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writes:When I was 10 my 15 year old next door neighbour made me touch his penis. To this day (9 years later) I still have no idea whether this counts as sexual abuse. I hated him because he always treated me like a baby (bouncing me on his knee etc.) but paid very little attention to my older brother. He grabbed my hands and pushed them inside his underwear, saying 'trapped you in my shorts!' like it was a game. His family are very close to eachother whereas I come from a 'broken home' so I didn't know if this was just what a normal loving family do with eachother so I've never told anybody. He still lives next door and I feel repulsed every time I see him.Today I saw him in his garden playing with a girl about the age of 10, tickling her etc., and it really made me feel sick and uncomfortable. I've always thought it was ok not to tell anybody because it was a long time ago and it wasn't anything severe (if anything at all), but seeing him today made me worry that if it was sex abuse then he could do it again. Was this sexual abuse? And if so should I do something about it?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 Yes it is sexual abuse and would fall under child molestation. A serious crime.
It is to late for you, it has happened, and you will need to deal with it. But pedophiles rarely stop on their own. If you don't report what happened, then he can continue with the next girl.
A story that is currently playing in the dutch press is off a pedophile who abused at least 93 girls who took swimming lessons in his school. Apparently most of them were mentally handicapped but when at first it seemed that it was "only" touching and photos now claims are made he is guilty of rape of children as well.
These things don't go away. If you report it, at least society knows and will have to deal with it. It won't be easy because people hate those who rock the boat. But if it was nothing, why are you still thinking of it 9 years later.
The easy path would be to let it be, get some counseling and forget about it. But perhaps that is exactly what another victim decided before you, allowing him to continue with you. Not saying you can stop him, but if you do nothing, nothing happens.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 June 2009):
 he made you touch his privates, yes it does count as abuse. no normal sane human would do that to an innocent child. no loving family does that with kids either.
I think you should do something about it, i hate to think what he could be doing to that 10 year old, so for her sake, please alert an official immediately, he has the potential chance of doing it again and again.
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