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Think my school-teacher was hitting on he... he took time off but is back this week!

Q.   I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school ...

A.   27 June 2007: I dont think anyone should encourage jeni101lurv-u-xxx to take this friendship with her teacher any further. If you seriously want to jeni, i think you should wait until you have completely left school and then tell him. I dont want you to fall ... (read in full...)

Gf dumped me because of a drunken kiss with another girl! How can I get her back?

Q.   first of all I have been with my girlfriend nearly 5 years. I was out on saturday night and got really really drunk, I ended up kissing another girl which my girlfriend seen. this is totally out of character for me and it has been 2 days since it ...

A.   18 June 2007: I would give her a few more weeks, a month or two. But if she is still saying she wont take you back then you will just have to accept that have ruined it. Anyway, i want you to tell my why you kissed this other girl. Did she kiss you, or did you ... (read in full...)

I dont want to date her anymore, let alone go to the dinner party, how do I get out of it politely ?

Q.   I've been invited to a dinner party ona date yet to be confirmed with the girl I've been seeing. I suggested dates I could make. It's primarily her friends attending the dinner. I no longer want to see this girl and I don't want to go to the ...

A.   17 June 2007: It would not be nice if she felt you only went to see her when you fancy a sh*g. I hope this is not the case, as that would be horrible. Perhaps you should just message her or email her to say that you did not just want her for sex. ... (read in full...)

Think my school-teacher was hitting on he... he took time off but is back this week!

Q.   I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school ...

A.   17 June 2007: Its really not your problem, hes an adult and he can look after himself and handle his own problems. You sholdnt feel like you should have to do anything and you shouldnt feel bad. If you attempt to talk to him for whatever reason, he may just try ... (read in full...)

Does Marijuana change the taste of semen ?

Q.   I've had 2 boyfriends, my current and my ex. My ex used to smoke cigarettes and I got him to quit sucessfully for his health and I noticed his semen tasted a bit better after a little while. I haven't gone down on my current boyfriend yet and I'm a ...

A.   14 June 2007: Could it have been a change in your exs diet ? Because apparently theres food that can make it taste better...like pineapple.... (read in full...)

I don't know why he left... someone please set me straight

Q.   Hi, I was with someone for two years who told me that he saw himself having babies with me and we just seemed to have an instant deep connection. He had a girlfriend that he lived with when we met but even though we agreed we wanted to be...

A.   14 June 2007: I think he has always been leading you on, telling you what he thinks you want to hear. ... (read in full...)

He doesn't reply to my text messages fast enough and I think I should dump him! What do you think?

Q.   i have been dating a bloke for around a month now, he is ok with me a part from the fact that he has done all the initiating, ie texting me and asking me out, which obviously i dont mind at all but the problem i have is that when he texts me to ...

A.   14 June 2007: I do understand how this can be annoying sometimes, my boyfriend and my males friends often text me, then when i reply...i never get an answer. But i sometimes dont have my phone on me when i get a text, so i can understand that he may be busy or ... (read in full...)

I dont want to date her anymore, let alone go to the dinner party, how do I get out of it politely ?

Q.   I've been invited to a dinner party ona date yet to be confirmed with the girl I've been seeing. I suggested dates I could make. It's primarily her friends attending the dinner. I no longer want to see this girl and I don't want to go to the ...

A.   14 June 2007: I think you will just have to say you cant make it, or tell her your not ready to meet all her friends yet. You can either say your busy, or just tell her the truth. ... (read in full...)

When I have sex I can't get an erection and it will not work can you please help me to sort me out.

Q.   When I have sex I can't get an erection and it will not work can you please help me to sort me out....

A.   13 June 2007: First off, this happens to alot of men. Secound off, you need to relax, because when you have sex you start to worry what will happen, which causes this to happen. I reccomment you only sleep with girls you have serious feelings for, or girls that ... (read in full...)

Should a guy go back to his pregnant ex, even if he loves someone else?

Q.   Tell me something, if a man breaks up with someone, decides to move on, finds a new girlfriend and they are both happy, and then suddenly the ex says that she is pregnant with his child does he have to leave this new love and go back to the other ...

A.   13 June 2007: Oh sorry, i didnt see you were a female and that it was maybe just a question in general. Maybe your one of the woman, and should the man this colum. Enless it was just a question in general. ... (read in full...)

Should a guy go back to his pregnant ex, even if he loves someone else?

Q.   Tell me something, if a man breaks up with someone, decides to move on, finds a new girlfriend and they are both happy, and then suddenly the ex says that she is pregnant with his child does he have to leave this new love and go back to the other ...

A.   13 June 2007: I think if a baby grows up in an unhappy family (for example, parents dont love each other) its not going to be any happier than haveing two seperate parents that love it. Tell your ex that you want the baby, and will suppport it (because you really ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my chubby face cheeks?

Q.   My body is average looking. I wouldn't consider myself skinny, but I look rather healthy. Is there any way of how I could lose fat on my cheeks? My face looks chubby, and whenever I start to walk my cheeks shakes. This makes me feel that I need to ...

A.   13 June 2007: I think you need to accept yourself, rather than try to change yourself. I used to have a serious problem with my big hips, but after a while i got used to them...and even like them now. I think full cheeks can be really attractive, so when you put ... (read in full...)

Should I get my boyfriend a gift for father's day (even though he isn't the daddy)... ?

Q.   I don't know if I should get my boyfriend a gift for father's day. i know he isn't my father. but we just had our 1st baby 2 months ago, and he is a really good daddy to her. He also works and supports us. I just want to let him know he's ...

A.   13 June 2007: Im guessing he is your babys father ? Even if he isnt if he is raiseing her like his own then yes i think you should definately get him something. Perhaps you could get him something eletrical or gadget like. For example a personal organiser is ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is very relaxed about his personal hygiene

Q.   My boyfriend is very relaxed about his personal hygiene and is quite happy to have only one shower a day in the morning regardless of what activities he has been doing during the day and only cleans his teeth in the morning too. I am the opposite ...

A.   13 June 2007: I dont think he sounds seriously that bad, why dont you tell him to have a shower at night instead of the morning. If i was you and i saw this as such a big problem i would just leave him. ... (read in full...)

Gf dumped me because of a drunken kiss with another girl! How can I get her back?

Q.   first of all I have been with my girlfriend nearly 5 years. I was out on saturday night and got really really drunk, I ended up kissing another girl which my girlfriend seen. this is totally out of character for me and it has been 2 days since it ...

A.   11 June 2007: If i was you i would give her some space, but your right...dont give up after 5 years if you still really love her. Perhaps if you keep telling her your sorry she will calm down a bit. Maybe you could arrange to meet her when shes ready and show her ... (read in full...)

Am I just scared or do I really want out of this?

Q.   Why am i soo scared?? Ive bin with my guy for nearly 5 months now n its goin great (I think) but im so scared all the time, so much co that i think wed be better off as friends because at least then feelings will wont get so hurt. i dunno is it that ...

A.   11 June 2007: Perhaps this fear is a fear of being hurt. I have this sometimes to, and i tell myself ''whatever happens will happen no matter what i do, so just enjoy yourself for now''. Its completely normal. But if this fear is of your boyfriend in general and ... (read in full...)

He beat me after I cheated... can I fix this or should I leave?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months i know that doesn't sound long but in that time i cheated on him three times he found out and cheated on me i don't know how many times and beat the hell out of me then hit me a few times after the ...

A.   11 June 2007: At the end of the day, if you both loved each other and you were right for each other none of this would have happend. You were obviously not happy in the relationship to cheat on him, and he should NEVER have reacted like that. I think you ... (read in full...)

Think my school-teacher was hitting on he... he took time off but is back this week!

Q.   I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school ...

A.   11 June 2007: Avoid being alone with this teacher, and tell a parents and have them meet up with the school head master or something. He may have done this to other girls and got away with it. Althought you like him and you get on well, he may be trying to you. ... (read in full...)

She's gained 80 pounds! How do I help her to lose the weight?

Q.   How can I help my wife to lose weight? I have been married for about 6 years and we have kids. When I first met my wife she was extremely beautiful/attractive and at a reasonable weight. During our engagement and the first few years after our ...

A.   11 June 2007: Encourage her to go for walks with you, and make healthy meals for you both. Ive never met a woman who wants to be told shes overweight...so i guess you just have to be gentle and loving about it.... (read in full...)

Can someone give me tips on making my boobs look a lot bigger please help ASAP

Q.   hi yesterday i was asked if my bra size was a 28/30AA which i am kinda botherd about i think my breasts look at least a big A but my shirt is a bit baggie on me for school . and i was told as a joke "nice tits " which i thought was mean but there is ...

A.   11 June 2007: Always wear a bra that fits proply. But your only young and they will get bigger im sure. ... (read in full...)

Do you think I should let him see the "real" me?

Q.   i'm currently living and working in another country. I moved to another country for various reasons (travel, find myself etc...) I met a great guy. We have been "together" for almost 6 months, although we never have officially called each other bo...

A.   8 June 2007: Why should you open up to someone who doesnt love you ? ... (read in full...)

What should I do, cancel the wedding. Go through with it and possibly regret it or see if the grass is greener with the other woman?

Q.   Please help me. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 nearly 7 years and we are due to be married in August. We live together with a dog and mortgage and the wedding is all paid for and the guests are invited. Before christmas she found photgraphs...

A.   8 June 2007: The grass always looks greener on the other side and hardly ever is. But if you dont even find your girlfriend attractive, then whats the point in marrying her.... (read in full...)

How do I get a really smoooooooth shave in my genital area?

Q.   Im 16 When i shave my vagina it leaves red dots and when i run my hand over my vagina it feels like i havent shaved, its all prickly and hurts.. how can i make it feel and look like there's no hairs there. Also do guys get turned off by a little bit ...

A.   8 June 2007: Use hair removal cream or a good shaving gel.... (read in full...)

I'm married but wanna have sex with the other women!

Q.   I have just been married for six months to a woman who was my friend before and had quiet a few relationships which she knows some about. i was in luv with another girl and went out for three years until i broke it off after i found out that my ...

A.   7 June 2007: If you were in love with this other woman then why the hell were you shagging your ''friend'' you bloody idiot. You didnt find it hard cheating on your girlfriend with her so why do you find it hard now. To cut it short, im going to say...perhaps ... (read in full...)

Never in my life have I kept anything from her, if we get back together, in my eyes, she has a right to know everything, but I know it will destroy her, what do I do?

Q.   I started seeing a girl 7 months ago, we have known each other for a bit, and completly fell in love. She came from a troubled childhood, and about a month ago, everything caught up with her, she told me she wanted a break. I'm no idiot, I realise ...

A.   5 June 2007: Well she wanted a break, and if she told you it was over you were not being unfaithful to anyone so i would just tell her. It may hurt her that it only took you a month to have sex with two other woman ...... (read in full...)

My new girl wants me to blackout the face of my ex on college photos... is she asking too much?!

Q.   My gf wants me to blackout the face of an ex-girlfriend who i was very in love with from my college grad pics. she is in pics w/ myself, family, and other guests. i graduated in 2002. we broke up 4 years ago. i have the pics on pc and hard ...

A.   4 June 2007: She is only doing this because she is insecure. If i met a guy and his ex girlfriend was in pictures with his family, it would make me feel like i could never be as special or important to him as she was. Dont black out these pictures, because its ... (read in full...)

Does my gf not value my opinions? Any advice?

Q.   I was left feeling felt un-needed, Last night i spent over an hour helping my girlfriend sort out a problem.... not a huge one but still... The problem was: She has work today for a temping agency and at the same time she has a job interview......

A.   3 June 2007: Well, some girls (and guys) are close to there parents and like to run things past them before they make a final decision. While a child her mum has made her decisions or been there to help her with things. I always feel my more secure with my ... (read in full...)

Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   3 June 2007: Oh no, he wasnt was he. Are you ok, how was he playing with you ? Are you ok ? What happened ?... (read in full...)

Should I stick it out with my boyfriend or end it?

Q.   Hi everyone. I have been dating a guy for the past 4 years. For most of the relationship things have been great. I know that I was lucky to find him. We always talk about marriage, kids, where we'll live and other things like that. But, the last ...

A.   3 June 2007: I have only been with my boyfriend for two years, and i often wonder if we are right for each other. Or if hes ''the one''. But then i remember that we are only young, and i leave things to see how they turn out. But as you have been together 4 ... (read in full...)

My mother discovered my husband looking at online porn! At the end of my tether and unsure what to do...

Q.   PLEASE HELP. My husband and i have been together for 3 years+ I found pornographic dvd's 2years ago and explained to him how bad it made me feel. He promised it would not happen again, then my mother discovered him looking at online porn(humilating ...

A.   3 June 2007: I cant give any great advice on this, but i read about a woman on here whos husband kept looking on porn. So she looked on the internet and searched for pictures of men with BIG penis's. She did not delete her website history, so that her boyfriend ... (read in full...)

Should I get pregnant to keep my cheating boyfriend in my life??

Q.   Ok, i would like views on what you think about a gf getting pregnant on purpose just to keep her bf in her life. I found out that my bf was cheating on me with his ex the entire 2 yrs we've been on and off together. I was so devastated. I didnt wa...

A.   3 June 2007: Anyway, you will end up suffering even more, if he leave you, you will end up a single parent and alone with a child who doesnt have a father. You will suffer more and prolong your hurt.... (read in full...)

Should I get pregnant to keep my cheating boyfriend in my life??

Q.   Ok, i would like views on what you think about a gf getting pregnant on purpose just to keep her bf in her life. I found out that my bf was cheating on me with his ex the entire 2 yrs we've been on and off together. I was so devastated. I didnt wa...

A.   3 June 2007: If you have a baby, it may make him do the complete opposite as he may leave you. He will cheat on you at some point if you have a baby or not (even maybe in the far future, but he will). And if you break up, you will be over him eventually...and ... (read in full...)

How can I gain my parents' trust?

Q.   How can gain my parents trust? It is a simple question but I hard one i know. Mainly I wan them to trust me around guys...just guys in general as friends. My mom knows my veiws and knows im a strong girl and if I dont want to do something I ...

A.   3 June 2007: I think gaining trust with anyone in any situation you have to tell them they can trust you, and then show them that you were being honest and that they can trust you.... (read in full...)

Should girls ask guys out on a date?

Q.   Is it all right for a girl to ask a guy out, or is it only supposed to be the guys who do the asking?...

A.   27 May 2007: Apparently guys like being asked out, so make the first move.... (read in full...)

Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   24 May 2007: Also, i know a couple with 25 years diffrence, there marriage has lasted and i know they will never divorce.... (read in full...)

Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   24 May 2007: Well i feel like that and my boyfriend is the same age, so i dont think that feeling of ''not sure if its worth it'' is about the age diffrence. I think you should focus on having a good time, i think if the age gap is a problem it will show up soon ... (read in full...)

My husband gave one of his buddies "oral"...

Q.   I found out that my husband gave one of his male friends oral. It happened when we were all drinking and I found out from his friend about 2 weeks after it happened. Here is a little background: This friend of his has always wanted to have his way ...

A.   24 May 2007: Why shouldnt you confront him ? If it was the other way round he would probly confront you. For the sake of your marriage, bring it up. Or you will resent him, or he will think he got away with it and maybe do worse next time. He may even start ... (read in full...)

Does my gf not value my opinions? Any advice?

Q.   I was left feeling felt un-needed, Last night i spent over an hour helping my girlfriend sort out a problem.... not a huge one but still... The problem was: She has work today for a temping agency and at the same time she has a job interview......

A.   24 May 2007: When you give someone advice, it doesnt mean they HAVE to do what you advised them. It doesnt mean she doesnt value your opinion.... (read in full...)

Do men respect women who make the first move?

Q.   What do men think when a woman makes the first move towards getting to know each other? ...

A.   23 May 2007: I personally think it varys from guy to guy, not every man will have the same feelings or views.... (read in full...)

Waiting for sex until after marriage, any opinions?

Q.   Abstaining from sex till marriage? I’m a virgin, abstaining from sex till marriage. My main fear, if I’m even lucky enough to find love is that if my partner might cheat on me. The only reason I fear this is because of what I’ve heard in the medi...

A.   23 May 2007: I dont think you will have this problem if you find a woman with the same beliefs and morals as you. There are woman out there that dont believe in sex before marriage. And if a woman did cheat on you, shes obviously not the person your ment to ... (read in full...)

My husband gave one of his buddies "oral"...

Q.   I found out that my husband gave one of his male friends oral. It happened when we were all drinking and I found out from his friend about 2 weeks after it happened. Here is a little background: This friend of his has always wanted to have his way ...

A.   22 May 2007: Dont be rediculas, Hes cheated on you and you have a full right to bring it up. Would you be this calm if he did it to another woman ? ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him this?

Q.   how do i tell my fiance that im not sure about marrying him because he cant keep a job?...

A.   22 May 2007: When he talks about marriage next, say this - yes, we will think about getting married when you have a steady job. ... (read in full...)

Does the size of a penis increase when an adult is circumcised?

Q.   Does the size of a penis increase when an adult is circumcised?...

A.   22 May 2007: I dont know, but cutting off some of your your public hair will make your penis look bigger.... (read in full...)

I love my guy, but had to get sex with someone else out of my system, I'm racked with guilt what should I do!?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am ABSOLUTELY head over heals in love with my boyfriend. He is perfect in every way: he listens to me, hes educated, romantic, caring, thoughtful. all of that. this is my longest relationship and it seems like the stars aligned fo...

A.   22 May 2007: For some reason, i think you should just keep it to yourself. In time you will get over it, and although you may be racked with guilt, you would probly feel even worse when you told him and saw how hurt he was. Just keep it to yourself, and give him ... (read in full...)

Two days after fooling around together he got back with his ex! I feel used!

Q.   ok...well..i met this guy awhile ago...and after getting to know each other..we realized that we had feelings for each other..but we decided ignore them because he was currently in a relationship with one of my really close friends. this guy and i ...

A.   22 May 2007: Well, you feel used because you were. Its obviously the ex-friend he loves and wants to be with so just stay away from him. ... (read in full...)

Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   22 May 2007: I dont think you should worry about your retirement. You are thinking about this as a lifelong relationship and you might not even be together that long. But if you are i think you will come to a solution together.... (read in full...)

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