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writes:when i was 5 years old my parents went out for a couple of hours so my oldest brother who is 14 was baby sitting me and my 6 year old brother, we were all in my parents room watching tv and my oldest brother told my younger brother to go down stairs for a while, sadly he did. after he left my oldest brother told me to take off my clothes and i didnt know what he ment until he started taking off his clothes and he started touching me in places, and he told me to suck his d***, and started threatning me when i said no, he said he was going to tell my mom (again i was only 5 years old) and he said he was going to hurt me if i didnt, so i did. :( i didnt know what i was doing and i didnt know that he molested me.the next day me and my younger brother were watching tv up stairs while my parents were at work, and my older brother called me downstairs (just me) and when i got own there he started taking off his pants and told me to suck his d*** again and threatened me again so i sadly did it. for a while he stopped until i was 6 and he would call me into his room and tell me to lay on top of him and he would start touching me in places and kept on doing this for weeks but i never told anyone because when ever i said no he would just threaten to hurt me or worse. so i would listen (and he wa 15!! when he did this to me)then when i was 7 and he was 16, in the middle of the night when i was sleeping he would quietly come into my room and finger me, sometimes i would wake up when he was doing it and i just froze when he did it because i didnt know what he was doing and i was scared nd then i would try to move then he would run out of my room before i saw him but i knew it was him, and he did this for a long time until he stopped when i was nine.he didnt do it ever again. then we moved when i was 11 (the brother that molested me didnt live with us he lived with a friend because he was kicked out for hitting my mom. then he got kicked out of his friends house and came and lived with us in our new house (i didnt remember at all that he molested me when he moved in) (hes also 21 when he moved in) and he started to touch me and finger me when i was sleeping again and i would wake up sometimes and just freeze until he would stop and leave. i knew he was touching me on some nights because when i slept with the door closed, after he was done he would close the door but not all the way or he would leave the door open, and when i slept with the door open he would close the door but not all the way. he then later got kicked out for robbing our nieghbors and breaking into there cars, and my mom threatened to call the police so he left right away, then my mom graduated from nursing school (she started before my brother came to live with us) and a few months after he was gone she graduated and inited him and few other family members over for the weekend to celebrate, my brother came with 2 other friends (a boy and a girl) and i hate hime so much, i refused to talk to him the whole time he was here because i finally knew what he did to me (many many times) (and i started to remember some of it (it was kinda fuzzy when i tried to remember it) and he did it he touched me again (hes 22 now) when i was sleeping, 2 times out of the the three nights he stayed here, and i think his friends watched while he did it because i remember i heard a girl laughing outside of my door when he was doing it and im pretty sure his guy friend did it too (they didnt have sex with me though luckily) and again i was scared ad i froze, EVERY TIME he did it i would just freeze. and on the second night he was here i was being really mean to him in front of my aunt and mom and went to my room and my aunt came up stairs to ask me why i hate him so much... i almost told her... but i didnt and im so mad i didnt but im still scared to tell anyonenow i can remember everything perfectly and every time i remember him doing the stuff he did to me and the things i had to do to him, it just makes me sick and i just keep crying about and in some way i feel like it was MY fault and i feel so depressed about it becuase i feel like i was asking for it whenever i wore short shorts or a skirt and it just makes me so mad at myself and i just keep crying.what should i do!?!?!?! :(can i get him arrested for doing what he did to me?
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reader, wee_neko +, writes (9 July 2009):
He can be arrested. Very easily. While there are some elaborate ways of catching him in the act, you should probably tell someone close to you, someone you trust. Your mother would probably be a good bet.
In the mean time, I suggest you pick up some mace and hide it under your pillow. Sign up for martial arts classes. Believe in yourself and the people around you! They'll help you, but you have to talk to someone first! Get help! Help help help! Help is very good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): what happened to you was not your fault. but you need to confide in someone - how about your aunt who wanted to know why you hate him so much. your brother is sick - even more sick for allowing his 2 friends to be part of his sick games with you. please if you ever want to move forward you need to tell someone. tell your mom even. they need to know so that he doesn't do this to anyone again and also so that he doesn't invade your home again. your brother is a sexual offender and he needs to be put behind bars but the first thing to do is telling someone close to you. for so long this abuse has been carrying on, if you want to have some sort of normality on your life, this secret has to come out in the open. please for your sake and any other girls as well. you may find that he could have done this to others as well. please put a stop to him. NOW.
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reader, sheperd +, writes (8 July 2009):
It might be hard to get him arrested because of statute of limitations laws but he needs to be confronted by you your family and police. You may be able to get a restraining order against him and that would be a good start. Try talking to your family first and then seeing what the police can do about it. Not to scare you but get a can of mace and keep it near at all times if you confront this issue. he sounds unstable and untrustworthy and you dont want to take chances with people like that. I see no other choice but for you to hit this head on and get it taken care of as soon as possible! It will be hard but not as hard as living with it for the rest of your life. And the chance that he might hurt someone else is too great.
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (7 July 2009):
 You need to tlk to the police first.
Thn go get your self help. Go see a counsler. What happend is not your fault at all! Do not let yourself think that.
Please tell the police because if he did this to you he might do it to others and hurt other little girls.
Best of LuckXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): girl, almost the exact same thing happened to me. it gets harder if you wait to tell someone. i was so very young and i can look back now and realize that my brother molested me but i haven't told anyone. you should definitely tell someone. you're older now, he can't hurt you unless you let him and i fully believe that you won't let him anymore. good luck girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): This is truly horrible what happened to you. I would definitely let someone know about it, your mom, aunt, police, etc. He has no excuse for what he did. I wish you the best of luck...
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Yes, you can go to the police and should. Be prepared however for a very difficult period where people will doubt you.
In a way it is a good thing he has an extensive records. He can hardly play the hurt innocent with what he has done and be caught for.
You might not be able to stop him, or land him in jail for a significant amount of time, but by getting it out in the open, you are putting a warning sign on him, hopefully preventing others from becoming his victim.
It will also allow you to start dealing with what has happened. Victims of abuse often put the blame with themselves and that can lead to serious problems later as they come to believe that they deserve bad things happening to them.
You are not to blame here. You where a very small child abused by very sick and twisted person. What could you have done? Nothing. Even as an older teen, the complexities of a family relation often make it seemingly impossible to fight it. that is what makes abuse so damaging.
The sad thing is that victims often think they are all alone and are afraid to tell anyone because nobody could understand. That their family and friends won't understand or worse even believe them.
To be honest, that risk exists. It requires real bravery to stand up and end the abuse by saying to the world what has happened. Will the police believe you? How will your family react? Is it just your word against his?
But you don't really have a choice. The abuse has gone on for over a decade and your brother seems out of control. There is no telling what might happen if he is not stopped.
So report him. Go to the police. Report what has happened and find a way so that you never have to be near him again.
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reader, MzKnowItAll +, writes (4 July 2009):
NO WAY IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT......AT ALL. Most molestion victim always feel like its there fault. Most definitey you should get him arrested. If he is doing this to his own sister imaging how many other girls he has done this to. We all might not know exactly what you are going threw but I can only imagine that its very hard for you. You don't deserve this your innocent and he took it all away from you. When ever you get the strength you take the step in healing this situation. Take as long as you need. By telling us you need help and advice is the first step of progress in this manner. I wish nothing but the best for you. Baby girl keep you head up.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Yes you can get him arrested, tell the police and you will make a statement and they'll take care of it! They could also arrange counselling for you and family members, you just have to ask about it! X
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reader, Brook_e_boo +, writes (4 July 2009):
 well tell the police i am pretty sure u can get a court date for it that is terrible i am so sorry i to was mellestid but once not as many times as u that must have been horible
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Girl, I´m so sorry for you!! It was, in no way, your fault!!! It´s strongly against the law what your brother did to you, and not only it is molestation...its incest too!!!!! You shouldnt let this be...I know its going to be painfull and difficult for you...but leaving this behind, letting it eat you up inside by not telling anyone is not going to help you, sweet...I think, maybe you should tell your mother first...and dont worry about the idea of them not believing you...your brother has a criminal life and your mother knows that...and, yes,,you CAN get him in jail for that!!! Dont let him get away with this, sweet!!! You are human and you have you´re rights!!! I hope I helped you...best of luck, sweet.
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reader, chuwariwaps  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 your brother was a psycho! he is a maniac!!! i cannot blame you bec i had experience it also when i was 8 yrs old. my parents friend he hugs me and even play on my boobs but that time i only thought he was hugging me but until i get matured that the time i realized he also molested me. i know you are old enough and you should stop him. just tell him infront of his face that if he will do it again you will tell to your parents. i know he will be afraid. dont be afraid of him. he is nothing!
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reader, marietomates +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Yes, he absolutely can be arrested. And it sounds like he has a record already, so if you're too scared to talk to someone in your family, go to the police station and make a report. It's that serious. Let me be clear: HE IS A CHILD MOLESTER. HE SHOULD BE REPORTED. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. He has terrorized you and made you afraid of him since you were five years old. He is sick in the head. It sounds like he has a degree of psychopathy. He belongs in jail and you deserve some peace finally. Don't let this happen again, protect yourself and tell someone. Tell someone. Tell someone. Tell someone. Tell someone. Good luck!
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