
Q. Hi, I've liked this guy for so many years now its 6years and were both 13 very soon going to be 14, well he use to be in my class but 2 years ago we left school and went our own seperate ways. am finding it hard to stop liking him and all i want to ...
A. 21 September 2007: unfortunately there is no wuick fix to your problem, yu can't turn your emotions off but you need to try.
the easiest way to move on is when you begin to think of him, stop yourself and think of something else, like music or something and then eve... (read in full...)
My brother had an operation that left him disfigured. What can I do/say to help him?
Q. My brother had an operation on his nose to remove a small tumour from one side. It has left him disfigured. In order to patch up the hole the Surgeon not only took a bit of skin from his ear, but stretched the skin over from the other side of the ...
A. 21 September 2007: its going to take him time to get used to it but he will. and regardles of what anybody else thinks, they don't know him. so many people are narrow minded and shallow, they assume they have the right to comment and to hell with people's feelings. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have feelings for a one night stand?
Q. Alright so I'm just wondering if it is normal to have feelings for a one night stand? I know it defeats the purpose of it being a one night thing, but whenever I go with a girl for a night I end up wanting more than just a quick fling. Does th...
A. 21 September 2007: i find it hard to beleive that a guy actually has feelings for his one night stands! seriously, so many can't even remember the names or faces of their "triumphs" so i find it refreshing to hear from someone like you.
maybe you shouldn't have so ... (read in full...)
Is he in it for sex, as his words when he was drunk made me believe/doubt?
Q. I am 19 years old and the guy I started seeing is 24. We come from completely different sides of the 'spectrum', so to speak. He is the sweetest most beautiful person I've met, inside and out. We connected like puzzle pieces and have the same ...
A. 21 September 2007: no, i genuinely believe you two are going to be just fine, it's more of a compliment because he could be thinking about anyone but it's you he fantasizes about which is really nice. what he means by it being always on his mind is he can't wait for ... (read in full...)
In a gay relationship with a girl and attracted to her roommate. I don't know who to choose.
Q. Attracted to two people???? Where do I start? First of all, I'm bisexual and right now I am in a relationship with a female. I think she is a great girl and we have a lot in common. We both have admitted to one another that we're very compatible. ...
A. 21 September 2007: only you can answer that i'm afraid.
if you don't know how you feel about your girlfriend, i think it's unfair to carry the relationship on under false pretences because you are attracted to other girls and thinking about acting upon it.
she ... (read in full...)
He told me that although he loves me, he doesn't know if he wants a future with me or if he would be happier in his own solitary world; he's a widower. What should I do?
Q. I have been having a long distance relationship with a widower for 4 years. we see each other on average around 10 days a month and for the occational holiday. however we do chat everyday on the phone. we do have different outlooks and int...
A. 21 September 2007: perhaps he is thinking of you in the long term. he was married for 20 years and maybe he gave his wife all the emotion he had, leaving him with nothing to give to you. he loves you but doesn't want to give you half of himself, he'd rather give ... (read in full...)
I worry that I never give myself completely in a relationship, after disappointments in the past. Has anyone else experienced this?
Q. I worry that I never give myself completely in a relationship. Ever since I was a young woman, and got my heart dashed by my first love, I have never allowed myself to be so in love with anyone else. I always keep back some reserves, some dist...
A. 21 September 2007: not personally but i sympathise, because i do have reservations due to my broken home.
sometimes it takes somebody very special to understand that it's not easy to commit when you don't understand your own feelings, let alone taking on someone ... (read in full...)
I keep wondering if his ex is trying to ruin our relation or he really has been cheating, as she claims?
Q. I had written a post a few weeks ago about my boyfriends ex.. which was.. She emailed me and told me my boyfriend and her had been talking and that they were sleeping together.. I was furious.. Now I didnt believe her because shes been tr...
A. 21 September 2007: if you had put this behind you and moved on, and now it has come back into your mind, you have trust issues which will take its toll on your relationship sooner rather than later. if you know it won't happen again, you need to block it out your ... (read in full...)
Should I confront her about the secret texts and emails?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years. When she came to live with me she had just left her ex (we knew each other prior to our getting together). She is the type of person who keeps lots of friends, and thinks nothing of the fact that ...
A. 21 September 2007: you need to be honest, it is the only you will find out. just explain you were going through your accounts and came across it, don't make any suggestions that you think she's been unfaithful, because it doesn't seem that way, she seems to be ... (read in full...)
Do all guys go through stages like this?
Q. I went away on holiday for 11 days, and though we spoke to each other on MSN, he felt distant. He says he still loves me and we're still good together, he's just not interested in sex anymore/at the moment. Is there something wrong with me? S...
A. 21 September 2007: now, i'm not a guy but i know that when a guy goes off sex, it's either because he's getting elsewhere or he feels guilty about something.
i don't want to send alarm bells to youbut you've not said you've done anything, no arguements or alike so... (read in full...)
How does dressing reflect (homo)sexuality?
Q. my 17 year old son wears his jean really low down with his boxers showing and a short t shirt. Does this mean he is gay or has problems with his sexuality?...
A. 21 September 2007: apparently it is the fashion, for some reason but it's got no link to being gay or confused. he's just following a trend which will soon fade out.
grin and bare it!
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I'm lucky to get sex once a month and even then the deal she makes of it makes me feel dirty, and as a whole I get the impression she appreciates nothing I do...
Q. I'll give a basic outline of how i feel the relationship is going at the moment and then ask the opinion about it: I always put myself out to make sure she is happy, i go round to her place (we live seperately) pretty much all the time, whereas ...
A. 21 September 2007: it does seem as though she is behaving unfairlt towards you and i commend you for being as understanding as you are. your girlfriend probably does love you but she has begun to take you for granted, not realising the pressure and emotional strain ... (read in full...)
Do I follow my head or my heart?
Q. Hi Do I follow my head or my heart? I am with a girl, and do like her, things have been slow since weve been away from uni for the summer hols. I think we get on ok and will have some good times to come, but I don't see if going too far to be...
A. 21 September 2007: honestly, i think that you should do the right thing and finish your relationship with you grilfriend because the longer you stay with her, the more likely it is that she will be getting false hopes.
and once you are out of the relation... (read in full...)
I've left him for the fifth time, but he doesn't seem upset! Is he b/c he's used to it? This is bothering me!
Q. I've recently (2 weeks ago) left my husband for the 5th time due to his drinking habits. The other times I have left him he has always cried and begged to have me back. This time he acts as if it doesn't bother him. Could this be because he's ...
A. 21 September 2007: he thinks that its not for real and quite understandably really. you can't leave him and then return because you're giving an alcohol depndant man reason to keep drinking, if he needs one, because you get upset, leave him, he gets down, drinks even ... (read in full...)
Why have I got a lack of sex drive with this pregnancy when last time I was always wanting it!?
Q. We got married last week. My 1st pregnancy (my baby is 5 months old) I wanted sex a lot. It seemed like I couldn't get enough. I would even wake him up in the middle of the night and get on him. I am 3-4 months pregnant now and I don't at all ...
A. 21 September 2007: every pregnancy is different and maybe you're lack of sex is because you're tired and you have a child already so oyu're not as relaxed as before.
every person is different, you never know, further into your pregnancy, hormones might change a... (read in full...)
Has anybody fallen out of love with someone, only to fall back in love and stay happy?
Q. Has anyone gotten back together with the one they fell out of love with, and fallen back in love and been happy ever since ?...
A. 21 September 2007: unfortunately, the only reason you fall out of love with someone is because you don't love them and the reasons will always be there regardelss of whether you still find them attractive.
remember, it is better to have loved and lost than to never... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy blow into a girls ear?
Q. what does it mean when a guy blow into a girls ear...
A. 21 September 2007: sometimes they do it as a sign of intimacy but it depends who the guy is and if you're together.
if he's just a guy at school then he probably did it to annoy you, and i wouldn't read to much into it... (read in full...)
I'm wondering why men like sex so much more when the woman has stockings and heels on? Opinions please..
Q. I have a question for the guys out there. Ladies feel free to give your input too. I am just wondering why my husband like sex so much more when I am wearing stockings and heels during sex? Sometimes I feel like a whore because of wearing them dur...
A. 21 September 2007: heals are femine and make women look radiant when wearing them with stockings. the sexual fantasies men dream about are usually of someone very sexy and femine and with heals, so you are living his fantasy and he should be very grateful but it's ... (read in full...)
IF you keep on dreaming about a guy does that mean that your still into him?
Q. I'm very confused =( I dont know what feelings I have towards this person...See I haven't talked to this guy for over a month and I dont think about him that much even though I was really into him...but lately...Everywhere I go I hear his name...ITs ...
A. 21 September 2007: what do you have to loose? but don't freak him out but telling him you've been dreaming of him!
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I don't know if I should be with him. How do I figure out what I'm really feeling?
Q. I don't know if I'm finding reasons to not like this guy because I'm afraid or because we shouldn't be together. I'm not the most experienced when it comes to dating and the relationships that I've been in have been hurtful. What should I do to ...
A. 21 September 2007: you're judging him on the past relationships. what you need to do, is realsie he isn't your previous partners, and i'm sure he's not out to hurt you.
speak to him, tell him your concerns, explain you've been hurt in the past and your being ca... (read in full...)
He suffers from prem ej and has now joined a site looking for sex. He doesn't know I know. Should I confront him?
Q. I am married for 14 years to a man 16 years my senior. We have got into a vicious circle, where he comes too quick if we haven't had sex for a while which puts me off having sex with him for a while. When I want to have sex with him again he comes ...
A. 21 September 2007: he uses a credit card he knows you'll see, maybe this is his pathetic excuse for trying to get out of the relationship.
i think you should ask him, if he's thinking of cheating or maybe he has done already which is why he doesn't have sex with... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same love for my wife that I once did and I feel like I want to have sex with more women. What can I do?
Q. I've been with my wife for nearly 3 years now. We have a 9 month old baby girl who i love to pieces. However i'm just not happy with my life. I don't find my wife attractive, we get on ok but i don't feel the same love for her that i once did....
A. 21 September 2007: you are so young to be ties down and married. i think you know what you have to do. it's unfait on both you and your wife to continue this marriage when you're not in love with her anymore. you will hurt a hundred times more if you cheat on her, ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever got back with an ex they fell out of love with?
Q. Has anyone gotten back together with a partner when they fell out of love? Also has anyone fallen back their sexual attraction to their partner ?...
A. 21 September 2007: i think ex's are ex's for a reason.
when you're not with them, the anxiety that you are missing out on somethings becomes greater than the memories of why you split up to begin with. when you see an ex, the emotions and feelings come flooding... (read in full...)
How do I ask the friend out I have known for 3 months?
Q. I have a friend that i've known for about 3 months now and i really like her and want to ask her out. my problem is that i can't seem to get any alone time with her because our entire family met in greece so whenever we do see each other were never ...
A. 21 September 2007: just talk to her and be honest. it's the best way. tell her you like her alot and would she be interseted in going out for pizza or a movie, or both!
you don't need to be on your own completely, just ask her when you see her next, she might sa... (read in full...)
Why do we let some get closer to us then others, even if they all seem to behave and have same qualities?
Q. Im looking for opinions, on finding urself attracted to someone,but you dont know what it is. That makes you attracted to that person. Im fairly older so been around,been in several relationships through the years,been married for 18 years,divorce...
A. 21 September 2007: chemistry. when you were i nschool did they ever say to you "opposites attract" because it is completely true.
you feel safe, secure, comfortable and content around this guy, you know him, trust him and like him. other guys aren't as sensitiv... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend questioning his sexuality or is he just insecure?
Q. Is my boyfriend questioning his sexuality or is he just insecure? I have been dating this man for 2 years. We moved in together after a year of distance dating (about 2 1/2 hours apart). After 4 or 5 months of living together I started noticing ...
A. 21 September 2007: i think he is confused, to be honest.
his actions do sound like that of a gay man but lets give him the benefit of the doubt here. who wouldn't want a man who did household chores? men take just as much pride in their appearance as women and it's... (read in full...)
Should I have given my ex another chance? I'm wondering now!
Q. Hi all, I'd like 2 take ur opinions pls...am 23, 2 years ago I had a bf 4 about a year then we broke up cos he wasnt ready 2 move 2 the next level, as he says he's phobic to commitment, it's been a year since we broke up, then we started talkin a...
A. 21 September 2007: you were apart for wuite a while, right? so now he's lonely and wanting sex and there you are, at the right time in the right place. every man is afraid of commitment until they have sampled enough of life to settle down. he doesn't love you, he ... (read in full...)
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