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writes:I'm a 45 year old woman and I have a eighteen year old son. My son has a friend who is also eighteen. Yesterday I found out he is possibly going to Iraq within a month. He told me he's had a huge crush on me and that he wanted to have sex with me before he left.(my son wasn't home) I told him I'd think about it. Should I do it. He's very cute. He is risking his life to protect us. He promised he wouldn't tell my son. Should I grant him his last wish? I'm willing to but don't know if I should.
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reader, ReturningtheFavor +, writes (30 January 2010):
I might be biased becuase i was a former soldier and i am a man, but if you are single and he is too, then get it on! THere is nothing wrong with it. It sex! I know I would be stoked to have had a Mrs. Robinson
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reader, planetanarchy +, writes (28 January 2010):
Wow ... well ...I'd like to respond to this in a few different ways. One without judgement, and another, very clearly opinionated and judgemental.You are a mom, so you must be able to relate to this: If you care about this boy's future and sexual and emotional development, then you should guide him to date girls his own age. And you are not respecting your son either by going on with this. Looking for approval on the internet from people to justify something you know is clearly wrong - is not going to help with your guilt down the line, believe me.I want to tell you about an experience I had dating a guy, who lost his virginity to a teacher in highschool when he was around 17, or 18. (I was 23 he was 21 when we started seeing each other. Let me tell you, it wrecked him with women for life. He ended up being only able to date women at least 10 years his age, and he NEVER grew up. He always looked for a woman who would take care of him, nurture him like a mother- and ended up finally "settling" with an older woman, who literally walked, talked, acted and looked like his mother.The boy has issues, and you have some as well, as unmet needs that you are seriously considering this. Be a good healthy parent, and do the right thing here, and guide the poor horny boy in the right direction.PS: You would be disrepecting your son by becoming his friend's MILF- there is no greater dihonor to a poor young boy than his freind screwing his mom. Come on Mom! get real!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Um so just cos he has a crush you are flattered and want to open your legs just like that. Ew
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): You must not respect your son at all. Aren't you supposed to be the mature one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): GET SOME CLASS, WOMAN. How gross, what if when you were 18 your friend was like moving and she told your dad she wanted to have sex with him and he said he'd think about it. AND WHAT IF THEY DID, you'd hate her guts and his too. Your son will eventually find out and hate his friend and hate you too and he will think you are a whore. ALL FOR WHAT? A "cute" 18-year old? GROW UP.
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reader, ADR386 +, writes (26 January 2010):
 As someone who has enjoyed his share of MILF porn, I don't have any prejudice against sexual relations between people with a notable age difference. But for someone who's raising a teenage boy, you seem to be unfamiliar with the staple of their joke repertoire: the "I banged your mom" and its variants. Sure, he says he won't tell your son, but again; you're 45, you should know boys will say whatever they can think of to get in your pants (I once told a girl my mother was part of the Kennedy family).
If you really need to get stuck by a teenage boy, find one who won't be able to ruin your son's social life.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 January 2010):
 What a mix of responses here, but it brings out my permissive nature. If you are unmarried, unattached or even if in a failed relationship, then my own past life cannot allow me to find fault in such an experience for either of you. As a young man I cannot deny experiences with older women, nor as an older man, the other way around.
The age factor is totally immaterial and only raised by those with some narrow-minded prejudice against age, or against sexual expression and liberation. But you may indeed run some risk that the young soldier may not be able to keep his mouth shut about it, at least someday. My advice: Enjoy if you feel very comfortable about it, and teach him something he doesn't know. grin
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reader, mylove09 +, writes (26 January 2010):
Re-read ur question and ask ur self if it sound right?
to me it sounds gross and immature to even consider that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): are you married?
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reader, monkiegurl +, writes (26 January 2010):
if you want to have sex with by all means have at it girl he's a young boie who wants to due his friends MILF...
but has for "his last wish" - i hate to break it to ya but Iraq is done for; NO major war is going on now- so he will be more n likely bond to be coming back home after he deployment.
but again he's a young buck and if thats what creams your twinkie than GO GET IT MAMA do your share of service and serve that boie whom is serving our country!!!
my boyfriend is a marine!!! ;)
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 Yeah after that, this friend of your son will do a big joke to your son. think this is 18 years old and a friend of your son dont you think one day they dont go together for a drink and talk about it. its a big shame for your son. i would suggest to think about respecting the dignity of your son.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (25 January 2010):
 If your 45 year old friend wanted to have sex with your 18 year old son what would your response be?
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): You don't seem to be a mature woman for your age!No sorry it is very wrong as it is your sons friend!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 January 2010):
 Personally I wouldn't. I can't ( never could) do sex casually.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 January 2010):
I'm seeing an older woman, so I know how much fun it can be! Go for it. Just make sure you do it when your son isn't around AT ALL. Maybe go out somewhere to a hotel to be on the safe side.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (25 January 2010):
 Boys are boys and if he and your son fall out it may come out. You should be flattered that you are attracted to him but find someone who has not connections to your son. You only live once. Go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): Go for it. Send your son on some errands that will take at least an hour. Then do it. No regrets.
Good luck.
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reader, SeXylOvE12 +, writes (25 January 2010):
 absolutely not!!!!
Think of what an alienation to your son that would be!! Think how awful it would be if the boy lied to you and said things to your son about it? Would your son ever speak to you again??
If he's 18 and has a crush on you im assuming you're attractive. Try for men closer to your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): He's legal and adult. So it's entirely up to you. Of course, your son might not like it. But why should you tip-toe around him, I am sure he would have sex with a woman even if you wouldn't like it.
Although as for the "protecting us" part, I do not agree. The war is over there not in your homeland, but thats besides the point. Just dont have sex with him because he "protects" you and you feel you owe him. Have sex with him because you want to. And unless you think he will die, I dont think this will be his "last wish" either. Plus imagine how many others he might have asked this last wish of...
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