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Why can't I make any relationships work, including friendships?
Q. Ok i think i have serious issue. I can not make a relationship work with any one. This includes friends, guys who are interested in me, and even teachers. I was abandond when i was only nine months old and the family that took me in has shown me ...
A. 27 November 2009: Why are you asking this question? The answer is bloody obvious from your own post.
Distrust of other people resulting from abandonment and abuse issues. Time to see a shrink.
You perfectly explain why you do this. You are afraid of being ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with checking my girlfriend's page out on facebook... and don't like what I see
Q. my gf, im obsessed with her, and she has a pic of another guy on facebook she's sayin that he is the hottest guy in the world, and some other guy that she likes is mentioned as well . help me dudes...
A. 27 November 2009: Where is your picture? How is that one rated by her? Is that guy available?
And frankly, how old is she? If you are age (26-29) shouldn't she be a bit beyond "hottest guy in the world"?
Oh and dude, obsessing with a girl is never a good ide... (read in full...)
Why does he care if I have met someone when he was the one that rejected me?
Q. okay so here is my situation..well a couple of months ago i got rejected by a guy that i really liked lets call him Vic..okay so after like a week that he rejected me he would still send me text messages everday asking me about my day and what i am ...
A. 27 November 2009: Well, you probably want to hear that it means he still loves you.
That might be the case.
But lets not discount that humans are often not all that nice.
He dumped you, it wouldn't look good for him if you were the one to then move on firs... (read in full...)
Is he worth staying with in the long run?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend **** and I have been together for almost 2 and a half years. We both have a child (My son is 4 and his daughter is 3) although both children are from previous relationships. He is currently incarcerated and has been since March of ...
A. 26 November 2009: He has a little kid, yet despite that he risks jail. Then the moment he goes out, he goes back to crime and goes in again. So it not like he is even a good criminal. To be arrested that quickly, he must have basically dropped his wallet or ... (read in full...)
What can I do to prove to him that I'm for real this time?
Q. I am 23, me and my boyfriend (26) have been on and off for 5 years, i say on and off as ive dumped him now 4 times....it boils down to me being easy led and people tell me hes to nice hes to quiet bla bla and i was young and felt i was missing out ...
A. 26 November 2009: Don't know, have you? Only he can tell you this.
You would have messed it up with me, but he isn't me. Ask him. ... (read in full...)
He's got a girlfriend but wants to sleep with me!
Q. hey im 17 and there this guy on my college course that i thought like me but it turns out he got a girlfriend, but he keeps asking if i want to sleep with him, i mean i wanted too.. but now i know he got a girlfriend i dont know what to do pls ...
A. 26 November 2009: Why, you have sex with him of course. You should be trilled with the honor that he wants to use you as a sextoy and nothing else. Now go to him and beg forgiveness for delaying him.
BTW, anyone know how to use sarcasm tags on this forums? I can't ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my privacy or give into my friend's threat?
Q. Hello there, I'm 16 years old and have maintained solid friendships with the 5 people in my group for at least a year or two. To keep this short, I have things going on in my life which I feel are best kept to myself as I believe they wouldn'...
A. 26 November 2009: Friends help each other and this isn't entirely optional on the person being helped.
Helping each other, being there is what sets friends apart from people who say "hi" to each other.
You are like the monkey who refuses to be groomed by the g... (read in full...)
I feel like this is a one sided relationship. Is it?
Q. I am friend with a guy who I met at work. We have been hanging out for over a month now, and generally he's fine, apart from his music. He is a big fan of his bass guitar, which isn't a problem to me, but I dislike the songs he plays the bass tunes ...
A. 26 November 2009: Sounds like you trying to change him. Go and find a single woman for whom this has ever worked.... (read in full...)
What do I do about my boyfriend's drinking problem?
Q. My bf wants me to spend Christmas with him and his family, and although I really want to share that occasion with him, at the same time I want to be with my family. The decision wouldnt be so hard if it wasnt for my bfs drinking problem. I am sick ...
A. 26 November 2009: BF who is an abusive alcoholic.
I wouldn't spend any time with him, period.
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No one is attractive to me...
Q. i'm 20 years old and in all these 20 years i haven't found a single person whom i would like, either on physical level or personality level... i mean, i can appreciate someone's looks, be it a girl or a guy. i usually find many people visually ...
A. 26 November 2009: Do you have trouble relating to people?
It almost sounds like you have a mild form of autism, and no that does not mean you are a retard. Many "nerds" are functional autistics, if that is the right English term for it.
When you are with a perso... (read in full...)
He's involved, wants nothing to do with love but is offering sex
Q. Hi, and wow I cannot believe I'm asking the internet for advice but here it goes: A few days ago [maybe even a week] I met this fantastic guy. Thing is, he is a bit older than I am and already has a girl friend. Here are the problems with the...
A. 26 November 2009: He seems like a bad person, and yet you are still considering it.
Take a sharp knife from the kitchen, lay your hand on the table and position the knife point down above your hand. Now ram it down as hard as possible impaling your hand.
Can't? ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be doing that on a daily basis, or am I just weird?
Q. Hi everybody. I'm 16 this year and found myself hooked onto gay porn. I watch other kinds of porn as well but I seem to like gay more the most. Not lesbian porn though I find that sort of gross (no offence to people who like them, it's a personal ...
A. 25 November 2009: Lots of men like lesbian porn (well two women pretending to be lesbians anyway) so why shouldn't girls like two men pretending to be gay?
As long as it doesn't control your life, then there is no harm. ... (read in full...)
6'3" 200 lbs, 21 and still a virgin!
Q. Hi, I'm 21 almost 22 and haven't really started dating yet,and I'm still a virgin. The problem is I never really seem to be where the girls are. I'm not shy or anything, and I'm not bad looking(6'3, 200lb), I just never seem to be able to meet new ...
A. 25 November 2009: Who cares about your height, weight or age? Is that all you are, your body?
Why don't you talk about WHO you are? What are your hobbies, what is it you want to be etc etc.
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How do I deal with a self absorbed friend and how can I give her witty comebacks?
Q. I have a good freind (friend only) who I get along with, we get along well mostly. She is very self absorbed, as she has a few health issues and works only 2 and a half days a week, she has in past years been a workaholic.. she has had an abusive ...
A. 25 November 2009: You can't make yourself witty. We all come up with the perfect comeback, but only those of us who do it DURING the conversation and not an hour later, can be witty. You are who you are.
And the same goes for her. And maybe the reason you two get ... (read in full...)
For the men out there: Why would my husband be looking at naked pictures of women but not masturbating?
Q. Hi...I need a guy's point of view on this...and obviously if a lady would like to add, then all help would be appreciated. It's to do with porn! (like thousands of other questions on here!!) why does it seem to be such a problem? My h...
A. 25 November 2009: Why does your cat look out at the window at pigeons?
Why do we look at cooking shows?
Why do we look at fast cars we can't afford?
It is just looking. And part of it is as simple as "you are not supposed to" which makes it... I wouldn't s... (read in full...)
What are people's opinions on hen parties and stag do's and strippers?
Q. Hey, I'm 20 years old and been with my boyfriend now for nearly 3 years. Our relationship has been on the rocks a little over the past few months and were not as close as we used to be. I have been invited to go on a hen party at the weekend whic...
A. 25 November 2009: Does he apply the same rule for himself?
There are a LOT of posts about women uncomfortable with their male partner looking at porn. Even those who accept porn draw a line between a 2D image and say a chat room or strippers.
He has certain idea... (read in full...)
He dared me to slap him and now he is holding a grudge against me!
Q. So I met this guy. We chilled and everything. Everything went good until near the end where he had to leave. I was joking around by pretending to slap him. He said go ahead slap me I dare you to. I slapped him, but not to hard. Now he is kind of ...
A. 25 November 2009: Early warning. If he react like this now, how will he react in the future? This is who he is, someone who responds by holding a grudge to something trivial.
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He's been hurt from past relationships..how do I get him to open up and like me?
Q. I am interested in a guy who likes me too. However, our problem is that he is too hung up on past issues. Apparently both of his previous girlfriends cheated on him. I want him to take a chance on me, I want to get to know him. While he is ...
A. 25 November 2009: Fix him?
That usually doesn't end well.
You might want to ask yourself, who is he really. Did those girls (and have you got some evidence this really happened) make him this way or is he like this always?
I just have seen to many cases where... (read in full...)
Why aren't you girls sexually protecting yourselves?
Q. This isn't directed to any asker in particular, but I am becoming increasingly concerned, and unfortantely, though I try to withold judgment, I do experience anger, in both my personal life and with askers on the site, who are both aware of ...
A. 25 November 2009: Well, you are a girl, so why aren't girls?
Probably because most girls are not all that intelligent.
Teenage boys know no fear and they dive into pools of water from bridges and die.
Teenage girls know no fear and they use no condoms and ... (read in full...)
Is that considered sex? Am I still a virgin?
Q. if a guy stuck his penis all the way in my vagina but he just stayed there and didn't move. like there were no thrusting or humping motions, is that considered sex? or sexual intercourse? am i still a virgin?...
A. 25 November 2009: What exactly would you consider it takes to no longer be a virgin?... (read in full...)
Three guys like me so who do I choose?
Q. Ok, so here's my problem. For most of my life, i've dreamed and prayed to find someone who had feelings for me, and hadn't found anyone. Once I turned 17, I felt hopeless, because in my family, everyone falls in love/marries very young (My parents ...
A. 25 November 2009: The one you like.
And it seems you don't like any of them. Seems to me your motivation for considering any of them is "I must have a bf, who cares if I love him or not, I must have someone".
Is that what you want?... (read in full...)
Should I give my virginity to my best friend?
Q. basic question is whether or not i should give my virginity to my best friend? hes liked me a lot in the past, and i have liked him at points, but i am the non-commital one. he wants a relationship and i dont. hes never asked me to give it ...
A. 24 November 2009: If you thought it was trivial to have sex with someone the first time, you would have done so by now and you wouldn't be posting such a LONG post about it.
You say you might do it while drunk, but you haven't.
Somehow I think it means a lot m... (read in full...)
I'm scared to go against Indian society and marry a white man!
Q. hi, im 25 yrs old indian female. i was in a livin relation with a white man who is 17 years older than me for about 8 months and we didnt have any fights or arguments during that period of time. this was in USA and after completion of my studies i ...
A. 24 November 2009: Is your mother marrying him? No?
Your father is okay with it? Then what part of Indian society are you worried about? In your example 50% agree.
I would be more worried about the fact that he is so much older and can't even afford his own c... (read in full...)
Is it possible for someone to have accessed porn because my router has no password? Or is my boyfriend lying to me?
Q. Hi there, I am looking for a little bit of advise. I have a very strong view on porn n I total hate it. Personal reasons of course. Do not want to offend anyone who enjoys it. Anyway, my boyfriend of 4 years knows my view on this but I went for a...
A. 24 November 2009: Yes, it possible if you have a wireless router with no password that someone else uses your CONNECTION. Your CONNECTION. NOT your BROWSER.
Think of it like this, if I hookup to your cable-tv, I can watch your cable subscription, but would not chan... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has a 20 year history of being a serial cheater. Will marriage change him?
Q. Boyfriend has 20 year history of serial cheater. Will marriage change him? Will he change his cheating ways if we get married? Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On ave...
A. 24 November 2009: Hehe, never thought anyone would ask the typical female mistake so clearly.
Will marriage change him, the way I want him to change.
No.... (read in full...)
I'm losing my looks!
Q. Hey. I'm 17, and basically I think my looks are fading, and fast. I know everyone is gonna think im crazy, but seriously I have noticed a big change. I never thought I was amazingly stunning, but I didnt think I was bad either. I got noticed by b...
A. 24 November 2009: Yeah... everyone knows that for a woman of 17, the only way is down.
Are you loosing your looks or your mind?
Just finished responding to another post about a woman asking why men seem so much more secure about their looks.
Are you looking... (read in full...)
What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 24 November 2009: Are they the same guy? Then they aren't one night stands.
And since you need to be drunk to do them, you can hardly consider them good yourselves?
It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, what you thinks matter. It is your life. Is this wh... (read in full...)
Why are men generally more secure in themselves than most women?
Q. Why are men generally more secure in themselves than most women? I mean, I myself am a very insecure female, especially regarding appearance. I always have a bit of an internal freak out when I'm watching TV with my boyfriend and a naked, big bre...
A. 24 November 2009: Because we are great?
And men aren't insecure? Then what about the recent post asking what is better, circumcised or not? The near daily post about whether X" is enough?
But I think you give the answer yourself: " that he can't think he'd ever ... (read in full...)
What happens during an orgasm?
Q. [Moderator note: Age posted in incorrect.] my sister asked me what happens when you have an orgasm. and i have no idea because i havent. *sarah said that her boyfriend *chris have done alot of foreplay. he asked her if she was getting ready to...
A. 24 November 2009: You don't do anything during an orgasm. It is like sneezing or having the hiccups, your body does it all on its own and you are along for the ride.
If you mean, what does you body do, then it varies per person and per orgasm.
And it sounds... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has genital warts, but I don't have them. Does that mean she cheated?
Q. my girlfriend of a year got pregnant over 7 months ago and noticed some warts on her women area and didnt take much notice now there a group of them. now she claims shes as not slep with no 1 else. and shes not cheated. the doctor as called them ...
A. 24 November 2009: Check with a doctor to make sure you haven't been infected no matter what else.... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend maintain an erection?
Q. Whenever my fiance and I have sex, I notice that, on the rare occasion he "misses" and when I reach to put it back in, that he's a bit soft. I asked him why, and he has no clue. It's been like that and he says he does notice it. Is this norm...
A. 24 November 2009: How long does the sex last? The body has to work hard to remain an erection and it isn't really designed to last long. What is the point after all (female orgasm is not needed as far as nature is concerned).
Has his health changed as the other po... (read in full...)
Can guys be scared too? Was this the case with this guy I met?
Q. I met this guy over the weekend, we go out with some friends and at the end of the night we hit it off really good, hung out saturday we laid around watched tv just spent time together, went out saturday night and it just seemed to good to be true, ...
A. 24 November 2009: Sure guys can be scared.
But what you got to understand that what he said might also be the simple truth.
Women have a tendency to come up with loads of explanations for a guys behavior, even when the guy tells them the reason in plain English... (read in full...)
Is he looking for a family or mother?
Q. Thanks for all the help. Ok so I have been dating this fellow for a year. As of three months ago he moved into my house with my son and I. I do think it's a bit fast however he lives a hour away and was here evey-night anyhow.. Most of his st...
A. 23 November 2009: What the...
Isn't the fact that he drinks half a bottle of vodka, of any kind enough of a hint?
Ah well, you are the one who likes him, so perhaps you like the way he is.
perhaps I should reverse your question. Are you looking for a husban... (read in full...)
Does no sex mean no call???
Q. Hi.. this past weekend I went on my date that I met online. He was very nice, I was a little nervous.. he was very confident (he's used to dating) he said he enjoyed my company... we met for coffee, we talked, and joked. He is a straight shooter... ...
A. 23 November 2009: Come on, surely you are old enough that boys, well some boys, have only one thing on their mind and will say anything they think will help them get it?
Well, here is a little secret... this never changes. Get used to it.
This guy wanted sex, ... (read in full...)
For the men out there: Does seeing images of half naked men make you feel insecure? How does it affect your self-esteem?
Q. For the guys only: A lot of women write on this site that thier significant other views porn and it makes them feel insecure as the porn stars are well endowed with fake boobs. In addition, the women write they are inundated by the media with i...
A. 23 November 2009: We are men, we look in the mirror and see perfection.
Super-models are thin and got small breasts, yet clearly the media shows women have to have big breasts... like all the a-cup super models.
What media are you talking about when it comes to... (read in full...)
Do men feel the same way about dating as women do?
Q. I have enjoyed reading the posts on this site. I am wondering in the dating world, do men or women have an easier time finding a mate? I am curious what men and women think on this topic? Personally, I have always found it hard to meet a man, I f...
A. 23 November 2009: More or less, it still is different. The man has to ask, and it is the woman who then gives an answer. As long as this remains true, then dating will of course be different because it starts different.... (read in full...)
Men don't turn me on, but they don't turn me off either. What does that mean?
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and I'm not really sure about my sexual preference right now. I've always been really attracted to girls but I've also never been GROSSED OUT by guys. I've dated a few girls and I'm still extremely attracted to girls, but whil...
A. 23 November 2009: Only guys afraid of their sexuality claim to be repulsed by men. They don't think it through because how then do they look in the mirror long enough to shave?
A straight man is indifferent to men. A straight woman is indifferent to women. And in ... (read in full...)
How does a woman know when she's had an orgasm?
Q. How does a female know she has had an orgasm? i know that sounds stupid. but my boyfriend is always telling me that i should just let go and orgasm already or are you going to orgasm soon and i dont really know what it is like i dont know how i ...
A. 23 November 2009: O_o it feels really really good?
The word "explosive" is often used.
More or less, if you have one, you know it. It is like being hit by a bus, hard to describe but when it happens, you know it.... (read in full...)
The shy guy or the flirty guy?
Q. I have a boyfriend, we went out in march, for about 2 months, we didnt go anywhere. we barely even talked.. that didnt work out so i ended it. a few weeks ago i realize i still have feelings for him. and he had feelings for me, and he asked me out. ...
A. 23 November 2009: What feelings have you got? We all like to feel special and some people, like the flirty guy, are really good at making us feel special.
But is that love? I don't think so. What do you think? Are you feelings for the flirty guy "I love him and ... (read in full...)
How often per week should a couple have sex?
Q. Ok since this has been a reoccuring theme on this site of late, I would like to settle once and for all, how often per week should a couple have sex. My theory is: 3 times combined with 3 times asking how her day was and back/foot rub. And one day...
A. 23 November 2009: Should?
Wrong attitude I think.
And NEVER EVER do "I did ABC X times therefor you got to do DEF Y times" to a woman. Or to a man for that matter.
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I've been hunting for a boyfriend for years, why haven't I found one?
Q. I always feel lonely perhaps it's because I've never had a boyfriend or even a date. I am too embarrassed to divulge this information to my friends but since we all met in college and are very close they've definitely noticed I've never been on one ...
A. 22 November 2009: Eh... you are afraid alone at night? Just how old are you anyway?
A bf is NOT there to check there aren't any monsters under the bed.
You had your share of meaningless hookups but no dates? How does that work? What is a hookup in your eyes?
... (read in full...)
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