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So close to my daughter feel like I'm losing her to her boyfriend... Anyone feel the same?

Q.   Hello, I have a daughter who has recently fell in love with her long time boyfriend. I think that he is a great guy, with some flaws of his past, but who doesn't. Anyway, I like him, but do not like having to share my daughter's heart...

A.   30 August 2007: I love my boyfriend but i dont love my mum any less at all. I still need her and she will always be there for things my boyfriend wont be able to help with.... (read in full...)

What do I tell my son about his father?

Q.   im a young mum, very young mum. i had my baby 3yrs ago, but when i first told the father i was pregnant he just left me on my own, saying its my problem - not his! i think that was really rude of him to leave his unborn-child like that! but the p...

A.   30 July 2007: I think telling him that his father was just to young to handle the situation is fine. Because its the truth. I think you are stong and brilliant, and i am sure that when the time comes to it you will find a way around it. Im sure theres nothing you ... (read in full...)

I'm really under weight. I'm scared, but I won't eat.

Q.   im really under wieght i come in about 6 stone maxium i dont fit in to anything im below a size 0 in the uk im scared but i wont eat...what should i do?...

A.   29 July 2007: Your right to be scared, and thats probly why your not eating. Go and see a doctor, if you think you may be to scred to tell them, then write it all down to read and you can always give them the paper. Please see a doctor, remember your beautiful ... (read in full...)

She's 11, and I'm 15! Is this age gap wrong?

Q.   Hi.. I'm 15 and I like this girl 5 years younger than me but she's about to turn 11. Well, I know that relationships with an age gap of even 10 years are often accepted, but still I can't seem to decide on what I should do. What I know is, we're ...

A.   29 July 2007: Well, as you said your both minors so i dont see a serious problem. All you need to do is be friends first, and if she does want to go out with you then dont make any kind of move untill she is 16. As she is only 10/11, she wont be ready for that ... (read in full...)

How can I stop having sex with my brother? I know it's wrong and I know it has to stop, I just don't know how!

Q.   My parents went away for the weekend and my brother and I threw a party. After a wild night of drinking and everyone had left we made an attempt at cleaning up. We started messing about throwing stuff and toy fighting until he held me down and ...

A.   29 July 2007: What on earth is wrong with you people. This girl is looking for advice on how to stop this, and your all telling her to continue having sex with her own BROTHER. She knows its wrong, and deep down she feels ashamed, she wouldnt be asking how to ... (read in full...)

I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever

Q.   Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...

A.   25 July 2007: Although i can see how she is complaining that nothing is ever good enough. I agree she is not as appreciative as she could be. But i see other views to.... (read in full...)

I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever

Q.   Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...

A.   25 July 2007: I just dont agree with you frank. You dont know how this woman is truely feeling. We dont know the full storey about her past. I dont think you considered all the points of the question, you just wrote her off as some immature brat...not a woman ... (read in full...)

I like this boy, he's just split from his girlfriend but I just can't tell him I like him!

Q.   Ok so theres this guy I really really like. we are in the same year and I think I'm in love with him. I am only young but I'd honestly take a bullet for him! but heres the thing - we are from completely different worlds. He is mister popular, and ...

A.   25 July 2007: You may regret it if you dont tell him. x... (read in full...)

What's wrong with us fat girls?

Q.   Whats wrong with fat gals? Im a fat gal. I take good care of myself. Better than a lot of skinny gals. Why dont i get noticed? My best friend is skinny and she smells ,always have dog hair all over her cloths ,her handr are dirty ,whx do guys like ...

A.   13 July 2007: Perhaps they show more interest in her because they think she will be easiest to get into bed. I never used to get noticed (when you do, its just annoying) but i was glad then when i did it was someone who genuinely liked me.... (read in full...)

He says he doesn't trust me and therefore doesn't believe that I love him and most importantly he doesn't love me.

Q.   I am 19 and have been with my same age boyfriend for a year. We had a thing four years ago when relationships didn't really matter. I emotionally cheated on him and broke up with him for this other guy. He loved me and I pretty much broke his heart. ...

A.   13 July 2007: If he does not love you then why is he with you ? If he didnt love you i cant see why he would be botherd about trust, surely he just wouldnt care. Yes the lieing was a really bad idea, i would not trust a person who lied to me. But your ... (read in full...)

Who agrees that a man really would choose a porn star over the woman he's with?

Q.   I have read the many of the posts about porn and was interested in asking a question. One of the agony aunts (incidently who I think is excellent and gives very insghtful adice btw). said the following in response to a question about porn..I have ...

A.   11 July 2007: I think some men would choose the porn star as some men wouldnt. It all depends on the man and the situation. But ive heard alot of people say that men cant turn down woman. But i dont think bad about the woman who do porn, i dont think that they ... (read in full...)

I can't control my anger when it comes to my boyfriend! He's cheated on me six times, but I still want to be with him!

Q.   My boyfriend and I had a quarrel. I don't know if i love him still, because i sometimes realize that i've been harsh on him, and i always regret what i've done everytime we're not together. Sometimes I think it's because of the pain he gave me ...

A.   11 July 2007: I think your angry because of his cheating. And so would i be. 6 times is bad, was this with 6 diffrent people or just six times with the same person. Only you know if you love him, but is it really worth it ?... (read in full...)

Back to square one in getting over my ex after listening to a song she told me to listen to.

Q.   I have a problem regarding my ex, basically the backstory is we were together for 7 years, lived together for 2 and two months ago i proposed to her in paris as we had talked about it for years and i felt ready to pop the question, she accepted and ...

A.   11 July 2007: I dont think it would be fair to your new girlfriend if you have more feelings for your ex. But you have to remember your ex has never given you an explanation for leaving you, which i think you deserved. If you want to meet your ex, it has to be to ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend broke up with me...how do I not hurt him now?

Q.   My boyfriend of six months just broke up with me. I'm heartbroken. This stupid part of me still loves him, and I'm actually so much more worried about his broken heart than mine (He still loves me too). What should I do to ease the pain for bot...

A.   2 July 2007: I dont understand how you would hurt him. Hes broken up with you and does not want to be with you anymore. I agree with eyeswideopen, if he loved you so much he would not have broken up with you. I dont personally think there is any chance that you ... (read in full...)

After illness, my looks deteriorated and he went on a date with another girl

Q.   I have known my boyfriend for 4 yrs now through the internet. I was in a relationship when I get to know him and broke up with my ex few months after knowing him. The break up with my ex have nothing to do with my boyfriend. My boyfriend an...

A.   2 July 2007: If you want to try to fix your relationship then i hope it all works out. Your boyfriend needs to know that there is nothing wrong with standing by you. These so called friends are idiots and absolutely no help to him. I think it will show a strong ... (read in full...)

How do I become a paid agony aunt?

Q.   I have always wanted to be an agony aunt. I love being able to help people with their problems and I now have one of my own that I cannot deal with. I would really like to become a full time paid agony aunt but you never see these type of jobs ...

A.   27 June 2007: If i was you, i would contact local magazines or websites on the internet may employ you. I think you will need to do alot of looking around, researching and contacting people. Good luck xxx... (read in full...)

Would you hire a babysitter who advertised via fliers?

Q.   Would you hire a sitter who advertised via fliers? I love babysitting. I know people need sitters. The family I'm sitting for is moving away and I want more clients. The trouble is, most sitting gigs are out in suburbia, where car free students li...

A.   27 June 2007: I think if you put ''phone to arrange to meet me for an interview'' or something like that..it would be ok. Obviously you should word it better than that lol. I dont see why you shouldnt put leaflets in the doors. And you never know, if you start ... (read in full...)

After illness, my looks deteriorated and he went on a date with another girl

Q.   I have known my boyfriend for 4 yrs now through the internet. I was in a relationship when I get to know him and broke up with my ex few months after knowing him. The break up with my ex have nothing to do with my boyfriend. My boyfriend an...

A.   27 June 2007: If you dont have any interest in the business, when you feel better why dont you look into selling it or finishing it. Hopefully you will be able to make some money out of it. Whatever you do, DONT let this man be part of your business. He may be ... (read in full...)

I'm a girl--is it normal that I like lesbian porn?

Q.   I'm a female--is it normal for me to love and get very turned on by lesbian porn?...

A.   27 June 2007: I dont see anything wrong with it and think its completely normal. Enjoy finding out what turns you on.... (read in full...)

I believe he's after just one thing... and I want it too, but will I get hurt?

Q.   theres a guy i like, and we flirt and regually send each other bad messages, pictures etc. however i believe he is just after one thing. but because im so attracted to him it doesnt bother me. his asked how far i would go with him and iv said all ...

A.   27 June 2007: You are right, at almost 18 its your choice and no one has a right to say bad about it. But if you think, even for a minute you will get hurt...then i would not get involved. If you both just wanted to have sex, i think it would be fine. But if you ... (read in full...)

Think my school-teacher was hitting on he... he took time off but is back this week!

Q.   I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school ...

A.   27 June 2007: I dont think anyone should encourage jeni101lurv-u-xxx to take this friendship with her teacher any further. If you seriously want to jeni, i think you should wait until you have completely left school and then tell him. I dont want you to fall ... (read in full...)

I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever

Q.   Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...

A.   27 June 2007: No FRANK B HERMIT, there is being honest and then there is being rude and insensitive. Yes, being insecure can cause relationships to end, but being insecure is NOT being immature. Malyce_Synn72 , Frank was disrespectful towards this woman's ... (read in full...)

I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever

Q.   Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...

A.   25 June 2007: Sorry everyone - i didn't run that through the spell checker before i posted it. I was so annoyed i just typed and sent.... (read in full...)

I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever

Q.   Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...

A.   25 June 2007: FRANK B KERMIT - why dont you shut up. Alot of people struggle with insecurity and i completely understand how the anoymous question answerer is feeling. Frank - You dont know this womans full storey and she could have so many reasons for being ... (read in full...)

We broke up and he's taunting me but I'm still not over him

Q.   I was in a three year relationship and I'm having a really hard time getting over him. I honestly think about him everyday and I can't help but feel lonely without him. I go out with friends but all I can think about is him. He left me for another ...

A.   24 June 2007: The only thing that has ever got me over something that im having problems with, is time. I tell myself that in a few weeks or so i wont feel so bad. And if he keeps being so nasty, you will eventually realise he is a horrible person and will think ... (read in full...)

Torn between my best friend and the first girl i've loved in five years!!!

Q.   Dear Anyone, Well here goes, I'll give you a little background first. I'm 25 and I have only been in love with one girl this was when I was 17, I was with her for 3 years and then we parted separate ways. Since then, I can honestly say that I have b...

A.   23 June 2007: Good, i think you should definately pursue the relationship with gina. Although you should also be carefull, as she does not sound the most loyal person. xxx Keep us reported and message me if you want to talk.... (read in full...)

I made my boyfriend mad by being so clingy and now he wont talk to me

Q.   Ok..I did something to make my boyfriend mad...I couldn't get a hold of him so I went to his work and he wasn't working, he was there hanging with friends and he was more or less blowing me off, telling me he didn't want to be bothered, kept wanting ...

A.   19 June 2007: I think he is being mean stringing you along, you really need to ask him again if he is seeing someone else. You going to get hurt so just send him a text saying hes dumped.... (read in full...)

Both women are lovely and are in love with me...so what should I do??

Q.   Hi, I have been single for a couple of years and meeting women on dating sites. Ultimately have been looking for a serious relationship. 6 weeks ago met a wonderful woman and we really hit it off and feel we are in love. We are going as slowly a...

A.   19 June 2007: You are in a jam arnt you. All i can really say about this is that you and the first girl split after two weeks,(her issues probably wont go away easily), and you started seeing someone else straight after. What does that tell you ? Does the secound ... (read in full...)

Torn between my best friend and the first girl i've loved in five years!!!

Q.   Dear Anyone, Well here goes, I'll give you a little background first. I'm 25 and I have only been in love with one girl this was when I was 17, I was with her for 3 years and then we parted separate ways. Since then, I can honestly say that I have b...

A.   19 June 2007: First off i think you need to speak to gina, tell her what happend...and ask her if she seriously wants a relationship with you. If she does want a relationship with you, she needs to tell sam that anything they have together is over and there not ... (read in full...)

I'm just about ready to end the relationship with my long term boyfriend. Should I move out before I tell him?

Q.   I think I'm nearing the time for breaking up with my long term boyfriend who I live with. We are not officially married, and have no children, but for the past few years for all intents an purposes been functioning as if we were married. It sounds s...

A.   18 June 2007: I think you should find somewhere to live before you tell him, i know it sounds mean but you need somewhere to go when you have told him. You could stay with your parents or a friend, or like cd206 said a shared house or smaller accomodation. I ... (read in full...)

I feel that I need some commitment from him but don't know where to start in talking to him about it. Help!

Q.   hi I really need some help To bring you up to date been seeing my great bf for 1 year He is my first bf I'm 23 Started long distance but he now works close to me (not because of me Just where his job sent him)I hate it when he goes away and cr...

A.   18 June 2007: I can understand why you want more commitment from him, and i agree that he was most likely upset about being away from his children on fathers day. Perhaps he has not taken you to meet them because he doesnt want them to be upset about him bringing ... (read in full...)

Gf dumped me because of a drunken kiss with another girl! How can I get her back?

Q.   first of all I have been with my girlfriend nearly 5 years. I was out on saturday night and got really really drunk, I ended up kissing another girl which my girlfriend seen. this is totally out of character for me and it has been 2 days since it ...

A.   18 June 2007: I would give her a few more weeks, a month or two. But if she is still saying she wont take you back then you will just have to accept that have ruined it. Anyway, i want you to tell my why you kissed this other girl. Did she kiss you, or did you ... (read in full...)

He said the only way we could be together again is if I let him sleep with my friend.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have 2 children together. We have battled through cheating in our relationship. I left him about 6 months ago and met someone new. It killed him. We made our way back together but seem to fight all ...

A.   17 June 2007: If you let him sleep with you friend he may not stop at once, he may have a full affair behind your back. They may just carry it on. Also, this friend might not even be interested. He sounds like a bit of an ass in general. Dont stand for it.... (read in full...)

She proceeded to climb atop her friend and make out with her intensly, completely ignoring me.

Q.   dear cupid, i am in a very loving strong relationship with my girlfriend and have been for the last 9 months now. last night, she and i were invited to a friend of hers lake house for a small get together. we all got very drunk, I even threw up a ...

A.   17 June 2007: Perhaps she was mad because, maybe...you talk to her like shes a child calling her baby non stop. And when she wanted you go GO AWAY, you kept shoving yourself in her face.... (read in full...)

Does my sister like me MORE than a sister should?

Q.   So, I want to know if a girl likes me. We get on, and can talk about relationships. she does not seem uncomfortable in me mentioning sex, and has on one occasion watched porn with me and my male friends. Also, she does not seem to be uncomfortable...

A.   17 June 2007: Im not sure what to think here. Its not something you can ask a sister is it. But she may just be treating the house as her own when she is walking around not fully dressed. Perhaps all this stuff about porn and not minding you talking about may be ... (read in full...)

I dont want to date her anymore, let alone go to the dinner party, how do I get out of it politely ?

Q.   I've been invited to a dinner party ona date yet to be confirmed with the girl I've been seeing. I suggested dates I could make. It's primarily her friends attending the dinner. I no longer want to see this girl and I don't want to go to the ...

A.   17 June 2007: It would not be nice if she felt you only went to see her when you fancy a sh*g. I hope this is not the case, as that would be horrible. Perhaps you should just message her or email her to say that you did not just want her for sex. ... (read in full...)

Break out your telepathic powers and help me out here, what should I do?

Q.   Alright, then, I have a question. I know this girl locally; met her originally online. She's nearly four months pregnant, and trying to sort out her relationship with the father, who disappeared for a while when he found out she was pregnant and ...

A.   17 June 2007: Wait to see what happens with the kids dad. If its definately over, then ask her. Or talk to her about it. But be prepared to be told that she just sees you as a friend, or that it isnt the right time considering her pregnancy and all. If she just ... (read in full...)

Think my school-teacher was hitting on he... he took time off but is back this week!

Q.   I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school ...

A.   17 June 2007: Its really not your problem, hes an adult and he can look after himself and handle his own problems. You sholdnt feel like you should have to do anything and you shouldnt feel bad. If you attempt to talk to him for whatever reason, he may just try ... (read in full...)

Is it bad I lack experience, sex wise... never done anything with boys

Q.   Im 16 and i have Never had a boy finger me or me do anything for a boy.. seems like everyone else has and i feel embarresed to say that ''i lack in sexual experience'' when personally i dont care but when people ask me.. i get ambarresed.. is this ...

A.   14 June 2007: I used to get embarrest to, but you just have to tell them its none of there business. Your private life is yours only. Whatever you do, dont make things up...because im sure thats what your school mates are doing. Im sure your not the only virgin ... (read in full...)

I've not dated in a while, so I'm in need of tips on how to get a guy to notice me!

Q.   in basic terms i guess my question is how do you get a guy to notice you? i havent had a date in several years and i am going to be moving soon and i want to kind of start over w/ the whole guy thing. ive been told by friends that im a great ...

A.   14 June 2007: I think the most important thing is to be yourself, and if your funny and easy to talk to i shouldnt think you will have any problem. I think always taking pride in your appearence and try to look your best is always good. Not just to attract men, ... (read in full...)

Does Marijuana change the taste of semen ?

Q.   I've had 2 boyfriends, my current and my ex. My ex used to smoke cigarettes and I got him to quit sucessfully for his health and I noticed his semen tasted a bit better after a little while. I haven't gone down on my current boyfriend yet and I'm a ...

A.   14 June 2007: Could it have been a change in your exs diet ? Because apparently theres food that can make it taste better...like pineapple.... (read in full...)

I dont want to date her anymore, let alone go to the dinner party, how do I get out of it politely ?

Q.   I've been invited to a dinner party ona date yet to be confirmed with the girl I've been seeing. I suggested dates I could make. It's primarily her friends attending the dinner. I no longer want to see this girl and I don't want to go to the ...

A.   14 June 2007: I think you will just have to say you cant make it, or tell her your not ready to meet all her friends yet. You can either say your busy, or just tell her the truth. ... (read in full...)

Gf dumped me because of a drunken kiss with another girl! How can I get her back?

Q.   first of all I have been with my girlfriend nearly 5 years. I was out on saturday night and got really really drunk, I ended up kissing another girl which my girlfriend seen. this is totally out of character for me and it has been 2 days since it ...

A.   11 June 2007: If i was you i would give her some space, but your right...dont give up after 5 years if you still really love her. Perhaps if you keep telling her your sorry she will calm down a bit. Maybe you could arrange to meet her when shes ready and show her ... (read in full...)

Think my school-teacher was hitting on he... he took time off but is back this week!

Q.   I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school ...

A.   11 June 2007: Avoid being alone with this teacher, and tell a parents and have them meet up with the school head master or something. He may have done this to other girls and got away with it. Althought you like him and you get on well, he may be trying to you. ... (read in full...)

I like this boy, he's just split from his girlfriend but I just can't tell him I like him!

Q.   Ok so theres this guy I really really like. we are in the same year and I think I'm in love with him. I am only young but I'd honestly take a bullet for him! but heres the thing - we are from completely different worlds. He is mister popular, and ...

A.   19 March 2007: You could wait to prom night, but what if he comes with another girl ? Tell him before prom and maybe you will end up going with him. You just need to tell him, and if he doesnt like you back, you will GET OVER IT. You seriously need to tell this ... (read in full...)

I like this boy, he's just split from his girlfriend but I just can't tell him I like him!

Q.   Ok so theres this guy I really really like. we are in the same year and I think I'm in love with him. I am only young but I'd honestly take a bullet for him! but heres the thing - we are from completely different worlds. He is mister popular, and ...

A.   18 March 2007: You need to think of it this way, if you dont say anything...he will meet another girl and you will have to put up with seeing them together, and KISSING. And that will hurt alot more than just telling him. If you can just tell him, or hint, you may ... (read in full...)

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