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My gf split with me, as her family was moving away. We tried to talk, but it was awkward, as she sounded angry.
Q. Hi. My girlfriend split with me because her family was moving house, about 130 miles away from me, and didn't want our relationship to continue. We tried to talk after she moved away, but it was awkward. She sounded angry with me, so I decided tha...
A. 23 September 2007: she did the right thing in not giving you false hope that she was going to try and continue the relationship when she knew it wouldn't be simple.
youhave done great in moving on and you need to focus on that, whatever she is doing now, she's no... (read in full...)
My daughter reported me to Social Services
Q. hi my 15 year old daughter has but social servies on me, she is saying that i don't love her and that she don't wont to come back home to me. she had run away alot of time but not done this before. to try and help i asked my family to let her stay...
A. 23 September 2007: there needs to be a reason for her to take such drastic messures? and i am not in any way accusing you of doing anything but in a teenagers mind, something must have happened. she's done it before, so maybe its attention she's craving, just going ... (read in full...)
I said I loved him, he didn't reciprocate!
Q. I told my boyfriend of 4 months that i loved him, thinking that he felt the same. But he didnt and now i feel stupid and hurt. He says he cares about me alot but doesnt feel in love with me just yet. Has anyone else been in a situation like this.......
A. 23 September 2007: yes but it's okay, some people take longer to work out there feelings and understand how they feel.
you've told him how you feel, and at least his not given you any false hopes but in time he will say it, and it'll be when you least expect i... (read in full...)
He wants me back, what should I do?
Q. HELPPPPPPP I went out with this boy for over a year and we got on soo welll! Then we broke up and i fancyed him soo bad! Ovber the summer he wodnt see me n was alwys jellousing me and telling me to get over his.. making me look like a mug.. ect! So ...
A. 23 September 2007: you've got lovely memories and that is a lovely thing to have, you shouldn't feel guilty but you shouldn't get back with him.
he's probably lonely and you're an easy way to have some fun.
stay strong and tell him its best to let sleeping dog... (read in full...)
He's leaving, but I need him...
Q. Help! I Love this boy but he's 16, hes going to be leaving my school in a few months, im 14, but i really love him, ive told him how i feel but he didnt take it serious i told him online n he just said ' aww cute lol hehe' please i really need him, ...
A. 23 September 2007: your looking for reassurance but what your feeling isn't love, you're focusing your attentions away from your home and school problems which are not the best ideas.
you have to understand that he has let you down gently and you've got to move on.... (read in full...)
Had plans of moving away, but after meeting my bf I realised I've something good to stay for. Now I resent him for changing my life plans. Help?
Q. i met my b/f about a year ago and fell for him straight away but a month before that i was asked by a female friend to move to australia with her as her grandad werent well and and needed looking after. my plan was to move with my friend but over ...
A. 23 September 2007: i think you got your priorities wrong.
this guy means something to you but you have let him change your plans and your poor friend has had to deal with her grandfathers illness by herself. you boyfriend isn't to blame and the resent you resent h... (read in full...)
He's pulled away! Should I give him space?
Q. I met a great guy online three months ago. First two months were total bliss and we got close very fast. The last month he has pulled away. He still calls me but it's once a week instead of every day. What do I do? We aren't close like we wer...
A. 23 September 2007: i'd give him space, he might just being trying to sort his head out or soemthing, and in time he'll let you know his true feelings.
good luck... (read in full...)
I don't like other people looking at my gf.
Q. Hi There, Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year, and I have somewhat of a problem, I don't like other people looking at her and when I say this I mean for example she went to get fitted for a dress and had to stand in her bra and ...
A. 23 September 2007: you can't do anything, you can't control what she wears but it's a compliment that guys look her, she's with you, would you prefer people think she was ugly?
it's ok to be jealous but just remember it's you she is with and nobody else gets her... (read in full...)
My teeth are yellow and this puts down my confidence...
Q. I have had yellow teeth for as long as I can remember. I don't know why, I hardly ever eat chocolate or drink coffee/tea or smoke or do much that would stain them. It really affects the way I talk and act around boys. I don't think they're nat...
A. 23 September 2007: the calcium in milk, helps teeth grow stronger but it doesn't prevent the teeth turning yellow.
unfortunaely i don't know what to suggest other than whitening toothpastes but you say you have tried this. you can have them sergically whitened... (read in full...)
I had the feeling my ex was considering kissing me, but I don't want to look embarassing if I'm reading the signs wrong.
Q. my ex broke up with me about two months ago and we hadn't seen each other since but talked most days on msn. but since being back at college, i get the feeling that he still loves me, or at least has feelings for me. the first time i saw him, i went ...
A. 23 September 2007: i say it a million times but an ex is an ex for a reason!!
he probably does look at you the same because when you're not with someone anymore you feel as though you're missing out and therefore the temptation is there but then you realsize... (read in full...)
Does this boy like me? What do I do?
Q. Well, I like this boy and he is a year younger that me, however, I don't know if he likes me back. I've caught him staring a lot of times even when I had a boyfriend and when I meet his eyes, he either smiles and asks me a quick question or quic...
A. 23 September 2007: speak to him!
what do you have to loose? he's obviously interested in you and and you like him so that's a good start!
good luck!!!... (read in full...)
Reading her journal, I found out she has been with over 100 men, random men. I'm disgusted, don't know what to do.
Q. So I'm having a bit of an issue with my fiance's "loose morals" before we met. Why is this an issue now? Well, I stumbled upon her journals... I know, I made a mistake (trust me, I would have rather not known). So "A" and I have been togethe...
A. 23 September 2007: first of all, how judgemental are you! you think this women deserves to be judged on her past history when you didn't want to know. she's not lied, been decietful, but you have.
so her past is colourful, big deal, she's not like you and has expe... (read in full...)
Who to choose: my current boyfriend who wants to be engaged or my best friend who is my ex?
Q. What to choose: Person A:Current Boyfriend/Possible Fiance, Person B: Ex/ Best Friend, or other advice?? I am 24 years old and have been in a relationship for about 3/12 years, though I keep thinking about my best friend/ ex. My current boyfrien...
A. 23 September 2007: to be honest, you have to tell your boyfriend the truth and then he will probably dump you but you'll be ok, because you have your best friend. it's unfair for you to give your bf false hope and as for your best friend, if you tried dating and it ... (read in full...)
I'm in love w/ someone other than my abusive husband - but I'm unsure about his actions, as well! Any advice?
Q. I have a husband for 14 years. I loved him and was totally dutiful when i got married as arranged by my parents. He beat me sometimes on account of fights and left me helpless. I got fedup and promised to throw him out of my feelings but didnt ...
A. 23 September 2007: personally, i think you should divorce your abusive husband, there are no reasons or justifications for ever beating a women (or man) in a relationship.
and secondly i don't think you should get into another relationship with this man who claims t... (read in full...)
I think that my bf may have been in a relationship w/ his best friend - I don't want to share his love!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 months now,although i have known this man for 9 years.I am very confused,i think he may be in love with his best friend(m).His friend is a single gay guy,who i am certain is in love with him. Before we started ...
A. 23 September 2007: maybe, this friend does love your bf but that doesn't mean the feeling is recipricated.
your boyfriend and his friend know things about each other, i could tell you every last detail about my best friend and her me but i'm certainly not in love ... (read in full...)
Should I just leave it in the past or take a chance?
Q. Hi I need some advice. There is this guy that I think about constantly. I met him years ago, I was seeing this guy and he was their best friend. We had a connection and the guy I was seeing noticed and asked if I liked him. Basically they t...
A. 23 September 2007: maybe he is somthing special but he's somebody elses.
you beleive that you are going to speak to him and all of a sudden he'll leave his fiance and run away with you? i think you're livig in a bubble and it'll get burst the second you realise ... (read in full...)
How can I get closer to her and talk to her about my feeling about her?
Q. How can I catch a girl? She is my classmate at the university. I do like her, but she is one of those proud and formal behaving girls (like me as a boy), she is so hard to have a small talk with, I wonder how I can set up a relationship with her. ...
A. 23 September 2007: just ask her how she is and then start talking. sometimes it's difficult to prejudge how soemone's going to react but it's better to regret ever asking her out than to regret never knowing what she might have said.
don't see her as a challeng... (read in full...)
Is he a cheater, should I dump him?
Q. Is he a cheater, should i dump him? i want to first start out by saying i have been cheated on in the past and i think the cheating may be my problem now..?? so this is my problem, my boyfriend and i have been togther for 6 months, before...
A. 23 September 2007: take a time out and review your situation. you read so much into things and i think it comes don to your insecurities thanks to cheating ex's!!
anyway, what i suggest is you take a deep breath and think, would "sam" really hurt you buy creeping... (read in full...)
Should I try and prove to him he can trust me or let him go? I made a mistake before meeting him and he holds it against me.
Q. My boyfriend of 3 months and I had a fight tonight because I have realized that he doesn't trust me to go out with my friends, or to a party and have a drink. I don't have a problem with alcohol and never have, A few months before I met him...
A. 23 September 2007: everyone has a past and not everyone's is a bed of roses, my past is very colourful!
i think his issues with alcohol are understandable to a certain degree but there are so many people who drink and only a limited amount of alcoholics. i think he... (read in full...)
Does she like me as much as I like her?
Q. I met the most amazing woman at a college party last saturday. I was slightly drunken, and I thought she was beautiful, so of course I flirted with her. I ended up finding out that she was completely sober, and was just the DD. Somehow I had ...
A. 23 September 2007: yes, i would say she does.
however, you need to repect that she's still hurting from her preivious relationship and you must take things at her pace. she has been honest and said she is cautious of guys, but you seem very nice so be yourself... (read in full...)
How can I get over my ex fiance?
Q. hi aunty, my problem is how to forget my engaged girlfriend whom we separated after 3yrs but still feel i love though she told me she is seeing someone else seriously.help aunty...
A. 23 September 2007: you can't help feeling upset because she left you and is now in another relationship with someone new.
you need to move on and try to realise that she wasn't happy in the relationship and she couldn't see marriage as the next step forward and alth... (read in full...)
I feel so alone, and tired of people not treating me properly...
Q. i dont know what to do, i feel really depressed. the bloke i loved dumped me by ignoring my calls. my last 3 relationships ended by my partners hand. i'm finding my new job really hard my boss doesnt seem to like me. other people have picked up on ...
A. 23 September 2007: your friend is over reating about her mascarra and every one thinks there boss hates them, but he/she isn't there to be liked.
its unfortunate that your previous relationships have ended in ways out of your control, but maybe you need some spa... (read in full...)
My gf told me she needed some time during which she'd see other men to clear her doubts, does this mean breaking up?
Q. My girlfriend just told me a couple of days ago she needed some time and space to think about what she wants and if she wants to see others to make sure of things. Does this mean she wants to break up or something else?...
A. 23 September 2007: i think she's trying to determine if she wants to continue in the relationship and his her cheats way out of saying she wants to sleep with ther men to see if she can do better than you but if she can't, she'll settle with you.
this is unfair o... (read in full...)
Should I give guys longer to make thier minds up or is 3 months enough? After that I start to get attached...
Q. All the men i have dated lately have only wanted fun, even though they say they love me or really love me. even after a few months they say they want to hold back or just to keep having fun and see what happens. I always take it easy at first, but ...
A. 23 September 2007: it is possible to love someone after 3 months but you don't usually tell that someone "lets just keep having fun"
my guess is it was a way to make you feel comfortable and content and them to have the fun they craved.
men are scared of re... (read in full...)
At first HE had lower sex drive, now I do, maybe because his not wanting it as frequent in the beginning has affected me?
Q. I have been dating my bf for 5 years. When we first started dating, I wanted to have sex non stop but he did not feel the same. Now he wants to have sex more often and I don't really feel the same way. I think subconsciously I have taken his not ...
A. 23 September 2007: i think he wants it more because you don't. men always like a challenge and now you have gone off wanting it all the time he wants to entice you and encourage you back to your old way and no doubt if he succeeded then he'd tire of it again.
its c... (read in full...)
If I admitted my interest towards my female friend, I'm worried her sister who works in the same line with me would spread the word which could affect my career. What to do?
Q. I am a woman 44 years of age and have been through two unsuccessful marriages and I have an adult daughter and 2 grandchildren. I have been single now for 10 years and have not dated in that timeframe due to the lack of interest in doing so. I am a ...
A. 23 September 2007: i think what you are trying to do is convince yourself that all men are going to behave the way your previous husbands did. its unlucky enough to have one failed marriage due to drugs and alcohol but to have two is enough to put anyone off men.
... (read in full...)
Why do people stay with someone they don't love?
Q. just a quick question. Why do people stay with some if they are not in love with them? I have a female friend who lives with her partner but wont leave him even though she doesnt love him and a male friend who lives with his girlfriend of 12 years ...
A. 23 September 2007: the fear of the unknown. if you get used to something, you are afraid to give it up incase you don't like the outcome. having children always adds to the "i can't leave" speach because you feel obliged to give them a normal, conventional ... (read in full...)
There's sexual frustrations on us for the lack of time together due to his job, my schedule... How to find space for each other?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for around 7 months. We have yet to have sex, but we mess around with hand jobs, oral sex, etc. I had to move in with a new guardian recently, and she is much stricter on how late I stay out, where I am, etc. ...
A. 22 September 2007: its difficult but not impossible.
maybe plan things, like days on the weekend together, do homework together, or speak to your guardian, although strict i'm sure she might understand you wanting to spend time with this guy, though don't tell her... (read in full...)
Wondering if a good friend of mine is gay.
Q. Alright, so I'm just wondering here if a good friend of mine is gay, I'll try and make this breif... He's been going with a girl for a couple weeks, and he tells us (the guys he hangs with) that he's doing stuff with her... But the other night ...
A. 22 September 2007: first, it is completely normal for guys to live in an apartment togther, like flatmates, so you come across as the homophobe, not him and secondly, if he doesn't want to "do stuff" to this girl, he shouldn't be pressured into it or made to feel less ... (read in full...)
In second year of uni and never had a bf. Any ideas?
Q. I'm just starting my second year of university (engineering), and yet have never had a boyfriend. I really would like to have at least some sort of relationship, but I have only ever had one guy ask me out, and he was a creep who admitted he asked ...
A. 22 September 2007: love finds us, not the other way around unfortunately.
if you try to hard, you could, as you have before, end up with soemone not right for you.
be patient and you're not alone,alot of girls start dating properly when they're older.
good l... (read in full...)
Should I shave "down there" for him?
Q. I'm 15 and I wanna let a guy go down there. I want to shave but I don't because I don't have the right equipment and I don't wanna pay the consequences. The boy I'm planning it with really likes me and I like him and I know he really does because ...
A. 22 September 2007: don't shave for anyone but yourself, if you feel it would make you more confident, there's no harm.
for a tip on shaving "down there", use conditioner (yes, hair conditioner) because it leaves your skin feeling soft and moisturised and all you ... (read in full...)
I told him about a rape fantasy I had which he said he liked, but he wanted something darker/dirtier.
Q. I feel somewhat embarrased to write this but from reading some of the responses, perhaps someone can help me. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship right now and we're both pretty sexual people and into various aspects of BDSM. ...
A. 22 September 2007: you don't have anything to loose really but sometimes fantasy's acted out aren't as good as first thought and therefore can leave you disappointed but hey, that's a very small posibility.
do what you're comfortable with and if at anytime you have... (read in full...)
I was told I was a Psycho just like his ex girlfriends - What do I do as this has me really upset and I feel so hurt.
Q. I told my boyfriend that I was not happy about him going into a strip club in Prague on a stagnite, I didn't say don't go, I said I wasn't happy as a reply from him I was told I was a Psycho just like his ex girlfriends - What do I do as this has me ...
A. 22 September 2007: in all fairness, a stagnight compromises of two things, alcohol and naked women. unfortunately tht is natures way and the reason he replies in such a nasty manner was he probably felt guilty because he was there and he knew you were upset about it. ... (read in full...)
He wants a girlfriend who isn't so boring or nags so much!!.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and a half... we have lived together for over a year now. I love him very much and we have a great time but sometimes I feel unhappy because it seems like he isn't the same person I fell in love ...
A. 22 September 2007: i think in a mad, unthoughtful way he trying to tell you he wants ou to be involved more. he goes out without you because you don't want to go and you're younger than him, ok, you don't have to go out every weekend but why not compromise? talk to ... (read in full...)
Have his feelings just changed for me or is he scared of getting hurt like he did when he was younger?
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me a week ago today. I'm finding it so hard because it came out of the blue and just after we'd spent a couple of good days away together for his birthday. I'm gutted because he's the loveliest guy I’ve ever ...
A. 22 September 2007: he's afraid of becoming dependant on a relationship and falling in love with you because he has barriers up because he was hurt when he was 15 and dpesn't want history to repeat itself.
he needs the time and space like he says to figure his head... (read in full...)
Are we compatible?
Q. He was born May 4th 1961. I was born on April 30th 1959. Could we be together?...
A. 22 September 2007: if you are spiritual it will mean something to you.
sometimes though, our spirit guides get it wrong and you have to depend on good old fashion intuition. if you like him, you can find out how compatible you are by getting to know him.
mayb... (read in full...)
Is it that guys want to be treated badly and unappreciative of the women nowadays? Am I mistaken in something?
Q. How to approah any relationship with people (males in this case) not whole hearthedtly?dear cupid here is my prolme. I'm 24,look pretty attractive, I work/ed on myself a lot, spiritually, intellectualy and physicaly. I'm introvert but mostly I'm ...
A. 22 September 2007: men like challanges. they like a quest, like seduction and the whole "getting you" and therefore when a relationship gets saming or taken for granted, men find new quests.
maybe making them try for things instead of them knowing they will get it a... (read in full...)
He's already come out and practically said "I love you" to me and it's only been a week.
Q. He's already come out and practically said "I love you" to me and it's only been a week. We've only been on one date and talked between classes a couple times. I'm a little freaked out by the whole situation, but it's rare that anyone takes notice ...
A. 22 September 2007: i don't think anyone can honestly say they love you until they understand you and know you and only then should it be said.
he may feel insecure but by declaring this he has defo limited his chances because he has scared you.
you need to t... (read in full...)
Is there a chance he will come back?
Q. Is there a chance he will come back? We were together for five months. For me it was love at first sight and in the beginning he seemed really excited too. Before me, he was in a seven-year relationship, long-distance for the last two, and they we...
A. 22 September 2007: unfortunately, it sounds like you were in the right place at the wrong time because he is on the re-bound. many people think that this means he doesn't care about you and regrets it, but infact it means he fell out of one relationship and straight ... (read in full...)
She's left me, and I'm not sure I believe her reasons why.
Q. She's left me, and I'm not sure I believe her reasons why. She told me it's because she was going away to study and didn't want to "drag out something she didn't think would work". We were together for a year, she was my first love, and it feels ...
A. 22 September 2007: whenever anybody gets "rejected" they feel like the world has come to end. but it hasn't.
in time you will realise that what she did was for the best and she didn't give you false hope of it working now she has gone away.
our first lov... (read in full...)
I need some advice on getting over a relationship after my partner ended it suddenly by text.
Q. I need some advice on getting over a relationship after my partner ended it suddenly by text. We went away for a few days over August Bank holiday and all seemed great. Her teenage kids from her defunct marriage got on with me as well. The first ...
A. 22 September 2007: what a cowardly and dispicable way to end a relationship (my ex, suprisingly of 5 months also, did the exact same to me!)
but after alot of thinking, i decided that sometimes when you care about somebody but not as much as they do you, you find... (read in full...)
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