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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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My work colleague has left his wife for me. Should I get involved?
Q. I have been working at my work place for 11 months. It became obvious 6 months ago that one of my married work colleagues had developed feelings for me. He constantly hung around my office area during his lunch. I steadfastly ignored him. Even some ...
A. 14 February 2010: Vasectomy. Contraception is not a one way street. And nobody put a gun against his head and forced him to fuck her without a condom, or indeed have sex with her at all.
So he wasn't all that determined to get out was he?
And he is so moral, tha... (read in full...)
I want to have his baby but he doesn't love me!
Q. im 24 and pregnant. Ive been in love wit the same man since i was 18 and he def isnt in love wit me. He has another gf who ive seen he loves yet we still sleep together ive not told him yet. We have a bad past ive previously told his current gf we ...
A. 27 December 2009: Sometimes I think we should lock women up from birth to stop them seeing any romantic movie, read any romance novel until they are of a sensible age. 60+ or something.
Love should never be used as an excuse for your messed up live.
Wheneve... (read in full...)
I caught my girlfriend in a couple lies. What do you think?
Q. hey guys just found out that my girlfriend, who has previously cheated, was at a guys place few months ago just them two and she smoked weed with him for the first time but lead me to believe she has never done it. she also admitted to having b...
A. 27 December 2009: Cheaters rarely change with the people they cheated on.
After all, they got away with it once.
She might be telling the truth, but you know that the truth to her is a flexible thing.... (read in full...)
I think I've desensetized my penis due to masturbating, if I stop this will it get better? How can I stop?
Q. Hi there. Im 20 years old and i have been masturbating since i was about 12-13, and problaby 2 a day since i was 15. Now when i was about 17 i started having sex and ever since that time i have had problems ejaculating. Recently this problem has ...
A. 27 December 2009: Eh... well you just stop?
Stop looking at sexy imagery and there is always the old run around the park method.... (read in full...)
My work colleague has left his wife for me. Should I get involved?
Q. I have been working at my work place for 11 months. It became obvious 6 months ago that one of my married work colleagues had developed feelings for me. He constantly hung around my office area during his lunch. I steadfastly ignored him. Even some ...
A. 27 December 2009: Well, if you get involved, you know what you are getting don't you?
Someone who leaves his wive and kids for a potential at the office.
Do you know why there are no great women scientists? Because women can't make connections. Madam Curie neve... (read in full...)
Should ex-wife tell "mistress" husband wants wife back?
Q. My husband left me for another woman back in 1991 and subsequently married the mistress. Afer 10 years of being divorced from each other, we reconnected and have been seeing each other since 2004. He moved from another state to be closer to me, but ...
A. 26 December 2009: Who destroyed your marriage? Not your husband who cheated on you and left you for another woman.
Denial, it must be a really nice state, since so many people choose to live in it.... (read in full...)
How do I forgive the person who raped me when I was a child?
Q. For years a family member molested me from the age of 4 till I was 12. When I was 9 he started to rape me, I use to be very sore for days and I bled alot and I got infections and couldn't walk properly. I never told anyone as he always threatened ...
A. 26 December 2009: Where does it say god wants to forgive everything?... (read in full...)
Can't orgasm without vibrator!
Q. Heya, I'm a 20 year old woman. When I was about 15- 16 years old, I realised I could not achieve orgasm via touching. At that time, I spent loads of time trying to use my fingers, but nothing would ever happen. So I started using vibrators. They ...
A. 24 December 2009: You might want to go to a sexshop, there are other types of vibrators. One model "butterfly" is a small vibrating toy that you strap on and then sits in place. Vibrations without it getting in the way.
There are also penis rings with an attachme... (read in full...)
I'm scared of my boyfriend at times but afraid to end things!
Q. My boyfriend complains about everything I do. He goes through my cell phone, follows me to the grocery store, check to see if I am at work, wants sex everyday, hates my best friend(female), goes through my mail, tells me how to dress, and I am ...
A. 24 December 2009: You are afraid to be without a man in your life. And the dark reason for that is because you are afraid to be responsible for yourself.
Right now, you can blame others for your unhappiness. Your ex, your current bf. Anyone, but yourself... (read in full...)
HELP...Wife lied about her past
Q. I need some advise especially if you've gone through this and can help. My wife of 8 years (we've been together for 12), has revealed that she lied about her sexual past. I actually caught her talking to an x on a social networking site ...
A. 24 December 2009: As I said, trust is a difficult thing to keep once it has been broken.
The incident with the computer repair, apparently you now believe that she was using it be somewhere else... why?
If she was a with a girlfriend, why would she need to hide... (read in full...)
As a friend I only want to help him, so what could his problem with sex be?
Q. Hi Everyone, I have a bunch of friends and we hang out a lot together. Recently I got closer and closer to a guy in this bunch and one day when we were drunk we slipped away from our friends and made out. We talked about it the next day and...
A. 22 December 2009: Performance problems could very well be the issue. Premature ejaculation, size, technique.
If he found you unattractive he wouldn't bother.
And FWB isn't supposed to involve care. Be careful where you head with this.
... (read in full...)
My best friend had revealed he's in love with me, but I don't feel the same!!
Q. Hi All, One of my best friends has revealed he has stronger feelings for me than as friends, but I don't feel the same... Can we stay friends? Please read it all, as there are details that change circumstances in what i've written. Thanks!...
A. 22 December 2009: Whoa. A LOT of issues going on here.
First off, sleeping with a random guy just to give your ego a boost is not going to end well.
Second, you call him your best friend, after knowing him for 2 months, during which he called you a slut...
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Am I going to have to kiss him after he goes down on me?
Q. i want to get eaten out. but idk how it feels. or even if i should let my boyfriend do it. it doesn't bother me that he is licking and sucking my vagina. but im going to have to kiss him after. ....
A. 22 December 2009: Ah... this is actually pretty common especially with the genders switched around. How many guys kiss the girl after she has given oral and hasn't cleaned up by gargling with bleach? Be honest.
Other way around, people seem to expect women to be le... (read in full...)
He has a g/f already but is talking to me
Q. I like this guy and I know that he likes me too, but he has a girlfriend already! He tells me that Im sweet,cute, and smart;but talking like this makes me feel bad for his girlfriend. What should I do?...
A. 22 December 2009: If he leaves her for you, you just landed a guy who flirts with other girls while stringing a girlfriend along.
It would be like stealing a car, that the owner has just send to the garage for repairs.
Who exactly would want to steal a cheater?... (read in full...)
Young girl with a big problem...
Q. I seriously need help. And I have absolutley nobody to talk to so if u could, tell me ur advice. I turned 18 and moved a state away from my whole family to be with a 34 year old man. Now, don't get me wrong, I love him with all of my heart. And I ...
A. 22 December 2009: Whenever a post contains a sentence that uses love as an excuse, you know that it ain't going to end well.
If you need to use an excuse to stay with someone, then it ain't right and if that excuse is love... then it is time to run.
You giv... (read in full...)
HELP...Wife lied about her past
Q. I need some advise especially if you've gone through this and can help. My wife of 8 years (we've been together for 12), has revealed that she lied about her sexual past. I actually caught her talking to an x on a social networking site ...
A. 22 December 2009: Part of it is trust and it being broken.
Trust is something very fragile on which we build everything. Just think about it, if you didn't trust ALL humans, would you dare to go out where just anyone can stab you on the street? Cross a street w... (read in full...)
Yaz and full protection?
Q. Hello, I have been on the birth control Yaz since July of 2009. I was wondering how long it takes to have full protection, is it one month after you begin taking the pills. I had a little mishap on Saturday night and had unprotected sex, I ...
A. 22 December 2009: Since when does a pill give full protection? Or did they eradicate STD's while I wasn't looking?... (read in full...)
Tell me the psychology behind this type of behavior man?
Q. Hey! I met a guy about 11 months ago and from day 1 he came on very strong, telling me only after 2 weeks he felt love for me, he smothered me and completely lusted over me, this completely freaked me out understandably so i regected his effections ...
A. 21 December 2009: It sounds like BS.
As for his motivations, revenge? Nah... It sounds a bit like how abusers work, but without the abuse. Abusers go in a pattern, very nice and friendly then the beating then very nice and friendly again to make up for it and then... (read in full...)
Can you please tell me why I feel guilty?
Q. hi,ive been talking to this guy for a while, he knows that i love him. i text him yesterday to tell him that the guy next door clean the snow off my car yesterday. but he never replied to my text. today i bought the guy a thank you card, for his ...
A. 21 December 2009: I think your over think your life.
Unless you left things out, at no point does the guy you message and text and whatever actually answer?
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My boyfriend frequents dating websites, how do I learn to accept this and not let it bother me?
Q. well.been with my bf for more than a year. i will try keeping it short. he goes on dating website and send request to women. and i dnt know how far it goes with them but i check his phone and i have his password as well which he does not know.I also ...
A. 21 December 2009: You want to be stronger?
Then whenever you use "I love him so much" stab yourself with a fork.
Women use this as an excuse to not take charge of their own life. To just sit back and let things happen because "I love him so much" excuses be... (read in full...)
I am willing to give my ex time because I care - is this a huge mistake?
Q. my ex and i were together for over 3 years and broke up over a year ago but noone did anything so wrong..no cheating or anything..just arguments over silly things i contacted him a year later leaving a v-mail and he called me back a few minutes la...
A. 21 December 2009: He ain't into you as much as you are into him. He is considering... no he isn't.
You are a girl who is showing him affection and the possibility of sex. That is hard to say no to, a normal reaction would to be flattered and maybe even consider... (read in full...)
How can guys think its ok to look at porn when they know it bothers their partner?
Q. Just out of curiosity, how can guys think it's alright to lie about porn and continue to look at it when it really bothers their partner? I've never had problems with this (and am not currently), and honestly I don't have problems with porn in ...
A. 21 December 2009: Because they know their partner rarely will actually do anything about it.
Occasionally, between all the "am I pregnant" posts you get the "He loves me, tells me so, respects me, never cheats, has a steady job, wants to settle down, how do I dum... (read in full...)
The majority of questions on here are so trivial
Q. I've been frequenting the site for quite a while now, and although I believe people can gain insightful advice and in its concept its great I've noticed of late how trivial the majority of questions are. This isn't a post to have ago at certain ...
A. 21 December 2009: The "can I be pregnant when he dumped a ton of cum inside of me on the day I ovulated" posts get a bit old. But it is an issue to the poster.
What I have noticed is that the site might be getting to big for its own good. There are now so many que... (read in full...)
Why the reason for women marrying at a younger age?
Q. in our society, when there is age difference between husband and wife, i notice 99% time husband is older. Statistics also say that women generally get married at younger age than men throughout the world. what do you think the reason for that?...
A. 21 December 2009: Because women are judged on their looks and men on their financial success.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend worried about my reputation?
Q. what does it mean when your bf says he doesnt want u hanging out with certain people. mind u all of u grew up together and when i was wayyy younger i kissed one of them thats it. i am a virgin. does this mean he doesnt trust me ? worried about my ...
A. 21 December 2009: What rep? Of being a virgin?
Are you from a strongly religious background (or is he) that makes a kiss into something to be ashamed off?
I think it means he is either a control freak or has problems trusting. After all, you did nothing wrong an... (read in full...)
Should I move on if my ex slept with someone else?
Q. My ex and I broke up about two weeks ago after 2 years together. I think we both knew it was coming because he was increasingly distant and trying to be more independent (by blowing me off) and I was increasingly worrying and picking silly fights ...
A. 21 December 2009: If you are ready to move on as you say, then why are you posting this question.
Move on, by moving on. Not by looking back.... (read in full...)
Can someone stay 30 minutes before he cum during sex?
Q. dear cupid, i want to ask this question because am not comfortable with it. i had phone sex with my girl friend who i met on the internet. we shared pictures and known each other well but we haven't see face to face. she's not a virgin and also am ...
A. 21 December 2009: If you follow this site, you will encounter posts where the female complains the guy takes to long. One guy even lasted over an hour. The typical female reaction to such long penetration is that they would get bored and sore.
I myself found th... (read in full...)
He tells me that he wants to work it out with his new girlfriend...but he fantasizes about me?
Q. Hi Everyone, My ex boyfriend is a very confused man. Well we have been broken up for 8 months now and honestly our relationship was great. I do think he got scared of how fast things were moving. It was a very passionate relationship. Since we broke...
A. 20 December 2009: He cares about you... that is why he is with another woman and then contacts you and messes with your heart.
Do yourself a favor. Move on.
He has dumped you for his ex and now he is talking yet again to you behind her back.
Take the hint, ... (read in full...)
Girls: after you have 'come', how long do you need to wait before you can handle more?
Q. Girls, after you have come, say from oral, how long do each of you need to wait on account of sensitivity before you can handle more?...
A. 20 December 2009: That depends on the woman, some can(want) keep right on going, some can have multiple orgasms and some become so sensitive that any stimulation hurts instead.
Ask the girl in question.... (read in full...)
Did I completely blow it with him?
Q. Hi everyone. My last day of college was this past tuesday. I graduated with my BA, complete siked I decided to go out for drinks with my friends. Well I didn't eat at all and i got really drunk. There was this guy there that i have had a crush on ...
A. 20 December 2009: Probably, although the holidays might have gotten in the way.
The logical thing to do would have been to call you for a date on the weekend.
On the other hand, the 3 day rule is not exactly set in stone and as said, the holidays might u... (read in full...)
My son has been deployed and I worry about what his girl will do while he is gone
Q. My son just turned 20 yrs old and has joined the army, while he was in high school he dated a girl called Jess, They dated for 2 years and during their senior year she cheated on him and they broke up. My son was heart broken from the break up and ...
A. 20 December 2009: You can't, if you worry and tell him then you run the risk of being an overbearing mother.
Kids make their own mistakes, the only thing you can do is patch them up afterwards.
He probably sees marrying her as a way of settling her down. To sto... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by a married man. How do I cope?
Q. I am married with 2 children and recently had an affair with married man who also has two children. It did not last long but the emotional impact ran very deep. I stupidly let myself get pregnant and everything blew up from there. Our spouses both ...
A. 20 December 2009: Ehm, the individual who you were a year ago is the individual that cheated on her husband, risked her family to have an affair with a married man while not using protection.
Is that really the goal you should be aiming for?
You say you want to ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to marry a fat girl...
Q. i have been with the same guy for 4 years. he took everything from me. we are like night and day. he tells me he loves me but when we get into fights he calls me fat and tells me he will not have a fat wife. i am about 125 pounds and a little over 5 ...
A. 20 December 2009: Why can't people just use KG. Because I get the figure of 56 kg, for a 1.52 meter girl. That suggests to me a roundish figure. Or not, no idea.
The point is, he apparently sees nothing wrong with dating a fat girl, nothing wrong with fucking ... (read in full...)
Did the last 12 months mean nothing to him?
Q. any suggestions or comments would be grateful please so i can find closure... i met someone 3 months ago, all has been great, i do have children and the person i was dating they hadnt of met my children yet we have just been enjoying the dating and ...
A. 19 December 2009: What 12 months if you met him 3 months ago.
And yeah, people can do this. Either he has a reason or it didn't mean as much to him as it did to you.
Since you date for 3/12 months and he hadn't met your kids, it can't have been to involved.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is becoming abusive...please some constructive advice...?
Q. Hello! I came to tis website beause i really dont know what to do anymore. Im 18, my boyfriends 19.My boyfriend of a year and 3 months was such a great guy, he never cheated on me,never cheats, never flirts with other girls,he treats me like his...
A. 19 December 2009: He hasn't punched me hard on the stomach, but he has tried to...
Oh that is alright then, wife beating is harmless as long as you dodge most of the blows... WTF?
Wife beaters are ALWAYS nice guys in between the beatings. Why do you think they g... (read in full...)
He has a fecal fetish!
Q. I need help.. ive been dating this guy who is 28 for about 3mos now, I am a couple years older the problem is he is constantly talking and obsessed with feces and wants to be humilated by this his mis happenings. The main talk is this situation. He ...
A. 19 December 2009: And? It wouldn't be my cup of tea, and it may not be yours, but you are the one who has to life with it or do without him.
So, is it something you can accept or not? Are you going to hate every minute being with him because of it, or is it just ... (read in full...)
Do men prefer fake over real breasts?
Q. Are fake breasts better than natural, small ones? I mean, I know this has been asked before. But it seems like they are. I've asked many guys and they say "Hey, if it improves her beauty, then it's all good!". And I read this article: http://...
A. 19 December 2009: So. If you get your tits enlarged, what then? You will get attention? Nope. Your tits will. You call other women skanks, so that is what you want to be?
If men want big tits, then why do people google for Keira Nightly. Why bother for her to make ... (read in full...)
I am thinking of giving my b/f a self portrait for Christmas
Q. hi guys this is a questin about my bf's xmas present. im a very shy person but i want to give my boyfriend a personal gift and i was going to draw a picture of myself in underwear in a type of silouhette style. the problem is i am scared he won't ...
A. 18 December 2009: http://www.driftwood-dreams.co.uk/Romantic-Gifts/child's-silhouette.jpg
Is this the style you mean?
If so, how can you see the difference between underwear and nude?
But on the other hand, such a style would be safe in case the relationship... (read in full...)
She did me wrong and I broke it off, but why isnt she begging for me to come back?
Q. So, my ex has done me wrong--undeniably. I broke it off. She cried and still wanted to be friends. I said no. She got angry. It's been 4 days. Why hasn't she called me back begging? I don't really (only kind of) want to talk to her, but it sure...
A. 18 December 2009: Maybe because she realized you are a petty guy not worthy of her time?
Do you realize how pathetic you sound?... (read in full...)
Do boys ever mature?
Q. how do i feel better? i feel guys only wanna date me to prove a point to their friends im 19 nd a virgin. my very first bf broke up with me cuz he said the relationship got boring. then he lied about sleeping with me. then i met another guy who i ...
A. 18 December 2009: [Looks at the small electric remote controlled helicopter that is charging up]
No.
But serious now. Some boys never grow up in the way that you mean and you are finding out who they are the hard way.
You do know the saying "a girl has to ki... (read in full...)
Three years on I haven't met his kids, aged 11 to 17, because he doesn't want to unsettle them
Q. I have been in a relationship for three years,my boyfriend has four children and was seperated from his wife for 18 months before we got together,they were divorced two years ago. I can truly say that he is the love of my life and is everythi...
A. 18 December 2009: Where do you stay when his kids are over at his house? Is that the house you bought?
And why is it okay for him to be with your kid but not the other way around.
What is he hiding and from who? Something very fishy going on here.
Unlike... (read in full...)
Dumped before the baby was born, I found a new guy but now the ex wants back in!
Q. I was seeing this guy awhile back, we both weren't ready for a relationship and very immature. After that broke off I found a new guy and ended up falling in love with him. We ended up having a baby on December 4th [ yes just 2 weeks ago ]. But that ...
A. 18 December 2009: and this girls is why they invented contraceptives. So you can clean up the mess that is your social life WITHOUT a baby to make it even more complex.
I can't even keep track of what guy is the one your in love with. Can't you number them?... (read in full...)
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