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writes:I'll give a basic outline of how i feel the relationship is going at the moment and then ask the opinion about it:I always put myself out to make sure she is happy, i go round to her place (we live seperately) pretty much all the time, whereas she only stays at mine if its convenient for her (i.e. shes going out for the night, or has worked late, my house is closer to work then hers)Her sex drive is ridiculously low, i'm lucky if i get it once a month (and its always old fashioned, nothing interesting), and even then i feel like i'm dirty for wanting it, as of the deal she makes of it.and its not like i'm overly demanding for it, i'll rarely "start on her" as i respect that she may not want it and hav to deal with "sorting myself out"The money i spend is ridiculous, the effort i put in as a whole is completely unmirrored by her and i really get the impression she appreciates nothing i do.thats all the negatives, on the positive we do have a laugh, i like cuddling up with her, and i do genuinely believe she loves me.but my question is, is there something better for me? i sometimes think of what it would be like to be free, but then convince myself that noone would want me... we've been together for nearly one year.
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reader, samohir  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Or she doesnt love you at all, but needs you at the moment (to have a place to come at night or after work, to talk and laugh with somebody)... truly manipulative manner ... Or she is unsatisfyed with something of ur relationship. Third option according to me does not exsist, and u should see whats the real question. If a woman is in love and in a satisfying relationship than her sexual drive believe me is Great.Hope was helpful
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Well, just to give my opinion since you asked for it, from sounds, I would say there is somebody better suited for you; somebody who will want Sex more often, and somebody who will show appreciation for you a more clearly.
You're young, she's young. See how it goes. People change after all. Maybe it's something you could talk to her about. Of course you don't want it to seem as if you are saying "If you're not putting out, I'm moving on", of course you don't. But if you ask me, there isn't anything wrong with discussing it.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (21 September 2007):
 it does seem as though she is behaving unfairlt towards you and i commend you for being as understanding as you are. your girlfriend probably does love you but she has begun to take you for granted, not realising the pressure and emotional strain it has out on you.
i think you should talk to her, there might be a reason behind her lack of enthusiasm for sex, maybe she isn't happy about something, but until you to her, you're not goint to know and you'll drive yourself crazy in the meantime. just speak calmly and try to work out what to do for the best, for you both.
good luck
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