He doesn't want to get married again. Is this a deal breaker?
Q. my boyfriend is going through a divorce and experienced a bad relationship. He feels as if the marriage ruined it. He told me he cannot see himself ever marrying again. Ever since I was a little girl i have always wanted to be happily married. ...
A. 28 December 2010: I said the same thing to my now wife (7 years married now). So just because he is saying no now, doesn't mean that he won't have a change of heart. Since he is just getting out of a relationship, I would be more worried if he was willing to g... (read in full...)
He keeps inviting his ex to family functions!
Q. Although I continue telling my boyfriend he is being disrespectful inviting his ex-wife to family functions, he continues to do it anyway. His daughter is an adult and I do not feel the need to include his ex-wife if he know it makes me ...
A. 28 December 2010: I agree with you. It's time to put your foot down, and let him knw how you feel. It's either you or the highway. Good Luck! Jeff... (read in full...)
Is this really an orgasm?
Q. Ok im a 18 year old female I lost my virginity at 17 going 18 bit before then I would finger myself and had my boyfriend do it also and its like my whole body gets a really great feeling like I get all warm inside my stomach clit and pussy muscles ...
A. 28 December 2010: That is an orgasm. Good Luck! Jeff... (read in full...)
How much is to much orgasmic juices?
Q. When i have sex i tend to get the bed and the man i am with all wet.Is this normal.I mean its like i am urinating but know its not, especially if i am on the top in control.How much is to much orgasmic juices?...
A. 28 December 2010: Normal. Some people are just wetter than others. I had a GF that was extreemly wet. Like fountain. We tended to make love on towels to save the sheets. Don't fret. You are normal. Good Luck! jeff... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks my breasts are too big, is he right to ask for a reduction?
Q. I'm going out with my boyfriend 10 months and everything going well except for in the bedroom. He prefers women with smaller breasts and I've become very conscious that my 32f breasts must be a turn off to him. I used to love having my breasts ...
A. 10 August 2010: Until he puts a ring on your finger, he really doesn't have a say in the mater. And even if he did, its still up to you.
The more I think about it, he seems really shallow. I would be willing to bet that there are pleanty of men out there th... (read in full...)
Engaged... but I don't love her!
Q. Hello, We're engaged for nearly a year now, I like her but I don't think that I love her. We're sexually attracted to each other but other than that we have nothing in common. I told her once that I am not sure where our relationship is headin...
A. 10 August 2010: Just because you don't love her, doesn't mean that you have to break up, but it would be a good idea to call off the engagement. Don't just jump into a marriage. If things are not great now, they won't get better magically when you slip a ring on ... (read in full...)
How will I know, when I am ready for sex?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with a guy. We have been courting for almost two months but we have an issue regarding the sexual aspect. I am 24 and a virgin and 'not ready' whilst he is experienced. He keeps saying he loves me and is willing to ...
A. 10 August 2010: Are you abstaining from sex due to religous reasons? Because you are scared? Because you want to wait till marriage? Or another reason? If it is because of religion or because you are waiting till marriage, let him know. There is nothing wrong... (read in full...)
How can I advise my daughter???
Q. My daughter is 19 ,and very confused. She is unable to be alone, and because of that ,she is putting up, with a boyfriend ,who is not treating her very nice. I think she is putting in much more than he does, and I dont know how loyal he is , ...
A. 10 August 2010: This is probally going to be the toughest thing you ever do. You are going to have to let her pave her own way and hope that 19 years of parenting will see her though this mistake she is about to make. Sadly, anything you do, will further alienate ... (read in full...)
How can I stop these thoughts and move on?
Q. Hi, Logically, I know that its best to have my ex out of my life- he's lied and cheated ever since we got together (six years!) and now I have broken contact for good. So, why do I keep thinking about him and how he continues with his life like I ...
A. 10 August 2010: Your reaction is perfectly normal. It is part of the grieving process. Once you start working on "you", I would be willing to bet that others around you will start taking notice. Start focusing on "you." Center your life around work, your mental ... (read in full...)
My husband loves his truck more than me!
Q. Well cupid I'm back again just need some honest answers. I was in a car accident about three months ago and my car was gone trashed went to car heaven lol and now I'm working on getting better I did break my heel and boy does that hurt plus i...
A. 10 August 2010: I would be willing to bet that he does NOT love his truck more than he loves you. What he needs is a firm talking to, in order to remind him of his priorities. Don't except being second to an inadment object.
Good Luck,
Jeff... (read in full...)
We wants to bring another man into the bedroom! I don't know what to think of this!
Q. I have been Married for 12 years and with my husband for 14 years. we have 4 wonderful children together. Friday night in the midst of our sexcapade in the bedroom out of the blue he asked if i would be ok with him bringing his male friend into the ...
A. 10 August 2010: There is nothing wrong with fantasys. But, in this instance, I will suggest that you pass on the idea of a three some. It can still be a fantasy, but remember, not all fantasies need to be fufilled.
Trust me, this is one fantasy that could de... (read in full...)
I want a divorce, but I know he won't accept it!
Q. Hello I want to leave my husband, i dont love him anymore (we dont have children and we're under 30) but I'm very scared of his reaction and our families, I want to know if I choose to hide for sometime will i have problems with the law? it is ilega...
A. 27 June 2010: You seem to feel like you are in danger. Do you have a strong support system? A family member in another state that will take you in? There is no law binding you to him. I see no reason why you can't just up and walk away. You need to hire a ... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband want to have sex?
Q. Hey every one ........... Need a lil advice on how to make my husband want to have sex with me. its bin 2 months now that i try to make the moves on him and he rejects them ive gone as far as going oral and he brushes me away by saying oo babe c...
A. 21 June 2010: I am assuming wrong that your sex drive was normal up to a few months ago? If so, you have to find out what has changed from then to now. New job? Lost Job? Death in the family? Other stressor? It could be as simple as extra stress or as ... (read in full...)
Farewell from an aunt
Q. After being an aunt on this wonderful site for well over 5 years, I've decided to finally see the writing on the wall and call it quits. I truly gave it my best shot and spoke the truth as I know it to be. I will always treasure my time here and the ...
A. 20 June 2010: Thank you for your insight, your experience, and candor. You will be missed EWO.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
How do we split bills in this kind of situation?
Q. How do we split bills in this one of a kind situation? I am in my 40's, female, and currently own a business, pay a mortgage on my home, and support 3 kids. The business is steady in the last year but not nearly as profitable as it once was. I d...
A. 12 June 2010: I guess the only thing you can do is tell him how you feel. You could give him an ultimatum with a time stamped in stone date, but be cautious. Unless you are really willing to walk away from the relationship, ultimatums could turn out for the ... (read in full...)
How do we split bills in this kind of situation?
Q. How do we split bills in this one of a kind situation? I am in my 40's, female, and currently own a business, pay a mortgage on my home, and support 3 kids. The business is steady in the last year but not nearly as profitable as it once was. I d...
A. 10 June 2010: What is fair? It's really a tough question to answer. But after analyzing the question for a few minutes, here is what I have come up with:
Before you two met, you were paying your living expenses and he was paying his. He already lived in... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm during sex!
Q. No matter what I do during sex I can't orgasm can u tell me why?...
A. 10 June 2010: If you are able to orgasm through masterbation, it might be as simple as getting to know your partner, and being 100% comfortable with him. Show and teach him what triggers an orgasm. Guide him.
The female orgasm is more complex than the male... (read in full...)
My new husband refuses to spend time with me and swears at me when I ask him to!
Q. I asked my husband that he should spend more time with me. We have only been married for 5 months and he doesn't spend time with me. We are intimate like 2 or3 times a month or two max. Whenever, i bring this spending time together question he ...
A. 10 June 2010: You need to set your husband down and let him know exactly how you feel. There could be a compromise. When I married, my wife knew that I had an obsession with golf, but at the same time I also had a comitment to our marriage. As a compromise... (read in full...)
Can having a pap smear affect your hymen??
Q. just a question, i am a 20 yr old female and am a virgin. I got a pap smear test the other day as part of an general check up. I said i didnt need one for obvious reasons but the doctor wanted to give me one anyway just to make sure everything was ...
A. 10 June 2010: The hymen is pretty fragile. It wouldn't take much to rupture it. I have heard of girls breaking it while engaged in rigurous sports, masterbation, gyno exam, and of course sex. If you bleed soon after the exam, it is quite possible.
It's ... (read in full...)
A pimple? Or something else?
Q. Hello, Ive noticed i have a bump on the underneath my shaft, about halfway up. Its underneath the skin, and at first i thought it might be a pimple forming because it was small and hurt a bit, but now it has gotten bigger, but no whitehead has ap...
A. 8 June 2010: Could be a ingrown hair. If you trim down there, it is a posibility. If it is painful to the touch, you need to go get checked out. You can never be to safe.
Good Luck.
Jeff ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if we have a baby he will settle down with me and stop hanging out on the streets, what should I do?
Q. hi i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and wants to have a baby but he is alway out in the streets he say's if we have a baby he will settle down with me. What should i do?...
A. 8 June 2010: Let him know that you wish him well. Sweetie, you have an entire life ahead of you. You are 17. You have college, a career, and a life long journey just around the corner. This is really a no brainer. Even if he delivers on his promise, how are ... (read in full...)
How high of a risk is pulling out?
Q. How high of a risk is it having sex with out a condom but not cuming in her and I wipped it off be for I put it in her ...
A. 7 June 2010: Does June 20, 2010 have a special meaning to you? If you keep utilizing the pull-out method, it will.
If CindyCares is correct, you should be planting the seed of fatherhood nearly 2-3 times for every 10 sexual encounters. Not good odds unless y... (read in full...)
I want to enjoy some good sex but with him I can't!
Q. Okay, so I have been with my boy friend for a year and a half now. I am 18, and we are a good ways apart and he's the 3 guy I have had sex with. The first time the guy was so small, I didn't even feel anything, even though it took forever to ...
A. 7 June 2010: I gave this same advice a while ago, but it seems appropriate so here it goes:
You could look at it time way: You are so friggin hot that just the sight of you makes him explode. But that is still no reason for his to be a lousy lover.
I sugge... (read in full...)
Forgot my pill, what should I do?
Q. This is just an enquiry - basically I'm on the pill and have been for a few years now - I forgot to take the pill after a night out and it slipped my mind as I was on my period shortly after. Now when I finished me and my boyfriend had an accident ...
A. 7 June 2010: Contact your GP. Not that I think that you are pregnant, but because the stress that you are probably going through is likely to have adverse effects on a home pregnancy test. Stress is a powerful thing.
If you have been taking the pill eve... (read in full...)
I feel more comfortable dressing like a guy
Q. Hi. Um, I hope this question is appropriate for this kind of forum, but it's the only site I can really find that seems reliable. Anyway... I'm confused. I'm a 19 year old girl and consider myself as such. I have crushes on boys, though I've only...
A. 7 June 2010: Who's to say that you can't dress the way you want? As long as you clothing doesn't infringe on the rights of others around you, I saydress as you please.
I also wouldn't label you as transexual. You are simply a lady who choses not to wear gen... (read in full...)
Ex may have non-consentual indecent photos of me.
Q. Hi. My problem is this. I was with my ex for 7 years. Last April he left to be with someone else. Now he wants me to sell the house to give him money. Things have gotten a bit nasty but the other day he e-mailed me to say he had 'found' his old ...
A. 2 June 2010: I would be willing to bet he has nothing. Like other have already said, he is trying to blackmail you. Save all eviedence of this. Find out if it is legal in your state to record his voice over the phone on in person. Some states require ... (read in full...)
How can I sort my life out and stop feeling ashamed of my situation?
Q. my life is completely upside down i have had a rough start and have only met men who seem to believe i am not good enough to do anything with my life, including my dad who has two wonderful sons from his second marrige who have had everything they ...
A. 2 June 2010: I applaud your candor. Your life is not over, in fact it is just begining. Life is a marathon and this is not the end of the race, but merely a checkpoint.
Looking back on the last 12 years, you have to pull the positives. First of all, wit... (read in full...)
Which of the two do men remember more - their first love or their first sexual encounter?
Q. Which one of the two do men remember more? Their first love or the person they had sex for the first time? ...
A. 2 June 2010: I remember my first love. Looking back, I wish I had waited to have sex. I was 15 and in a highschool play. On the last night, the cast went to Mexico for a night on the town. When I was in HS, as long as you were an American and had money, you ... (read in full...)
Bleeding during masturbation, why did that happen?
Q. ok i was fingering myself hard and there was some blood why what happed??...
A. 1 June 2010: It's quite possible that you broke your hymen. Unless you continue to bleed, you are probably ok.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
What is this thing inside my vagina?
Q. For at least a year or two now, I've noticed (felt) this small, penny size bubble on the lower side of my vagina. It's completely painless, and feels like bubble wrap when you push on it. Nothing has ever came out of it as far as I know. I've went ...
A. 1 June 2010: Sounds like a cyst. But to be sure, you need to tell you mom about it and go see a gyno. It's probably nothing, but in order to quell your fears you need to be checked out. Stress can cause all kinds of medical problems.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
My husband isn't always turned on by me when we have sex and so sometimes he will fantasize about other women to get excited.
Q. My husband isn't always turned on by me when we have sex and so sometimes he will fantasize about other women to get excited. This hurts my feelings and I feel insecure because of it. Is this something that normally takes place when a man has been ...
A. 1 June 2010: Wow. He told you that? There are certain things "man code" that we are never supposed to tell to a wife/g/f to include: Honey, does this pair of jeans make me look fat? Hell no! How's my cooking? Wonder-freaking-ful! Do, you fantasize about ... (read in full...)
Which books will improve my vocabuary?
Q. Hey there, I am 25 and since leaving school and university, I have hardly had the time to read books nor really had an interest for them, but as time goes by I find that my English is not as profound and great as it could be and I am starting to f...
A. 1 June 2010: Reading in general will improve your vocabulary. People that read alot tend to have the biggest vocabulary. You don't have to read the dictionary. The more you read, the more you expand. You start to figure out new words by looking at the ... (read in full...)
If someone masturbates can it cause erection problems?
Q. If a person masturbates can it cause you to not have an erection over a period time?...
A. 31 May 2010: If anything, it will keeps his parts in working order. Unless he is doing it 3 times a day, he shouldn't have an problem having a dose of traditional sex (you & him).
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Would getting a guy a teddy bear for his birthday be stupid?
Q. He always tells me he's lonely and so I always tell him teddy bears help. So finally his 16 bday is coming up (we're just friends) and I was just wondering if getting him a teddy bear would be too embarrassing for him? He's a nice guy, I think he ...
A. 31 May 2010: I would be willing to be he would love it. To ensure he isn't embarrased (teased by his friends), give it to him when you two are alone.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Is it ok to fool around with a guy when you are not using any contraception?
Q. Is i ok to fool around with a guy when you are currently not an form of contraception. I know sex is a definite no no....
A. 31 May 2010: Unless you are both willing and ready to raise a child you need to use protection. Take a scroll through the recent questions on this site. Many are woman in your same situation asking for advice on how to tell a parent that that are expecting a ... (read in full...)
I have given him an ultimatum to get married, but I don't want to lose him! What should I do?
Q. im in a relationship with a guy for one year.he says he like me and can also marry me but doesnt love me and not give commitment now.we both are 27.my parents are worried because i should get married now.i gave him 3 more months to tell me whether ...
A. 31 May 2010: Once you give an ultimatum, you need to stick through the consequenses good or bad. Failure to follow through will be an open invitation to walk all over your heart.
If he is not ready to commit, you need to be willing to walk away.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Don't you consider this a cruel game?
Q. My friend was at the mall with her family and her dad started a game where they had to "find chubby people." I said that this was a mean and cruel game. She said that it wasn't and it was just a game- just something to do. But still- isn't this mean ...
A. 31 May 2010: Wow. People still amaze me. I applaud you for sticking to your moral code. People that engage in this type of behavior have serious character flaws. Makes you wonder what kind of friend she really is behind your back.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Am I a tramp?
Q. I've been a very bad discusting person well i think so anyway :( ive had sex with two boys in the space of a month, and other sexual acts with them too spreading over 5 months im just realising now that i feel nasty and horrible, im sucha tramp...
A. 31 May 2010: You are not a whore or a tramp. You are a young person exploring your sexuality. Having these feelings are a normal part of growing up. If you don't like the way you feel, change your behavior. Don't let boys guilt you into having a sexual ... (read in full...)
I don't have an hymen even though I'm not an athelete.
Q. hii!iam not an athlete..but i dont hav an hymen layer..i found this when me and my boyfriend had sex..from that point of time he is suspecting me a lot..!!i was a virgin when i slept with him..but he is not trusting me b'coz of the absence of hymen ...
A. 31 May 2010: There are many ways you could have torn your hymen (excluding sex) to include masterbation, tampon insertion, gyno appt., physical activities, ect...
The problem to me isn't how your hymen tore, but rather why your boyfriend doesn't trust yo... (read in full...)
Is being with 6 men sexually by the age of 30 a lot?
Q. okay so this is a very random curious question. I'm turning 30 and have been with 6 men sexually. Is this a lot for a woman of my age to have been with that many men? Sometimes i wonder and feel bad about my sexual experiences. ...
A. 31 May 2010: It isn't an alarming number. Six in a week would bother me, but at 30, six seems about right.
Good Luck!
Jeff... (read in full...)
Birth control question!
Q. Okay so I have been on birth control for about 4 months and after the first two months I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend a bunch. A condom is not used AT ALL. Do you think I should have less sex, sex with a condom all the time, or ...
A. 30 May 2010: Use a condom just in case. You is for protestion against STDs and a double barrier against pregnancy. The only time you should have unprotected sex is when you are willing and able to accept the responsibility of having a child. Since the pill is ... (read in full...)
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