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Wanting to move to next base with him but he doesn't seem to want to know... help!

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Question - (13 June 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 14 June 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have been going out with this boy for quite a while now, and I just can't stop thinking about him. He really turns me on and I just can't stop day dreaming about us doing something really naughty together in the shower, his room, changing rooms etc god! i don't know whats happening to me, I just want him soo bad!

I completely trust him and have known him for over 5 years. however, in reality we have only ever briefly kissed each other on the lips and after a few drinks when i tried to snog him it didn't work noses and teeth got in the way. it makes me frustrated as i keep fantasing about me and him making love and having a great time.

i really want to move to the next level with him even just general snogging and touching but every time i try to hint to him like pin him against a wall jokingly and slide my hand slightly under his top he just laughs and pulls away. it is almost like he doesn't fancy me. surely, all lads are supposed to want some loving. its just worrying me at how he doesn't want to get past the peck on the lips stage.

i really love him, what should i do?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010):

You said you "pin him against the wall jokingly".

There's your answer. He thinks you're joking.

Next time, pin him against the wall with a serious, hungry look on your face (some of us guys call this the "Fuck Me Stare"). Then lean in so that your ENTIRE body is touching his ENTIRE body head to toe. Then kiss him like you mean it. And don't stop kissing. No giggling. No laughing. No jokes to break the tension. The idea is you're trying to have sex break the tension instead.

This will strongly communicate your desires.

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A male reader, rivi United States +, writes (13 June 2010):

You should accept he's a closet gay and look elsewhere for your sexual needs, even if he's a nice friend.

With all the encouragement you are giving any str8 boy wd have been in yr pants long ago !

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A female reader, clarissa_11 United States +, writes (13 June 2010):

maybe he truly thinks/ his religion is sex till marriage?

talk to him about it...

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A female reader, Jendorset United Kingdom +, writes (13 June 2010):

He is most likely really really nervous. So tell him that you want to move to the next step and ask if he wants to. If he says that he does tell him that you can take your time and that he doesnt have to feel worried because your not going to think bad of him whatever happens. Im sure he is just worried hes not going to be good enough or something. Some guys get just as insecure as girls do.

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