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writes:I am 17 and my girlfriend is in the year below me and is 16. I have been with my girlfriend kim for just over 20 months just now and it has always been briulliant. Everything has always been perfect. At the start I was the lovestruck clingy one however over the last year or so we have swapped roles and now she is the way i was in the beginning. I am very close to my group of friends however she rarely makes an effort to talk to them therefore i am constantly choosing between the two which is extremly frustrating. Recently things havent been the same and since she came back from her last holiday we havent gotten to see each other as she is not feelin well and doesnt want me to come see her when shes not well. It has been a week now since she got back and i still havent seen her. However I do really love her. she is a great girlfriend who helped me through a really difficult time. she has no problems. she is beautiful funny and everything i thought i ever wanted.Recnetly things havent been as good we dont talk as much as we used to, we argue more and our sex life is nothing of what it used to be. She claims its only because shes not well but it was getting worse before she wasnt feeling well and even before she went on holiday. However One of my friends mary jane and I have became very close recently. She is in my year and I sit next to her in lots of classes. we get on brilliantly and evven though i have always had feelings for her i have always been able to put them to the back of my mind. However even before things started to not be so good with my ogirlfreind my feelings started to get stronger for her. Now they are stroneger than ever. We have a great laugh with each other and it is really relaxed and fun being with her., I know my girlfriend will is the best option for me as she has pushed me to stay in scholol and get a job and has also helped me through a hard time and now she is helping me to mature and i owe her more for that. But with mary-jane i have fun and feel very happy and excited. What should i do?
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (25 October 2010):
Your relationship with kim may have run its course. Or maybe you both need to talk about it and put a bit more effort into your relationship. Mary jane is proberly a distraction from your issues with kim. Only you know deep down who you really want to be with. But if you leave kim you may end up seriously regreting it.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 You're tiring of your relationship with Kim she's a great girl but now all you have to say about her are not so nice things. Look at this way you had a great 20 months with her, you don't owe her anything except the courtesy of a breakup. It's not fair to have these feelings for Mary Jane and to still be with Kim. Let Kim go, and start getting to know Mary Jane.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): Stick with your girlfriend. What you feel for this 'Mary Jane' seems like a mere flame, soon to burn out. You don't know much about her the way you do with your girlfriend and 20 months is a long time of growth, maturity and love. Thumbs up for you if you could throw all that away. Through the good times and bad times, your girlfriend has been there for you and these feelings you feel for this girl just bloomed out of nowhere because of the absence of your girlfriend.
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