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How can I show my daughter that her fiance is an ass?
Q. My daughter is 23 and has been dating "Jason" 25, since high school.I always looked at him as a good kid,a little inmature but figured he would grow up to be a respectful guy. Three weeks ago my daughter came home in tears saying that she she found ...
A. 4 September 2009: Tell me, did you think Beauty and the Beast was a good kids movie? A lot of parents did, but lets see what message it sends to females. It don't matter how much of an asshole the guy is, your love will save him. In the disney version the guy ... (read in full...)
I need a male sex buddy..where would I find one?
Q. I am a 22 year old female that wants to have sex but I can't find a good partner that would do it with no strings attached Am I wrong for wanting a very sexy man to put it on in my area that wont kiss and tell and that will promise not to force a ...
A. 4 September 2009: Know anyone? It is sex with no strings. Why do you need to know him? Casual sex is easy, just go to any club and respond easily to anyone who approaches. If you want him to be nice and friendly and be a buddy. Then it ain't no strings attache... (read in full...)
I need a male sex buddy..where would I find one?
Q. I am a 22 year old female that wants to have sex but I can't find a good partner that would do it with no strings attached Am I wrong for wanting a very sexy man to put it on in my area that wont kiss and tell and that will promise not to force a ...
A. 1 September 2009: Anywhere?
But you are setting yourself up for a broken heart.
Some women can do "no strings attached" sex. You ain't one of them, if you were, you would be having it.
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I sometimes give him head - will it affect our friendship?
Q. Ok so ill give a lil bit of our history to this day so you can see whats going on.... We met in high school year 9.. and i had a lil bit of a crush on him when we became friends.. used to talk all the time.. He left at the end of year 10 and had a ...
A. 31 August 2009: Why does he do these things?
What things? Cum in your mouth? Because you are blowing him.
Few men would resist a free blow job.
You are at best FWB. I doubt it will become more. Sorry girl, but you are the one doing these things. From your ... (read in full...)
B/f constantly accuses me of cheating but I'm not!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 months now and we jus recently broke up and got back together bc he thought I was cheating on him and I've gave him my email address and password give him my phone everything jus to prove to him ...
A. 31 August 2009: So, basically by calling you a cheat he has managed to take total control of your life. You see no one else, you don't do things you like to do, have no privacy. All because he can't trust you.
There are three options. It might be a combinat... (read in full...)
My husband looks at she-male porn. Do straight men do this?
Q. My husband looks at shemale porn, but says he is not gay. The shemale's are cleary men with breast.what do you think? Are there any straight men that like to look at shemale porn? ...
A. 31 August 2009: Do straight men post on agony aunt sites?... (read in full...)
He's not a good friend, but if I don't talk to him I'll be seen as the bad one! Help!
Q. So i have this male 'friend' and he is a liar, moody and not a very good friend. He doesn't want to talk to me and i don't know why. What should i do? should i talk to him? or not because i know he is not very nice and not a good friend but if i ...
A. 27 August 2009: Then stuff what everyone else thinks. If they want someone to talk to him so bad, let them do it.
Sometimes you got to look out for yourself first.... (read in full...)
My husband lied about being a virgin and I feel I cant move on from this!
Q. After 25 years of marriage, and during a horrible row, I found out that my husband had lied to me when we were young and told me that he was a virgin when in fact he wasn't (only 1 other partner). This lie has really put a strain on our marriage. I ...
A. 27 August 2009: Last straw eh?
Sometimes we tell ourselves something is special in order to put up with the hardships it brings.
Now that has been taken away. Time to take a good hard look at what you got here. Just how bad is it that you are talking about th... (read in full...)
Do I accept his brutal honesty? Or get out?
Q. So a couple of days ago was my 2nd anniversary with my boyfriend. It's been an odd two years - mostly happy moments but with a couple of major unhappy ones. I'll give the full history and this might be long: We had a happy relationship for...
A. 27 August 2009: This is a wonderful guy?
This girls is why reading skills are so important. Learn the difference between a cesspool and the datingpool.
Really, read your own post, you describe a guy who is either completely socially inept or in the closet.
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I hooked up with former porn star and now my ex wants me back, and I can't tell him what I did
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years, we were high school sweethearts, and after our first year of college decided to give it a break. After 2 weeks of being sad and lonely my friend and I decided to go out and party a bit and let ...
A. 27 August 2009: Just consider carefully wether you actually want to hook back up with him. You were a couple for a long time but it didn't take you very long to get involved with sex for the sake of sex.
Are you sure you didn't get scared and are now running ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to be hurt and upset because my boyfriend didn't get me anything for our anniversary?
Q. My boyfriend and I have always had a challenging yet loving relationship. There's a very strong mutual attraction and although I don't know if he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, I have a lot of love for him. He is pretty ...
A. 26 August 2009: Sometimes when you read these posts, you can just see the train wreck in progress.
There is you, a person who read one to many self-help books putting things into the relationship that ain't there. Am I at all right in thinking you can "help" h... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend very much but I hate that he doesn't work and I pay for everything!
Q. I have been with my boyfiend for just over 3 years now and I love him very much but I hate the fact that he does not work and I have to pay for everything. He says that he is looking for work but all he every does is sit on social networking sites ...
A. 26 August 2009: But him not working and not paying for anything is who he is. So if you hate who he is, what then do you love?
Do you love HIM, or the idea of a boyfriend/the guy you imagine he is/could be?
People always say "I love him/her so much" and then m... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my drinking husband because of our daughter?
Q. I am a 49 year old female with a 14 year old daughter. I have been married 15 years and for the entire time I have known this man he has drank; but it seems every year his drinking is getting worse. Even though I am married, I feel like a single ...
A. 23 August 2009: What example are you setting for your daughter?
That she should stick with a bad husband herself, for the sake of her daughter?
Monkey see, monkey do. Remember that.
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Should I keep making excuses for him?
Q. So my boyfriend is a pretty shy and clueless guy when it comes to girls. I'm his first girlfriend, and we've been dating for about 3 months. I'm 19, he's 22. We've been working together since fall of last year, and we first went out in January.....
A. 23 August 2009: I get the feeling you are typical girl, who tend to be typically clueless about guys.
Let me guess, you have been giving "subtle" hints, haven't you?
Don't work sweety. There are TWO kind of guys in the world.
You subtle hint, you smile a... (read in full...)
Husband trying to turn back time..acting like a teenager!
Q. I'm 42, and my husband's 38. Has he recently hit a midlife crisis or something - he's started going to clubs with teenage kids 18 - 21, going to the gym, eating out every night, and smoking and gambling a lot, and even dresses like a 20something ...
A. 23 August 2009: "Talking to him got nowhere, he was trying to encourage me to live this 'social life' with him!"
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"I've asked to meet his new young friends, but he won't let me. He said they're mostly guys, only about 6 girls, but he still won't let me mee... (read in full...)
We want to date - but the 'kids' think it's too weird, what should we do?
Q. I am interested in having a relationship with my daughter's boyfriend's dad. We like each other and would like to date.We live on opposite ends of the country but communicate each day.We will get together when we can.Here's the problem though, my ...
A. 23 August 2009: Well, if you two end up getting married, then your kids will be siblings and commiting incest.
So yeah, I can see why they might object.
Then again, there are ways to avoid this and with them both being adults and probably out of the house, it... (read in full...)
Is it cheating to kiss another guy?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over three years and never ever cheated on him. I'm so loyal so I feel really guilty because I kissed a very nice guy that I met the other night. He kissed me first and I went along with it for a few seconds. Is that ...
A. 23 August 2009: I would say that you are definitly on the edge here.
How would you feel if you found out your bf kissed another girl?
Running away from your troubled relationship isn't going to solve anything.
Either fix what is wrong, or end it.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to want a body like a FEMALE celebrity?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were watching an old James Bond film recently - one that had Rosamund Pike in (well, Die Another Day actually!) I commented on how hot Pierce Brosnan was, and my boyfriend agreed, which I found unusual. However, it was when...
A. 21 August 2009: Seems you and the two people who responded so far interpret what he says differently.
You think he meant he his body to be like hers, the other two seem to think he meant he wanted her body for sex.
You know him, why did you think he meant w... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my attraction for guys who treat me horribly stems from being sexually abused?
Q. First of I'll start with a bit of history about me; I've dealt with depression, anxiety, paranoia, self-harm and a near miss with an eating disorder. It's all happened together and it was hell. At the same time I was dealing with feelings for my ...
A. 20 August 2009: It is possible, but you don't recall it happening yourself? It is possible to have repressed it, but it is also possible your ex-counsellor was looking for an easy answer. Girl with low-selfesteem does NOT always mean past sexual abuse.
There... (read in full...)
How do women gain confidence in themselves?
Q. How do women gain more confidence in themselves? I always thought if you got a good education, found a good job, made decent money, were fairly happy with your appearance, you would have confidence. But I don't. It's almost like, your either born ...
A. 20 August 2009: Stop being dependant on someone else for your own happiness.
Because the insecurities that you really focus on and the consequence of your own insecurities all come down to one simple thing.
MEN.
And men, at least the kind of men insecure... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and have just found out my boyfriend has another 3 babies on the way!
Q. I'm pregnant by my boyfriend. I told him he wants nothing to do with the child. Found out he has 3 babies on the way. I don't want a abortion because I had one when I was younger. I just turned 30 years old. He's 26 years old. I've been seeing him ...
A. 19 August 2009: Your boyfriend?
Still in denial it seems.... (read in full...)
How long is sex supposed to last?
Q. probably a silly question, but how long do women prefer men to last in bed??? i suppose l am asking because in myself l dont believe l last very long at all. what got me thinking more about this is when my wife and i had separated for a period, ...
A. 17 August 2009: All day.
And no, I am not miracle man. But what a LOT of people forget is that sex is a lot more then just the humping. You can start it when you get up in the morning. Kiss each other awake. A hug when you pass as you get ready for the day, wha... (read in full...)
Are guys our there who like androgymous tomboy girls?
Q. I am not straight. I like women more but men sometimes too. I feel most comfortable being androgynous - shortish hair, confident manner, and a bit tomboyish: I like to open doors for my dates and generally naturally gravitate away from the feminine ...
A. 17 August 2009: Not all sex has to end in intercourse, that would get pretty boring.
But a relationship is about TWO people working out a life together.
You have your desires, your partner might have others. The whole point of the dating process is to fi... (read in full...)
Are guys our there who like androgymous tomboy girls?
Q. I am not straight. I like women more but men sometimes too. I feel most comfortable being androgynous - shortish hair, confident manner, and a bit tomboyish: I like to open doors for my dates and generally naturally gravitate away from the feminine ...
A. 15 August 2009: There is someone for everyone.
Believe it or not, but there are men who really do not want a girly woman. Freaks them out.
But non-penetrative sex? That might get old. It is a classic view that the one penetrating is dominant/male an... (read in full...)
Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009: There are several reasons. Lets presume that he isn't just an immoral prick.
Then sometimes people stray simply because they have started to take things for granted. The partner is no longer someone special but something that comes with the hous... (read in full...)
Watching him masturbate was hot, but now I'm obsessing and feeling useless at sex.
Q. I would like to start out this question by saying I think masturbation is healthy and I never used to have problems with it. Now the question. I never even bothered to think about whether my boyfriend masturbated, because I really didn't care if he ...
A. 15 August 2009: He is right, masturbation just ain't the same, at least not for me and I presume a lot of guys. In a way, it is like blowing your nose.
There is more to sex then just the release of sperm.
Try to get your head around this: Men do not cuddl... (read in full...)
Naked photos of women on my boyfriends phone and lack of sex are making me think he is just not that into me!
Q. about 6 months ago I found a naked photo of my boyfriends ex wife in his phone. We had been together about 6 years at this stage. He told me it was an old photo from years ago but his phone was only new - so either it was a new photo or he had ...
A. 14 August 2009: So? He has to be desperate to have sex with you?
Nice. Hope something was lost in translation there.
But it sounds like he has problems performing, maybe age or a combination of factors.
In it self, if he can't it might mean nothing for h... (read in full...)
My husband seems to have taken a vacation from work just to sit around all day eating and watching porn!
Q. My husband has taken 6 weeks off work. Nothing odd about that you may think, after all we all have to have a holiday, don't we? Well, it's his behaviour that's worrying me. He just sits in front of the television eating nachos, corn c...
A. 14 August 2009: You also just don't take six weeks off. Not in the real world. What is he, a teacher?
Eating is comforting.
So what I am thinking, his holiday ain't entirely voluntary. Either he was fired or his company has had to stop work for a period?
... (read in full...)
Why do I feel I need a boyfriend so much?
Q. I don't know the reason why, but i feel like i need a boyfriend, i really want one! People would say i'm desperate, or being peer preshured, but it's not like that, i really want somebody to be able to cuddle and kiss and just be there for me, i ...
A. 11 August 2009: Hormones.
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Am I Crazy, like he says I am, or is it some one elce hes giving it to?
Q. Im not stupid i think i know whats going on, but my husband says im crazy and its all in my head so I would like to ask some one else there opinion. I have been with my husband for 3 years, over the past few months his sex drive has gone from full ...
A. 11 August 2009: Well porn is not sex, so impotency might still be a problem. Check if he gets morning wood.
If he really works such long hours, then stress might be an issue. Performance anxiety could be a reason. What happened the last time?
If he cheatin... (read in full...)
How do girls feel about shy guys?
Q. hi! how do girls feel about shy / quiet guys? just thought id keep this one short and sweet! ...
A. 11 August 2009: from a recent survey 80% of women reported that they prefer to be chased. If you are lucky, that means 20% prefers to chase.
So, my answer would be that girls don't feel much about shy guys, because they are not aware they are out there. trust me... (read in full...)
My wife finally confessed about her affair, do you think we could ever be happy again?
Q. i am married for the last twenty two years to a beautiful woman who i taught was my soulmate for life. for the first fifteen years we had a wonderful marriage and have five beautiful children. seven years ago my wife started a new job and everything ...
A. 11 August 2009: my wife says the reason she did not tell me is that she love me and did not want to hurt me.
Ah. And are you buying this? I got some Enron stock? Intrested?
If she didn't want to hurt you, she shouldn't have cheated. Apparently she didn't mind ... (read in full...)
I lied to my fiancee about why my phone was off all weekend but he's not convinced. What can I do now?
Q. During the weekend i spent time with my ex boyfriend and i had switched of my phone. my fiancee tried calling but could not get through.When he asked why my phone was off i told him i had a lot on my mind and just did not feel like talking to him, ...
A. 11 August 2009: This is dearcupid.org. Not dearcheater.org.
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Want to lose my virginity and the most likely candidate is a married man! Should I go for it?
Q. i grew up believing that virginity is the best gift u can offer to ur husband so up to now im still waiting for that lucky guy to come. but until when should i wait? im already 41 yrs old and still a virgin. there are times i wondered and curious ...
A. 11 August 2009: To be blunt, if you are 41 and still a virgin there is more going on then just believed you should wait until marriage.
Does the wife of the man you consider having sex with deserve to be cheated on?
I get the feeling you got some really mixe... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer slim girls to chubby girls?
Q. i wonder if guys like skinny girls more than chubby or fat ones?like one day it was this guy and he was in the restaurant sitting down then he will look at all the skinny girls and say hi and stuff.but when a fat girl went pass he didnt say ...
A. 10 August 2009: HA!
Luckily girls don't do anything of the sorts and look only at what a guy really is. That is why boybands are all about music and not about looks.
Looks matter no matter how much we like to pretend they don't and if a person's taste r... (read in full...)
How to get over her promicuous past including threesomes and gangbangs?
Q. Hey, I am seeing a girl, I been with her for over three months now. We have a really good relationship, even though its only three months in, we are really good together and spend more time together then either one of us has with former lovers. ...
A. 10 August 2009: Either accept her as the person she is, and this includes her past because it made her who she is, or give up on her.
She is the person she is and so are you. If that isn't compatible then to bad, but it is better for you both to move on.... (read in full...)
Back in the world of dating again, and finding it very confusing!
Q. Ok so I joined an online dating website and the main reasons for this are because I dont have the time to be going out and meeting people due to my job, and I've just moved to a new city where I dont know many people hence I thought using online ...
A. 10 August 2009: People who blow really hot, tend to blow really cold as well.
Frankly, I would be highly suspicious of anyone who after only talking online or through SMS was already talking about a relationship. Call me a old fashioned, but I think you should a... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and worry that man can't be trusted, am I being taken for granted?
Q. Hello, I;ve just stumbled across this site and hope somebody could help me find some clarity. I've been with my partner for just over a year and a half. He seemed like he doted on me in the start and was so absorbed by me that he didnt see...
A. 10 August 2009: Do me a favor, try to re-read your own post and pretend it is some other woman and REALLY read it.
You will read about a guy who is giving credit for NOT oggling women in the first months of courtship. We then learns he is in fact chatting... (read in full...)
Are there risks in marrying a man whose never even kissed anyone else?
Q. Hello I was just wondering if there is any risk in marrying a man who hasn't even kissed or been with another woman sexually? Is there more likelihood for cheating and/or divorce? Thank you =)...
A. 10 August 2009: Is a man who hasn't been a skirt-chaser so far more likely to be a skirt-chaser after marriage then a man who has always been a skirt-chaser?
I guess they are right. Women suck at logic.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is infertile... is there away for us to have a child together?
Q. my botfriend is sterile. hes 24, im 39. weve been together for 4 and a half yrs. how can he go about having a child? he doesnt want me to be artificialed inceminated. is there any way to get his sperm cell count back? i dont know why hes ...
A. 9 August 2009: Who says he is sterile? And what has sexual abuse got to do with it?
Get a doctors opinion.... (read in full...)
Would you consider my boyfriend a paedophile because of the age difference?
Q. My boyfriend is about ten years older than me. The thing is, he and his parents are good friends of my mother and father. I've known him my whole life. Would you consider this a violation of trust? Many of my friends have called him a pedoph...
A. 8 August 2009: Strictly speaking, no. Pedophilia is an attraction to prepubescent children. I doubt you qualify.
That however is not how the term is generally used.
There is a rather big age gap. Not just in number of years but more importantly, in ... (read in full...)
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