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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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We broke up, I told him I needed space, but now I want him back, how do I know how he feels?
Q. Hi, I broke up with my bf a few months ago. We stayed friends in the interim. I just sent him a "would you consider getting back together" letter. I told him to take his time to think about it. I think I was so subtle in the letter that I never ...
A. 26 July 2009: 4 pages, you do realize that you were writing to a guy? A telegram would be considered to wordy.
Anyway, you first push him away, even to the point of telling him to stop communicating and then want him back.
How would you react if the sam... (read in full...)
My uncle died and now I'm scared of losing the people I love
Q. ok...my uncle died 2 weeks ago. he died of lung cancer he was 65. ever since this event happened i've been scared of losing the ones i love like my family my grandma. i feel like crying when i imagine when that time happens. please help me....
A. 26 July 2009: Good. You are growing up and starting to realise that life is not unending. That people die. This is sad but it is life.
Feeling sad because someone will die someday is however a bit silly. Wouldn't it be better to go to for instance your grandma ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he's curious to date other women
Q. I have a boyfriend that appears to be curious to date other women... I'm his first girlfriend, we've been dating for 3 years. He was 25 years old when we first started dating..He's been very critical of me lately, says that I'm difficult and wants a ...
A. 26 July 2009: Seems to me he is trying to break loose. He started late but now that he found out about girls he wants to see more of them.
Take the hint, this guy ain't ready to commit. He surely must know that dating other women in a committed relation... (read in full...)
Does a guy know when a woman fakes an orgasm?
Q. Does a guy know when a woman fakes an orgasm? My lover and I have been together for 4 years and previous to this I was married for 15 years and I have never experienced an orgasm during sex but I cum so quickly with my toy. What do you think is ...
A. 26 July 2009: Well, you might never have experienced an orgasm during sex, but remember this: That means your partners didn't experience a woman having an orgasm.
Sex is a game two (or more) people play and they got to play together to do it right. Human se... (read in full...)
I've always dated me who treated me badly -- this guy might be different. Have I messed it up?
Q. Hi! I am a typical girl who has always dated men who treated me badly. For some reason, I found jerks attractive. I recently met a man who seems nothing like the jerks I previously have met, he is mature, direct, kind, secure within himself, and ...
A. 26 July 2009: Do you like being in control? You dated a lot of jerks you say. What did that give you?
Jerks play women, but they can be played themselves. If you are not looking for anything serious then dating non-serious men avoids complications. There ar... (read in full...)
He says horrible things to me because he doesn't like my past!
Q. My boyfriend says he says things he doesn't mean when he is mad, and i should not take them personally. here is some examples : slut, whore, dirty, i am going to throw you off this balcony, you deserved to get raped no one is going to want you now, ...
A. 26 July 2009: "Hypocrisy is the act of pretending to have beliefs, opinions, virtues, feelings, qualities, or standards that one does not actually have. Hypocrisy typically comes from a desire to mask actual motives or feelings, or from a person's inability to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my new employer that I am pregnant?
Q. Hi, I am happily married and my husband is a great guy. I just had a pregancy test and it is positive, however I am a bit worried because we did not plan to have a baby for another year or two and I have just got a job offered for a week and I am ...
A. 25 July 2009: Job offer for a week? A 1(ONE) week job and you are worried?
Anyway, check your local labor laws. It is in most modern nations illegal to discriminate on gender exactly for this reason. As a society we need women to have babies, so women have to ... (read in full...)
He held me during the movie, because I didn't like the scary scenes. Does this mean he likes me?
Q. around two weeks ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of 8months. last night i went to the movies with my youth group (my ex also attends). i sat next to a boy i know, and have had a crush on for ages. he's 1yr older than me. the film we were watching ...
A. 25 July 2009: Depends. Two options.
A: He was trying to steal your wallet. Sneaky if stupid since girls don't have wallets.
B: He was reaching around you to steal your neighbours popcorn. What a loser.
Nah, I think he held you hand because he was scare... (read in full...)
His g/f is pregnant yet he's sleeping with me & other girls, is he happy?
Q. Hi everyone Ok i split up with my ex in october last year, anyway we have stayed good friends and since we split up we carried on sleeping together, untill januery this year when he got his gf who is now 3 months pregnent anyway before i found o...
A. 25 July 2009: He got multiple women dangling and you are asking if he is happy...
Let me try to translate into womanize.
You can't possible be happy with your shoes because you keep on shopping for others.
Mothers of the world, take to your daugthers a... (read in full...)
How do I get over the disappointment that I wasn't meant to have a religion? And what about this unresolved anger I feel for mean, stupid, ignorant people?
Q. This is a relationship question, although I'm not sure which category of relationships it belongs to. I'm hoping someone in the forum can help me, because I'm angry all the time. I need to get over this, but I just can't get closure. I don't k...
A. 25 July 2009: Religion has several elements.
The faith, this is the basic believe in a god, heaven and hell, various miracles etc etc. Faith is about believing, not knowing. It is what you feel in your hearth is true regardless of what silly scientists say. (I ... (read in full...)
Food play during foreplay!
Q. Ok this may sound like a silly question... but; my boyfriend (of 2 years) and I want to introduce food play to our love making but are unsure of how to go about such things. For example; we want to feed each other grapes during foreplay but we ...
A. 25 July 2009: One tip. No crackers.
Also, erotiscm is in restraint. A grape is one thing. A melon another.
Also don't think super romantic. The movies are a lie. That nude scene in the proposal took 3 days. (only reason I saw a chick flick)
It is ... (read in full...)
I married the wrong man! Now what?
Q. I stupidly married knowing i was in love with someone else whom I will call Mr X. Mr X is not married but is still trying to get over a woman that left him 9 years ago. He says he loves us both. I know that I shouldnt be with my husband but when I ...
A. 25 July 2009: 9 years eh?
A bit long to get over a woman. Mind you, if I didn't want to commit to anyone I think it is a good line as any.
"Sorry honey, I love you but there is this woman in my past... yeah a decade ago, who just hurt me so bad that I feel ... (read in full...)
Question from a lady about something men always say to me
Q. I have a question that I would like the men to answer primarily (but ladies, too, if you have insight into my question). I am a thin lady, I will admit, but there is something that men say to me a lot that, quite frankly, I don't know how to take. ...
A. 25 July 2009: Some women are a lot smaller then men. Not just height but their entire build. If I was the same height I would still be a LOT heavier without being fat.
This can give a feeling that you could snap a woman's arm. My gf who is almost my height c... (read in full...)
Why put on a dating website "just looking for friends"?
Q. So, I have a profile on a dating website. I found a really interesting guy so I messaged him. We messaged back and forth for a while, until I noticed his relationship status was "unknown". So it turns out he has a girlfriend and is just looking for ...
A. 23 July 2009: Depends on the site, most contact columns officially are for finding people. Wether that is a penpall, a fuckbuddy, a car-pooler or a partner is up to the people involved.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriends unromantic proposal is disappointing
Q. my boyfriend asked me to marry him 4 months ago. He did not have any kind of romantic little speech or poem. He didn't even say how much he loved me- just plain old "will you marry me". He has not brought up getting married ever since. What can I ...
A. 23 July 2009: Nope he won't. Men marry women thinking they won't change. Women marry men thinking they will change.
Both are wrong.... (read in full...)
20 and never had a boyfriend...What am I doing wrong?
Q. i'm 20 and i've never had a boyfriend! I'm ready for one, what am i doing wrong? I am confident, happy and sure i'm not all that looks wise but there's nothing wrong with me either. I go out, socialise, I've dated a bit, had fwb (i found ou...
A. 22 July 2009: When you read a post the trick is often reading between the lines. What isn't being said.
The fwb deal here is a bit odd. Never had a boyfriend you say. So, who was your first? You gave your virginity in the fwb arrangement or what?
Not tha... (read in full...)
How come I always pick guys that are like my father?
Q. I need help my boyfriend is just like my father. He is immature, a drug addict, and alcoholic. I didn't notice at first but then in the middle of the relationship I had noticed that they were exactly alike in so many ways. My boyfriend is the same ...
A. 22 July 2009: Why do girls go after guys like their father? Perhaps because they are like their mother?
Your mother didn't notice the way your father was until it was to late. Neither did you. it is not like it would be that hard to spot an alcoholic lazy dru... (read in full...)
Sick and tired of my stingy husband!
Q. Hello, I am posting here because I am so sick and tired of my husband being so stingy. We are both working and I am actually earning 800$ more per month than him. Together we are quite a middle-class family - total earning after tax about $6...
A. 22 July 2009: So again, he is avoiding making a choice.
To bad he also wants to be in control. There is no rule the man has to make all the big decisions in a relationship after all.
As others said, you might want to take some steps on the way to seperatio... (read in full...)
Sick and tired of my stingy husband!
Q. Hello, I am posting here because I am so sick and tired of my husband being so stingy. We are both working and I am actually earning 800$ more per month than him. Together we are quite a middle-class family - total earning after tax about $6...
A. 20 July 2009: Pity, if you had the background I thought then it would be understandable.
But is he stingy or just someone who doesn't want to do things now? It is one thing not to want to buy a new house and another thing to come up with excuses not to buy it t... (read in full...)
Is it true that men will have sex with any female who is willing?
Q. Is it true that men can have sex with any female. If female is willing and approaching them , they never say no. Even if they love their partner, but for sex they everready for any female. Male readers plz answer this question...
A. 20 July 2009: No. Of course not. Unless she is really pretty. Or I can get away with it.
We are men, DAMMIT!
And considering the fact that over 30% of children are not of the father who thinks he is the father, a lot of women are men too.... (read in full...)
Do I ride out this break and hope my boyfriend will stop being so smothering?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 6 months. I do really care for him, yet we've had problems in the relationship because he's too smothering. I'm very independant and don't want to be "mothered" by a boyfriend, which is what he tries to do. We've had...
A. 19 July 2009: Life is never perfect. Who is to say that if you dump this guy that the next guy won't be someone like me who thinks a card once per year is an excessive and embarrising display of affection.
He might be to smothering but might you also just not... (read in full...)
Do I have OCD? What to do?
Q. Hi, so i have a comfort issue. For the last 5 years ive been obsessively wearing coats. No matter how hot it gets. When im not wearing one I panic and feel naked and ugly and exposed. My parents wont leave me alone about it. We r going to Cali soon ...
A. 19 July 2009: Probably. Are you uncomfortable with the way you look? Sounds like you feel you got to cover yourself up to hide the way you look.
OCD is catchall for a lot of behaviours but to oversimplefy it, it is extreme behavior to compensate for a fear/ins... (read in full...)
He held my hand, then he didn't. What should I do about it?
Q. I went to a movie with this guy and at the very end we held hands. The next night me and my friend went to his house and watched a movie. I sat next to him but he never held my hand...It was kinda awkward. I like him alot but i dont know what i s...
A. 19 July 2009: Awh.
Might he have been embarresed in front of your friend? Afraid his parents walked in? Or worse, his sister?... (read in full...)
Do men think about other women in a sexual way?
Q. Hi I have a question for guys or girls in the know. I was wondering how often men think about women in a sexual way. Does it vary if you are in a relationship; is it a reflection on the girlfriend the amount the guy checks other girls out? Do men ...
A. 19 July 2009: Yes.... (read in full...)
Should I believe this will work or should I believe that "history" is going to repeat itself?
Q. Dear Cupid, About a year ago I left my man due to the fact he stopped listening to me, started screaming and yelling @ me instead of talking to me and he was being just down right sneaky!! During the time we were broken up we still communic...
A. 19 July 2009: Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it.
There are two people involved here. He is not the one askin for advice so I ask you this.
What have you learned from history?
Nothing has changed has it? He cheated, you forgave ... (read in full...)
24 and feel at this point in my life I should have a boyfriend
Q. Hi there. I'm 24 years old and I feel as though I should have a b/f at this point in my life. I am a grad. student and am working towards being a ateacher, and I take pride in how I present myself and feel I have a great personality. All of my...
A. 19 July 2009: Get a puppy.
You are looking for something, you don't say what so it is impossible to say wether you what you want is realistic.
Lets assume it is, then what are you achieving by settling for guys you really just don't want?
Do others se... (read in full...)
When is it time for boys to grow up?
Q. Just wondering when it is time for boys to "grow up" drinking-wise? I understand that guys (and girls) like to have a good time while they're in college/university, and tend to party hard, get very drunk etc, but when does that behaviour start to...
A. 19 July 2009: Long research has concluded that in our culture men grow up once they reach the age of 113.
See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oldest_man#Men_currently_living_aged_over_110_years for details.
My question to you is this. When is it time for girl... (read in full...)
Sick and tired of my stingy husband!
Q. Hello, I am posting here because I am so sick and tired of my husband being so stingy. We are both working and I am actually earning 800$ more per month than him. Together we are quite a middle-class family - total earning after tax about $6...
A. 19 July 2009: You are aware that right now there is a global recession going on? Even americans are saving money right now and in my country savings have reached new record hights.
You might make 3000 now, but tomorrow?
Some people become so obsessed with be... (read in full...)
When do you know it's time to throw in the towel?
Q. When do you know it's time to throw in the towel? Been with b/f 3 years. We have alot in common and enjoy each other's company; good chemistry. But my b/f doesn't treat me w/respect and we're constantly hooking horns over his temper. I love him but ...
A. 19 July 2009: Simple, when you realize you are fighting a lost cause.
... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being a single Mom, so how can I get my ex back?
Q. my ex boyfriend of 4 years finished with me because he said i have an attitude problem, he is the father of my 9 month old daughter and i am currently 5 months pregnant with his second child. We started seeing each other again and he slept with ...
A. 18 July 2009: Sometimes you can't get what you want. That is life.
And part of life is growing up. A grown up is someone who has realized that they have passed a point in their life when they can no longer justify a bad relationship with the words "I love him... (read in full...)
Pornography & drugs, but no sex!
Q. Ok, I have quite the dilemma, and don't even know where to start. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now. Up until six months ago, we had a great relationship, and amazing sex. About six months ago, he started losing interest in our sex ...
A. 18 July 2009: Mmm, while I initially would have commented that visiting porn sites != masturbation, you do say he has erections caused by you.
Yet he doesn't want sex.
You are not going to like this suggestion, but he might have an STD and not want you to ... (read in full...)
Do breasts get bigger when they are sucked on?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and we've been sexual lately since its summer.. I have 34A breasts and lately it seems like my bras have been "shrinking" and getting tighter.. he likes to suck on my boobs and I heard they get larger when ...
A. 18 July 2009: Breasts do swell up when you are sexually excited, so yes, your boyfriends claim is true.
Sadly, they also deflate again afterwards.
So if you hope to gain a cupsize, then nope, won't happen. There as such thing as breasts vacuum pumps, bu... (read in full...)
Mom of four virgin sons, how common is this, can parents cause this, can I help?
Q. I have 4 sons ,all of them over 20 years old, 3 moved out from the house,one is living with us. I'm absultley stunned by the fact , that none of them ever had a girlfriend,and they are all virgin,they are also very self distractive on differen...
A. 18 July 2009: A: They might be gay/asexual.
B: They might be lying to you.
C: Statistics often say that something like 50% of people lose their virginity before the age of 18. Intrestingly, such reports rarely mention the genders.
I presume that with distra... (read in full...)
Why do men go around staring at other women when their girlfriends/wives are with them?
Q. Why do guys have to be so ignorant! im sure there are guys out there who wont stare at other women but most do and it makes their wives/gfs really degraded! then they sit and complain when we tell them that it hurts us! thats a bunch of BS. wom...
A. 16 July 2009: Why do women date men who go around staring at other women when their girlfriends/wives are with them? Here you got one woman who actually acknowledges that other men do exists but of her own free will, with nobody forcing her, she still dates a man ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches a lot of porn and it makes me feel insecure about my own body!
Q. i just turned 17 and im a cup A :( i have a boyfriend. he is my first ever boyfriend and i am also his first. last month i told him my bra size. he told me it's fine and he doesnt mind small breasts as long as there's something to touch. lat...
A. 16 July 2009: He talks about the porn he just watched while on the phone with you?
Just how old is he?
Normal for couples? Normal might be sex talk but talking about the size of a porn actress tits in a porn movie YOU DID NOT SEE? That is... rude?
W... (read in full...)
What do men do when they realise their game doesn't work with you?
Q. What do men do when they realize their game doesn't work with you? In other words, you can pretty much see right through their bull. Do they try harder, freak out, or become tame? ...
A. 16 July 2009: If you saw through the bull, you wouldn't be asking this question.... (read in full...)
Do you think my sexual past is a bad thing?
Q. Im 17 and ive slept with 9 guys and 1 girl, would you say its bad? Youngest guy has been 13 when i was 13, and oldest has been 40 when i was 17. Alot of people say its bad, but im not sure, personally i dont think its bad, the only thing that bothe...
A. 14 July 2009: 10 in 4 years. What does that say about your life? I wouldn't say it is bad as in evil, but I would suggest that perhaps you might want to seek a hobby.
Is this really what you want to do with your life? Just run from person to person seeking ... (read in full...)
Would you appear on the show Bachelor or Bachelorette?
Q. Here is something I wanted to float out there to all the Aunties and Uncles. It may seem stupid, but I have just thought I would ask. Right now, between working on my sites, and looking up at the television, I just ran into this trainwreck of a ...
A. 14 July 2009: No I would not,but if you think these shows are expensive, think again. Reality shows like this are extremely cheap.
Star Trek TNG cost at the time over 1 million dollars per episode and you got too shoot those eps WAY in advance because they tak... (read in full...)
Why is sleeping with a lot of people viewed as bad? Isnt just experience?
Q. Why is it a bad thing to sleep with a lot of people? Some people say it's sluttish behaviour. But i think it just makes you experienced. It makes you know what you like and dislike. Surely isn't this a good thing? (Lets say, for arguments sak...
A. 14 July 2009: I think you are seriously overestimating the amount of experience sex takes. It is NOT that hard.
If you want to have sex with a lot of people, that is your business. But claiming it is so you will become really good at it is just silly. That wou... (read in full...)
At first my boyfriend was sweet and respectful, but now he seems to just want sex!
Q. ok well i jus started goin out wit my boyfriend at first he seemed really sweet and respectedful but when i finaly said i would go out wit him he changed he started say he was ganna f*** me so hard in my ass and jus made me start to really feel ...
A. 13 July 2009: One thing females seems to have a hard time to accept is that assholes KNOW that being an asshole does NOT get you into a girls pants. So they put on the charm at first, the girl thinks she found a real prince and then when she is all buttered up, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome, should I do it to keep him happy?
Q. oh oh now my boyfriend wants a 3 some with another woman just the one off mind to see if it will help him get hard but i dont know how to go about it please help im willing for him to try this just to keep him happy thanx...
A. 13 July 2009: Unless it is something both of you want and you are sure you can deal with all the emotions that will be involved, don't do it.
For instance, he has an erection problem? Say he gets hard with her, how will you feel then? How will he feel if she g... (read in full...)
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