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writes:I fell for this man, he was everything to me. I was diagnosed with cancer, which is spreading to my lungs...I have a 30% chance of getting through it...but when I saw messages on Kellen* phone (I was using it because mine was broken) I noticed he had messages from another man, stuff like; I love you ect. Of course, I asked him if there was another man and he said I was the other man...of course I was distraught but he said he was breaking up with him anyway, and went round there. The man, James, Facebook now said single. I was in hospital alot, but Kellen said it wasn't working out...he dumped me because we didn't talk enough...he went back to James.Did he ever really love me? why did he leave me when I needed him most? He wont even talk to me now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Take TennisStar's advice on this one. Why make your possible last time on Earth to be centered around a selfish person? Live your life! You have cancer, but cancer doesn't have you!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Look OP, it's easy to be negative and to give up so to speak. You got a 30% chance of beating this cancer, that's still more than a sliver of hope! This Kellen is a jerk, he's leaving you when you're at your worst. Not sticking with you through thick and thin, what kind of man is that? I know you feel down and sick, but whatever life you have left in you, you have got to stick it out..it's not the end till God says it's the end. You've got few friends? What about family, relatives? You know you might not make it, so why not make it the best of times, and not the worst? At least you know, my ex boyfriend just died in a car accident..Left behind a daughter but didn't get to achieve the rest of his dreams. Do what you want to, what you have always wanted to do, this cancer is in your body but it hasn't taken you over completely! Tune into that youthful young man, and give the rest of your life all that you have got. Go out with a bang! Get happy, I know it's easy to be sad. But if you're sad, Kellen and James win, cancer wins. Beat the odds, start fighting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wanted to die, he said that he made a mistake breaking up with James and tried to tell me it was nothing to do with the cancer...but he said we could be friends, yet he's ignoring me...
You guys say he's selfish, I think you might be right but he was my angel...I need him back in my life. I have nobody else :(
I don't have much energy, and very few friends...
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (23 October 2010):
It may be that he couldnt handle losing you. I think he is just generally an asshole and would probly have treated you badly even if you wernt ill. Either way its best that you focus on yourself and enjoying your life. He is not worth your time and you dont need the extra worry x x x
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (23 October 2010):
 whatever his mindset and motivation he has treated you badly when you needed him most. dumping someone because they might not live shows a huge a lack of respect or caring for them. sounds like a selfish player to be honest.
i feel sorry for your situation but as there is a chance things wont work out with this disease, dont waste your precious time worrying about someone who treated you badly.
make an effort to be with your family, friends and people you love unconditionally, they are the ones to care about-who care about you!
best luck x
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 October 2010):
It's possible that he's one of those who can't deal with dying loved ones...I know a few people like that, who won't attend their own mother's funeral because that's no how they want to remember her. However, you do have a 30% chance of surviving, so if you do beat this cancer then Kellen will feel like a jerk for leaving you. He dumped you because you didn't talk a lot? What a petty excuse, if your lying on your deathbed he could at least had the balls to tell you the truth. Or it's possible he was cheating on you with this James..Shame on them both.
Now, he's out of the rest of your life. His mistake. I suggest you make a bucket list, if you haven't done so already. So on the days that you feel up to it, accomplish something on your bucket list you have always wanted to do. Live the rest of your life to the fullest!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Cerberus might be right; being around you makes Kellen face his mortality, or he simply can't handle the thought of you dying.
However, he still left, so instead of dwelling on it, make the best with the time you have left. Do things you've always wanted to do and maybe start up some new hobbies or adventures. There's no time like the present to make your life better even if someone is doing his best to make it worse.
Best of luck to you!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Maybe he does love you and he dumped you because, when he realized that you had a 30% chance of living (which is actually still quite a lot), he would be in deep agony if (god forbid) you pass away. Perhaps he realized he could not bare that pain.
It is just what I think could have happened.
I hope that helps.
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