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Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   3 June 2007: Oh no, he wasnt was he. Are you ok, how was he playing with you ? Are you ok ? What happened ?... (read in full...)

Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   24 May 2007: Also, i know a couple with 25 years diffrence, there marriage has lasted and i know they will never divorce.... (read in full...)

Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   24 May 2007: Well i feel like that and my boyfriend is the same age, so i dont think that feeling of ''not sure if its worth it'' is about the age diffrence. I think you should focus on having a good time, i think if the age gap is a problem it will show up soon ... (read in full...)

Two days after fooling around together he got back with his ex! I feel used!

Q.   ok...well..i met this guy awhile ago...and after getting to know each other..we realized that we had feelings for each other..but we decided ignore them because he was currently in a relationship with one of my really close friends. this guy and i ...

A.   22 May 2007: Well, you feel used because you were. Its obviously the ex-friend he loves and wants to be with so just stay away from him. ... (read in full...)

Am I wasting my time chasing this married man?

Q.   Please I need advice! I have been seeing a married man each week at a club but the thing is we havent had sex just kissed and stuff - nothing more. He is always there making sure I get home ok - even helped me when i was drunk. The looks he has on ...

A.   22 May 2007: Well, hes married. He probly has a nice wife, who has always stood by him, and does not deserve to be hurt. Imagine if you were HER. He is obviously a cheater, so why bother, he would only do the same to you. So to avoid being hurt i would just stay ... (read in full...)

Should I tell her I tried drugs while in Amsterdam?

Q.   me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship now for 6 months. we have a healthy relationship. there's just one problem. i'm 23 now and back when i was 19 i went backpacking around the world for 6 months. 2 months were in europe which included...

A.   22 May 2007: You only tried it, you didnt go on some mad drug binge like alot of people when they go to amsterdam. Plus it was more than 3 years ago. I wouldnt mention it, because i dont think its at all important. If she does ever ask, say you tried it once and ... (read in full...)

Is full of poo or is it actually possible that he is being the logical and smart one out of the two of us?

Q.   ok so i meet this guy through mutaul friends it wasnt planned , and i wasnt looking for anything or even thought anything of him but bam we hit it off like right away he took me home that day and he asked for my number so i gave it to him and 2 days ...

A.   22 May 2007: I really dont see why he would even tell his family about you if he didnt have proper feelings for you. ... (read in full...)

My husband threatens to take our son back to India if I do not become submissive! Should I change?

Q.   Hello, My husband was a very nice guy when we married and when we moved from india to USA he couldnt get a decent job and started the trouble and he is very egoistic. now he is a piece of scrap. I have a 6 year old son, I earn and im a ...

A.   22 May 2007: No i dont think you should let him dominate you. I dont live in america but i am sure you will have alot more rights as a woman in america and get alot more help than you would in india. If you earn the money you should keep it away from your ... (read in full...)

I find it hard to take things slow, mainly due to social and cultural pressure.

Q.   As a male member of a dominant male society, i have got used to this behavior where a guy enters in to a relationship with a girl, tries to get as much out of her as possible and once that phase is over, just starts abusing her. Is this normal for ...

A.   22 May 2007: Is that what you want ? To just abuse your girlfriend ? YOU dont have to do that, you can treat your girlfriend with respect, and then she will respect you ALOT more than if you abuse her. Message me if you want as im curious about how you really ... (read in full...)

Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.

Q.   As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...

A.   22 May 2007: I dont think you should worry about your retirement. You are thinking about this as a lifelong relationship and you might not even be together that long. But if you are i think you will come to a solution together.... (read in full...)

Should I tell my mum about my boyfriend as my teacher advised?

Q.   the other day my p.e teacher caught me kissin my boyfriend...(it was after school had finished) my boyfriend is a bit older than me...she said that i have to tell my mum about him or shes going to... but she doesnt know how my mum will react...what ...

A.   22 May 2007: I think you should tell your mum, but i dont really think your teacher has a right to. Just tell her you have a boyfriend and hopefully you and her can understand each other from there. I met my current boyfriend when i was 16 and told my mum about ... (read in full...)

I've thought about him for 5 years. How do I break the ice with him on the train?

Q.   So I met this guy back in college (my freshman year) and there was an attraction between us, but we just never seemed to find the right place or time for anything to happen. I tried to make it apparent that I did want something to happen and I ...

A.   22 May 2007: Why not just say hi. Do you remember what he studied in colledge ? Ask him if he got a job through his course or something like that. Or ask him if he still sees someone you both knew at colledge.... (read in full...)

I met the female work colleague my BF has been spending time with and she acted really weird! Why?

Q.   I just want to know if it's normal for this girl that my bf works with to come to my work and not be able to look at me or introduce herself. We have had problems about 5 or 6 months ago because of this girl and my bf going to her house without ...

A.   18 May 2007: I personally would be VERY worried what they have been getting up to, why would he be going to her house and not telling you. Thats not normal or trustworthy. But you say you can trust him, so...she coulod generally be shy, as sometimes when i meet ... (read in full...)

I met the female work colleague my BF has been spending time with and she acted really weird! Why?

Q.   I just want to know if it's normal for this girl that my bf works with to come to my work and not be able to look at me or introduce herself. We have had problems about 5 or 6 months ago because of this girl and my bf going to her house without ...

A.   18 May 2007: I personally would be VERY worried what they have been getting up to, why would he be going to her house and not telling you. Thats not normal or trustworthy. But you say you can trust him, so...she coulod generally be shy, as sometimes when i meet ... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting because my BF spends so much time joking with other girls online and ignores me?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years now and we are very much in love. The thing is, lately I have been becoming increasingly jealous of the girls that he talks to. He talks to one girl all of the time online and I know that he ...

A.   18 May 2007: I dont think your overreacting. You should ask him what his problem is and why he doesnt make jokes like that with you. I would be well annoyed if i was you.... (read in full...)

My long-term BF is going away with the Army for 3 years and wants to marry me when he gets back, but what if he comes back a changed man?

Q.   Me and my bf had dated for 3 1/2 years off and on. The last time we broke up i left him for another guy. Now me and him are back together and I'm for real about us this time and he says he is too. We have been dating so far for 4 months now. Whe...

A.   18 May 2007: Your only 13-15. Tell him you will talk about it when he gets back. In three years, not only will he be a changed man, but you will be a woman. Wait and see what happens, dont get to wound up about something so serious at your age. ... (read in full...)

I've had 2 abusive relationships in the past and now I like a guy but I'm scared of the cycle repeating itself once again!

Q.   Hi I'm a 26 year old woman who starting at 18 to 21 was in two seperate relationships, both partners were physically, emotionally and mentally abusive to me. I've really liked this guy for the past 8 years, and we've become good friends and noth...

A.   18 May 2007: You have been friends with him for a long time, does he know about your previous relationship. Do you trust this guy ? Do you think he would treat you as bad as your ex-boyfriends did ? If you trust him and beleive he will be good to you, i thin... (read in full...)

My BF of a year is flirt and I'm worried it will lead into him cheating on me!

Q.   Its a simple question. We have been together for a year now I love him but he is a flirt. It has gotten on my nerves kind of and gotten me worried he may have or is going to cheat, yet I dont want to put boundries on him as his house is not a happy ...

A.   18 May 2007: I really understand how you feel, i would hate to be with flirt but at least you are not causeing arguements over it. The only solution i can think of, is to talk to him about it. You just have to sit him down and gently tell him you love him but ... (read in full...)

My son doesn't like my Ex's new girlfriend. What can I do?

Q.   me and my partner broke up 2 weeks ago as he was seeing someone else he said that we didnt sleep together or hug or talk or nothing and thats why it happened i agree we didnt sleep together much no more but the rest is not true he has cheated on me ...

A.   18 May 2007: I know, you just want whats best for your children. Perhaps you could let your son talk to his dad hiself. Tell your ex to stop being an ass.... (read in full...)

I cheated on my bf and he is stressed! Do I start the long process of letting go when there may still be a chance?

Q.   Hey all, it seems to be the end of my 3 and a half year relationship.....at least think it is. Last year I cheated on my boyfriend one night with my ex and although everyone said it was never going to happen- he took me back. What I encountered was ...

A.   18 May 2007: Yes i am entitled to my opinon. And as i said, which was my main point (which you seem to have ignored that bit), that perhaps he feels insecure still and thinks you may do it again.... (read in full...)

Why would he lose inerest, post-sex?

Q.   Why would a guy loose interest in the girl once he had sex with her? ...

A.   18 May 2007: Guys like the chase. Plus he was only interested in sex and when he got it he was no longer interested.... (read in full...)

It was more than just sex for me. He got back with his ex and now I feel so used. What can I do to feel good again?

Q.   I feel like completely shit!!! I started seeing a guy who i met through a friend immediately after he just finished with his girlfriend.. we spent the night we met chatting about it and i told him that I know how he feel but in time he'll get o...

A.   15 May 2007: I dont agree with loretta at all.You have not done this to yourself. This man was wounded and you were the only one to give a shit. You were there for him and now hes stung you. I know that he was on the rebound, but from your point of view he was ... (read in full...)

Why can't I get him off my mind?

Q.   I'm ready to give up on life, ive tried and tried to get the love of my life of my mind. I just don't know what to do anymore, everything ive been told makes sense but i just cant seem to do anything about it. Its unbeleivable how much i love this ...

A.   15 May 2007: Does this guy know how you feel ? Yes, love does hurt. And its a bitch isnt it. I know it probly feels like your never going to stop hurting, but eventually you will think about him less. Trust me, slowly but surely you will find other things to do ... (read in full...)

I slept with another guy during our break and after my bf and I got back together he found out about it and ditched me. Will he love me again?

Q.   Until a few days ago I'd been with my boyfriend for 3 years, while on a break about a year ago i was extremely drunk (not that that is a good excuse) and slept with one of my closest guy friends but never had the courage to tell my boyfriend as we ...

A.   15 May 2007: Who decided to have a break. If it was you, then he probly thinks you wanted a break so you have it off with someone else. If if was him, then he should shut up wingeing. You were not together, and although i can see why he will feel a upset. He ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my bf and he is stressed! Do I start the long process of letting go when there may still be a chance?

Q.   Hey all, it seems to be the end of my 3 and a half year relationship.....at least think it is. Last year I cheated on my boyfriend one night with my ex and although everyone said it was never going to happen- he took me back. What I encountered was ...

A.   15 May 2007: You say you want to slap him for all the work hes put in and that he may be giving up on. Have you thought that maybe after all this working, and trying to get over what you did...hes just realised that maybe your not worth it. Perhaps he would ... (read in full...)

I don't feel badly that I cheated on her with a 14 year girl! Any advice?

Q.   i an 18 and i have a 15 year old girlfriend. i cheated on her with a 14 year old. this isnt the first time this has happened. i dont really feel bad about it either. what should i do?...

A.   15 May 2007: Well, as you 18 i would advise that you STOP SHAGGING UNDERAGE GIRLS. Now your 18 you can get done for it. Just because these kids consented doesnt mean you cant get into trouble. I would break up with your girlfriend so you can do it with whoever ... (read in full...)

My son doesn't like my Ex's new girlfriend. What can I do?

Q.   me and my partner broke up 2 weeks ago as he was seeing someone else he said that we didnt sleep together or hug or talk or nothing and thats why it happened i agree we didnt sleep together much no more but the rest is not true he has cheated on me ...

A.   15 May 2007: Tell your ex your son does not want to go out with him and his new woman and tell him the bad state he comes home in when hes been out with them. If this man cant respect you, you should still demand he respect his kids. ... (read in full...)

how to get the guy to notice you!!

Q.   hey girls and guys ever wanted to know if there is some secret to getting guys to notice you well ta da there is and im gonna tell you it: step1. make yourself noticed, don't be too obvious make him wanna come over to you. step2. if and when h...

A.   8 May 2007: A girl should not just go back to a guys place when she has only just met him. She could get into alot of trouble going to his house so soon. Dont be silly.... (read in full...)

My friend thinks I'm stalking him and is saying nasty things to me, why is he being like this?

Q.   Hi there, Me and a guy were friends. We are part of the same group of friends. We all went out as a group most wkds. Well we ended up sleeping together, a few times. It all seemed fine neither of us wanted a relationship due to coming out of...

A.   8 May 2007: He sounds like a paranoid little freak. Dont bother with him at all. Just ignore him completely. He should not have been rude to you, but dont go to him to have ago at him. Im sure you will bump into him or he will come up to you at some point in ... (read in full...)

I get subjected to social pressure to sleep with women, but I don't want it this way. How do I get this message across to the women I date?

Q.   For most of the childhood and as an adult, i have been craving for affection from women, as i did not get it from my emotionally closed mother. As a result, i have groomed my personality to be one that is attractive to women. In the process, i get ...

A.   2 May 2007: I think you need to say to anyone who preassures you, that you have had enough of sleeping with woman you dont know. Woman will like that you want a proper relationship. The best way to get the message across, is to say the message outright to ... (read in full...)

Why does my friend get made fun of at school?

Q.   At school my friend gets make fun of for no reason. For example they look at her and just laugh really loud or smile. She didn't do anything wrong. Why is this happening? I don't know why?...

A.   23 April 2007: Because people are stupid. Stand up to them, ask them. Most people back down when they think you might take them on.... (read in full...)

Since we started dating, I feel she is scared of and she never flirts with me anymore. What's going on?

Q.   Please I need help with my girlfriend. its nothing blatant - its kind of subtle but its killing me inside and I need to know what to do :(. Every since we started going out, I swear shes been scared of me. She kinda never flirts with me. Its hard to ...

A.   23 April 2007: Sometimes its easier to joke/flirt around with someone when its not likely tp progress to something more serious. Perhaps she feels that as you are girlfriend and boyfriend, if she jokes around with you, it may lead to something more serious. Let ... (read in full...)

I'm tired of my boyfriend's ex-wife's stuff lying around, including old condom wrappers. What can I do?

Q.   Dear Cupid, My bf and I had a huge row this weekend. We've been dating for a year and he's recently asked me to move in with him. I accepted and we were in the process of making room in his house for all my stuff. The problem is, his ex-wife'...

A.   23 April 2007: He should really do it. Im worried that keeping all her stuff is a way of keeping hold of there relationship. Are you sure hes over her ?. If it was my house, i would deffinately get rid of my exs stuff. Why dont you collect it all up for him, and ... (read in full...)

How can I tell my rather strict parents that I have a boyfriend?

Q.   ..i know this is kinda stupid but here goes! how can u tell ur sorta strict parents when it comes to guys that u have a bf..cuz i don't want them to think in the back of their heads that when i say i am out with my friends they'll thinkl i am out ...

A.   23 April 2007: My mum was really strict about boys with me. She said i was not aloud to have a boyfriend untill i had a full career. Which i would be like 25 or something stupid. But when i told her about my current boyfriend and she met him, she really liked him. ... (read in full...)

We are working on getting our relationship back on track, there are many things that affected his children, they dont want to talk to me and I dont blame them! I want to make all this right and need some guidance!

Q.   I'm not going to make any excuses for what you are about to read but I hope that you can see that I am a very genuine person who fully realises the mistakes she has made and is trying to make amends. I hope someone out there can offer me some words ...

A.   18 April 2007: I dont beleive you can be trusted with these children. I dont see what you mean about me being able to justify violnece in one sense but not another. I replying on the way you treated the children. What other violence was there ? Eveyone gets ... (read in full...)

We are working on getting our relationship back on track, there are many things that affected his children, they dont want to talk to me and I dont blame them! I want to make all this right and need some guidance!

Q.   I'm not going to make any excuses for what you are about to read but I hope that you can see that I am a very genuine person who fully realises the mistakes she has made and is trying to make amends. I hope someone out there can offer me some words ...

A.   17 April 2007: I dont really think you should live with these boys anymore. You have hit them about, and you didnt have any right to even try to sort there behaviour out. You should have gone to there father and let him deal with them. Where is there natural ... (read in full...)

We are both virgins and his penis is too big, so we cant get it up!?

Q.   my boyfriend and I are both virgins and his penis is too big that we cannot get it up ! what can we do ?...

A.   7 April 2007: What do you mean. It doesnt matter how big he is he is still capable of getting an erection. If he cannot get it up he is most likely just stressed out.... (read in full...)

Everyone thinks we're an item...

Q.   Ok, Im 14 and so is the guy i like. I started talking to him a few days ago, and we already went shopping today (not just us 2, but my other friends were there aswel). We just messed about today, talked and basically had fun. I am a tiny bit overw...

A.   7 April 2007: I know it is easier said than done, but you have to tell him. He wouldnt comment you if he didnt think something of you. Just ask him out, he will most likely say yes. And if he did say no, just say you obviously got it mixed up and thought you ... (read in full...)

She feels she loves me and could stay with me forever because I am an amazing person, but that feeling of being "in love" is not there...

Q.   Me and my g/f dated for 4 years. At the beginning everything was incredible. She had been in a 7 year relationship a year before and she would tell everyone that she had never felt what she had with me before and never knew it existed. We grew so ...

A.   6 April 2007: She may still have the feelings of resentment for dumping her in the first place. You dumped here and it showed her you were not as great and trustworthy as she may have thought you were. ... (read in full...)

Should your boyfriend of 8 years have a friend you don't know that he knows and grew up with who do personal favors for each other?

Q.   my question is should your boyfriend of 8 years have a friend you don't know that he knows and grew up with who do personal favors for each other....

A.   6 April 2007: What kind of personal favours, if sexual...then NO he shouldnt. If its just little things like...getting him a good deal on a caer or something along them lines...then it should not be a big problem. Is this friend male or female, Tell him you want ... (read in full...)

Is he going to turn up or was it just a joke?

Q.   hello please help right ive got this friend and today his friends asked me out for him over the internet and i said yes but i dont know if they were lying or not. and tomorrow they said that if i want to go out and ive just asked the guy if we were ...

A.   6 April 2007: Well, why dont you hover around the area to see if he shows up. If he isnt there and you have waited for a while...then just go. Really though, it would be best if you just said, are you being serious or are you messing me around because you better ... (read in full...)

Im hating the summer before its here! I cant stand my bf looking at all those pretty girls!

Q.   I feel angry and jealous when the warmer weather comes b/c i feel like my b/f probably sees so many attractive girls(he works outside and near alot of stores). I also feel jealous b/c it seems he has less time for me in the summer b/c he is busy ...

A.   29 March 2007: You will loose him if you worry to much or be moody with him. You just need to embrace the summer and concentrate on your OWN beauty, not everyone elses. You have to remember that these pretty girls have insecuritys and get hurt aswell. And you are ... (read in full...)

Getting married on 12th April and need ideas for a romantic tune to walk into the registry office to!!

Q.   Hi guys, Shandy Pop here. Sorry this may sound a bit trivial, well it's not the sort of question that is asked on this site, BUT I am getting married on 12th April and i need your help. I need a song (tune), romantic, to walk into the Registry Off...

A.   29 March 2007: I can think of some tunes but i cant think of the names. Buy a love songs CD and go through them. ... (read in full...)

How can you stop loving someone!!?

Q.   How do you stop liking/loving someone? Thanks to people who reply to this question....

A.   29 March 2007: I think it happens gradually. ... (read in full...)

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