Can a labia majora be docked?
Q. my best friend has a quite big labia majora and a friend of us suggested her that she should put a rubber round it so it can cut out(docked),like people do it on dog's tails.is that ok?i am worried about her......
A. 11 January 2010: Not a good idea. Better yet, a terrible idea.
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I like Chris but I slept with his brother who now says he loves me
Q. OK well I started the basic training for my job (Navy) about a year ago, this lasts 3 months and we are told from the start that it is the most intense 3 months you will ever have to work. What happens is you are given a date that you will be ...
A. 10 January 2010: As soon as you slept with his brother, your chances for a relationship with Chris went out the door.
You seem to be a nice girl, and I applaud you for serving your country. But as they say, "you made your bed, and now you must sleep in it."
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Daughter and boyfriend sponging off of us and we can't afford it!
Q. Our daughter has recently turned 18 and left school about 18 months ago,since she left school she hasn't worked or done any schooling.She refuses to get a job and comes up with every excuse in the book why she cant get a job or even look for one. T...
A. 10 January 2010: I hate to say it, but you seem to be part of the problem that you are complaining about. I know you have made the choices that you have made due to the love you have for your daughter, but you are doing nothing more than adding fuel to the fire.
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Why do men lie on social networks?
Q. Why do guys lie on "social network" sites? He lies about how much money he makes,how successful his little business is, his personality, his past, you name it. He has also asked women from other countries to come here (USA) after exchanging just a ...
A. 10 January 2010: Not all men lie, but the ones that do might use the Net as a way to get away from real life. The annominity of the internet is both intriguing as it is scarey. Behind the keyboard a person can be anything: rich, goodlooking, successful, younger.
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Are they mind games or is he scared of his feelings?
Q. Recently the man I was seeing decided that he was confused about his feelings and wanted no contact for an indeterminate period of time. I have totally respected that request, despite feeling pretty bad myself - I have not phoned, texted, emailed or ...
A. 10 January 2010: With that, I would err on the side of a mid-life-crisis. Its probably time for him to take a step back and reevaluate the situation. So I suggest you give him a bit of time (no more than a month) to figure out where YOU factor in his life.
If he... (read in full...)
Are they mind games or is he scared of his feelings?
Q. Recently the man I was seeing decided that he was confused about his feelings and wanted no contact for an indeterminate period of time. I have totally respected that request, despite feeling pretty bad myself - I have not phoned, texted, emailed or ...
A. 9 January 2010: How long have you been seeing him? Is it serious? Living tigether? Kids involved?
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Is giving her a full kiss on the mouth cheating?
Q. my partner danced with another girl at a family wedding, whilst i was pregnant and he didnt really acknowlege that i was there as he was so drunk, (he did ask me to attend and everything was ok until he got drunk) then he kissed this girl i dont ...
A. 9 January 2010: Kiss another man in front of your boyfriend like he kissed that girl, and then ask your boyfriend if it was cheating.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Ignoring affairs...
Q. I am married and I have to say quite happly, my life is wonderful apart from the fact my husband constantly cheats in me.. Sometimes the affairs last weeks some months but never years, he never stays away from home and I know that 80% of his ...
A. 9 January 2010: It doesn't seem that you are as happy as you say you are. If you need positive reenforcement, here it is: Kick this guy to the curb. You are too good for him. Marriage is between two people. He seems not to be able to understand this. Do seek ... (read in full...)
My ex is lonely and wants warmth in his bed. What should I do?
Q. My ex and I hung out for 4 hrs tonight (hadnt seen each other for 4 mo).We talked alot/caught up - good times. Last chick he dated left him confused/kinda sad - he left me the same way after we broke up.It was random and it hurt.(I think we ...
A. 9 January 2010: Seems like he is playing mind games with you. If you are that worred about giving him warmth, buy him a cat.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
He says he wants to be with me in 6 months... does this mean he wants to be with me long term?
Q. Im 41 and my boyfriend is 39...we have been seeing each other for nearly 6 months now and we have fallen in love. My boyfriend is really good to me and very caring and i would hate it if we ever split up. The other night he was planning on what we ...
A. 9 January 2010: Yes, he is thinking long term, and just reasuring himself that the feelings are mutual.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex husband after 3 years (kind of) apart
Q. Hi everyone,I have been having relationship problems for just over 3 years now and have come to the conclusion that I could do with outsiders views and suggestions. OK here goes...My Husband(who i"d been with for 11 years) and I moved into our drea...
A. 9 January 2010: I think it is time for you to move on. To me, it seems like the ex is toying with your feelings. You need to quit him cold turkey. Right now, he is able to have his cake and enjoy it too.
Here is what he is getting:
1. The freedom of being... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt to know he's not a virgin?
Q. Why does it hurt to know he is not a virgin while i still am?...
A. 9 January 2010: Use this a s a learning experience. If it hurt you so bad to know this, how is your future husband going to feel if you lose your virginity at 15? Just something to think about.
It hurts because you can not both never enjoy the first discover... (read in full...)
Anal anxiety!!!
Q. I've never had anal sex nor had my ass eaten out. My boyfriend wants to try something new and I'm up for it. If I've never had anyone barely even touch my ass, will it feel good when he does it? Or will it take some getting used to. I'm kind of ...
A. 7 January 2010: One thing to be careful of is him inserting his penis in your vagina after anal. If you try anal, let that be the icing on the cake for the night. The anus is full of bacteria that isn't a good mix for the vagina.
As everyone said, use lots of ... (read in full...)
Is the army making him emotionally unattached?
Q. I met this guy back may just as he was headn for another deployment n iraq and we emailed, then IM'd and talked on phone alot then i flew to see him for thanksgiving in germany after the deployment because i work for the airline. Well had a blast ...
A. 7 January 2010: As a Soldier for over 19 years, and currently in Iraq, I have some insight to your question. The simple answer is that everyone is different. Depending on his military occupational specialty, his rank, position, responsibilities, age, maturity all ... (read in full...)
How do I break it to him I'm a virgin and he's going to have to take things slow the next time I see him?
Q. I recently flew home for the holidays and got speaking on msn to a friend of a friend who'd asked me out for a drink a few months ago (but I'd never met up with him, as I had never seen him in person and asked my friends who had met him what he was ...
A. 5 January 2010: You make it sound like being a virgin is a disease. Don't worry about it. Just tell him. If he is as nice as you say he is, he will treat you well.
Good Luck!
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I don't want to misinterpret his niceness, but does he like me?
Q. I need some help! I've been talking to this guy and i'm not sure if he likes me or not. I just want to be careful and not make an idiot out myself and misinterpret his actions. So far he's IMed me and talked to me and asked me about what im ...
A. 5 January 2010: The guy likes you! How many more signs do you need? Tell him how you feel. Guys don't open up unless they are intrested. And trust me, he is intrested.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont tell me she loves me or show any affection towards me, what should I do?
Q. My girl and i have been going out for over 8 months. We really get along but the only snag in our relationship is that she doesnt tell me she loves me and she doesnt allow me to hold her or stay close to her. I know that she loves me but not hearing ...
A. 5 January 2010: Talk to her and let her know what you want from the relationship. If you can't see eye-to-eye, it is probably time to find a new girlfriend.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
My husband has virtually no people skills and I am growing tired of it!
Q. Here's one for you. My husband treats me and the kids like gold. No complaints there. He treats our extended families well and also my friends. Notice I wrote my friends - he has none. He's a prick to pretty much everyone else in the world. ...
A. 5 January 2010: You seem to love him, and seem to want to help him. I applaud you for that. Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Maybe he just doesn't know that he is being a jerk.
I used to golf with this guy who was no a great golfer, but had a temper... (read in full...)
My wife and I are giving our relationship another chance after we both had affairs, how can we move on from this and let go of the past?
Q. Hi to all the people who answered my previous questions, about my affair and my wifes affair. We have got back together, we are both anxious, we both have trust issuse's, we both feel crushed. We are letting go of the past, after taking out the ...
A. 5 January 2010: I agree with CaringGuy. The only way this is going to work is if you two vest an intrest into your relationship and see a marriage counselor. You all tried it your way, and failed. I define failure by you and your wifes blatant disreguard for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his ex are too close for my liking, is he messing around with her when he goes to visit his son?
Q. i am in a relationship with a man who's baby momma will only let him see his kids if he goes to her house.. he has sworn to me he isn't messing with her while he is there but im not sure. she texts him all hours sending him pics of him holding his ...
A. 5 January 2010: There should be a court order defining the type of custody he has. Insist that the baby be dropped off at a nuetral location. There is no jugde in the world that would make either party conduct the visit at the other persons residence. He should ... (read in full...)
Is this strange behavior for a guy?
Q. Im so confused! This guy is so different from every other man ive ever met,and I have no idea how to take him.Ive known him for a year.We agreed to be just friends,because he claims he doesnt want a commitment.This was after we were already doing ...
A. 5 January 2010: I think it is time for the two of you to re-evaluate your relationship. Sit him down and ask him what is going on. It seems like you are both vested in this relationship, but no one wants to admit it.
Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He says he won't be with me forever, so wants to be my first... what do I do?
Q. Okay I'm 13 bout 2 bee 14 my bf is 14 and he is not a virgin but i am.he tells me how much he cares for me and sometimes he gets alil freaky over the phone and he always tells me that he knoes that we won't be together forever so he wants to be my ...
A. 4 January 2010: I am not going to preach to you when you should or should not lose your virginity. But I will say, if and when you decide to lose it, lose it to someone you care about.
This guy wants to put another notch in his bed post. I would be willing ... (read in full...)
How can we make sex more pleasurable for both of us? It hurt so much last time we tried!
Q. Last night, my long-time boyfriend and I had sex. It was both of our first time. We deeply love one another and were both ready for sex. My problem is that it was painful, for both of us. He is uncircumcised and the skin pulled back and ...
A. 4 January 2010: Try some lube like KY Jelly. He should apply it after he inserts a condom and you can put some in and around your vagina.
Foreplay (kissing, hugging, caressing, masterbation) can help the woman produce natural lubrication. I still suggest ... (read in full...)
Kiss from cousin was "electrifying". Is it wrong to love him?
Q. Helli, I am just wondering if it is so wrong to love my cousin. I never grew up with him and met him about 8 years ago. I always thought he was cute but never thought anything of it. He is froma different state so we get to see each other about ...
A. 4 January 2010: If this is your first cousin, I say get out while you can. If this is any other cousin, I say go for it.
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My boyfriend is cheating with a "cougar" and now has an emotional attachment to her. Should I move on?
Q. So I have been with my bf for 16 years. We have 2 teenagers together and pretty much live as if we are married, just no papers. Recently this past summer, he was out of town and met some 61 year old "cougar" in a bar. My bf is 41, so I can't really ...
A. 4 January 2010: Let him go. You are still young. This first clue I got was the fact that you all have been dating for 16 years. It amazes me that you have given him almost hafe your life without a real commitment.
Tell him he has to move out, so that you can ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to end things with my wife so I can be with my girlfriend!
Q. 11 years ago I went out with a girl, this lasted for 3 years then we broke up. We broke up because we were too young and argued over petty things. Since then I have married ( 3 years ago )and had a young child who is now 7 months. 14 months ago my ...
A. 3 January 2010: Mike,
I got it. This is what you need to do. You need to be honest with her and let her know that you are no longer in love with her. Whatever you do, don't mention the other woman. She probably already knows, but there is no sense in throwing... (read in full...)
Now her father has died - should I contact her?
Q. I have been friends with her for 27 years - I mean close close friends - to a point where she was even included in any/all vacations my husband and I took - except when his were business related. We used to joke that the three of us were a couple ...
A. 3 January 2010: You owe her a sympathy card. You have know her the better part of your life. Let by gones be by gones. Let her know that you care. Don't use this as a final peace offering. Do this because she is/was a close friend, and she needs you now more ... (read in full...)
Sex with my husband is almost zero! Help!
Q. Hi, I don't understand what's happening with me and my husband. We been married for only 2 years, his 20 years old and i'm 23. I feel as if he's changed, when we were boyfriend and girlfriend before, we were so active with making love. But now that ...
A. 3 January 2010: I agree with CaringGuy. Talk to your husband. There are many things that could be responsible for his low libido.
1. Job/work
2. Kids
3. Pressure from you
4. Tired
You are both young. Am for that reason, I really think you need to tel... (read in full...)
Is it possible that the condom broke and we didn't notice?
Q. Hi, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now. We are both 18 and in college and we had sex for the first time 2 weeks ago. We did use protection. My period was supposed to come a week after, but it still hasn't and my breasts have bee...
A. 3 January 2010: There is no way in the world you would not notice a broken condom. When the man pulls out, the condom will be around the base of his penis. There is no mistaking this. When a condom fails, it fails.
It is possible that stress could delay yo... (read in full...)
My lover wants to be watched!
Q. hi i have been in a relationship for the past 18 months and we have both fallen in love with each other very much so. our sex live is wounderful and we are exploring each other. a few weeks ago whilst having sex i asked about what her fantasy was,...
A. 3 January 2010: I agree with the other two posters. Not every fantasy needs to make it into the bedroom. If they did, they wouldn't be called fantasys, they would be called realities. I'm not saying that you all can't talk about it during sex, but I would hold ... (read in full...)
Do a lot of men not like oral sex?
Q. Hi!I am asking for help with something that has been bothering me. My boyfriend does not like to give oral sex-at all. I just want to know if he is one of the rare few that do not enjoy this. . .or are there more than I realize? I would really ...
A. 3 January 2010: I love to give and receive oral sex, but resevre it only for woman I am in a love term relationship with. No one night stands.
Good Luck!
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Would it be wrong to date my brother's former friend?
Q. dear cupid i really need your help. im 19 and my brother is 22. for years he and his 3 best friends were inseperable and i was always tagged along. i wasn't one of "the guys" i was the annoying little tag along sister ever since i was 15. i stayed ...
A. 2 January 2010: Yes it would. The dating pool of the world is huge. Millions and millions of people......WHy pick the one person that might place a wedge between you and your brother? I would be willing to bet, that a year from now, you wouldn't even be able to ... (read in full...)
He calls 3-4 times a day but says he only likes me as a friend
Q. what does it mean when a close friend of yours that youve fallen in love with, tells you he only likes you as a friend....calls you 3-4 times a day everyday. im in california, he's in texas....
A. 2 January 2010: It appears that you and him do not want the same thing from this relationship. You really need to go out and date. If you all are talked that much and haven't moved closer to your implied goal (a relationship) its time to move on. I really wish ... (read in full...)
Is his height hampering my ability to orgasm??
Q. Okay, so my old boyfriend an i had great sex. I can only get off in certain positions, but he used to make me orgasm all the time. My new boyfriend has pretty much the same size and shaped penis, but i don't get off nearly as well with him. My old ...
A. 2 January 2010: Angle could be a reason, but I would bet your lack of orgasims are a result of two things:
1. your comfort level with the new b/f
2. your new b/fs technique or lack there of
You know what you like, now show him. Teach him. The most aweso... (read in full...)
Why didn't he kiss me after our first date?
Q. I just went out on a first date with a guy I met last week. I was so excited to see him because we had a great conversation and he is very nice and attractive. I had a great time on our date and I would really like to see him again, but I'm afraid ...
A. 2 January 2010: He is just shy and thought you were too much of a lady. He is taking it slow because he thinks you are special.
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Was this rape? Or consensual?
Q. About a year ago, I was in a relationship with a guy who was 21. I was 16 at the time. We had sex, and I consented (well, I couldn't legally give consent, but I said yes). Now that the relationship's been over for a few months, I'm feeling more ...
A. 2 January 2010: This is a classic example of Statutory rape. Even though you gave consent, you were not of age to give it legally. This law was enacted to protect minors reguardless of consent.
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Why doesn't he take me out on a proper date?
Q. Its kind of difficult to know where to start. I think that i am head over heels in love with my friend(male)but he doesn't seem to share the feeling. We have known each other for nearly a year but been really good friends for the past 6 months. I ...
A. 31 December 2009: This guy isn't good at picking up your signals. Maybe due to shyness or maybe inexperience. Here are some suggestions:
1. Have him read this post.
2. Just come out and tell him that you are ready to take this relationship to another leve... (read in full...)
I have developed asthma and want to leave the military sooner than they are taking, any suggestions?
Q. Hello. Is there any one out there that can give me advice? Ive been in the millitary for five years now. I've developed asthma last year. The medical desission is taking to long and now they have me on deploying status. I currently have a temp pro...
A. 30 December 2009: As a Soldier for 19 plus years, I suggest that you let the medical system takes ts course. If your condition is that you are non deployable, the Army will do it's best to medically discharge you. If they deem that you are deployable, you roles in ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he take me out on a proper date?
Q. Its kind of difficult to know where to start. I think that i am head over heels in love with my friend(male)but he doesn't seem to share the feeling. We have known each other for nearly a year but been really good friends for the past 6 months. I ...
A. 30 December 2009: It all sounds good to me. If he is not gay, I would say that without a doubt this guy really likes you. I suggest that you make the first move. Let him know that you really enjoyed dinner, and would like to take the relationship to another level. ... (read in full...)
How do you eat someone out?
Q. Right, well I feel a little weird posting here but I don't know where else to go. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a while and she's been tickling with the idea of having me eat her out. Firstly, I had no idea what this meant unti...
A. 30 December 2009: There is no perfect way, but I would start out by doing this:
Set the mood. Maybe lower the lights or light off depending on how comfortable she is with you.
Start out by kissing her lips and then slowly work your way down her body. A light k... (read in full...)
How 'perfect' should a boyfriend be to consider marriage with him?
Q. I have had about 6 boyfriends(apart from the current one), from the time i was 16 till now (am 31), and of the six, five of them had "defects" i couldnt imagine myslef leaving with. This ranged from low self esteem to violence. I have always dreamt ...
A. 30 December 2009: Perfert is a powerful word. If you cut the field to just perfect men, you might end up alone. Instead of perfect how about these qualities:
Someone that would never ever raise a hand to you.
Someone that love you and respects you.
Someon... (read in full...)
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