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writes:Im looking for opinions, on finding urself attracted to someone,but you dont know what it is. That makes you attracted to that person.Im fairly older so been around,been in several relationships through the years,been married for 18 years,divorced,dated since then.I lets say over think sometimes,most freinds call me way too smart for my own good,but i find there has to be logic to every situation.My delima is this,i was seeing a gentlman for 2 years, will say seeing,as twice a week,great guy,great sex,every time,good looking,we could talk for hours without noticing the time going by.Very out of my character,for i am not one to fall for a guy,i dont call it dating,it is just twice a week for good fun ,i guess being married that long,im not looking for anything too demanding on me.Now this guy is totaly nothing special,meaning,i have been with other men,he holds nothing odd or better on them.We took a break,very much both agreed , our relationship was very intense,intense in a good way.But we both decided to take that break,atleast sexual wise.We still talk,but i remain friends with all my ex's type of person i am.I feel there has to be a logic to why, i became closer to him,then other men in my life,when i see nothing as i say special about him,i feel broken as i say,i am comfortable around him,i am highly attracted to him.But i have the fear i suppose,of why am i?I ask because it came up tonight in phone conversation,and i had hard time explaining my actions,when he suggested maybe, we try again, now while on break for 3 months ,i did, actually try to have a bit of fun with another,but i couldnt,I have never had this happen to me before,especially after 3 months of no sex.All i could say to him on phone was,i am broken, i need to realise the why am i, so into him and not someone else,it bothers me,to think that someone has that kind of impact on me.There has to be some sort of logic,for me,or maybe not,maybe im trying to relationlise something out of nothing.But oppinions on why we find some more able to get closer to us then others even if they all seem to behave and have same qualities? This maybe be confusing.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (21 September 2007):
Why do people fall in love? No scientist yet can fully explain it. That doesn't mean there are no logical reasons. If you date only losers you will fall in love with a loser. You have some control over the people you let get close enough to you that you might fall in love.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 chemistry. when you were i nschool did they ever say to you "opposites attract" because it is completely true.
you feel safe, secure, comfortable and content around this guy, you know him, trust him and like him. other guys aren't as sensitive to your needs and although you don't realise it, this man is special because he makes you feel like nobody can.
it's not until you loose what you have that you realise just how much they meant. i know you are not looking for anything demanding or serious and it would seem your gentleman friend understands that too. where's the harm in continuing this relationship if it's happy and nice.
life's too short to ponder over questions which have no real answers, he won't wait around forever.
good luck
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