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My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.
Q. Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...
A. 15 December 2009: There seems to be a lot of stuff coming up. Now she has cheated well into the marriage as well?
That she has a past, that can happen and that it overflowed into the relationship, that is just life. People ain't perfect.
But cheating after a... (read in full...)
Is he right, are people at it like rabbits?
Q. I would really like to know how other people percieve sex. I was having a "discussion" about attitudes to sex with a male friend of mine, and well, lets say it got quite heated - he totally disagreed with what I think, and basically told m...
A. 12 December 2009: Some people are, some people aren't.
You might as well ask, does everyone drink coffee?
Here is a hint: do NOT ask this question from the people standing by the coffee machine.
Does everyone drive a car? Not going to get an unbiased answer a... (read in full...)
Unwanted by my father, abused by family member
Q. i'm crying as i write this and feel so silly for doing it. i feel like my brain isn't functioning properly sometimes like theres something missing, i feel like i don't think like other people. it's only in the last couple of months that I've kind of ...
A. 12 December 2009: I would say that being raped as a little child is about as big a problem as you can get. It seems like you think it is something you just should be able to deal with.
You can't and why should you want to? There are support groups for survivor... (read in full...)
I can't be happy without a man in my life!
Q. I can't stand being single anymore! I was involved with a guy for 9 months, not seriously but then he moved and our romantic relationship ended. It's been 3 months since he left and I'm still having trouble moving on. I know he wasn't that great, ...
A. 12 December 2009: "I'm so depressed and anxious all the time" vs "I'm 26, cute and fun"
Do you see the conflict? You can't be cute and fun and depressed and anxious all at once.
People who are to desperate for a relationship tend to go overboard. Insta... (read in full...)
It has taken me two weeks to pluck up the courage to post on here, please help me
Q. hello all i am so much in need of advice iv made a right mess of everythin u know when theres so much to explain but dont know where to start. i have been in a relatinship for 13 yrs he was not very nice to me and refused to commit, took all my ...
A. 8 December 2009: Can you tell me if you can regonize this situation.
"I am isolated, the only people I see are those he wants me to see. I only go where he wants me to go. I do, what he tells me to do. I am dependent on him for everything including finance.... (read in full...)
Can anything be done for my boyfriend who doesn't last very long in bed?
Q. I've been dating my guy for a few months. We've had sex 6 times, and each time he "finishes " after less than a minute. Until me he hadn't had sex for 4 years, and is 36 years old. How long is normal for this to happen after such a long period of ...
A. 8 December 2009: http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/tips-144.html
the basics, google on premature ejaculation for more tips.
Holding up an orgasm (within reason) makes it more intense for both men and women. So, a guy who knows how to control it would... (read in full...)
He says he hit me out of self defense. Should I still even be with him?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21. 2 days ago we went to a christmas party. i got very very drunk and apparantly made a fool out of him by the way i was dancing ect..we stayed at my parents and when we got in we were arguing. I went into my room and ...
A. 8 December 2009: Mmm, difficult one.
After all you were drunk, so perhaps events might be a bit different?
How hard did he really kick vs how hard you slapped him and threw him out of bed. It can't have been a small push.
And then, the 2 punches in the fac... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to his personality but not neccessarily looks, can this work?
Q. I've met a guy who is very far from my usual type, which I'm aware might be a good thing, and would like advice if you think it's something worth working at. I don't have a great relationship history. Without wanting to come across as arroga...
A. 8 December 2009: So, you are very attractive and dated only attractive men.
[Dr Phils voice]So how has this been working out for you?... (read in full...)
How can I find the right person?
Q. well, I am 21, i so much want to be in a relationship, a serious one.i dont like to feel loneliness. I really want someone nice in my life. Can someone tell me where i can find the right person?...
A. 8 December 2009: So your happiness depends on someone else?
Prepare to be used. It is all to easy to find someone who will use your dependence.
Get a cat, get a hobby, get a social life but NEVER go hunting for a partner with the mindset "I won't be happy u... (read in full...)
I'm embarassed that I am still a virgin but personally I don't want to lose it yet!
Q. please help! i am 16, and i've not really had much relationship experience. I've liked guys a lot and almost everyone in my grade has lost their virginity. I definatly don't want to lose mine yet, but what about peer pressure? Also, the guys i like, ...
A. 8 December 2009: So the guy of your dreams, is two guys.
... (read in full...)
Can anything be done for my boyfriend who doesn't last very long in bed?
Q. I've been dating my guy for a few months. We've had sex 6 times, and each time he "finishes " after less than a minute. Until me he hadn't had sex for 4 years, and is 36 years old. How long is normal for this to happen after such a long period of ...
A. 8 December 2009: I would say that if a guy of 36 finishes in 1 minute, then he has always done this. Might be a reason why he hasn't had sex in such a long time.
On the other hand, if the tensions builds up a lot before you have sex, then guys can get overload... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights
Q. Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...
A. 8 December 2009: Did you get a lawyer.
You are now basically trying to get him to see your child. Isn't that the world in reverse?
This guy is scum and any exposure to him will affect your child wrong. last thing children need is a deadbeat parent screwing ... (read in full...)
I really dislike porn! How can I get over this?
Q. I know this may sound really bad etc But I really dislike porn. I don't know why etc but I just do. Thing is, i've asked my boyfriend not to watch it, because it upsets me and I get jealous. In case he finds the girls in it more attractive than me,...
A. 6 December 2009: The problem you have in security, not porn itself. Proof? How would you feel if he watched an other woman on the street? Still feel insecure?
You need to get over this insecurity or it will continue to control your life. Society tell us that wom... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to expect her to pay a little more attention when I talk about things I'd like?
Q. I always listen when my wife is talking about the items she'd like, then I can get her the perfect gifts for Christmas and her birthday, even if it's months away. All year I mention things I'd like, just as she does, and around Christmas she always ...
A. 6 December 2009: Some people are good at buying gifts, others are not.
If this is her only vice, then learn to life with it. You could subtly hint at it, or talk about (after christmas) the gifts she has given in the past and how they are less then ideal but that... (read in full...)
My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.
Q. Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...
A. 6 December 2009: There are a lot of things going on here, and they most likely are interlinked.
The problem, as always when someone lies, is finding out the truth and then to find the real truth.
Was she sexually abused, why did she have sex with the various... (read in full...)
I like older men, is the age gap a problem?
Q. I'm 18 but i like guys who are around 25-27 because most of the guys i have been with around my age are total pr*cks who have just used me for sex. However, I find that the older 1s actually want to know ME not my body, is this too much of an a...
A. 4 December 2009: Older men just hide it better.... (read in full...)
At what age can a girl get pregnant?
Q. Hi to all, help me I have a serious question, what age can a girl or woman get pregnant? I want to know please help!..,....
A. 4 December 2009: You can get pregnant if when you first ovulate, sperm happens to be present. Your first ovulation, comes before your first period. (Halu got it COMPLETLY wrong, sad to know a woman doesn't know her own cycle works)
Ovulation is when the egg is r... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to have sex with other girls!
Q. Recently my boyfriend told me that he wants to experience having sex with other girls..quick info about us we've been dating for about 6 years now I was 15 he was 16 now (20 and 21) and we were each others first. I knew it would happen but didn't ...
A. 4 December 2009: He has already ended the relationship, but guys are guys so he trying to squeeze the last bits out of it. Maybe a three-some or two, whatever you are willing to do, to try to save something that can't be saved.
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I'm afraid that my husband will never look at me the same if he witnesses the birth of our first son!
Q. My dilema is that I am currently 38 1/2 weeks pregnant and I'm afraid that my husband will never look at me the same if he witnesses the birth of our first son. He says he does not want to see anything and will just stay up north during the ...
A. 2 December 2009: It has been know to happen to a few men that the process from going to woman to mother, has a bad effect on them being able to then see her as woman (in a sexual way) afterwards.
But this has also to do with the attitude shown by the woman he... (read in full...)
Is it silly to be upset that my husband of 27 years puts his brother as next of kin on his passport?
Q. Recently my hubby got his renewed passport and when I went with him to get his travellers cheques I picked up his passport [while we were waiting for his stuff] and noticed that on the page that asks for next of kin that he had filled in his ...
A. 1 December 2009: Eh... unless he travels a lot alone, who would be beside him on a holiday when it would be needed to contact next of kin? His loving wife?
And... maybe, he prefers the police to go see his brother before they go to his house first? So the brother ... (read in full...)
He's into anal sex and I am not
Q. Hi, I would really appreciate some advice. I split up with my long term partner a year ago (he left) and although I still love him I started dating another guy, who I do really like but the problem is that he is really really into anal sex and I am ...
A. 1 December 2009: Some people like anal sex (on the receiving end I mean) and some don't. For women, (I presume you are one), the reaction seems to be:
1, pain
2, nothing
3, does feel good
If it hurts, then you better know it now before you are with a gu... (read in full...)
I am always the guy's friend, but never his girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, well im 18 years old and just feeling down in the dumps lately :( i can't seem to get a boyfriend or even a guy that likes me i dont know what to do now, i just feel really depressed all the time about it. im not a shy girl a...
A. 29 November 2009: Maybe you are a late blo(o)mer? As you said, you don't fancy anyone yet. So perhaps you are just not ready yet, you rather play with the guys, then play with boys.... (read in full...)
Why do guys always only want sex?
Q. This might take a while but I really need help, please answer if you can. I'm in my final year at school and I have always thought this guy in my year is really nice, gorgeous and a nice personality. I never even thought about me and him being ...
A. 29 November 2009: Wrong question, why are girls interested in guys they know only want sex.
That is after all the problem you got to deal with.... (read in full...)
How do I feel better about facing people who made my life hell?
Q. I've recently got back together with my high school sweetheart after 5 years apart. Everything is going smoothly, but in that 5 years, I moved away to London and he stayed back home. I'm planning on moving back home soon as it is so we don't have ...
A. 29 November 2009: Actually, I think it is perfectly valid to make him make a choice. Bullying is serious, why does he even think it is normal to be friends with people who made his sweetheart miserable?
And where was he when the bullying went on? You landed i... (read in full...)
I am always the guy's friend, but never his girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, well im 18 years old and just feeling down in the dumps lately :( i can't seem to get a boyfriend or even a guy that likes me i dont know what to do now, i just feel really depressed all the time about it. im not a shy girl a...
A. 29 November 2009: You don't fancy any of the guys you are friends with... so which guy is that you wish likes you a bit more?
Do you want to be fancied, or find someone to love who loves you?
Any case, you are probably giving of the wrong signals. Think d... (read in full...)
Will my feelings for my boyfriend change after an FFM threesome?
Q. So I was WONDERING, if my boyfriend and I end up having a threesome, with another woman, whats the likely it'll bring us closer? Or I wont feel the same about him?...
A. 29 November 2009: "& as for bringing us closer, thats his idea."
Says it all really.
It is a line, a way to persuade you with an argument you care about to get what he wants.
I don't see how it brings two people closer together when they get a third in the ... (read in full...)
The baby was born 11 months after I was home, is the baby mine?
Q. I have a question when i was home from Iraq last year 2008 the last time me and my wife had sex was april 4th 2008 when i cam back from iraq ahe told me she was preg and then on March 1st 2009 our son was born her due date was feb 26 2009 now is ...
A. 29 November 2009: Sorry. No.
The average pregnancy lasts 40 weeks, 9.2 months. The problem is that this is not actually true. First time mothers are known to have longer pregnancies. Also, the time the sperm goes in (4-4-2008) might not have been the day of conce... (read in full...)
Things changed for him when we moved in together, he went and I am left holding the bag
Q. I've been with my boyfriend since February. things were going great. he came to my mums wedding, held my hand when i was in hospital recently and we moved in together 5 weeks ago. he's an only child and has lived away from home before now but i...
A. 28 November 2009: Are there men who won't run away from a relationship, who want to be with someone long term, until the day they die?
Yes, they are called husbands. You can't have them.
Sure, there are some single ones becoming available slowly (18+ years deliv... (read in full...)
He has one set of rules for me and another for himself!
Q. I am in a troubled relationship. I am 27 years old and my boyfirend of 3 years is 42. Everything was great in the beginning of our relationship, but now as time goes on he is getting more jealous, i cannot talk to men i can only hang out with 2 ...
A. 28 November 2009: Soul mate...
I don't think this means what you think it means. ... (read in full...)
I've had bad luck with guys - any tips to keep this new one?
Q. So here's the story: I'm 24 and have been in several small relationships (a few months or less) and one 2 year relationship about 3 1/2 years ago. Our relationship ended very badly, he cheated on me several times, and broke my heart. I though...
A. 28 November 2009: Imagine you are wearing a chastity belt it is locked by a riddle. The basis of the riddle is "say the right thing".
So, a guy wants to unlock it.
You pose the riddle: "I am looking for a longterm relationship".
he answers: "So am I".
t... (read in full...)
I joined the police academy to impress him. Is this a mistake?
Q. So I am 19 yrs old. I am in college to gain my BSN (bachelors n Science and Nursing). Not to long ago I met my friend and jus recently I have come attracted to him. He also recently graduated from the Police Academy in my city. We have been friends ...
A. 28 November 2009: Wouldn't it have been easier to say to him "I like you, do you like me"?
... (read in full...)
Will my feelings for my boyfriend change after an FFM threesome?
Q. So I was WONDERING, if my boyfriend and I end up having a threesome, with another woman, whats the likely it'll bring us closer? Or I wont feel the same about him?...
A. 28 November 2009: How is getting another woman involved supposed to bring you closer? Is the bed to narrow or something?
In most FFM three-somes:
The girls have action together, how will this affect you?
The boy has action with the other girl, how will this ... (read in full...)
I think I'm addicted to online gaming
Q. I'm obsessed with playing videogames online. I play them most of the day, I sit up to half five in the mourning. When I win I feel really happy, when I lose I feel angry and pissed off. If I lose I feel I need to have another game to make up for the ...
A. 28 November 2009: Could be. But what is the question?
Any behavior which causes you to be unable to perform a normal role in society (have an income, socialize to an extent, be "happy") is bad.
I am a bit hesitant with labeling gaming as something you be... (read in full...)
Is there really a "Mr. Right"??
Q. okay, so alot of girls are always looking for mr right, but the truth is, is there really a mr right out there because so far all i've found is mr nasty, mr rude, mr cheat, mr slut, mr too hot for his own good, mr not so good looking, mr late, mr ...
A. 28 November 2009: Who, strontiumdog wants ALL these things in a man? Then good luck.
I think you and him got the wrong idea about Mr Right. You two seem to be talking about Mr Perfect (aka LazyGuy to his friends). He exists but competition is extremely strong f... (read in full...)
I have a list, but no woman to match it.
Q. I don't know what I do wrong? I am 21 years old. I graduate with a Bachelors Degree in 3 mo. Live alone in a nice apartment. I work out about 3-4 times a week. I am handsome a leader and usually decently confident. I have NEVER cheat...
A. 28 November 2009: o_O
Here is a tip, if you claim to be really intelligent, learn to spell and use the right words.
... (read in full...)
Things changed for him when we moved in together, he went and I am left holding the bag
Q. I've been with my boyfriend since February. things were going great. he came to my mums wedding, held my hand when i was in hospital recently and we moved in together 5 weeks ago. he's an only child and has lived away from home before now but i...
A. 28 November 2009: Perhaps...
He did need his own space you say, so when did you notice this?
There is a huge difference between dating someone, and living with someone.
When you date, you do it on your terms, when you feel like it, at appointed time and the r... (read in full...)
I drank, I kissed too many, now they call me a slag
Q. im so confused, im a girl of 16, i went out with a friend last night and had a bit too much to drink, i ended up kissing my ex's best friend and one of his friends,infront of each other, then my ex's friend kissed my best friend straight after. Then ...
A. 28 November 2009: Double standards, ain't they wonderful? One guy in your story kissed two girls as well, but I bet he is called a stud because of it.
But you are not going to be the one to get rid of double standards. Or maybe you are, who knows you might be the n... (read in full...)
Why do things always turn sour once you are married?
Q. why is it always like this? when a women and a man is on the relationship, no matter how long the relationship goes even its 5 or 10 years long or more they are most of the time always in good term. the sweetness, the cares, the dream, the love, ...
A. 27 November 2009: Always? How many times have you been married?
What a lot of couples have ever seem to forget is that the courting should never end.
Instead the dating is hot and passionate and filled with hormone filled urgency and then when it comes to livi... (read in full...)
Are condoms safe enough without using birth control?
Q. Hi everyone. Well, me and my boyfriend are planning to have sex soon, and we are both virgins. Of course we're planning on using protection to prevent pregnancy and infections. The thing is, is it okay to only use condoms on the first time and not ...
A. 27 November 2009: If you are old enough to have sex, aren't you also old enough to stand up against mommy and get the pill yourself?
As said, you are 18.
Get on the pill, not so much for the added safety, but as proof you are able to deal with things as an adu... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend faces prison for what he did, should I continue case against him?
Q. I stupidly met up with an obsessed ex boyfriend reasons I do not know nor can explain. We met up and returned home to his house by taxi around 11.30. On entry into the house I went to the toilet. During this time he had taken my mobile and proce...
A. 27 November 2009: Applaus for your dad.
There is a reason that women are the most common victim of abuse and that is because women often just allow it because they are afraid to deal with it.
This guy is dangerous. What if he had something sharp in his han... (read in full...)
Why can't I make any relationships work, including friendships?
Q. Ok i think i have serious issue. I can not make a relationship work with any one. This includes friends, guys who are interested in me, and even teachers. I was abandond when i was only nine months old and the family that took me in has shown me ...
A. 27 November 2009: Why are you asking this question? The answer is bloody obvious from your own post.
Distrust of other people resulting from abandonment and abuse issues. Time to see a shrink.
You perfectly explain why you do this. You are afraid of being ... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights
Q. Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...
A. 21 November 2009: You get a lawyer. What you really should have done the moment he left you to get him to sign away his rights.
Lawyers know the law. Not people on the internet.... (read in full...)
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