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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Dumped before the baby was born, I found a new guy but now the ex wants back in!
Q. I was seeing this guy awhile back, we both weren't ready for a relationship and very immature. After that broke off I found a new guy and ended up falling in love with him. We ended up having a baby on December 4th [ yes just 2 weeks ago ]. But that ...
A. 18 December 2009: and this girls is why they invented contraceptives. So you can clean up the mess that is your social life WITHOUT a baby to make it even more complex.
I can't even keep track of what guy is the one your in love with. Can't you number them?... (read in full...)
How would married men handle the consequences if you mislead your other woman, who then becomes vengeful and discloses the affair to your family?
Q. I would like to address this email to men's point of view who somehow cheated on their wife both online affairs and in real situation. Men cheat because there are women who are wiling to cheat with them, these are facts. Most likely women too...
A. 18 December 2009: Doesn't happen. Women who allow themselves to be used don't suddenly change. That only happens in the movies.
Just check, lots of famous men have affairs and the women rarely speak out. Doormats don't stand up for themselves.... (read in full...)
Slept with 2 brothers, now what do I do if I see them?
Q. I met a man this summer and i fell for him really quickly, we had sex after a few dates and then i found out he was seeing someone. I carried on chasing him and slept with him a few more times until he stopped calling. I recently bumped into his...
A. 18 December 2009: So, you fall for one guy, then have sex with his brother because...
Don't you think it is a little bit to late to worry about how they think of you?
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Fiance' fooled me into thinking the gift was his idea and I found out!
Q. Look what I found out.... My Fiance brought me a gift for my birthday last July. It was really cute. It was a Yellow Rose Plant with a Birthday Bear and a Perfume. I loved it. It was a little weird for me thought that he asked me earlier that ...
A. 17 December 2009: Ooh, the update you made is really nasty.
But the answer is clear, he has shown exactly what kind of guy he is. A scam artist who steals and lies when it comes to emotions.
I would run very fast indeed. This is the kinda stuff that belongs in ... (read in full...)
Is love just reciprocated obsession?
Q. How can you know if what you're feeling is love.... or something else, such as obsession? When you compare the two states, the only real difference seems to be perspective. Is love really just reciprocated obsession?...
A. 17 December 2009: Nope. Although a lot of people get them mixed up.... (read in full...)
My b/f expects me to pay 50% of his mortgage with no guanantees for me
Q. I am just new to living with my boyfriend in a house that he owns. Recently while discussing contributions towards household expenses he told me that he expects me to pay half his mortgage and that he is not interested in putting me on the title. He ...
A. 17 December 2009: Difficult one, but really one of those things you should have discussed BEFORE moving in.
But if you lived on your own before, then you are now saving those housing costs aren't you? So can't this simply be seen as paying rent?
On the other ... (read in full...)
What did he mean when I asked him about trust and love?
Q. I asked my boyfriend this question (If u closed your eyes and never opened them again could u trust the man/woman u love to lead u?) He replied: Could I? I'm confused please help me understand what he ment. ...
A. 17 December 2009: Then tell him.... (read in full...)
We are FWB until we are drunk, then we love each other madly!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for quite a while now and have been friends with benefits with no emotional attatchments involved...but why is it that when either he or i are drunk we spill out our real emotions? Meaning that we both like each other a ...
A. 17 December 2009: If there are not emotional attachments and you wrote this sober, then why did you write this? Why do you care if there are no emotions?... (read in full...)
He is my first boyfriend but he doesn't make my heart race
Q. So I've met this guy, and he is my offical first boyfriend. I want to make myself believe that I love him, but whenever I'm with him, my heart just doesn't seem to race. I guess he is just too perfect, I want more drama into my love life. He always ...
A. 17 December 2009: Just remember this when you are dating your next guy who cheats on you, never calls, and knocks your sister up. Drama is easy.
But you are probably right, this guy is not the one. Just don't bitch when "the one" turns out to be a real asshole.... (read in full...)
When I try to involve him in the plans for our wedding he gets mad and says whatever you want!
Q. Im 27 i have been with my fiancee for almost 9 yrs. we are engaged to be married in april of 2010. i am a stay at home mom he works. but i just cant get him really interested In our wedding plans. i am doing it alone and its to much on me i have our ...
A. 17 December 2009: It depends, how do you talk to him about it?
I can see both a guy a here with a problem OR a woman who doesn't know how to deal with men.
Men are problem solvers. We don't discuss things, we do things. So don't ask "what kind of napkins do yo... (read in full...)
G/f wants to strip to make extra money!
Q. I am 30 yrs old and my gf of 3 yrs is 25 yrs old, together we have a 15 month old daughter who is my world. I a full time fire fighter and work part time as a janitor at a local middle school. My gf is a full time TA. Even with both of us working we ...
A. 17 December 2009: Ah America, land of the 3 job family and still not being able to make ends meet. Not exactly what they show on TV, is it.
Either you guys get paid an insanely low wage, or you two are living above your means. When you got a large screen tv and t... (read in full...)
Are these gifts a little strange?
Q. If I get turned on when my wife wears leggings, and I get her a couple pair of leggings from Victoria's Secret, along with a sleep shirt to wear with each, do you think she might find this kind of strange? Our sex life is not so great, needs ...
A. 17 December 2009: So, is this gift for her or for you?
The gift ain't strange, just not as the main gift for HER. It lacks the personal touch.
So a great stocking filler, or a gift just because but not as THE gift for her birthday.
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Is there any way to speed up a period?
Q. i just got my period today and its wednesday.. i want to gone by saturday.. is their anything i can do to speed up the process?...
A. 17 December 2009: Nope. If there was, gynecologists would insist on it.
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The needle trick - does it really work?
Q. Dear Cupid, I dont have any children and i have never been married yet. I am a 22 year old female. The other day my mother had told me about the needle trick that her grandmother taught her.. U take a needle tie it to thread and put it on ur pal...
A. 17 December 2009: Is it to late to revoke the woman's right to vote?... (read in full...)
What did he mean when I asked him about trust and love?
Q. I asked my boyfriend this question (If u closed your eyes and never opened them again could u trust the man/woman u love to lead u?) He replied: Could I? I'm confused please help me understand what he ment. ...
A. 17 December 2009: He meant, "can I trust you".
Can he?... (read in full...)
I asked her on a date, but she said no, now I feel hurt
Q. I'm 17 and a senior in high school. I have never gone out with anyone, and this doesnt help my confidence any. But my friends convinced me that I should ask out a girl that i talk to a lot and am very good friends with. She is in some of my classes ...
A. 17 December 2009: Well, your friends might know, or she might have been trying to let your down gently.
Hard to say which it is. But rejection is part of life, you either get over it or stop living. Wouldn't recommend the last one.... (read in full...)
How do I attract a guy that doesn't want me for sex
Q. so all my friends have boyfriends and have already lost there virginity. they dont pick on me for still being a virgin but they dont really talk about anything else beside haveing sex. i am really focused on school and haveing a job. im almost 17 ...
A. 17 December 2009: Well, all of your gf's only got boyfriend because they put out. So what do you think your chances are?
Have your gf's got boyfriends or have they got guys who use them for easy and free sex? Is there even one of the boyfriends who wouldn't... (read in full...)
My ex wife wont allow me to do anything with my kids
Q. I need help. My ex wife wont talk to me about my kids and disagrees with everything I want to do. I cant get my 7 year olds ears pierced, take our 5 year old skating, go to my nieces grad party, aunts funeral got shut down. I need to know why she ...
A. 17 December 2009: You lost me at getting a 7 year olds ears pierced.... (read in full...)
Oh No! I hope I'm not pregnant!
Q. Alright I guess this question is more for girls that have been pregnant or maybe people that know about pregnancies.. ok, about five nights ago my guy friend and I had a good bit to drink and needless to say things led into the bedroom.. Well I was ...
A. 17 December 2009: I think you need to ask your money back from your biology teacher.
Odd that you are more an expert on guys reproductive behavior then your own.
Fertile is the period an egg is ready to be fertilized. The 14 day period adds the days sperm can s... (read in full...)
His actions don't match his words!
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl - and I'm the only person out of everyone I know that's never been in a relationship. The guy i've liked since the summer finally decides to msg me after months pass of not seeing each other to hang out....and it go...
A. 17 December 2009: And what counts more? Actions or words? I can't remember. Can you?... (read in full...)
How can we help her see that her relationship with him is ruining her?
Q. I have been best friends with this girl for 15 years. She has been seeing the same guy for over 6 years. They met in Grade 9 and have been together ever since. She followed him to University, and they are currently in their 3rd year together. T...
A. 15 December 2009: While you are at it, why don't you convince the other college girls that they should always use a condom, not smoke or drink and not overdo the suntans (although being from canada you might skip the last one).
People don't like to be saved fr... (read in full...)
Different sex drives and lesbian dreams?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. we talk about getting married and love each other very much. it just when it comes to sex im not sure if we are on the same page. when we first started dating we would have sex 3 or 4 times ...
A. 15 December 2009: Why did the sex decline? Not going to like the next question, but might she not enjoy it as much as you do?
The lesbian dreams on its own I would not worry about. The declining sex drive is a worry, there got to be a reason for it. Did anything... (read in full...)
Worried about the party tomorrow night
Q. Hey everyone. Basically I have party tomorrow night and I'm so neverous about it. I'm know once I'm there I'll enjoy myself but, building up to it, I'm dreading it. I've bought a dress and although I do look nice in it, I'm worried about peoples' r...
A. 15 December 2009: Nope. You are young and nervous. You will grow out of it, but not before tomorrow I think.
Just don't eat anything complex. nervous stomach is NOT good at a party. And stay away from the alcohol. If you think you can handle another (or one) the... (read in full...)
I'm worried about STD's!
Q. I'm worried about STD's. Ive not yet actualy hd sex with my boyfriend, but I have given him blowjobs on occasion. However, he precums often and soon, and i never know if ive swallowed some. He hsnt had many sexual partners, and im pretty sure he's ...
A. 15 December 2009: And that is why they invented condoms. Ain't people clever. Well apparently not since nobody actually seems to use them.... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to learn from my affair and failed marriage?
Q. I had the affair first, im still trying to understand why. I pushed my wife away then she had an affair. I have lied and cheated, i have been egotistical and controlling. I have hurt my wife and my young children. I have destroyed everything that i ...
A. 15 December 2009: If you were superficial, you wouldn't care.... (read in full...)
Is my ex trying to play mind games with me?
Q. my ex fiance contacted me this year -he told me he got married-we'd had a bad split -mutual but i always just wanted to clear the air so i did and we emailed a couple of times but i noticed he was answering the emails early in the morning and would ...
A. 15 December 2009: Why are you letting him?... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me, what should I do?
Q. What do I do when I think my girlfriend is cheating on me?...
A. 15 December 2009: Find at least some kind of evidence and then confront her. ... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my boyfriend's accusations, I don't know what to do anymore!
Q. I have a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we live together. Monday-Friday he works in another state and I'm at home by myself. I have three children from a previous relationship that lives with us too. I only get ...
A. 15 December 2009: Eh... there are uncles on this site too. So who are you calling a lady? And I think I know which measures you are talking about with regards to your cycle? Repair kit right? for when you get a puncture when riding it so you can fix the leak?
Okay,... (read in full...)
Where do I begin with dating/socialising?
Q. Hi! I've recently become very interested in girls. I'm going out a lot more now in the hope that something might happen, or I might meet someone. But i'm not sure where to go now. Is my urge for sex wrong? Looking on a possible opportunity in the f...
A. 15 December 2009: Dearcupid, how can I get laid.
Wrong site, try adultfriendfinder.... (read in full...)
We were due to be getting married before Christmas but his close frienship with another woman is ruining everything!
Q. A coule of months ago I posted a question regarding my fiance's very close friendship with another woman and how I felt uncomfortable with it. Well we are due to be married before Christmas and ths lady has started calling him more and more. ...
A. 15 December 2009: Sometimes we want our cake and eat it too.
Seems like you fiance (ex?) wants both whatever he has with this other woman and marriage with you. But that don't work.
Is it more then friendship? Possible, if they were just friends then what is the... (read in full...)
I wish he would treat me better and be there for me as a friend! Is that to much to ask?
Q. How can I move on when whatever I do he still talks to me? I and my friend/crush have been having some problems. He ignores me and treats his other friends better than me. So I’ve been confused. I already told him that I like him and he acted nor...
A. 15 December 2009: Yes.
Never ever try to change a guy.
Get one you like as he is now, because that is how he will be for the rest of his life. Yes women, this means that he will ALWAYS play with his toys and not be able to pick up his clothing and have no clue... (read in full...)
Why do I get these bad feelings in my tummy just before something bad is going to happen?
Q. I am having bad feelings in my belly it hurts then something bad happens like once i was out and my tummy was hurting and then i got a call and my loved one died can someone please answer this it will help me a lot thank you very much xx...
A. 15 December 2009: Because you ate something bad and then you get the call and we are the monkey that likes to make connections were there are none.
Not very mystic, but there you go.
Has been proven over and over, people think of someone, then the that person ... (read in full...)
Guys is this sweet or weird?
Q. Guys is this sweet or weird? So I am a broke college student and I have no money to buy my boyfriend of almost two months a Christmas gift. (We were close friends two months prior) He insists on getting me something... but I keep telling him n...
A. 15 December 2009: Depends on the song. If it is more cute/funny then super romantic, then it is fine, but girls tend to get a bit overboard. If you show him to much affection, then he might grow to confident. He got to miss you and worry a bit to keep him interested. ... (read in full...)
What turns women on?
Q. We all know what the female sexual assets are that make guys drool. They're pretty much all physical ones. However, guys' sexual assets can be intangible. Just wondering, what are the intangible male sexual assets that make girls go, 'I Want'? ...
A. 15 December 2009: Yeah, the Twilight movies are NOT about guys taking their shirt off.
If you want to know anything about women, don't ask a woman. They lie. Mostly to themselves.... (read in full...)
17 and a 40 year old having sex?
Q. Hello. I was just wondering if it's ok for a seventeen year old girl to have sex with a forty year old man? I've known him for a few months and we've been talking a lot. I really like him and want him. I know that it is a significant age difference, ...
A. 15 December 2009: Is it okay... no.
It is not just the 23 year age difference. It is your age. You are a teen, he is just a small step away from senior. Mind you, going out would be cheap, you can both get a discount because of your age.
I am nearly as old as... (read in full...)
I'm a woman and hate my genitals!
Q. So I feel female, I love being a woman, and love being my gender. I was born a woman etc... However, I hate having the genitals I have. I've asked a question here before and someone responded telling me I had bad self-esteem and asking if I also ...
A. 15 December 2009: Can you say "Penis Envy".
Look it up.
You say you are happy as a woman (can you say "protests to much") but how happy are you to be penetrated? Isn't that part of being a woman? Well a hetero-sexual woman anyway?
Might there be the ti... (read in full...)
Why can't I come during sex?
Q. Okay, I know I'm not alone in this by any means. Why can't I come during sex? I know I can have orgasms, certainly. I've masturbated quite frequently from a young age, and have been consistently able to come (granted, it takes twenty minutes ...
A. 15 December 2009: Difficult one.
Let me get this straight, you need 20 minutes with a vibrator on your clit to get off? That seems a bit long. Of course women are well known to require a bit more then two strokes but we are not talking foreplay here are we? We a... (read in full...)
Will my dependency on sex workers affect any future relationships with women?
Q. I'm worried that my dependancy on sex workers might one day make it impossible for me to be in a real relationship with a woman I see strippers about 2x a week and visit prostitutes 3-4x a month. i also call sex phone lines or watch pornogra...
A. 15 December 2009: Well you say it yourself, your view of women is kinda messed up.
So, you were once cheated on. Big deal, I don't think that caused it all. It probably went deeper and you have amplified it over the years were currently the only way to relate t... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to be consumed by the idea of having a threesome with my husband and another man?
Q. My husband and I have been happily married for 20 yrs. Recently I have had fantasies about having a threesome with him and one of his friends. I mentioned this to him and he loved the idea and asked which friend? It doesn't matter to me as long as ...
A. 15 December 2009: As always, my advice is to be careful. Threesomes are a common fantasy and an even more common reason to break up.
We are a monogamous species. Yes we cheat (women especially, check the size of human testicles) but it is supposed to remain h... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to learn from my affair and failed marriage?
Q. I had the affair first, im still trying to understand why. I pushed my wife away then she had an affair. I have lied and cheated, i have been egotistical and controlling. I have hurt my wife and my young children. I have destroyed everything that i ...
A. 15 December 2009: To keep your penis out of other women?
The lesson ain't all that hard. It is "think before you act".
Do you really need to be told at 40+ that having an affair if you want a marriage is a bad idea?
Don't make the same mistake again, don'... (read in full...)
My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.
Q. Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...
A. 15 December 2009: There seems to be a lot of stuff coming up. Now she has cheated well into the marriage as well?
That she has a past, that can happen and that it overflowed into the relationship, that is just life. People ain't perfect.
But cheating after a... (read in full...)
My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.
Q. Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...
A. 6 December 2009: There are a lot of things going on here, and they most likely are interlinked.
The problem, as always when someone lies, is finding out the truth and then to find the real truth.
Was she sexually abused, why did she have sex with the various... (read in full...)
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