How 'perfect' should a boyfriend be to consider marriage with him?
Q. I have had about 6 boyfriends(apart from the current one), from the time i was 16 till now (am 31), and of the six, five of them had "defects" i couldnt imagine myslef leaving with. This ranged from low self esteem to violence. I have always dreamt ...
A. 30 December 2009: Perfert is a powerful word. If you cut the field to just perfect men, you might end up alone. Instead of perfect how about these qualities:
Someone that would never ever raise a hand to you.
Someone that love you and respects you.
Someon... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to wish he'd just pass away?
Q. My dad has been a severe alcoholic most of my life. He was emotionally dead when I was a teen and went through a brief point of sobriety when i was in my early 20''s. for the last couple of years, he's cheated death several times. he has survived ...
A. 30 December 2009: To me it depends why you want him to die. If you want him to die in order to relieve HIS suffering, then your wishes are valid. If you want him to die in order to relieve YOUR suffering, then your wishes are not.
Sweetie, he will eventual... (read in full...)
He slept with a prostitute
Q. i found out that my boyfriend of 7 years slept with a prostitute on a lads weekend. he had been to a STD clinic and i found the appointment slip. at first he tried to deny anthing and then admitted it. i asked him to leave, and he left the next day ...
A. 30 December 2009: Sweetheart,
You can do better than this guy will ever offer. Count your stars that you didn't marry or have kids with him. You will find new love. Just let the sting of this relationship pass first. He possibly put your life at risk (HIV or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't trust me and I'm sick of it!
Q. I just saw the search history on my boyfriends computer. We've been together for almost two years, and I have never once been unfaithful or lied. I reassure him constantly that he is the one I want to be with. He tells me that he trusts me and...
A. 29 December 2009: Not all men all like your boyfriend. You are a young lady, do yourself a favor and kick this guy to the curb.
Jeff... (read in full...)
I am afraid that if I say no to giving him loans, it will hurt our relationship!?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 months now,before we met there was this gal he has been in love with for 3 years and told me he got over her just before we met, they still talk alot and he still acts like i do not exist in his life while ...
A. 27 December 2009: Let me tell you a secret: Loaning him money is already hurting your relationship. If it wasn't, you wouldn't be in the forum asking for advice. Cut your losses (litterly). Find a man that takes care of you. You shouldn't ever loan monies in a ... (read in full...)
What our chances of success, I am in love with her.
Q. leaving my wife of 10 years 2 kids for a woman who was my wifes good friend of 5 years She(the other woman) is still married but seperated, left her resent boyfriendof 2 yrs for me and we plan to get an apartment next week, we started the affair a ...
A. 27 December 2009: If you were in love with her, you wouldn't be asking for validation from a bunch of strangers. I think you are making a terrible mistake. First of all, you relationship started in deceit. What makes you so certain that she won't drop you the next ... (read in full...)
Commitment phobic boyfriend - do you have any experience with this?
Q. Hi, I think my boyfriend is a commitment phobe. Has anyone had any experience with this? How did you deal with it? I always thought it was something made up in the movies. Or that the guy just wasn't that into you. Anyone have experience with ...
A. 27 December 2009: Heres the deal. You are either willing to put up with it, or you are ready to give him an ultimatum. The bottom line is, you are not getting any younger. If you idea of a future is to walk down the isle, you need to let him know. It sounds ... (read in full...)
How can I make my breasts bigger, apart from surgery?
Q. I have an extremly small breast and it makes me feel so shy when i see ma friends with big ones. Im 21, if there is any means of making it bigger apart from going for surgery. I'll really appreciate ur help....
A. 27 December 2009: All you have to do is do a search on this forum and you will see women wishing they had bigger breasts and other that wish they had smaller ones. I promise you that there are men that pefer small breasts as there are some men who prefer the larger ... (read in full...)
How often should I email him?
Q. How often is it ok to e mail a male friend youve recently met-no romance but has given his e mail to you without being too desperate?? What sort of things does one put in an e mail when you like him but dont want to scare him off? Thanks ...
A. 26 December 2009: If he gave you his email, and he is single, he is interested. Send him a casual email and then let him make the move. Leave the door open......and wait to see if we is really interested. If he emails you back, email him again. If a guy likes ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I lied about my past?
Q. I have lied to my boyfriend about my sexual past. I did so early in our relationship out of fear of rejection and judgment, but ever since I have felt absolutely terrible. I told him I had only slept with 2 people, but the truth is that I have slept ...
A. 26 December 2009: 3 or 5? Hmmmmmm......... Since there is no benefit or good that will come from telling him, I say to keep it between you and God.
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In love with my best friend, tell it to her face or write a note?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend. ..and I'm just really having a hard time to tell her. I've always seen myself as a lowest common denominator, even though everyone says I don't give myself enough credit. I wrote a note spilling my feeling...
A. 26 December 2009: Its so funny that now that I am almost 40, and a recent member of Facebook that I am reaquainting with woman that I drooled on in High School. I was so suprised that many of the girls I secretly crushed on actually wanted to date me. They were ... (read in full...)
Can I date an ex-prisoner? I teach in prisons.
Q. i work in a prison as a teacher , recently i met a guy who was an ex - prisoner.can i date him - because i love him very much....
A. 24 December 2009: You of all people should know what prisoners are like. I am not saying that a person is unable to change, but why take the risk? There are so many men in the world, why take a chance on someone with a bad moral compass? You are better than ... (read in full...)
Should I report my manager for coming on to me?
Q. To get started, I'm 17 and my manager at work (who's a 30 year old loser, by the way) has been pushing himself on me. Saying crap like, "I love you!" or "Are you willing to date me?" Does he honestly think I'm that stupid? I find it amusing because ...
A. 24 December 2009: Buy a mirco tape recorder. The next time he corners you, tape him in the act. Make sure you firmly tell him no. Never let him know about the recorder. He might flip out or something. If it continues, report him to his boss. And if the boss ... (read in full...)
Husband deployed in Iraq and I think he is cheating!
Q. My husband is in Iraq and I haven't talked to him in two weeks. Before he left we were on the verge of getting a divorce. He had to train in Alabama for a month and during that month he called me just once. After the month training He didn't even ...
A. 24 December 2009: I know you will make it through this. If you need someone to talk to, drop me an email.
Jeff... (read in full...)
Still bleeding 3 months after giving birth, should I be worried?
Q. I just had a baby sept 28th and has been 3months and i have had a problem i am stil bleeding i dont remember bleeding this long with my other 3 kids.i got a depo shot before i left the hospital should i be worried about all this bleeding...
A. 23 December 2009: Don't play games with your health. Advice on this forum is great, unless it is a health issue. This is a health issue.
Go see a doctor ASAP.
Jeff... (read in full...)
Made to feel bad for not wanting anal sex??
Q. Hi there, I just wanted some advice! I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He's a gentleman, charming and does everything under the sun for me. There's just one thing that's concerning me. I first let me boyfriend try anal sex about ...
A. 23 December 2009: Here's the deal. You need to be candid with your B/F. My hat's off to you for atleast trying it. I always say, how do you know you don't like something if you won't even try it? You did it, you didn't like it, so what more can he ask?
But t... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? We had sex but no intercourse
Q. Could I be pregnant? We had sex, but no intercourse. We both had our underpants, but hes penis was right in front of my vagina, when he orgasmed and everything was very wet... I'm right in the middle of my cyclus, so if we had intercourse, the posi...
A. 23 December 2009: I hate to be the devils advocate, but it is possible. If you were in your panties and him in underwear and he ejaculated, it is possible for the sperm to swim. The reason they make condoms out of latex is that it will not allow the sperm to pass. ... (read in full...)
Please tell me why people (mostly straight guys) think I'm gay
Q. I don't get it. I love women, perhaps too much. I am a college student and haven't had a girlfriend in years, but occasionally have a random hookup. I am very passionate, especially in bed (of course), but I think that people are mistaking this ...
A. 22 December 2009: Maybe you are just infeminate. It doesn't mean you are gay. If you know you aren't gay, then don't worry about it.
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My boyfriend is 8 years older then me
Q. i am 15 and i love this guy i think he loves me to but the problem is he is 23 and everyone is saying he is too old for me and only wants one thing but we have been together for 3 months now and he havn't had sex or anything i now that it will be ...
A. 22 December 2009: The problem I have is what kind of things would a 15 year old have in common with a 23 year old. He really is too old for you. Mentally and physically you need to be with someone year own age. Someone that is in the same grade as you.
Sure, some... (read in full...)
Can you break a penis?
Q. I know this sounds totally ridiculous, but can you break a penis? Is this possible? Just seen as you can break an arm or a leg, why shouldn't you be able to break a penis?...
A. 21 December 2009: Yes, you can break a penis.....I realize it is not a bone, but you can rupture the cavities. The penis is like a sponge. With different cells that fill up with blood. It is possible. ... (read in full...)
Do men prefer fake over real breasts?
Q. Are fake breasts better than natural, small ones? I mean, I know this has been asked before. But it seems like they are. I've asked many guys and they say "Hey, if it improves her beauty, then it's all good!". And I read this article: http://...
A. 18 December 2009: Real. Be happy with what God gave you. I actually prefer small breasts myself.
Jeff... (read in full...)
Semen found on backside of boyfriend's underwear?
Q. I saw dried semen on the back (outside) of my boyfriend's underwear. There was more on back side than inside the front of underwear. We live together and after sex he always go right to sleep, (I generally don't), so he doesn't clean up or wipe with ...
A. 18 December 2009: If he has skid marks on the front and cum in the back, either he put his underware on backwards or he has a BF.
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I'm only 17 and I don't think I'm ready for this!
Q. okay i am really freeking out i think i might be pregnant i last had sex 2 months ago and i havent had my period since my boobs are really sore i keep feeling sick in the morning i know it sounds like yeah i am but i am really scared to take a test ...
A. 17 December 2009: You have some options: 1. Wait 9 months and let nature tell you. 2. Take the pregnancy test. Stress could be the reason why you are late. Not taking the test will only lead to continued anxiety. And if you are pregnany, you need prenatal ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting my 22 year old daugther to bring boys home?
Q. Im a 49 year old divorcee and have a boyfriend. We get on well and my 22 year-old daughter also accepts him. My daughter never has a boyfriend until recently she starts asking a boy at work out for a drink. She said they are just friends he is ...
A. 16 December 2009: I will take your side on this one. It's your house and she must obey your rules. To me, age is not important. If she wants to play house, she needs to move out. At 22 she should be well on her way.
Jeff... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I TOTALLY love my best friend!
Q. I've been married for 11yrs.I love my husband,but I'm totally in love with my best friend. we've been together since 2nd grade.We r just made for each other. We see each other offten and talk everyday.I just don't know how 2 be without him.Do anyone ...
A. 16 December 2009: You need to end it. Either the marriage or the friendship. I am not saying that men and women cannot be friends. I am saying that what you are doing can be characterized as an emotional affair. Don't string your husband along. How would you ... (read in full...)
Any sites that address missing someone in the military?
Q. I am a girlfriend of a marine, and I'm having a hard time adjusting to his second time overseas. I know there are a lot of spritual or patriotic support systems, but as an atheist and pacifist, my emotional pain is not easily alleviated. Neither my ...
A. 16 December 2009: Hey, I have the perfect site for you. militarysos.com. Its a ite that is earmarked for people (male or female) that are married (or dating) service members. They even have a forum where you can chat with others in your same predicument.
Check... (read in full...)
Husband deployed in Iraq and I think he is cheating!
Q. My husband is in Iraq and I haven't talked to him in two weeks. Before he left we were on the verge of getting a divorce. He had to train in Alabama for a month and during that month he called me just once. After the month training He didn't even ...
A. 15 December 2009: I agree with Azure Rain. A unit is made up of many Soldiers and each with a different job. Just because one is able to call everyday, doesn't mean that your Sodier has the same oppurtunity. You seem like a smart woman. Use that intuition that ... (read in full...)
He's not the man I married.. or I just didn't know who I was marrying.
Q. OK Folks - this worked before, so I am hoping to hear some feedback and that I will be able to understand what happened in my marriage - I wrote June 26th - titled 'He was sweet before our marriage, now he is abusive' and received some great in...
A. 14 December 2009: Look here and listen! You only have 21 months invested in this relationship. Pack your stuff and move before you end up on the front page of the daily news. This is not a marriage. This is not healthy. Grab whatever you can and RUN!!
Good ... (read in full...)
Husband deployed in Iraq and I think he is cheating!
Q. My husband is in Iraq and I haven't talked to him in two weeks. Before he left we were on the verge of getting a divorce. He had to train in Alabama for a month and during that month he called me just once. After the month training He didn't even ...
A. 14 December 2009: Beleive it or not, I am also in Iraq right now. Depending on his MOS (Job), things could be really stressful. Has his unit lost any Soldiers? This is something that you would hear from the family support group (FRG). As soon as a Soldier dies ... (read in full...)
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