I've been on the receiving end of a cheater!
Q. I'm open to hearing what you have to say about this. Have any of you ever had an affair, or had someone cheat on YOU yourself? If so, what was the outcome? For those having the affair, if it was found out and suddenly out in the open, which ...
A. 21 February 2010: The first thing you need to do is quite trying to rationalize the possibility that you are in some way at fault for this affair. You are the victim. As long as you BF/husband is willing to end the cheating, there is a chance for you and him to ... (read in full...)
When ever there is a private moment my stepdaughter flaunts herself
Q. I am a man in his early 50's,,very fit and keep in good shape.I am also married with 2 teenage daughters,and another step daughter from my wife's previous marriage.We all had a lovely pleasant family unity until my step daughter started maturing and ...
A. 21 February 2010: You are the adult. And like it or not, you need to put her in her place. Let her mother know what is going on. This wil save you a lot of heartbreak in the future.
Good Luck,
Jeff... (read in full...)
How should I proceed, following our blind date?
Q. I went on a blind date this weekend. Prior to the date we spoke, emailed, and texted quite often for a week. When we met, I liked her immediately. We spent 5 hours together and had a great time... I think, hahaha. We got cozy with each other... a ...
A. 26 January 2010: She is intrested. If she wasn't, she would not have spent five hours with you. I don't trust voice mail. I don't know how many times I got a voice mail a few days after it was actually sent. I say give it a day and then call her again. Let her ... (read in full...)
My son's 18 year old friend wants to have sex with me - I'm 45! What do I do?
Q. I'm a 45 year old woman and I have a eighteen year old son. My son has a friend who is also eighteen. Yesterday I found out he is possibly going to Iraq within a month. He told me he's had a huge crush on me and that he wanted to have sex with me ...
A. 25 January 2010: If your 45 year old friend wanted to have sex with your 18 year old son what would your response be?
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Child support situation...
Q. Im am in the military and when i enlisted I have told my recruiter that I have children. I only told him that i have two since there are the only daughters that were born in the U.S. He has told me just not to say anything about them and just get in ...
A. 25 January 2010: Ok, heres the deal. If you were never married to the previous woman and you are only on one of the childrens birth certificate, the Army will not recognize the children as yours. You will have to prove paternity in order to add the other daughters ... (read in full...)
Child support situation...
Q. Im am in the military and when i enlisted I have told my recruiter that I have children. I only told him that i have two since there are the only daughters that were born in the U.S. He has told me just not to say anything about them and just get in ...
A. 25 January 2010: Here you go. I am a Soldier in the Army (19 yrs). You will not be in trouble with the military when you disclose that you have 4 children instead of 2. But here is what you need to do. Inorder to register the kids in DEERS (Id Card) you need a ... (read in full...)
I told him I loved him and now I feel foolish
Q. He and I have been dating for 4 months, but known each other for 5 years. We actually dated for a year, but remained friends all this time. On wednesday while we were out to dinner, I told him that I love him. He didnt say it back, but he said ...
A. 25 January 2010: I think you are beating yourself up for no reason. Give him time. He knows how you feel now, and I think thats a good thing. I really believe that "actions" do indeed speak louder than words. And if everything you wrote is correct, there is no ... (read in full...)
Should he get the DNA test or should I leave the situation alone?
Q. Ok so my bf and I have been going out for about 10 months, in that time we broke up and got back together. Well i guess during that breakup period or while we were still together(still trying to figure that part out) he met some girl and they were ...
A. 25 January 2010: Get the DNA test. If Not for you, if not for him, if not for the other woman, then do it for the baby. Don't forget that after all settles, the only innocent one is this baby. If he is the father, he owes it to this child to "man up" and be ... (read in full...)
I have to pretend to be satisfied with my husband during sex and I feel really bad for doing this!
Q. Hi, Im married since a year and half, my husband loves me a lot and I have satisfy him sexually.... My problem is, I really love to have sex with m hubby and its me who always start first, when he starts to kiss and all I feel so good but after w...
A. 25 January 2010: Honesty in the bedroom is definetly the best policy. Woman sometimes confuse ejaculation for satisfication. I usaually finish (ejaculate) during sex, but that doesn't mean I let satisfied. So don't be suprised if he too is not satisfied with your ... (read in full...)
Should I do this to save my marriage? Or is it blackmail and should I call a lawyer?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years this March. During the second year of our marriage, his business tanked and he needed money fast. A friend of ours, Jeff, generously offered a full no-interest loan that allowed my husband to save ...
A. 25 January 2010: You need to put an end to this right now. The best thing to do is to come clean to your husband and tell him everything. This is somthing that hapened 14 years ago. You have been torturing yourself for too long. The last thing you need to do is ... (read in full...)
How can I move a crush forward?
Q. I live along with my 3 boys my eldest has now moved out. My bf hhas not lived with me and at the way we are going I do not think are relationship is ever going to change. I want more and I am now ready to move on. I met a guy at him family busin...
A. 24 January 2010: First thing you need to do is get rid of the extra baggage. If the other relationship isn't panning out, you owe it to both parties to end it so that both are able to continue their lives. I know that the current B/F is a safetynet, but I can ... (read in full...)
We met online, but he hasn't asked to meet in person. What's going on?
Q. I received an email from a very polite and good looking man from an online dating site. He said he was looking to expand his circle of friends to do more things...and emailed me to say hello. He also described himself as very laid back, and a bit of...
A. 23 January 2010: The Monday-Thursday emails are a bit odd, but he has only emailed you six times, so I am willing to give him th benefit of the doubt. Maybe he is a caring guy who doesn't want to move too fast.
Now on to the real advice:
1. Get his first an... (read in full...)
Does this mean anything or am I just kidding myself that he cares?
Q. Wow, This may be too log for some but here goes. I had been with my husband for 7 years. The last three were awful. I treated him like crap and it was as though he didn't exist. I was never intimate with him and we never even slept in the sam...
A. 23 January 2010: As crazy as it may be, this man still loves you. Men don't hang around and cuddle unless we are intrested. It can be that he is trying to get in your pants (so to say) because he has been there. This guy truely loves you.
I suggest that you... (read in full...)
Scared to get an HIV test because if I test positive, my new guy will dump me!
Q. I am scared of getting an hiv test. Me and my boyfriend broke up for eight months and then I got a new boyfriend and slept with with out protection. I broke up with him because he was annoying. We only dated for two months. He has never been checked ...
A. 23 January 2010: If you test positive, the last thing you are going to worry about is him breaking up. If you think there is the slightest chance that you have HIV you need to do see a doctor. No if's, no and's or but's about it.
Jef... (read in full...)
Is he over me now that he took my virginity?
Q. Ive been seeing a guy for about 8 months now, from the start he has been chasing me. he is 26 and i have just turned 20. We both have a lot in common and are comfortable around each other. we see each other as often as we can (3-4 times a week)and ...
A. 23 January 2010: Its not over, its just begining.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Can someone get pregnant without sexual intercourse?
Q. Hey, I'm pretty much messed up right now and way too worried. I'm still a virgin as I have not had sexual intercourse yet. However, the other day I was lying on bed with my boyfriend and we were playing around, we had our underwear on and...
A. 23 January 2010: You are not pregnant. The sickness and the other symptoms are just nerves. So relax already. But now that this scare is over, you need to remember to use safe sex. It is so easy to let a little bt of heavy petting turn into intercourse. You ... (read in full...)
Doctor did not exam me to determine how far pregnant I am
Q. Ok so 2 weeks ago I did a home pregnancy test and it came out positive so I took another one just to be on the safe side. This also had the same outcome. I went to my local supermarket and bought a clear blue digital one and this one came out ...
A. 23 January 2010: This is normal. Though gestation is pure science, doctors rely on patient information to guess the conception date. These dates will change when you begin having ultrasounds. And it is not uncommon for a doctor to adjust your due date throughout ... (read in full...)
Dry and unable to orgasm. How can I fix it?
Q. dear sir/madam i was just wondering why im so dry when me and my sex partner have sex and why is so hard for me to cum. can somebody please give a suggestion wat i can do bout my situation....
A. 23 January 2010: The dryness could be a result of little on no foreplay. When a woman is stimulated, she releases natural lubricants. The more stimulated you get, the more lubricants are released.
If the problem isn't foreplay related, try an over the counter ... (read in full...)
Which is the better buy - Fujifilm or Panasonic camera's?
Q. Hi, i recently asked a question about a fujifilm camera for my gf, but now am wondering if a fujifilm or a panasonic would be a better buy? ANy suggestions would be most welcome, Many thanks...
A. 23 January 2010: I am an avid amateur photographer, I suggest on getting a Nikon SLR (digital) camera. If I had to choose between your two cameras, I would go with the Fuji.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
7 years on and he still has excuses not to marry me
Q. Ok i just dont know what to do anymore. I was married for eighteen years. It was rocky marriage and stayed for the children. I was filing for divorce and had met this man that swept me off my sweet. He pursued me so strongly. He was so honest and ...
A. 23 January 2010: What you need to do is give him an ultimatum. Let him know where you would like to be in 6 months from now (marriage), and if he doesn't tie the knot you have to be willing to walk away.
I hate suggest ultimatums, but if it is necessary (and it ... (read in full...)
My husband is divorcing me
Q. My husband is divorcing me, doesn't want mediation or to explain why he's divorcing me specifically. He just says it's too late, I tell him he's not even trying! He's tried to commit suicide when we were having financial problems and they gave him ...
A. 23 January 2010: This relationship is poison. You are a your woman and have a whole life ahead of you. What your husband needs is professional help. This is really out of your hands. Let him go before he hurts himself or worse, you. You need to surround ... (read in full...)
BF wants our LDR to become an open relationship
Q. I have been in a relationship with my guy for over 8 yrs now..since like school days....but it has always been a long distance relationship.. when we started i used to look very pretty and was a very confident girl....n he found this very attracti...
A. 23 January 2010: Open relationship? Is he serious? Drop this guy before you waste another second with him. If we wants to see other people, let him. But you need to move on. Don't debate this or entertain anymore of his ideas. You seem like an intelligant ... (read in full...)
Question to the male aunts...
Q. How many men could accept the fact that they are returning to a relationship to which they feel that their wife has been with someone more manly than themselves while separated, even though their spouse may have changed things about themselves for ...
A. 23 January 2010: Well, unless you tell your husband that the guy you were seeing last had a bigger penis than he does, I don't see how he would find out. The vagina is an amazing organ. It can accomidate a baby and then shrink down to its original size. I doubt ... (read in full...)
Question to the male aunts...
Q. How many men could accept the fact that they are returning to a relationship to which they feel that their wife has been with someone more manly than themselves while separated, even though their spouse may have changed things about themselves for ...
A. 22 January 2010: Explain more "manly". Do you mean bigger penis? Or does more manly things like watch football, fix cars, grunt....
Jeff... (read in full...)
Happy couple, wife meeting with ex umm friend
Q. Before we got married, my wife had a relationship with another GUY whom she wouldn't quite call a boyfriend. According to her, she liked the GUY as a friend and loved to spent time with him because he was very romantic in nature. She never had sex ...
A. 22 January 2010: This is a tough one. So, I placed myself in your shoes and reread your question. If I were you, I would not confront my wife. Here are my reasons:
1. You say that the relationship is great. Cheaters tend to show many outward signs. Comming ... (read in full...)
If I forgave him, why do I still feel the hatred inside me?
Q. Hey, I was just wondering if anyone feels the same way that I do now. My ex and I broke up 8 months ago, he cheated on me. A little later we became friends after that, only friends. I forgave him of his fault but ofcourse we are not back, we just ...
A. 22 January 2010: The reason you feel the way you do is that it is easier to say "I forgive you" than it is to "forget and move on." Heres the deal, you have every right to be upset and even good reason to leave this guy. But you chose to stay. I commend you for ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I got a tatoo?
Q. hey guys just a little question, how can i tell my parents i got a tattoo?? its only a small one on my back and i am of age to get a tattoo, its not against the rules of my house to get one, i live at home and recently got my ears pierced my dad ...
A. 22 January 2010: Don't tell him. Its not like you will be prancing around the house shirtless. And if for some reason or way he acciedently sees it, what is he going to do, make you remove it? I could see how a parent would be hurt that their little girl mark her ... (read in full...)
Wife hints at a threesome, should I surprise her one day or keep it as a fantasy?
Q. I have always been turned on with the idea of a MMF threesome with my wife. Not Bisexual in anyway, just for her. The other day we had a couple drinks and we started fooling around, the topic came up and she told me the type of guy she would wa...
A. 22 January 2010: Keep it a fantasy. There are just some fantasies that nedd to remain fantasies. Talking about it and actually doing it are the differences between night and day.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
I'm scared to let him give me oral in case I smell!
Q. heyy, i am in a relationship and love this guy a lot but i stop him going to give me oral because i am paranoid that i smell down there. can you give me any advice on how to over come this? thank you =)...
A. 21 January 2010: I really think you are worried about nothing. Just relax. If you just can't relax, make sure that you wash below with soap and water (exterior only). No perfume or sprays. Trust me. He will love it, and so will you.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
I am not happy with him and wasn't before we got married either. How do I find the strength to leave him?
Q. I just got married a few months ago. I am not happy with the marriage. I am not in love with my husband. I made a mistake getting married. I knew in my heart that it wasn't right for me, but there was a glimmer of hope things would change after we ...
A. 21 January 2010: Before you waste any more of his or your time, let him know that you would like a divorce. I know it seems like a daunting task, but in this situation, there is no better time than the present. Don't drag this on for months or years because you ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for getting upset over my girlfriend chatting to men late into the night?
Q. Hey everyone, I could REALLY use your independent opinions on a big issue I'm having with my GF! Help! Now, either I am nuts and the problem's all mine, or she's not treating me right! Please help me figure this out! We've been going out for...
A. 21 January 2010: They way I look at this, you really don't have a lot of time vested in this relationship. One month is about the time when you start finding all the nuances in a relationship. Count your stars you didn't find out aboout her chatting after you ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to prostitutes!
Q. Can I regain trust in my husband, married for 28 years found out 3 weeks ago he has been seeing prostitutes for 11 years but stopped 14 months ago because he found one 55 miles away that he has seen twice a week, bought lots of presents for etc. ...
A. 21 January 2010: Here is what you need to do, and in this order:
1. Kick his butt out of your house
2. Contact a divorce lawyer
3. Get tested for STDs and AIDs
4. Make an appt for counseling
5. Get on with your life
This wasn't a one time lapse ... (read in full...)
He got one of his friends pregnant while we were dating. Should I trust him and stay with him?
Q. When I first started dating my now boyfriend he texted me all the time. I really believed we had a connection. However after dating him for a little less than a month he slept with one of his friends and got her pregnant. He told me right away that ...
A. 21 January 2010: Any connection you thought you had vanished when he slep with someone other than you. Run, don't walk away from this relationship.
Jeff... (read in full...)
Our wild sex life has gone stale! How can we keep it hot?
Q. Any ideas on keeping sex exciting? Me and the better half have hit a bit of a brick wall, we started fast and now have no where to go When we met my other half had not had sex for 3 years and I was just out of a marriage where I hated having sex...
A. 20 January 2010: I haven't tried most of the things on you "sex list" and me and my wife have a wonderful, exciting, and pleasurable sex life. As corney as it sounds, I just love making love to her. Though sex is a very important part of any relationship, there is ... (read in full...)
A question for men on attraction...
Q. This is a question for men. Have you ever found yourself attracted to women that you may not have been attracted to when you first met. Or is the determination set from the moment you meet....
A. 20 January 2010: This fits my wife to a tee! When I first met her, she was engaged. I thought she was pretty, but knowing she was going to be married, I never looked at her as a possible mate. It wasn't until we started dating (long story and no cheating BTW), ... (read in full...)
He's not everything I want in a man... and I'm marrying him in a months time!!!
Q. Hi i am a 27 year old female getting married in a months time. i met this guy a year back and liked him, he proposed to me and we dated for 6 months before saying yes to the marriage. But I am very confused whether to get married or not as i ...
A. 20 January 2010: Don't marry him. I don't say this because he isn't the "perfect" man, I say this because you don't love him. You don;t marry a person because you like him. You are doing a disservice to both you and your fiance. On the other point, you will ... (read in full...)
Virginity question
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with a great guy,love him to bits. The problem is we had sex a while ago for the first time and we both said it was our first time. The thing is I had dated another guy (for like 2 years) before going out with the...
A. 20 January 2010: You were a virgin. There are many things in life a person forgets, but losing your virginity is not one of them. You can rest assured that the moment between you and the new boyfriend can now be etched into your mind as the day you lost your ... (read in full...)
What does he mean when he says I'm in trouble?
Q. I made a silly mistake of having a one week affair with a man on my job. He was the cutest thing I had ever seen. I just wanted to sleep with him and nothing more-especially since he is married 33 yrs. I heard he was a play boy and run through ...
A. 20 January 2010: I would tell him firmly to quit texting you. If he continues, turn him into a manager/supervisor. He sounds like a nut case. I wouldn't take my chances.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
I cannot carry on for another 20 years like this, what would you do if you were in this situation?
Q. My husband and I moved to our present home 11 years ago because his job changed. Three months later it changed again and he had to go back and work in the town we had moved from. Since then he has been travelling about 100 miles a day for his job. ...
A. 20 January 2010: I hear where you are coming from, but you need I need to applaud your husband. When times got tough, instead of tossing in the towel, he continued to provide for your family. Many Americans have given up hope, but your husband seems to continue ... (read in full...)
What helps to get rid of stretch marks?
Q. Okay I was just wondering what would get rid of stretch marks? I have stretch marks due to pregnancy, really bad ones. My belly looks like it has pink Zebra stripes. I've heard Maderma helps them to fade, what else helps them to fade? And in the ...
A. 20 January 2010: My wife had laser treatments that worked really well.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregnant from this?
Q. Today my boyfriend and I dry humped. He ended up cumming and we humped for like 15 seconds after he went. He had his boxers on and I had my underwear on. We weren't aware that the tip of penis had slipped right above the elastic of his boxers. He ...
A. 20 January 2010: You are not pregnant. But use this as a learning tool. Be more careful and make him wear a condom.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
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