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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Should I keep seeing him, or the whole "baby" and "ex" situation too much to bother with?
Q. HELP! well first off i meet this guy maybe 10 years ago when i was younger, he used to come through to where i stay for the summer holidays to visit his family and we hung around with each other ....long story short...puppy love! He u...
A. 8 July 2009: What court action and why?
Got a suspicion you are dating a guy that another woman already got a court order against. These kind of things are called hints. Take them.... (read in full...)
The father won't return calls ...
Q. My daughter, who is 18, is 7 months pregnant and her boyfriend (20 years old) won't return texts or calls. She is really upset and just needs to talk to him to make some decisions. She originally wanted to offer the baby for adoption, but may now ...
A. 8 July 2009: Contact a lawyer to find out what might happen one way or another with regards the bf's rights as a father. If he doesn't want to be involved, then you don't want him changing his mind in a couple of years and suddenly demand visitation rights or ... (read in full...)
WHY do I stay with this guy?
Q. I hate myself for loving my boyfriend, but I can't be without him. We've been together for 3 years, and he's been my first boyfriend and love. Generally he's great towards me, but sometimes he hurts me so much and doesn't seem to care. He always...
A. 8 July 2009: That is the eternal question. Why do people stay with someone who hurts them. What is this thing that they call love and is it really love or something more sinister.
You were asked to do something and didn't do it. Knowing that you are with a g... (read in full...)
How do I get my dad to like my boyfriend? And is this relationship illegal or immoral? I'm almost 18, he's 26.
Q. i am a 17 year old girl, i turn 18 in 3 weeks. my boyfried is 26. we love eachother very much and things are going really well between us... however, some of my family, especially my parents dont approve and say it is morally wrong and some of my ...
A. 8 July 2009: An age gap is always difficult to judge. I think your father sees it as man who really should be a fully grown adult by now with a career, a house etc etc trying to date his daughter who is STILL living at home and might be (in his eyes at least) ... (read in full...)
Our heartless, intimidating 'act' is keeping me from finding a boyfriend!
Q. In my friendship circle there are 3 of us who are single and we're the closest 3 who do everything together. However we dont class ourselves as your average girls we seem to have this image where by we're just 'some of the lads' and we got on with ...
A. 7 July 2009: Do what you want to do.
What is it you desire exactly? Do you want to be one of those girl who cries in a rubbish relationship? Are you "one of the lads" and wish to find a guy wants a girl like that?
Your life, your choice. So who are you a... (read in full...)
Why do I love the smell of him?
Q. Why is it that I love the smell of my boyfriend? Any other guy I just don't like how they smell, but when I smell my boyfriend or smell his scent faintly near by it just puts me on cloud nine. I have never been like this with any other boyfriend or ...
A. 7 July 2009: Smell is about association. You like his smell because you associate it with him. Horses smell of dung and sweat yet people who love horses like the smell because they love horses.
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I don't want to be asking myself ten years later "What if?.." I want to know.
Q. In 2005, I was fourteen when I met a man who soon became my everything, basically my whole world. He was forty-two, engaged to be married, and was also my history teacher. So you see, he was out of reach in more ways than one! Well, we've gr...
A. 7 July 2009: Ah, but if you find out what happens if you ask him how he feels, you won't find out what happens if you don't ask him how he feels.
It doesn't matter what choice you make, you will never know what would have happened with the choice you didn't m... (read in full...)
Do men orgasm during sex?
Q. Do men always have an orgasm while having sex? Plus - if they do - should it not be that a woman should orgasm too at the same time? (Just for life to be fair and equal?"...
A. 6 July 2009: Life to be fair and equal... HAHA!
That is a good one.
Sex is way to complex to keep score. Orgasms are not all equal. Women can have multiple ones and longer ones then men can, but most women have a harder time reaching one. Some women can k... (read in full...)
He cheated on me as I was pregnant and made the other woman pregnant too
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 years and we just had a baby. A few weeks ago I found out that he has another woman 7 months pregnant. So I start investigating about their relationship and turns out they were off and on during the whole time we ...
A. 6 July 2009: He cheats on you for a long time. Then tells the woman he gets pregnant to kill their child and piss off. In the mean time he claims he really wants to be with you. Lucky you.
Open your eyes girl and see.
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Does anyone have any ideas on what it will cost to see a dentist?
Q. i know this is nothing to do with relationships! but i was wondering if anyone could help me out, im seventeen years old and yeah im coming upto those years where im going to start going into town, clubs, big parties! and i have NO confidence at ...
A. 6 July 2009: Can't you select your own dentist? Same as that you can choose you own doctor.... (read in full...)
Why am I feeling jealous about other girls if I don't want to date him?
Q. dear cupid, its my first time on this advice site, so im here for advice recently my best friend has told me that he has feelings for me. background information: we dated about a year ago for only around a month, we didn't know each other very w...
A. 6 July 2009: Because you don't want someone else to play with your toy even if you are not playing with it.
You are probably torn between a guy you know should be a good partner but who just doesn't do it for you. But it is one thing to not want to date him... (read in full...)
I feel at my age I'll never meet someone nice again!
Q. I am 49 years old and very lonely. The last man I dated turned out to be very controlling and was very weird. I haven't dated anyone else, and I'm afraid of internet dating (afraid I will meet another psycho who misrepresents himself). I have ju...
A. 6 July 2009: Enjoy your life. Sitting at home doing nothing just makes you unhappy and unlikely to meet anyone but the postman.
Go out, do stuff you enjoy doing. You might not meet anyone but at least you will be having fun. You might make non-roma... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with b/f but I'm afraid he'll leave me if we do!
Q. Since four years i am having a boyfriend. We have kissed and hugged each other many times, but no sex. For the last 4 years he is insisting me to have sex, but i never agreed. I have fear in my mind that he will use me and will leave me after that. ...
A. 6 July 2009: 4 years is a long time to stay with a girl just to get into her pants.
On the other hand, the "he says that you have phobias in your mind and you can never be a happy person" doesn't sound very nice.
You are going to have to make a judgement... (read in full...)
I called her a random celebrity name while having sex!
Q. I was making love with my fiance and by mistake I call her an random celebrity name. She got really upset, then angry she threw her engagement ring at me then she went her friend's. I called her friend (my fiance wouldn`t pick up) and ask her to ...
A. 6 July 2009: O_o
You CALLED her? Just how braindead are you?
You knew where she was. You should have gone over there and begged her on your knees.
You did wrong, now you are going to have to beg. In fact I think this is the kind of situation they invent... (read in full...)
I hurt him, cheated and now want him back
Q. I was in a long distant relationship for 2 years with my bestfriend of 4 years and I cheated on him with my ex-boyfriend. When my fiance finally came home he broke up with me. He says he does not see me the way he once did. We continued to hang out ...
A. 6 July 2009: We are not in love with a sack of meat. We fall in love with a person, or rather the person we think someone is.
He might have fallen in love with a girl and then he came back and that girl turned out to be a cheater. In essence, the girl he loved... (read in full...)
Did I have a seizure?
Q. this isnt the right site to ask this, but i cant seem to find any suitable sites so i was wondering if any 1 could help me? last night i was on my way home from work in a taxi, with me was my manager. i remember siutting there, just glad to be ...
A. 6 July 2009: There are people who handle medical questions. They are called doctors. It is a protected proffesion for a reason. The reason is that amateurs on the net are NOT qualified to give a medical opinion. I wouldn't use this site for advice on what to do ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend is threatening me and I'm worried he'll try to take the baby!
Q. hi. i know i will probably be pre judged but im 17 and im due my baby in the begining of october. i dont quite think its a question im going to ask, but i feel so down and low at the minute, and i just feel like i need to let everything out! and...
A. 6 July 2009: Time to get a lawyer and inform the police. A lawyer to tell you your right and to get know what you must and must not do. The cops so that a paper trail is started. In harassment cases people often wait to long and then expect the police to perform ... (read in full...)
He always says he's sorry afterwards...
Q. MY boyfriend has never punched, hit or attacked me. But, he has squeezed my arm so hard it really hurt ( he said it was bacause he thought i was going to hit him ) and he pushed me off the bed when i was 3 months pregnant. (didnt hurt myself) Bu...
A. 5 July 2009: What always strikes me about these posts is how there is a lot of writing about his problems but none about yours.
What is wrong that makes you think raising a child with someone like this is a good idea?
You love him, that is your only defenc... (read in full...)
He sends sexy texts to strangers but says hes too embarrassed to send them to me!
Q. Hello again, I got some really good advice here recently and wondered if I could ask for some more. My original question is here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-sends-and-receives-dirty-texts-from-random.html Basically, about 3 wee...
A. 5 July 2009: You have been given a glimpse of the future. Something bad happens, and he breaks down like a little kid who needs to be comforted by his mommy.
He was the one in the wrong, and you are the one ending up comforting him.
So what will be like in ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to be friends with him first but I really fancy him
Q. There's this boy in my form I really fancy. Aparently, he used to have a massive crush on me too. Unfortunately, I don't know if he still feels the same way. I'd ask him out if I had the confidence. He's not quite good-looking or anything, but he's ...
A. 4 July 2009: Become friends, if something more develops, great. If it doesn't, well that is life and at least you got a friend.
10 to 1, he is worrying the exact same thing and all it takes for you two over your teenage doubts and just say "I like you, do ... (read in full...)
He says I've cheated because "it doesn't fit right anymore"!
Q. I have a sex question. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 years, he is the only person I've ever slept with- about 6 months ago when he have sex my vagina started making a "farting" noise- used to it would only do this in doggie style. For ...
A. 4 July 2009: You might become looser simply by age and by use. He might also no longer have the erections he once had.
The "farting" is just air being trapped and being pushed out. It happens.
Does he really think a persons body doesn't change in 6 year... (read in full...)
Brother molested me
Q. when i was 5 years old my parents went out for a couple of hours so my oldest brother who is 14 was baby sitting me and my 6 year old brother, we were all in my parents room watching tv and my oldest brother told my younger brother to go down stairs ...
A. 4 July 2009: Yes, you can go to the police and should. Be prepared however for a very difficult period where people will doubt you.
In a way it is a good thing he has an extensive records. He can hardly play the hurt innocent with what he has done and be c... (read in full...)
I thought my husband was working in a call centre or factory...but he is a lap dancer in a gay club!
Q. I found out off a long-time family friend (male) of ours, who's a taxi-driver, about my husband's nightshift job. We've been married for 3 months now. I am aware that my husband worked nights, he changed job to a nightshift one a year-and-a-ha...
A. 4 July 2009: Your husband? You married someone and didn't even have a clue as to where they worked?
You didn't know wether he was working in a factory or call center. I find that odd. Most people tend to want to know where their significant other spends a... (read in full...)
For him: oral sex while he watches porn. For me: 3 minutes, no kissing, no passion. Help!
Q. I live with a guy for almost a year we have had are share of troubles. At first he said he didnt love me but he has grow to love me but we never have sex maybe once a month but he always wants me to give him oral sex everyday while he watchs porn. ...
A. 2 July 2009: So the relationship has never been good and yet you keep on trying hoping... Any supressed desires to charge at windmills? Carry water to the ocean? Sell ice to the north pole? Lost causes are sometimes just that. Lost.... (read in full...)
He thinks a threesome will save our relationship, but will he lose respect for me instead?
Q. My boyfriend of about a year wants a threesome. (If you have read my other post, you might laugh and think it is a crazy idea.) Last week he said he would like to have a threesome. Since we do not know anyone to do it with it is mostly all fa...
A. 2 July 2009: Most likely he already lost respect. Trying to go out with a bang. You guys been together for only a year. A bit to early to have to spice things up. What will be needed on your 10th anniversary at this rate?... (read in full...)
Why do guys only want me sexually?
Q. Its kind of annoying, I am 22 years old and I just want to be in a relationship (one day that is). I do not have any experience when it comes to dating and its like...no one wants to take a look at my "resume" I am extremely quiet, shy, kind...but I ...
A. 2 July 2009: Well there are men that want more. They just tend to be extremely quiet, shy, kind... get the picture?
Why is that you say HE has to make an effort to get to know you? Sure, it is tradition for the woman to wait for the man to make the move, bu... (read in full...)
Not Pregnant and No Period... Stress, Insomnia, Travel, etc...
Q. I'm writing this because I am stressed, and I need some reassurance. So my last period was around April 18th. It is now almost July, and I still don't have a period. I've dealth with a lot of different things since my last period. My first ...
A. 28 June 2009: Yes, your period can REALLY be affected this much. In fact, it can stop completly under the wrong circumstances. While you can control the cycle with the pill you can't make it happen. Your body under stress/disease/mallnutrition just decides tha... (read in full...)
Boyfriend threw a chair across the room!! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years just threw a chair across the room because he got mad that I was questioning him about an online account he has. We live together now for 6 months and in the entire 3 years he has NEVER throw anything, let alone a chair!!! ...
A. 28 June 2009: Was the chair aimed at you? Steve Ballmer, CEO of Microsoft is rather famous for throwing a chair at the news of an employee leaving for Google. Wouldn't automatically assume that makes him a wife beater. Men are physical creatures. Women... (read in full...)
I worry about how I taste!
Q. Okay this may sound weird but here goes: My boyfriend likes to go down on me but a lot of times I don't let him because I can't stop thinking whether or not I taste okay down there. It makes me feel really weird. I shower every day and clean my...
A. 27 June 2009: If you want to know. CHECK. It will tell you that for a lot of women there really isn't that much of a smell or a taste.
Even if there is, remember that smell/taste is a matter of association. Does fish smell bad? Rotting fish does, but normal f... (read in full...)
DO men like to be woken up to a blow job?
Q. My friend said she gave her boyfriend a blow job in the morning just as he was about to wake up but she didn't tell me about his reaction and I was too scared to ask because he might think I was being too nosey. Is it annoying to be woken up to a ...
A. 26 June 2009: Depends. Who is giving it? If I am in jail, the navy or sleeping in a barn, well... no thanks :)... (read in full...)
Did she cheat? She revealed a "secret" and it's bothering me
Q. Hello, me and my perhaps soon to be ex Girlfriend, "confessed" something to me that has me at a crossroads, I dont know what to do now. We met like the last weekend of the month of january and seemed to hit it off with her. We basically spent ...
A. 24 June 2009: It is bothering you. It would bother me as well. This whole "official" dating thing has never worked for me.
For instance, were she and her 'ex' officially seperated? If so, then why did she have sex with him. And if she wasn't yet official... (read in full...)
Would this be classified as rape or no?
Q. I basically wanna know if this classes as rape and if the guy still has an interest in me or not. Well about four months ago i went to meet a guy off the internet. He wasnt the first person id met off the internet and i always have an incling ...
A. 24 June 2009: What exactly happened. You were out with a guy you then judged to be revolting. You also claim he was all over you. Fine, if that is to believed, why did you continue to be with him? Rather then leaving you went with him to his house. You then ... (read in full...)
I found out he has a girlfriend! WHY do boys lead girls on!?
Q. Why do boys lead girls on, kiss you, hug you, act like they care for you. then when it comes to it they 'don't want a relationship'? I was with my ex for almost a year and a half, it was so perfect to begin with, we were so in love, we broke up...
A. 23 June 2009: Because it works. If you could get into a girls pants by doing handstands, boys would be doing handstands. Leading girls on is the best way to get them into the sack.
I will tell you a secret. Boys want girls for sex and will do what it takes to... (read in full...)
I have no serious illness, so why is my hair falling out?
Q. This is kind of a health question. I recently cut my hair, because I had some of it falling out. I contemplated cutting my hair for some weeks. I know that it will grow back, but my question is this, is there any particular reason why my hair would ...
A. 23 June 2009: Illness, bad health, low weight?
This is a question you should ask a doctor. And cancer does not cause hairloss, the treatmant for cancer does.... (read in full...)
Was I sexually abused? And if so is it too late to do something about it?
Q. When I was 10 my 15 year old next door neighbour made me touch his penis. To this day (9 years later) I still have no idea whether this counts as sexual abuse. I hated him because he always treated me like a baby (bouncing me on his knee etc.) but ...
A. 21 June 2009: Yes it is sexual abuse and would fall under child molestation. A serious crime.
It is to late for you, it has happened, and you will need to deal with it. But pedophiles rarely stop on their own. If you don't report what happened, then he can c... (read in full...)
How do you know when you can trust someone?
Q. Hey, how do you know when you can trust someone? My bf and I have been together 8 years, up until last year, when he broke up with me out of the blue. I'd had my suspicions about him before the split (started receiving cell calls late at night, ...
A. 20 June 2009: You don't. It is a leap of faith and the whole point about a leap of a faith is that you don't know what the result will be.
That is why trust is so easily broken. Valid trust cannot be proven but a broken trust all to easily.
The sky is re... (read in full...)
He says "the devil made him do it"
Q. i work full time and I really don't get see to my boyfriend (of 2 years) very often. When I went to a birthday party with him on my very few day offs. Well he said needed make a phone call which took half an hour. I got worried and looking for him. ...
A. 20 June 2009: Got to give him points for daring. Most guys would just never have the guts to pull this off, fearing the girl would be to smart to fall far such a stupid excuse.
People push their limits, he just that one limit can be pushed. Be prepared for more... (read in full...)
I don't let my husband see my breasts because they are too small!
Q. Me and my husband been married for about a month now. We're very happy together but I never let him see my breasts cause I think they'll too small (A cups) and I don't think I ever want him see them. My husband begs me to let see them in dark and Im ...
A. 18 June 2009: Your husband doesn't think they are to small, or he wouldn't have married you.
Self-doubt can happen to anyone, but I think it is unfair to doubt the man who said "I do".... (read in full...)
Why did it hurt when I touched myself?
Q. im a virgin, and i was fingering and when i started i wasnt wet, then i was touching my clit and it began hurting. then i was still doing it but then i started getting this burning /fire feeling and i kept going. then i got really really wet, and ...
A. 18 June 2009: A woman's clit is very sensitive, lubrication helps to lessen the friction. So yes, it is normal what happened.
Most women prefer getting aroused by other activities before direct stimulation.
I can't say about the particular feelings since I... (read in full...)
4 years. Should I stay or call it quits?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years now, all through highschool. we just recently graduated 2 nights ago and he still has yet to spend and ounce of time with me. all he wants to do is hang out with his friends, and go out and party. now ...
A. 17 June 2009: You are hoping that one day he will see the light, realize what a wonderfil woman you are and chance overnight into a new person.
Won't happen. In reality the beast KILLS the beauty, or at least makes her miserable until she is old finally ... (read in full...)
Should I terminate this pregnancy?
Q. right so im pregnant and I want to keep it as i belive that we have been stupid enough to get ourselves into this mess no will we have to live with the consiquences, however my boyfriend says that were are too young (were 20)) that hes in army and ...
A. 17 June 2009: Catch 22? Don't you forget a couple of options?
A: You have the abortion, he starts to hate you for killing his child.
B: The abortion goes wrong, you can never have children again, he leaves you for a fertile woman.
C: You have the abortion, he... (read in full...)
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