Birth control question!
Q. Okay so I have been on birth control for about 4 months and after the first two months I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend a bunch. A condom is not used AT ALL. Do you think I should have less sex, sex with a condom all the time, or ...
A. 30 May 2010: Use a condom just in case. You is for protestion against STDs and a double barrier against pregnancy. The only time you should have unprotected sex is when you are willing and able to accept the responsibility of having a child. Since the pill is ... (read in full...)
No wow factor, am I making a mistake?
Q. Me and my bf have been together for a year now. We have got a 9 year age gap between us. He isn't the guy I usually go for, I like guys who are my age, tall dark and handsome... well my bf has got a good heart but he is as tall as me, a whole lot ...
A. 30 May 2010: Don't marry this guy. There is no reason that you need to settle, and no reason he needs to marry someone that settle for him. The day you marry should be the happiest day of your life, others will replace that day like the birth of a child, but ... (read in full...)
Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught?
Q. Do you think more people get away with cheating than get caught? What criteria do you think makes for a more likliehood of being caught or not? I've read some statistics sites that state that people who have cheated their partners didn't find out 70 ...
A. 29 May 2010: Its like speeding. Many do it for a long time without getting caught. But over time, the radar gun will eventually catch up.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Did he say he was allergic to condoms just to trick me?
Q. Help... I Just had unprotected sex and i am so scared. He claims hes allergic to condoms. Can someome be allergic or did he trick me me? ...
A. 29 May 2010: Here is the litmus test for unprotected sex: If you are in a relationship with someone and are willing and able to bring a child into this world, but all means, have and enjoy unprotected sex. Your reproductive system (and sexual health for that ... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation.... Should I ask him to go twice?
Q. Hi this is a question about my boyfriend, every time we try to have sex he seems to come before we even get it in!! Sometimes there isn't even any foreplay hardly!! Should I ask him to come once and then go again?? He doesn't loose his erection and ...
A. 28 May 2010: You could look at it time way: You are so friggin hot that just the sight of you makes him explode. But that is still no reason for his to be a lousy lover.
I suggest that before the next time you have sex, he needs to get the first load off... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I have an STD?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for about a year and half now. I have never cheated on him, but he surely has. I don't know if hes gay or not, because I have found out many stuff about him on emails, trying to meet with guys online, i ...
A. 28 May 2010: You need to tell him. And you both need to see a doctor so others don't get infected.
I realize that you are the victim in this situation. And I really feel bad for you. Sexually active people can not have secrets about STDs.
Good Luck!
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Can I keep what happened with my brother in law from my husband?
Q. I am in a situation that I would have never in a million years believed that I could be in. I have never been unfaithful to anyone - ever. I think that trust and honesty are two of the most important things in a successful relationship and...
A. 28 May 2010: I think that this is something that you need to take to your grave. The only inocent one here is John. What you and Dan did (reguardless of the reasons) in discovered would tear this family apart. Even if John says he forgives you and Dan, there ... (read in full...)
How good are older men 45 and up in bed?
Q. I have read in many articles that men's performance during sex becomes worse as they get older, due to menopause and other factors. Does age really matter in how well a man performs? For ex, is a 30 year old better in bed than a 48 year old?...
A. 26 May 2010: It all depends. Some men will be horrible lovers througout there lives and other will be great throughout.
Using myself, I would say that I am a better lover at 38 than I was in my 20s. The reason? Because I now know what I want, and I know wha... (read in full...)
Please help! My new sexual partner is keen but is having problems keeping it up!
Q. Hi all, I have been seeing this guy and we both talked about wanting to have sex. We discussed getting tested, past experiences, what we like etc. I told him that it seems like he is more experienced than I am and that he'll have to take charg...
A. 25 May 2010: If he has never had this happen before, it has to be mental. They say the bigest sex organ is the brain. It seems that all this talk has your boyfriend backed against the wall and under pressure (brought upon by his talk) to preform. I would be ... (read in full...)
How do I tell this man that I love him and would leave my life in a second for him?
Q. Im a widow at 38 met a amazing man a year later,moved in together we never had that oh my god im in love feeling,and I feel like we both just settled,my friend died last year and Im very close to her husband and now as of 8 months ago we have been ...
A. 25 May 2010: I say you just have to come right out with it and tell him that you love him. I mean really, what do you have to lose? He has already told you that he is only in it for sex. If you scare him away, you have only lost a good sex partner (I realize ... (read in full...)
Found a condom in my car, boyfriend cheated, do I need to know who?
Q. My bf cheated on me in my car! I was at work and later found the condom wrapper. We split for a couple of days and I really want to know who it was. Is it better to know or not know?...
A. 24 May 2010: I agree with the others. Knowing won't make it any better. Just be happy that you uncovered this character flaw before he slipped a ring on your finger.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
My husband loves bj's but I don't like the taste
Q. My husband loves bjs. What guy doesn't right? Well, I hate the taste of sperm, I mean I really hate it, but I adore my husband. I went online to find spermicide free condoms to see if maybe giving him a bj with out tasting it would leave us both ...
A. 24 May 2010: First and foremost, I would like to commend you on a positive attitude. As others have said, certain foods do have a positive or negative effect of sperm flavor. Adjust his diet and see if it improves taste. If that doesn't work, instead of ... (read in full...)
2 days after sex I find part of condom in me
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex 2 days ago and today I found the top half of the condom inside of me.. Is there any danger with having had the condom(latex) inside of me for such a long period of time? HELP!...
A. 24 May 2010: Pregnancy or an STD are probably your biggest worries. Schedule an appointment with you doctor so that they can relax your fears.
You are probably safe, but it is better to be safe than sorry.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Guys showing interest only because of my breasts?
Q. Can guys be interested in a girl just because of her breasts? I feel like the only reason guys are interested in me is my breasts, like that's the only thing they see. I obviously want a guy to like me for everything that I am, not just to get ...
A. 23 May 2010: Breasts might be the reason they are attracted to you, or the fact that you have confidence. Both garner attraction. If the guys are staying around, I would attribute it to what you have on the inside (good or intelligent conversation, a kind ... (read in full...)
Why stinky toes?
Q. Dear Cupid. I know this isn't about sex or relationship but it's generally about my body. When I cut the nails of my big toes, I cut them as far as I can and when i do that, this horrible smell comes out and I think it's because in an already si...
A. 23 May 2010: All it is excess bacteria that is trapped between the toenail and the toe. Its actually harmless. There are products out in the market that target this bacteria.
Good Luck!
Jeff ... (read in full...)
Are men attracted to overweight women?
Q. hey aunties and uncles. I'm going to be direct with this question because I've always wanted to know. is being overweight a real turn off for boys and do they get attracted to overweight girls? I myself am not overweight or anything but I am curious ...
A. 23 May 2010: There are men that prefer overweight women. Beleive it or not, there are even riskque magazines that cater to men who like overweight women. In some cultures, overweight women are cherished while skinny women are frowned upon.
This is a big plan... (read in full...)
Opinions on sexy pictures?
Q. What do people think of allowing your partner to take sexy pictures of you? I'm not talking about nude or even in bra/pants. I'm thinking of a sexy babydoll or chemise, something racy but with no parts showing so if anyone did end up seeing them I ...
A. 22 May 2010: Only allow pictures that you are comfortable for you entire world to see. It takes but a second to upload a picture on the internet. And from there, you have a world wide audience.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
They're not fake. Really.
Q. My question involves my breasts. I was really blessed... i guess with my dads metabolism and my moms big boobs. They are 34DD and still growing. i'm 18 and 5'10" and very small waisted. People (mostly guys) think my boobs are fake... how would i get ...
A. 22 May 2010: The rude comments are really compliments in disguise. I would smile and say thank you.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Advice after weight loss, please?
Q. I guess I would start with this: About a year ago I weighed almost 200 lbs and now that I am down to 145, I am noticing a lot more about myself. Normally I just noticed the stretch marks and fat that my body had decorated itself with, but now I ...
A. 22 May 2010: I would see about laser treatment. It is non envasive and seems to do the trick. I congradulate you on the weight loss. Good Job. You really are an insperation to many.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Do I choose the father of my child or ...
Q. Who do I choose, between father of my child who I had helped become rich and turned around and started an affair with other woman he just comes from another town or a man that I met on line and had similar problems and just hit it off but he also ...
A. 22 May 2010: You should say no to both. Anyone that has the propentecy to get violent, is an instant deal breaker. I don't care how much he does around the house, how much money he makes, or how good he is in the sack. This guy is bad news IMHO.
The cheater ... (read in full...)
Am I cheating on my boyfriend, or is this harmless fun?
Q. Im really confused! Ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 weeks and i really like him. Thing is ive been speaking to a guy online for about 18 months, and we've recently got back in touch, exchanged numbers and that. Am i cheating on my bo...
A. 21 May 2010: Would you concider it cheating if you boyfriend was doing the same thing? If you are unable to tell the current boyfriend about the other relationship/friendship, it cheating.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
How do I show him that I am no longer interested?
Q. So how do you give a guy signs you're not interested? I thought I really liked this boy, so I was really into him and flirty and stuff.. now I've gone off of him. Its for various reasons, but the thing is he still keeeeps on texting me and ...
A. 21 May 2010: Simply let him know that you are not intrested anymore and that you have moved on. If you would like to keep him as a friend, let him know. If not, tell him you have a boyfriend. He should get the message.
Good Luck.
Jeff... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish for at least wanting him to talk to me occasionally? He has a lot going on with his family but his inability to balance things in his life is getting annoying!
Q. I'm frustrated cos the guy I'm dating doesnt know how to balance career, fam etc. He told me hes either 0 - 100 % about things and once hes 100 - thats all he focuses on..which usually applies to work.Recently hes been tryin to get a job, a car ...
A. 21 May 2010: You really need to let him know how you feel. Don't make him guess. Lay it out for him. I would chalk up most of his behavior to insecurity and a little immaturity. That does't mean he can't change. From everything you wrote, it seems like he ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can help me with my excessive sweating?
Q. my feet are really sweaty. it means i have to wear socks and tights all the time. the thing is, i have prom in a few weeks, and i want to go bare-footed, but i cant. its ruining my life. any suggestions?...
A. 21 May 2010: Honestly, knowone will even pay attention to your feet. Its kinda like having a zit. You become so self concious about it that if feels like the whole world notices it when in fact knowone but you actually does.
I remember prom, I was more wor... (read in full...)
Is masturbating dangerous at 14?
Q. i am 14 years old.i'm extremely excited about sex and i do masterbating by watching porn videos through the web. what i'm worried is that is masterbating good for health?.will it effect me in anyways?...
A. 21 May 2010: It is perfectly healthy. Just remember to do it in privacy, and be sure to lock the door.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. I am freaking out I got my period twice this month, I'm soppouse to be taking birth control but I'm not I only took one pill and that's it. So my first period started on may the 3rd ended on the 7th then again on may the 16th and ended last night ...
A. 21 May 2010: You could be pregnant. This added stress could delay your next period, so don't use that as the end all be all answer. You really need to take a pregnancy test. If it comes up positive, you need to get the results verified with a blood test. ... (read in full...)
Dreading the upcoming conversation about anal sex!
Q. Hi there, I just read a question where the guy was worried his girlfriend was lying when she said she had never had anal sex before....I'm about to be that girlfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really really love him. We ...
A. 20 May 2010: I say lie, and tell him you have never done it. Spare his feelings this once, and pretend that you have never tried. It might be an emotional let down it you said you have tried it before and are unwilling to try it again or he might feel that you ... (read in full...)
Are we still Virgins?
Q. Ive had sex with my guy, But he was using a condom every time we did it. I never got bleeding. Nor did he. So am I still a Virgin? and is he still a virgin? ...
A. 20 May 2010: Your not a virgin, and neither is he. If we used the logic that usless you ditch the condom there wasn't sex, then would you concider it cheating if you b/f used a condom with another woman? Of course it would be.
I applaud you for using pr... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex in the water?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are going to the beach this Saturday and I wanted to know is it's safe or not to have sex in the water? I am thinking about bringing this idea up to her but I don't know if it is safe or not....
A. 19 May 2010: Ocean should be fine. Stay away from lakes and ponds (bacteria). Pools should be safe.
Just remember, STDs and pregrancy are possibilities if you don't use a condom.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Can you tell if a guy has recently had sex?
Q. How can you tell if a man has recently had sex? I am in a relationship with someone who sometimes has a very strong odor around the tip of his penis. He also has a very reddish on his testicles sometimes? Are these signs of a man recently having ...
A. 19 May 2010: Here are some signs:
1. Staying out late with no explanation (self explanitory)
2. Trying new positions with you (he's trying and learning new things)
3. Suddenly extremly good hygene (he's cleaning up for someone)
4. Comming home with an... (read in full...)
I like him but my friends and family don't!
Q. me and this guy, were not dating each other, but we hang round loads, and we always kiss and... Basically we act like were going out, but my friends all seem to hate him they say he's a player and all this stuff, but if i like him does it matter wat ...
A. 19 May 2010: This is tough to answer. But lokking back on my life, it seems that my friends and family were pretty good judges. If it was only your father, I wouldn't give you this advice. But if your friends are also saying this guy is bad news, I say kick ... (read in full...)
Physical evidence that he's been cheating?
Q. my boyfriend has 2 red big patches in between his upper theighs and i asked him what they were from one time and he said maybe it was because i was giving him oral sex and they were from my head rubbing up against him...I can see that happening, but ...
A. 19 May 2010: If that is the only "evidence" I would give him the benefit of the doubt. But if there are other signs like:
1. Mysterous cell phone numbers
2. Staying out late with no explanation
3. Trying new positions with you
4. Suddenly extremly go... (read in full...)
My b/f is coming home from Afghanistan, how can I tell him I'm not ready for marriage yet?
Q. Hi guys, I am in a long distance relationship, with my bf in afghanistan in the military; i'm nervous that when he gets back he's going to propose to me and i'm not ready. while i feel strongly about him, his coming back will signal our first ti...
A. 18 May 2010: I am glad it all worked out. And you wish you all the best in the future you make with each other.
Jeff... (read in full...)
Can I trust my girlfriend again after she left me for another man?
Q. do i trust my girlfriend again my girlfriend left me for another guy, she slept with him , then a week later told me she had made a big mistake...she was working away with him, so it took her 5 months to finish her contract and return to me..in t...
A. 30 April 2010: I think you need to let her go. If the shoe were on the other foot, there is no doubt that she would put up it, so why should you? There are so many other women (honest, faithful ones) out there, so you don't need to settle. Let her go before you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell a guy I won't have sex?
Q. How do I tell a guy that I want to wait to have sex till I am married? That I am not willing to give it up?...
A. 29 April 2010: Be upfront, be honest, and be direct. Tell him that you are saving your self for marriage (or any other reason).
BTW: I admire your choice. I wish I was able to wait when I was your age.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
On the pill..is sex without a condom safe?
Q. i'm on the pill, and i never mess up. so is having sex with out a condom safe? neither of us have an STD or and STI or anything. so how big is the chance of his pre cum getting me pregnant?...
A. 27 April 2010: You should be safe from pregnancy (about 99%). But unless you both have been tested for STDs, (tested not because he says so) you are 100% at risk for STDs.
I am glad you are being responsible. But to be 100% safe, make him use a condom. ... (read in full...)
I am hoping to spice things up in the bedroom - any tips?
Q. Hi, I was wondering whether I could have some advice? I would really like to spice things up with my boyfriend.. as over the yeas, our sexlife has become pretty bland. I was wondering if there were little things I could do to help attract him t...
A. 22 April 2010: I for one, love giving and receiving oral. It seems that some guys like it and others don't. What you need do do is find out what your boyfriend likes. I know, (Captain Obvious) but have you actually asked him? Maybe he isn't the guy that likes ... (read in full...)
Help!! I'm physically, spiritually, and emotionally drained from my lazy husband.
Q. My husband and I have been married for nine years and we have three wonderful kids. He works at the local sherrif's department and I work at a local lawyer's office. I work from 8:00a.m.-5:00p.m. and he works from 4:00p.m.-midnight. During the ...
A. 20 April 2010: I think you have a lot of things going on in your lives right now. You are both holding down full time jobs, and raising three kids. I applaud you both especially during this tough economy. Before you toss him out, is there anyway that he could ... (read in full...)
He never has the time to talk to me anymore, should I just end the relationship?
Q. I am in a distance relationship for 3 months now i love my boyfriend so much and he say he loved me too but there is a big BUT it seems like he don't love me anymore because he doesn't have time for me. he say everytime that he is busy he don't want ...
A. 16 April 2010: I know that you are in love, but do you really beleive this is the man that you will spen the rest of your life wife? If he is, give it another shot. If not, let him go.
Good Luck!
Jeff ... (read in full...)
My mum found out I have been smoking and now she is mad at me, what can I do?
Q. my mum just found out i was smoking, she found them in my bag she no longer trusts me, coz she asked me ages ago if i smoked and i said no i only said no because i didnt want to hurt her she is acting like its the end of the world i have 3 brot...
A. 16 April 2010: The only thing you can do is quit smoking, you slowly regain her trust. I am not going to lie to you, I was a smoker for about 15 yrs. It took a back surgery to get me to quit (i needed a bone graph and the doctor wouldn't operate until I quit). ... (read in full...)
Age difference poll.
Q. im starting a poll to see the age gaps in relationships from ages 14 - 16 e.g. im 14 i went out with a girl tht was 13......
A. 16 April 2010: Throughout life, I have always dated older women. When I was a senior in H.S. my g/f was 24 (7 years older). My wife is the only younger person I have even been with (I am 9 months older). I will be with her till I die.
Jeff... (read in full...)
My b/f is coming home from Afghanistan, how can I tell him I'm not ready for marriage yet?
Q. Hi guys, I am in a long distance relationship, with my bf in afghanistan in the military; i'm nervous that when he gets back he's going to propose to me and i'm not ready. while i feel strongly about him, his coming back will signal our first ti...
A. 16 January 2010: First of all, I applaud you for not just saying "yes" if you don't mean it. I do think you are jumping the gun a bit, since you don't really know that he is actually going to ask you yet.
If you do get to that bridge, tell him that you will not... (read in full...)
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