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My boyfriend wants a threesome, should I do it to keep him happy?
Q. oh oh now my boyfriend wants a 3 some with another woman just the one off mind to see if it will help him get hard but i dont know how to go about it please help im willing for him to try this just to keep him happy thanx...
A. 13 July 2009: Unless it is something both of you want and you are sure you can deal with all the emotions that will be involved, don't do it.
For instance, he has an erection problem? Say he gets hard with her, how will you feel then? How will he feel if she g... (read in full...)
Why does he keep asking about my past?
Q. on the way to dinner tonight my bf kept asking me questions about the last guy i was with 2 yrs ago like did u think he was hot? Blah blah anyway i answered but he has asked these questions many times before and i didnt want to talk about it so i ...
A. 12 July 2009: He seems extremely obsessed with your past. The amount of saliva involved? Even the idea that a person would keep track seems insane.
Some guys can't stand the thought that their gf is not a virgin. They don't want the competition or just don't li... (read in full...)
Is it true that players don't like to be dumped?
Q. A guy I love only contacts me when he wants to. He asked me if I have a boyfriend and I replied no. When he did not contact me I wrote to him "Hi, How is it going?". He did not answer me so the same day I broke up with him telling him that "you are ...
A. 12 July 2009: Get some pride. You are calling this guy a player and yet seek advice on how to get his attention. Is this really something you want to waste your time on?
Sometimes love is onesides. Cry out your heart and get over it. If you are going to conti... (read in full...)
No sex! Make it work? Or end it?
Q. I've been with my BF for almost 2 years. He's the type of guy that every girl dreams of being with: committed, monogamous, great personality and sense of humor, interesting, fun to be with, very handsome, financially secure, charming, great heart, ...
A. 12 July 2009: Fat is an erection killer. If he looses it, his erections will be stronger and larger and his sex drive will increase.
Getting fat generally happens when you are living unhealthy. To little excesise, to much stress, unhealthy food. Fix those th... (read in full...)
I'm 18, he's 16 and my parents will not be happy about me dating him
Q. I have been single and content for a while now, and so has a guy friend of mine. He came over my house the other day for a haircut and to hang out afterwards, but what is usually friendly poking, hugging, and tickling (we are silly...and ticklish) ...
A. 12 July 2009: Just be careful. Girls are supposed to mature faster then boys. So you are mentally perhaps 20 while he is 14. At least that is what society might think. You two might be different.
Just be prepared for him to not be emotionally mature enough y... (read in full...)
What makes a guy suddenly want a break from sex?
Q. I just want to know from guys, but not just mainly... What would actually make a guy decide that they suddenly wanna take a break from sex? I'm just wondering....
A. 12 July 2009: STD?
If there is someone else on the side. We would want it from both. We are guys!... (read in full...)
Boys look at me but say nothing, is it because I am fat?
Q. I feel really fat and like no one wants to go out with me. I weigh 150 but I am 5'8" and all of my friends say I am not fat and it's just muscle. I play a lot of sports but I still feel like I am fat and ugly. i have a lot of guy friends but I want ...
A. 12 July 2009: Could it be because you are fairly tall? If you were heels aren't you taller then a lot of guys? That might intimidate them.
It don't sound like your fat but you might not be skinny either. If you excersise you are bound to have muscles and prob... (read in full...)
I get excited too quickly
Q. Hey. I'm a girl and I'm 18. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year, and we've had sex. I cum really early, and it's even while we're making out. I hate it. He can go on forever, but I cum within 10 minutes. Advice?...
A. 12 July 2009: most women can continue after an orgasm even experience multiple ones in quick succession.
There is no problem with a woman coming early and often. Sex is NOT a duration excersise. If you can continue with the sex, then where is the harm?
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He thinks sex hurts because I don't have a G spot
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 12 months now. We have been having sex for 10 of those months but when we do it hurts me, when its going in, when its in but not when he pulls out. He is the only guy i have ever been with. He has been with ...
A. 12 July 2009: Check with a doctor.... (read in full...)
Why does a guy mean when he tells others he wants to make me happy?
Q. What does a guy mean when he ask me if I am happy and when he tells others that he wants to make me happy? ...
A. 12 July 2009: Nothing. What counts is his actions. Does he make you happy? Then that is what he means.... (read in full...)
My bf is annoyed I wont talk to my father about birth control, who's right?
Q. I hope someone can help me out. I'm so confused. Sorry its so long, but you have to understand the whole story to answer the questions. I'm almost sixteen years old, and me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year. I never really fo...
A. 12 July 2009: If he would suck it up, tell HIM to talk to your dad.
Anyway, you might want to check if there are no family plannig clinics around that allow girls to see a doctor without informing their family. ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend allow this guy to treat her so badly?
Q. I have a friend that for the past several yers has been involved with a man that has done all kinds of horrible things to her(MIA for months at a time,having other women in his house playing it off that thehy are just friends etc...). Each and ...
A. 11 July 2009: There are a lot of reasons. The simple fact is that users and the used tend to need each other. You see a parasite, someone who sucks her dry and is nothing but bad news. You are right.
But what is really going is a symbiotic relation... (read in full...)
What are people's views on dating a third cousin?
Q. hi, i recently got back in touch with my third cousin. we're both 19 and related through blood. every year when i was born i would spend a week up north with my cousin and we grew up together really close.we used to kiss under his duvet when we ...
A. 11 July 2009: If he is a third cousin then the blood relation, if it even exists, would be extremely remote.
Third cousins are legal to marry in any case so society doesn't have a problem with it.
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Should I put a naked picture of myself on the Internet (covering my face)??
Q. Ok. There has been a previous question about porn and double standards. I have wondered this very thing myself. But thought that physically meeting someone is perhaps not comparable to just watching porn. So... My husband watching p...
A. 11 July 2009: I tried to read your posts, but got lost in the double standards.
"But hopefully i'll never be recognised! And if someone ever says, boy, those boobs look familiar! I would know they are probably not the type to hang out with?"
there are a l... (read in full...)
I gave them a test at the church and was escourted out and will not be allowed to come back!
Q. Before last sunday I had never been to church. My friend finally convinced me into going, but I am not big into religion and I don't like it when my friend pushes it on me. So anyway, we get to the church (it is methodist) and I overhea...
A. 11 July 2009: Religion is more then just the teachings of some guy who might or might have not have lived thousands of years ago and whose teachings where then written down hundreds of years later and those writing then edited and selected to form a book.
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Are blow jobs now an expected part of making out?
Q. I read recently that kids as young as 11 and 12 no longer "make out" by just kissing, hugging and caressing, but that many boys also expect their girlfriends to give them blow jobs. In other words, oral sex among the young is getting to be pretty ...
A. 11 July 2009: These things have always gone on. Just that the media want to sell us headlines and the headline "A small number of kids still doing stupid things, just they always done" doesn't sell.
Try the "kids killed when they dived from a bridge" headline... (read in full...)
I'm hot, so why doesn't anyone like me?
Q. hey ! right well i just dont get it i mean i havent had one boyfrind in my whole life and i am 15! when i tell people that i havent had one boyfreind and i havent even kissed a boy they are realy shocked! becouse they say i am stunning! ...
A. 11 July 2009: Basic rule of the mating ritual. The male does not approach a female that scares him. Well apart from the praying mantice and we all know how that relationship ends.
If you give of the wrong vibe then that could put the guys off. It doesn't ... (read in full...)
My wife went to a divorce attorney today, this was unexpected, what should I do?
Q. I have been married for 3 yrs. 2 of those yrs. we were both in the army 15mths. deployed together. we recently got out and moved. everything was going fine but 3-weeks ago her friend asked her to be in her wedding. so i told her she could go and she ...
A. 11 July 2009: You let your young wife return home to see all her old friends at a SUPER romantic event for a COUPLE of days and did NOT accompany her, and you ask what happened?
She met an old flame and that rekindled fire was or at least seemed a lot hotter t... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to be near guys because they have always mistreated me!
Q. i am wondering why is every guy i like and nice to .hurts and insults me and call me names when i am only trying nice to them. almost aggressive like behavior. now i am afraid of guys, now i won,t go near them, because i am afraid they call me nam...
A. 11 July 2009: Some people are just slime. They like to hurt others for the fun of it or to make themselves feel better.
Sadly, some people have a tendency to seek them out.
Am I right in thinking you got low self-esteem? That could lead you to seek approval... (read in full...)
Why do boys like touching girls' breasts? Should I let him do it?
Q. Hi, everyone. I've been dating this guy for about 7 months and we make out quite often.. Sometimes when we're kissing he would put his hand underneath my shirt and start touching my boobs.. I get really upset and i'll show it to him.. Should i let ...
A. 11 July 2009: You got boobs, try touching them. It is just fun to do!
They are soft, warm and react. Most girls do to.
But really, are you asking why boys like to touch girls here? Why do you like to kiss him? When you kiss him, where are your arms? Just ... (read in full...)
Why do boys like touching girls' breasts? Should I let him do it?
Q. Hi, everyone. I've been dating this guy for about 7 months and we make out quite often.. Sometimes when we're kissing he would put his hand underneath my shirt and start touching my boobs.. I get really upset and i'll show it to him.. Should i let ...
A. 11 July 2009: You got boobs, try touching them. It is just fun to do!
They are soft, warm and react. Most girls do to.
But really, are you asking why boys like to touch girls here? Why do you like to kiss him? When you kiss him, where are your arms? Just ... (read in full...)
Should I play by the DOG HOUSE RULES ?
Q. I just met my bf's friends and I really don't like them at all. They are the most disrespectful people I have ever met and I find them to be quite sexist. They make the most awful "jokes" I have ever heard. They think its funny talking about wo...
A. 11 July 2009: You got a point about people from work. that is why I asked how he is normally. If he normally is never like this and this was the first time you ever saw him making degrading jokes or listening to them, then he might just be trying to fit in at ... (read in full...)
I didn't want him to hurt himself so I'm going back out with him...but I'm so confused
Q. Okay So im like 15 i know a bit young but i really need advice. see ive been going out with this boy since the beginning of may, but ive liked his friend all the way through the time weve been dating, and well at first i really liked my boyfriend, i ...
A. 11 July 2009: Classic sign of a future abuser. Not all abusers use violence.
He is controlling you be threathening NOT to harm you, but himself, but the result is actually worse. You can fight off an abusive attacker. the cops can arrest an wife beater b... (read in full...)
Virgin, think about sex all the time.
Q. iam 24 years old and I am virgin and I want to know if its good to think about sex all the time?...
A. 11 July 2009: Well, since you are a virgin it seems you got your thoughts under control. People who say thinking about sex is bad often claim that it leads to out of control sex. Obviously that is not the case.
Sex thoughts don't case pregnancy, STD's or a rep... (read in full...)
Can people really change? Or is it just an act?
Q. To start, as of now I'm 25 and he's almost 27. So I started seeing this guy back in Jan. 08. After about a month into the relationship I became pregnant. I really didn't know what I thought about him at the time and I certainly wasn't ready to ...
A. 11 July 2009: Well did you change? You had an abortion and aren't proud of it. So logically, that changed you and you now NEVER take even the smallest change with sex. That means you are on the pill and use a condom.
If you don't, then no, people can't change.... (read in full...)
My stepfather to be wants me to call him dad, he is abusive and I don't like him, what can I do?
Q. Hey everyone I need a little help as some of you know my dad past away not to long ago. And my Mom seems to be over it already cause she's getting married and I just got out of the hospital a little while ago cause of my accident with a dirtbike. So ...
A. 11 July 2009: Go live with your aunt. Really.
Your mother can't be protected but you can.
I know you want to keep her safe but you can't. Abuse victims got to figure out on their own that they are in a bad situation and they need to get out of it, on their ... (read in full...)
I don't like porn! Is that so wrong?
Q. I don't like porn. Is that so wrong? I've read many questions about porn, and the responses are always something like "Get over it, it's just a video, porn is great, watch it with him, grow up, all men do it...". But I don't like it. I've watched...
A. 11 July 2009: You attitude seems okay. The whole thing about porn to me is like smoking. If I don't like it that my gf smokes, I should get a different gf. But a good deal would be that she smokes only outside and not in my presence. I don't have the right to ... (read in full...)
Do I seem like the rebound girl for these guys?
Q. Just wondering if anyone is in my situation, do any of you always choose to fancy the wrong guys? For example, every now and again my exboyfriend starts talking to me again, flirting etc i start to think it could work again when it's not a good ...
A. 11 July 2009: The so called sweet guys tend to be less aggresive and also to have other intrests then just chasing women.
This means they are more likely to check first that a woman might be receptive to an approach.
The first check would be to see if she... (read in full...)
Should I play by the DOG HOUSE RULES ?
Q. I just met my bf's friends and I really don't like them at all. They are the most disrespectful people I have ever met and I find them to be quite sexist. They make the most awful "jokes" I have ever heard. They think its funny talking about wo...
A. 11 July 2009: Got to agree. You can't pick your family but you do pick your friends.
His behavior towards you when his friends are near speaks volumes. So what is behavior like when they are not around?
You got a warning sign. Read it.... (read in full...)
My eyes are too dark....
Q. I have always been a tough girl. I don't mind being girly. I love love love bows and color, but I am not sure about something. My boyfriend says he likes blue eyes, he says it a lot. I have brown eyes... I am asian so they are sorta dark. How can I ...
A. 11 July 2009: Well, you could cut them out and get glass eyes in the desired color.
But I would suggest you would first ask yourself what it says about a guy who has an ASIAN gf who constantly tells this gf that he prefers blue eyes.
Asian girls do not hav... (read in full...)
He broke up with me through facebook, then got his parents involved in moving his things out and now wants me back!
Q. I am a 24 year old female and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year. I have my own apartment, work full time and I am a full time student. I allowed him to move in. I was not concerned about the financial piece of things because I ...
A. 11 July 2009: People who have been abused often have trouble forming normal relationships later in life.
Your story reminds me a bit about a japanese romantic comedy series. In it a succesful woman adopts a guy as a pet. She makes all kinds of rules for him ... (read in full...)
Sex has become a much higher priority to him than me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for almost 2 years. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and that he loves me with all his heart. The problem is, our sex life has steadily gone downhill over ...
A. 10 July 2009: Remember that porn does not care about premature ejaculation or the strength of the erection or it going limp.
Porn does not judge. Women do that and men do not take critism well. Not even the thought of critism.
He becomes defensive about ... (read in full...)
Why do men want to get me into bed, then forget about me??
Q. I am hoping to get some input on my dating situation. I am 33 mother of 2 boys that live with me, 10 and 12. I have been single for a few years now. I started dating about 6 months ago. I have met two guys that I really liked. Seems like ...
A. 10 July 2009: Why do you buy a can of coke, drink it and then throw the can away?
I swear to god, sometimes I think no woman could ever figure out the answer to that question.
... (read in full...)
Is phone sex wrong?
Q. I was wondering if someone could tell me if phone sex is wrong with my bf...we've been dating for 41 months and pretty much do it every other nite....
A. 10 July 2009: Do it via skype, else the phone bill might kill you.... (read in full...)
Should I believe a Married Man?
Q. About a month ago I was out havin drinks with a friend of mine. we met two guys at a bar and started havin great convo. at the end of the nite we kissed and i got his number 2 days later i sent him a text and 2 days later i got a response. later on ...
A. 10 July 2009: He has a reason to lie to you. The reason is between your legs. If he told you the truth "only want you as a piece of fuckmeat on the side with absolutly no strings attached" he would have far less change of getting between said legs.... (read in full...)
My Ex wants to still have Sex when his new Girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. I was with my ex for 5 years he cheated on me 3 times but I love him and still ended up back with him. We got married last year and I got pregnant. He left me for other women when I was 2 months prego. He told me thay it was a mistake to leave me ...
A. 10 July 2009: Lets do a little roleplay.
Me: Tiffy, I love you. *punches tiffy in the face*
Tiffy: Ooh, he loves me, I am so happy! *spits out a tooth*
To paraphrase: with love like this, who needs hate.
He cheated, knocked you up, left you, got anothe... (read in full...)
Will I regret having sex with someone I won't love later in life?
Q. So I'm 14 and I know I'm kind of young, but I look more like I'm 18 apparently and I've done everything but have sex, and I've been asked many times to have sex and I've always turned people down, but I kind of want to have sex, but I partly also ...
A. 8 July 2009: What is the rush?
The fact that you are asking suggests that you are not yet ready. So why rush things? Afraid of becoming just to old to have sex if you turn 15?... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, my fiance cheated and got her pregnant too!
Q. My fiance cheated on me and got the girl pregnant. I love him a lot.and to make it worse i was already a month pregnant. he swears it wasnt on purpose, he was drunk and that he will do everything to get me back. i dont know if i can trust him agai...
A. 8 July 2009: He will do everything to get you back. Pity he didn't abstain from doing something to keep you.
Oh well, here is a simple test. Ask him to get vasectomy so he never gets another woman pregnant. Don't have to mean it, but I am pretty sure that thi... (read in full...)
I need help understanding shy guys, does he like me or is he just being polite?
Q. Shy guys are very confusing and frustrating. This guy at my work is around 26. He is so so shy his dad tries to set him up on dates and from what I have found out he only has had one girlfriend. One of my friends at work told him that I thought he ...
A. 8 July 2009: He is shy. So if you want something to happen, you are going to have to be the one to make it happen.
Girls can hug too you know. You too have the power to slide closer and make physical contact.
If you like him and can accept that he is like ... (read in full...)
Long distance girlfriend wants a week break
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 8 months. She came directly out of a two year abusive relationship and i got out a 6 year relationship in which i was engaged about 4 months prior to seeing her. We hung out everyday, while we ...
A. 8 July 2009: What does she want the break for? Normally a break is something like a vacation from work, you do something else during that period that is not work.
So, would she be doing someone else during that week?
Or is that she needs some distance du... (read in full...)
Should I keep seeing him, or the whole "baby" and "ex" situation too much to bother with?
Q. HELP! well first off i meet this guy maybe 10 years ago when i was younger, he used to come through to where i stay for the summer holidays to visit his family and we hung around with each other ....long story short...puppy love! He u...
A. 8 July 2009: What court action and why?
Got a suspicion you are dating a guy that another woman already got a court order against. These kind of things are called hints. Take them.... (read in full...)
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