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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Could this guy from my past be the real thing?
Q. I had a friend 20 years ago while serving in the Army. He was working with me and my husband too at the time. I am now divorced from that husband and seperated from my current husband. When we were in the service together, we often hung out at my ...
A. 5 October 2009: Well as I said, proceed with caution.
I just got a mental image of him being your safe guy. The so called nice guy that gets told "if only I could find a guy like you" by women.
But a nicer way of looking it is that the two of you just weren't... (read in full...)
Could this guy from my past be the real thing?
Q. I had a friend 20 years ago while serving in the Army. He was working with me and my husband too at the time. I am now divorced from that husband and seperated from my current husband. When we were in the service together, we often hung out at my ...
A. 4 October 2009: Ah, I was reading your post and wondering where HIS relationships were in these 20 years.
And there it is.
She cheated on him multiple times, in the same year. And he is only now saying he will file for a divorce, as soon as he can. She has adm... (read in full...)
Is it considered rude if you don't swallow?
Q. I just recentley started having sex with my boyfriend (we've only been together 2 weeks) so, i know people say swallowing is a way of showing them you love them. but like i just .. can't.. it makes me gag, so like, at a guys point of view, what ...
A. 4 October 2009: Think throwing up is even ruder don't you?
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What kind of flirting do men really like?
Q. What kind of flirting by women do men really like? I mean, what types of things get a man's interest going in a good way, getting him intrigued and attracted, and interested emotionally and physically. I mean as opposed to the stuff that just makes ...
A. 3 October 2009: Depends on the guy.
But on the whole, whatever you do, don't overdo it.
Perfume makes you smell nice but you should not set the sprinklers off.
Smile at his jokes, but only the funny ones, fake smiles are fake.
Look up at him but don'... (read in full...)
Does his use of porn effect your relationship?
Q. 1 - Does his use of porn affect how you feel about him and having sex with him? 2 - Have you talked to him about how you feel and what did he say? 3 - What makes him/your relationship so great that you feel you HAVE to accept this if it makes ...
A. 3 October 2009: Talk about loaded questions. It don't matter what people answer, the poster has already made up her own mind. Anyone who answers differently will just be seen as a delusional woman oppressed by men.... (read in full...)
My online guy of a month wants to marry me! Is it really meant to be?
Q. OMG..I have a problem I'm so confused idk what to do..so here I go!! Ok I met this guy through the internet and we have been talking for a while now close to a month but we talk on the phone and txt and send pictures of eachother but you see he ...
A. 3 October 2009: Got to agree with Big Ron. Think you are being fed a lie.
That is if you are lucky and just got someone who wants to get into your pants.
If you are not lucky... falling in love and proposing over the internet, sorry, that ringing sound ai... (read in full...)
Ex exotic dancer can't stop sexualizing everyone in the world...
Q. Hi ~ I have been an exotic dancer for over 1 years on and off. The industry jaded me for a long time, then finally I found love and all that changed. I have a good sex life, although too infrequent, w my partner.. although I can't seem ...
A. 3 October 2009: I am not sure what you mean by sexualizing everyone, but your last comment is something any prisoner/soldier will be familiar with.
Never been in prison, but been a soldier and living in a world where everything is arranged is very safe. It took ... (read in full...)
He wouldn't be exclusive, may have cheated and has now left for 5 months. Will it work out?
Q. The guy i was dating is gone with the army for 5months, we were with eachother all summer but we could never be exclusive because of certain circumstances. He was not married or anything like that but there was a complication. We were very close to ...
A. 3 October 2009: Where you stand? Firmly in the happy land of denial. Enjoy your stay.... (read in full...)
Was this rape? He's acting like nothing happened....
Q. Last night me and my bf were having sex he was behind me when he stuck his finger in my anus. He has done it b4 which i dont mind as it doesnt hurt me. B4 i continue weve always had this joke bout doing it up the bum. I always said i would never do ...
A. 3 October 2009: Are you asking for legal advice or relationship advice?
Legal, I don't know, you after all did consent to have sex with him, just not in that way. Saying yes and then no makes for a hard case. More important, he has said he wanted to fuck you in t... (read in full...)
Do men have more partners than women?
Q. how many people have you had sex with-I heard hugh hefner has been with 4000 women How unusual is that kind of behavior-is anyone here in quadrouple figures? I'm just curious-I heard men have more partners than women-is this true?...
A. 3 October 2009: Well, logic would dictate that since sex is mostly 1 on 1, that sex is evenly distrubted between the sexes.
And since women typically start earlier, if a woman is the same age, then it is common for her to have more experience.
Women just do... (read in full...)
What kinds of things do guys do when they like a girl?
Q. I don't know if this site is only for personal problems, but I really want to get an answer from a guy, or as many as posible. How can a girl tell if a guy really likes her? What knd signs does he give off during conversation or just when he's near ...
A. 3 October 2009: Ignore her.... (read in full...)
Treats me like a queen for awhile and then turns into a monster
Q. I am married and my husband is a cheater and a liar. I been with him every since i was 16 and got married to him when i was 18 every since we have been dating he have been cheating on me. When i leave he comes to my house and beat on the door ...
A. 2 October 2009: So... ever since you two dated, for two years, he cheated. Then you got married to him...
Then you get pregnant, results in a miss carriage while he knocks up someone else.
Then he beats you.
Am I missing something? I think I am, because th... (read in full...)
Is sex all he wants?
Q. I met a guy on the internet about 3 months ago at first he was very clear about not wanting a girlfriend but he wanted to have sex with me so i stopped talking to him but about 2 weeks later he text me saying he didnt want to lose me and he wanted ...
A. 2 October 2009: Let me tell you a fairy-tale.
There is a knock on the door.
A woman opens and sees a wolf.
"Can I help you", asks the woman.
"Yes. Let me in and I will eat you alive," answers the wolf.
"Mmmm, let me think for a second, that is a har... (read in full...)
I'm a 20 year old mexican girl wanting to date a 30 year old white man, is this wrong?
Q. Hi I'm new to this so I hope some one helps me is it bad if I date a 30 year old man I'm 20 s don't know if its a problem....I'm mexican and he is white!! Idk what other people would think. It shouldn't matter what others think but I'm kinda ...
A. 30 September 2009: Why do you even think it is an issue?
And what is the issue? The age gap (30-40 is NOT the same as 20-30) means you are just starting at life while for him the body has started the long slide to death.
But hey, if you two love each other, then... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 30 September 2009: Only your choice?
Well, then it is only his choice wether he breaks up with you or not.
Apparently you think YOU got a choice, but he doesn't.
Stick by your guns all you want, but so can he.... (read in full...)
How does a guy give a girl a blowjob?
Q. ok this guy said he will give me a blow job ok i kinda know how a gurl gives a guy one but how does a guy give a girl one???? please help me im desperate...
A. 28 September 2009: It is called eating out, cunninglus if you want to be fancy.
He probably didn't know the words for it.
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Why do guys tell you that they love you on the first date?
Q. Why do loads of guys ask you to marry them or tell you that they love you on the first date? is it because a.)their completely insane b.)they think your stupid enough to believe them 3.)they don't usually-I just date the weirdos...
A. 28 September 2009: AB3
I also think your attention span is a bit short.
But guys tell girls stiff to get in to their pants. Girls complain about it, but typically only AFTER the one night stand.
The battle of the sexes, proof war is stupid.... (read in full...)
Everyone is saying "just get over it" but its not that easy to do!
Q. My ex and I dated for a few years, he told me he wanted to be alone and didnt want a relationship. Ive recently found out he is actually seeing another girl now, I dont know what to do. I am so angry but mostly confused and I want answers from him ...
A. 28 September 2009: Who said it was easy?
But do you plan to spend the rest of your life moping about him? He ain't intrested and is with someone else.
So, you got to get over it. Cry out your heart, accept that it is over and go on with your life.
It is ... (read in full...)
How do you break up when your boyfriend won't let you?
Q. So I have been back and forth on this for months now. I've had this boyfriend that is very clingy, immature and I just don't see it going anywhere anymore. He had a history of lying in the past so I don't trust him anymore either. We've been tog...
A. 28 September 2009: Emotional blackmail. It is damn hard to deal with but if you don't, it will just go on and on because he knows it works.
So, you got to break it off and break it off hard and accept that there are no easy solutions.
So, end it. No more calls, n... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that I'd be an awesome girlfriend?
Q. This guy and I used to date a while ago but we were never official. He was my first and basically, I wanted a commited relationship and he wanted to be free and party. But when he blew me off for a party one time, I finally had enough and stopped ...
A. 28 September 2009: He has told you he is looking for someone.
He has seen you.
He is still looking.
What more could you do? He has seen what you got to offer and he ain't intrested, or at least not as intrested as you want him to be.
People tend not t... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend make me so upset and hurt all the time, while my male best friend does the opposite?
Q. Why does my bf make me so upset, anxious and hurt all the time, where as my best male friend does the opposite? My bf is never there to support me. Whenever I need him, he has always been drinking so he cant be supportive, becuase when he drinks h...
A. 25 September 2009: Don't bother asking for help if you can't read the answers.
The point is simple, you date the guy who treats you bad, not the guy who treats you right.
Can't put it any simpler, that you can't see it, that is your real problem.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend make me so upset and hurt all the time, while my male best friend does the opposite?
Q. Why does my bf make me so upset, anxious and hurt all the time, where as my best male friend does the opposite? My bf is never there to support me. Whenever I need him, he has always been drinking so he cant be supportive, becuase when he drinks h...
A. 24 September 2009: Why do you fuck the guy who hurts you and not the guy who doesn't?
When you found the answer to that question, then the problem has been solved because you would no longer be in this relationship.... (read in full...)
What makes someone push something good away?
Q. What is wrong with me? I am a successful female divorcee, who has had multiple relationships that just do not turn out. Recently I dated a guy for 2 1/2 years. I fell in love with him, but had reservations about some of his behaviors and his repu...
A. 13 September 2009: Succesfull divorcee. Two terms that don't fit together. Divorce is never a success.
And might it be that because of your divorce you got scared of being to close to someone again? That all his attention felt smothering? That you were afraid o... (read in full...)
I just cannot make him cum!
Q. I cant seem to make my boyfriend cum. I have literally sat for hours going down and giving him hand jobs but he wont cum. I'm beginning to feel like theres something wrong with me!...
A. 13 September 2009: Most guys masturbate way to roughly and it makes them less sensitive. Let him show how he does it, then follow the example. Remember, it is called whanking and spanking the monkey for a reason.
But build it up slow, because girls, it ain't a ... (read in full...)
I'm definite proof that nice guys finish last
Q. OK, so I've asked questions on here before, got some advice, but a year on, I'm still in exactly the same situation. I'm now 25, and still never had a date. Never had a girl say yes when I've asked her out, or don't think there's ever been a girl ...
A. 13 September 2009: And where is the proof that you are a nice guy?
First warning sign a guy ain't nice. He says he is nice.... (read in full...)
The fight was something silly but he broke up with me and won't talk to me now!
Q. I had a big fight with my boyfriend yesterday and he broke up with me. We were yelling at each other on the phone and that's how it went. It's been 2 days now and he haven't returned any of my calls and keeps clicking the cancel button when ...
A. 13 September 2009: He fought with you yesterday but it has been two days?
Timewarp much?
When you are young, emotions come hot and fast. Adults often say that this means the emotions ain't real.
You got to ask yourself, if you two break up over something ... (read in full...)
Can you get infection from anal sex?
Q. hey i just need to know what would happen if my boyfriend's sperms came into my back side ... i need to know is there any infections would occour in the intestine or not .. please i need reply as soon as possible thanks...
A. 13 September 2009: o_O
Guess Aids-awareness skips a generation.... (read in full...)
Could my daughter be lying that she is a virgin?
Q. My daughter has just turned 17 and she says that she is still a virgin. I believe her because when she gose places she calls me every five minutes, but my cousins all believe that she has had sex. I think that she has not because she dose not go to ...
A. 13 September 2009: She might be, she might not be. Isn't that really her business? She will soon be an adult and whatever her current state, one day she will probably have sex.
Don't judge her one way or another. lets not forget that a lot of girls apparent... (read in full...)
Husband cheated, don't want to stay but don't want to destroy our family
Q. I've been married for almost three years now my husband has put me down and called me names our whole relationship I left him july of last year for cheating on me but I came back cause I found out I was pregnant I thought that things would change ...
A. 13 September 2009: What is a family when one of its members is dead inside?
And to repeat Emily, but a bit less nicely, "Monkey see, monkey do". Do you want to feel like this as your daughter grows-up? No way in hell she ain't going to notice. Kids ain't stupid, ... (read in full...)
Am I asking for sex too much?
Q. I am a newlywed (20 years old) to a wonderful husband (25 years old). We got married in May, and we have always had a great sex life. Before we were married, he wanted sex every time we were together and I was sometimes hesitant, but would still ...
A. 12 September 2009: Since joining this site I have developed a little theory, perhaps you could help me with it.
It is that boys ASK for a lot of sex, because they know the girls mostly say no so they never get it.
Boys got a high sex drive but a low actual need ... (read in full...)
Cheating while intoxicated?
Q. Can people actually get drunk enough and cheat on their loved ones? Mine cheated, however said it was because he drank. (he rarely gets drunk around other people, or if im not around, and no doesn't have a drinking problem)He was at a family even...
A. 12 September 2009: Yeah, a girl took advantage of him...
You intrested in a bridge? I got one for sale.... (read in full...)
Why can't men commit to one woman?
Q. Y is it hard for men to commit.They act as if they are in a realationship but at the same time just not saying it.But if they see the women with someone else than they want to claim her but to a certain point. I was in a three relationship with this ...
A. 12 September 2009: Why is it so hard for some women to just accept that some men are the way they are, because they like it and it works for them.
You are trying to change him. Doesn't seem to be working.
Accept this, he ain't the one with a problem asking f... (read in full...)
When is it time to draw the line?
Q. Background: I have 2 children from a previous relationship. I have been with my fiance for 2 years and we have just had a baby together 2 and a half weeks ago. We had planned to get married, but put it on hold when we got pregnant and now...
A. 10 September 2009: We got pregnant? You might want to talk to nature magazine. It would be world first.
Oh well, good to see a woman with a clue about computers for once.
Adultfriendfinder is NOT a dating site. It is a sex site, aimed at finding sexual partners ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of winning this guy away from his fiance?
Q. Right, so my question is fairly straight to the point - do I have any chance of winning back this guy from his fiancee? Allow me to elaborate. I am in my mid twenties and for a couple of months (2007) dated an awesome guy that I fell madly in lo...
A. 10 September 2009: So, you dated a guy who slept around a lot and you think he is the greatest guy ever.
He didn't even break up with you, just left and got engaged to someone else.
Read your own post again, as if it was someone else asking for advice. What wou... (read in full...)
Why wont my man buy a home? Is this a sign of not commiting?
Q. Im 25 years old and my man is 36 since we have been together ive brought up numorous times that i want to buy a home some day. I understood at the time that i didnt have a job that paid very well or that it only paid 6.75 but since then ive gotten a ...
A. 10 September 2009: Read the news recently? Owning your own home is great, you spend a fortune, miss a few payments, and got NOTHING.
Those figures, are they after or before taxes? If it is before, then... it ain't much. While house prices are of course down at the m... (read in full...)
My friend killed herself and I just don't know how to deal with it
Q. So I am about to be 18 in a month, and ive had this friend since I was 14. She's been a great friend and we dont get to see each other often so we just talk alot on the computer. I found out last night that she hung herself the night before and no ...
A. 6 September 2009: Victim support, it might sound strange since you might not think of yourself as a victim but you are. They murdered themselves and you lost them because of it. There really isn't that much difference if they had been killed by a car accident or a ... (read in full...)
Locked in his room all day looking at porn when I'm in the next room
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together just under a year. the relationship had a pretty rocky start as he was still in love with his ex. a few months ago we broke up, after he'd been to see her, and he told me that he didnt love me. he called me the ...
A. 6 September 2009: Yeah, it is pretty weird to start a relationship with a guy who is in love with someone else.
Forget about his issues, focus on your own.
You shouldn't be with him. Yet you are. Why?
He ain't going to slip through your fingers, he was nev... (read in full...)
Should my mom contact her brother since their mother died?
Q. My mother has dilemma. She has an older brother who mistreated her by verbally abusing her most of her life until she got married. Then he was nice to her and took a pro-active interest in her life until their mother became ill, which caused a lot ...
A. 6 September 2009: He should at least get a mourning card (or whatever americans call them).
Someone else can call him to inform him. It doesn't have to be anymore then "Afternoon, I am calling you to inform that your mother died on XX-XX-XXXX and the vuneral ... (read in full...)
I'm 26, afraid of women and never had a girlfriend
Q. Hello. I've got something i could do with some advice on and i've not gone on the net about it before so please forgive me if i maybe dont explain this particularly well but i'll give it a shot. Basically i recently turned 26 and i've never had a...
A. 6 September 2009: No pop psychology eh? What do you expect to find on an advice site anyway?
You already get very defensive in your own post.
It is near impossible to make an accurate guess as to what is going on here. It might be the result of shyness. Lack of... (read in full...)
He acts like a jerk, gets me really worried and then acts normal again
Q. Is it like, love, or lust? 1. I see this guy and am instantly attracted to him. I fantacize about him kissing me, etc. 2. I get to kinow this guy and realize that we have a lot in common.. even really random things, like favorite ice cream flavo...
A. 6 September 2009: I would call it a girl who makes to much of love/lust.
Girls seems to be almost raised with the idea that got to have a boyfriend and the love is something perfect and absolute.
The reality is that sometimes love isn't. We just get attracted to... (read in full...)
I think he is interested in other woman but I have no proof. Should I walk away, leave it or see if something's going on?
Q. Hello, I have a question. I would like to find out if my boyfriend truly loves me and has me as his number one, or if he is not serious about me. We've been together for 2 years. First one was great and he was madly in love, then he dumped me and...
A. 6 September 2009: Trust is never absolute, it is like faith. If you know for certain then it is no longer faith, it is knowledge.
Infidelity is often provable, but how do you proof the absence of infidelity?
He grins when talking about girls... oh okay, so he i... (read in full...)
How can I show my daughter that her fiance is an ass?
Q. My daughter is 23 and has been dating "Jason" 25, since high school.I always looked at him as a good kid,a little inmature but figured he would grow up to be a respectful guy. Three weeks ago my daughter came home in tears saying that she she found ...
A. 4 September 2009: Tell me, did you think Beauty and the Beast was a good kids movie? A lot of parents did, but lets see what message it sends to females. It don't matter how much of an asshole the guy is, your love will save him. In the disney version the guy ... (read in full...)
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