How the heck do I forgive him and get past all this? Please help?
Q. Hello, everyone. I have asked for advice before regarding this but I think it all read wrong, I’m terrible sorry. When I met my boyfriend, he was kind, smart and sweet. He had just come out of a long relationship, but assured me, that he want...
A. 15 March 2007: I think you need to just leave him. How long before he breaks up with you again. You need to demand answers from him, WHY did he ask her to get back with him. Does he still love her or something. I think you need time to heal fully, and being with ... (read in full...)
I masturbate once or twice a week, is this normal?
Q. I am 21 and want to get out of masturbation. What should I do.. I normally do that once/twice a week whenever there is strong urge. is that normal?...
A. 15 March 2007: Masturbation is completely normal, amoung males and females. You only do it once/twice a week so i dont see why your worried about it. ... (read in full...)
He ejaculated inside me as I was beginning my period..could I still get pregnant?
Q. hey everyone, this could be a really silly question but i need help, 2 weeks on friday i slept with this lad i kno but i was jus startin my period at the time i wasn't bleeding loads jus a little spots anyway i slept with him that nyt and he came ...
A. 15 March 2007: Well, im going to be blunt. There is a BIG change you could be preganunt. You had unprotected sex AND he came inside you. Youve left it late as well. You can just hope you arnt pregnaunt, you can also just hope you havnt caught an STD, it doesnt ... (read in full...)
My troubled gf and her attitude has me upset and wondering. Where do I go from here?
Q. OK here goes, please bear with me on this... Last night my girlfriend was showing me her pictures she's had developed. She was putting them in her photo album. Amongst these pics were 3 that we'd taken on holiday, one with her in and two with me ...
A. 15 March 2007: All i can say is...talk to her. There is no other way around this. Just talk to her and tell her what annoys you, and try to figure out if the scarcasim is just in her nature, because if it is you will have to live with it if you want to be with ... (read in full...)
He wants me take me to visit his father. What is his reason for doing this?
Q. i have this bf of mine who's inviting me this april to go with him in their hometown,he told me he wanted me to go with him on his fathers birthday. my question is: is he doing all this things coz he loves me and see me as his a good wife to be or ...
A. 15 March 2007: Perhaps he cares about you and wants you do meet his dad, as his dad probly wants to see who his son is in a relationship with. If you dont want to go then just dont. Meeting your boyfriends parents when your a couple is just a normal thing a couple ... (read in full...)
He said something to me that has me cofused..what did he mean? Any advice?
Q. dear cupid, im confused! i was talking to this guy who i really like, and a while ago (about 5months) he said he liked me too, i do have a boyfriend! last night i was wondering about me and this other guy..(im thinking of breaking up with my ...
A. 15 March 2007: Hes saying, you should not be asking this as you have a boyfriend. You shouldnt be ''wondering'' if he still likes you if your with someone else. If you like him then break up with your boyfriend and then see how this guy feels.... (read in full...)
I belong to an asian culture. Is it true in the west, you can have sex with anyone you want?
Q. I belong to asian culture and i have this mindset about West that you are free to do whatever you want there. Meaning you can have sex with anyone you want to, if both are ready. Is this true? ...
A. 14 March 2007: Yes, if your both over 16 and you both WANT to, then you can legally have sex. Obviously, due to this...its easy to pick up sexually transmitted infections and diseses. ... (read in full...)
Am I upset that he never got the chance to be with her?
Q. I started dating my current boyfriend when I was 19 (I am now 25). We broke up a few times in between (over childish things). I got engaged and he lived with another girl but neither of those worked out. We're trying another go at as we still love ...
A. 14 March 2007: He could have easily had the chance to be with her, by not telling you he wanted to get back together. If he didnt try to get back with you, he could be with her. Your not keeping on, but you need to be straight to the point. Tell him what you saw, ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you date a girl who didnt like oral sex?
Q. Guys, would you date a girl who didnt like oral sex?? I hate giving guys oral sex, its a massive turn off for me (Im actually not a fan of recieving it either) but my guy friends were talking the other day and said they could never date a girl who ...
A. 14 March 2007: Ok first off, dont take a single bit of notice of the anonymous reader below who said is was strange that you dont like giving oral. Its not strange at all that you dont like it, i hate giving it to. Its horrible, we dont all have loose jaws like ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing him tonight and feel really nervous. Is this normal?
Q. my friend told me that he loved me yesterday which has been kinda obvious. He told me just as i had to go in, he said he was too embarrassed to tell me. I told him i felt the same cuz i do and have done for ages and i'm definatly sure about this. We ...
A. 13 March 2007: Your friends so you have a good basis for your relationship. Whenever i think i am going to be in a situation in which i will feel nervous...i make sure my hair and makeup is edzactly as i want it. That always makes me feel better, then if there ... (read in full...)
Now there's going to be a picture of them hugging on the internet. Should I be worried?
Q. hi, not that long ago i was out in town with my girlfriend and my mates. I became upset over something silly, my mate tricked me out of some money. while i was sitting on my own, i saw my mate looking in my direction with a strange look on his face. ...
A. 13 March 2007: Its just a hug, as long as nothing more is going on between them (if your not sure then confront your girlfriend). You can easily get a picture taken of you and your girlfriend together. Go to a photo booth and get it taken.... (read in full...)
He's making her choose and giving her ultimatums all the time. How can I tell her he's no good for her?
Q. My friend has been in a 2 month relationship with a boy 3 yrs older than her (she is 17, he is 20). (She talks to me a lot with her problems). Somebody claimed that they were so in love with her he wanted to marry her! Her new boyfriend knows she ...
A. 13 March 2007: Of course this isnt a healthy happy relationship. He must have things he doesnt want anyone to know about, thats why he wants her to stop confideing in her friends. She needs to tell him that she is not going to stop doing any of the things she did ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if your gf is a real virgin??
Q. How do i get to know if my girlfriend is a real virgin? She said she is but i dont trust her enough becasue she had been in a relationship before and seems to know a lot about sex. Is it true that all women bleed on their 1st time? She is just 15 ...
A. 13 March 2007: Not all woman bleed on there first time. And no you wont be able to feel if shes a virgin or not. If shes only 15 and it says your 18-21, i hope your going to wait untill she is legally old enough.... (read in full...)
my boyfriend keeps grilling his kids about his ex wife. Am I just jealous here?
Q. I am dating a guy who has been divorced for about 10 years and is constantly grilling his kids about his ex wife. How much did she buy that for, is she still sleeping with him, where did she go, do they spend time together? is it jealousy or j...
A. 13 March 2007: I dont mean to be harsh, but im just going striaght to the point. If he didnt care, why would he ask ?
If he was just asking about the price of things that would be OK, but asking about her personal life isnt a good sign is it.... (read in full...)
He doesn't think there is anything wrong with seeing me AND another woman!
Q. My man cheated, I caught him out by looking at his phone while he was in the shower. He said why can't he love two women? we are not married so he sees nothing wrong with it. Refuses to give up other woman, wants to do what he wants to do, but ...
A. 13 March 2007: Its like realm said, he needs to choose. He obviously wants an open relationship. And if thats what he wanted he should have made it clear from the start. I cant see him commiting to your, hes being really insensitive and immature. I would just end ... (read in full...)
What is the latest a period could be without the chance of pregnancy?
Q. Hey, My girlfriend says she may be pregnant, both of us are quite worried about the whole subject. Her period is 2 weeks late now, and we have been having unprotected sex. Please save me the tutorial of "Use Protection Silly" etc as I know of the ...
A. 13 March 2007: There is no edzact time, a friend of mine didnt have a period for months due to stress and diffrent problems in her life. I would just get her to do a pregnancy test soon, because the not knowing may delay it even more. Just do the test then you can ... (read in full...)
Had a very brief affair, affair ended and marriage is great now then comes the bombshell... girl I had affair with calls me to say she's 36 weeks pregnant with MY CHILD!!!! Advice needed urgently!
Q. I'm married. In the summer i had a fling with a girl in town when the marriage wasn't really working out. Now I have sorted things out with my wife and we are happy again. However the girl I had a fling with text me on sunday saying she is 36 ...
A. 13 March 2007: Well, you had problems in your marriage and instead of sorting them you just went and looked for somewhere to sling your hook. I understand that it was a mistake and you are happy with your wife now, but you cant blame the baby for your mistakes. If ... (read in full...)
I have a great boyfriend but I'm still in love with my ex!
Q. I am recently dating a great guy that really likes me. I was head over heels in love with my ex last year and the only reason why we are still not together is because he left high school and went to get an apprenticeship so we drifted apart. I hadnt ...
A. 13 March 2007: There is no point trying to get things together with your ex if he will still be going away/busy with his apprentiship. You need to think, who will be there for you when you need them. Or, who do you really love. I think time will tell, but the ... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel I deserve more and could do better than my current boyfriend!
Q. I feel really awful lately because... Well, I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. And life has been wonderful. But recently I keep having the feeling that I deserve more, that I could DO better. I dress really well and his ...
A. 13 March 2007: I think that was really mean of him not to do something for valentines day, and i also wouldnt want to be with someone who was involved wih drug addicts. BUT, you need to stop talking like your so bloody amazing, just because you dress well and ... (read in full...)
What does she see in him? Is she looking for a father figure???
Q. Well, things were going OK in my relationship but now I don't know again. This weekend I was out with the girlfriend and we bumped into one of my mates who's got 10yrs on me and weighs 19 stone (overweight). He used to be a rugby player and looks...
A. 13 March 2007: She could be. Im always nice to my boyfriends friends so i dont cause problems between me and him. Perhaps she is trying to keep on your good side by getting on with your friends. I bet she wouldnt think he was so lovely if she knew what an ... (read in full...)
I'm 20, my bf is 40! How can I make my Dad accept this relationship?
Q. am 20years old and my boyfriend is 40. my dad is not happy with this at all, how can imake him change his mind?...
A. 13 March 2007: If your boyfriend can show your dad that he honestly cares about you, your dad may ease off a bit after a while. You have to see where your dad is comeing from though, you were his little girl once and now your with a man 20 years older. He is ... (read in full...)
I'm average looking and so was my boyfriend... until he lost weight, toned up and got girls hitting on him!
Q. I'm an average looking asian girl. I wouldn't call myself pretty, but I do have a good body. My boyfriend on the other hand is caucasian. He has blond hair and blue eyes and has very good looking facial feature. When I met him, he was about 30 ...
A. 13 March 2007: You were there for him before all these girls and you shouldnt have to worry about changeing. Just because his bodys changed im sure his opinions of you havnt and i cant see him wanting you to change the way you dress just because he has lost ... (read in full...)
Opened a pandora's box by checking my boyfriend's texts!
Q. I opened a Pandora's box by checking my boyf's text messages. I've been with him a year and never had reson to doubt him but this weekend he went to a party and has been off with me ever since. In his sent items there were dodgy txts to a girl late ...
A. 13 March 2007: It could have been a drunken kiss. If you tell him what you read, he will turn it round and say ''i cant beleive you read my texts''. As if your the one whos in the wrong. So dont say anything about reading his messages. He asked her if she got any ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my gf I know she's cheating w/out making her niece look like a snitch?
Q. My girlfriend's told me that she wants her niece that she wants her to go live with the other man as a shallow excuse to see him. How do I tell her I know she's cheating without making the niece look a snitch. ...
A. 12 March 2007: Im guessing that what your trying to say is, your girlfriend wants her neiece to live with the man shes been cheating on you with so she can still keep contact with him. And its the neiece thats told you all this. At the end of the day your ... (read in full...)
What do i do, finish with my boyfriend and forget everything and move on, or remain depressed?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months and he has already proposed. weve not been getting on very well and were always arguing. but my ex boyfriend keeps coming round and telling me he still loves me and wants me back and that hes sorry for ...
A. 12 March 2007: If you cant seem to work things out, its probly best to move on. I really dont think you should get back with your ex. You need some time to heal. I think some time on your own would be the best thing. If i was you i would focus all my energy and ... (read in full...)
Will he eventually stray if i can't put out? I feel he should even though it would break my heart.
Q. help! im a virgin and seeing my bf of nearly 1 yr, hes not a virgin by a long shot. anyway, ive tried to have sex and im terrified, its hurts he cant even put his finger in, as i just tense up, its come to the stage now where i feel i cant even be ...
A. 12 March 2007: Perhaps if your boyfriend did something extremely romatic, and he did things to make you feel calm and relaxed it may help. You do need to relax though, tenseing up wont help.... (read in full...)
I really like this girl. How can I catch her attention when I'm around my friends all the time?
Q. how do i get her attention or act kinda cool? there's this girl i really like, well at lunch i'm always in my group of friends, i joke all the time so everyone's always laughin at my jokes etc. i see her lurkin near us with her friends etc. s...
A. 12 March 2007: Surely you can leave you friends for a few moments so you can introduce youself. Just say your going to get a drink or something. The long distance eye contact thing sounds good, try that.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had a lot more experience than I have in the whole relationship field and its just making me a bit wary of what she might think of me, is this normal?
Q. hello....im just a bit concerned...my girlfriend has had a lot more experience than i have in the whole relationship field and its just making me a bit wary of what she might think of me....is it normal to feel like this ...thank you...
A. 12 March 2007: Of course this is normal. She is more exsperienced and you dont want her to think bad of you or your scared your not good enough. I would not worry because if anything is wrong she will most likely tell you. ... (read in full...)
I've found out she's cheating on me, we live together and she's just had major surgery but I want to throw her out, what can I do???
Q. I found out that my gf has been cheating on me with someone she has never met in another country(saw the steamy e-mails) and confirmed. We live together and the apartment is mine. I want so bad to kick her out but she just had major surgery and is ...
A. 12 March 2007: First off, i would consider that she hasnt had actual intercourse with this guy. Hes in a diffrent country. These emails could mean nothing. If you still want to finish it then you should follow askeves advice. I know you said she had no friends or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to want to know more and more about this girl and it's hurting me, should I tell him how I feel?
Q. okay my boyfriend is in the tennis team at his school. we dont go to the same school, so we only see each other a couple of times a week. sometimes just once a week. like just this very week we were supposed to see each other on friday, but he told ...
A. 12 March 2007: I would ask him why hes spending time with her when he could have spent it with you. Dr John is right, this could be the end. If it is you will easily find someone new and better. When you do you will wonder why you ever liked this guy in the first ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 12 March 2007: I think all you can really do is tell her you love and that you didnt realise what you wanted. Tell her you do want to marry and have your own little family. Tell her all you feelings and then let her decide what she wants to do with them. I wouldnt ... (read in full...)
I'm scared about my boyfriend going off on a lad's holiday with his sex-mad mates!
Q. Hi, i know you have probably been asked this question quite alot, but i've been with my boyfriend a year next month and next year when we will have been together 2 years (it's serious)he wants to go with loads of his mates on a lad's holiday, ...
A. 12 March 2007: Well, you cant stop him so you will have to find a way to make him faithfull. Dont moan at him to much or he will think you dont trust him. Before he goes away, make sure you leave each other on a good note. Make sure he gets everything he needs ... (read in full...)
What is the latest a period could be without the chance of pregnancy?
Q. Hey, My girlfriend says she may be pregnant, both of us are quite worried about the whole subject. Her period is 2 weeks late now, and we have been having unprotected sex. Please save me the tutorial of "Use Protection Silly" etc as I know of the ...
A. 12 March 2007: Her period could be delayed through stress, and thinking shes pregnaunt could be stressing her out even more. Movement in her lower abdomen...ive never heard of that before. I get feelings like that when im on my period. I have had a couple of ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me before, how do I know he won't do it again?
Q. ive been with my boyfreind two years we met while still at school, i love him with all my heart and want to be with him forever. he's cheated on me before how do i know he won't do it again?...
A. 9 March 2007: You cant know for certain, he shouldnt have done it in the first place. Enless he has really really said sorry and is REALLY making it up to you, i wouldnt waste your time on a cheater, it will be double the humiliation next time.... (read in full...)
Was he cheating and lying to me or am I just being paranoid?
Q. i may have found out my b/f lied through him giving me information. He is able to take a day off in the middle of the business week and work saturdays.. He told me today if he is going to do that, he needs to be pretty much dressed as if he is going ...
A. 9 March 2007: Yes i get what your saying, he says he needs to be pretty much dressed for work encase they said no. Yet that day he stayed in bed and didnt get ready. Perhaps he was certain he would get the day off, maybe he had already checked with the boss about ... (read in full...)
When do you know you can trust them again?
Q. I have a partner who has been caught out by me lying. Several times I have snooped because i thought there was something going on. I am confident that he has never cheated on me, but he cant seem to let go of the girls before me. Now that he has ...
A. 9 March 2007: He needs to know that YOU are the woman is his life, not any of his exs. Although its unfair to try and stop his contact with any of his exs, its what i would do. If i was in your situation i would tell him that he needs to let go of his exs and his ... (read in full...)
My ex and I share the same friends and now he's with someone else. Should I ask my friends about her?
Q. Please help. My boyfriend dumped me just before christmas after two and a half years. It was horrendous, but I got on with it and feel better about things now. We were long distance, but met through his best friend, who is married to my best frien...
A. 9 March 2007: Well, your best friends will hardly say loads of great things about her infront of you, so you wont really know if there telling the truth.They will just want to spare your feelings. She may not be ''amazing''. You cant force yourself to feel ok ... (read in full...)
I like this girl so much but I'm so mixed up in my head. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Q. I was just wondering if u offered relationship help, because I've got myself worked up over a girl, and i really dont know what to do. I started a new job last year, and one of my old friends from school worked there too. I got to know every...
A. 16 February 2007: I agree with dagwood, shes got issues. You need to figure out the type of girl that will really make you happy. Even if you got with this girl, wouldnt you be constantly worried shes going to get it on with your mate ? Or find something on the side ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss this girl badly but she doesn't want to, I'm only 12 so what will I do?
Q. Im 12 and i have already hit puberty ( it runs in the family ) and i am dating a girl but we dont really kiss or do anything but i want to kiss her so bad, but she dosnt want to and now i have started hitting on other girls what should i do? ...
A. 16 February 2007: I got puberty before most of the other kids aswell. So although your going mad and want to kiss her, you need to be nice and NOT pushey at all times. You wont have any girlfriend if you keep trying it on with however many different girls. You will ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if my friend is gay or not w/out acting suspicious?
Q. How do you get an opinion of gays from a guy that you dont know if he is gay or not without making him suspicous. P.S i cant be straight up with him because he is my mate and we go to school. Please any advice would be great. ...
A. 16 February 2007: If i remember rightly, i think i have read a question of yours before. You like this guy, but dont know if he likes other guys or not. My last advice was to make light comments about gay men, and see his reaction. My advice now would be, maybe to ... (read in full...)
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, he is marriage material but I feel like things are getting a little boring! Should I break up with him or what?
Q. Relationship advise wanted! I am 24 and my boyfriend is 30. We have been together for just over 5 years, but I am starting to feel like things are getting a little boring. He is awesome, but I am not ready for marriage and I have not had a sexual ...
A. 16 February 2007: Why does it matter that he is marriage material. You dont HAVE to get married. If you are looking at every guy thinking ''hes so hot i wish i was single'', how are you going to stay faithful to your husband and have a decent marriage. You could ... (read in full...)
I like this girl so much but I'm so mixed up in my head. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Q. I was just wondering if u offered relationship help, because I've got myself worked up over a girl, and i really dont know what to do. I started a new job last year, and one of my old friends from school worked there too. I got to know every...
A. 13 February 2007: This girl wants a bit of everything. She was with her boyfriend and started seeing your mate. Then she cant decide who she wants to be with out of you two. Im sorry, and you dont deserve it but, SHE DOES NOT GIVE A DAMN ABOUT YOU. She just loves to ... (read in full...)
| *endorset's friends
These are mutual friends, so *endorset has
added them and they have added *endorset!
|
