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We are getting married, but he's neglecting me in bed, is there hope I can turn this around?

Q.   Hello, Well I have a bit of a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we are going to be married in a few months. When we were first together, he was a sensual and giving lover, and did perform oral sex on me occasionally. But as time ...

A.   2 December 2007: I wonder why he lost intrest in you! He may have lost a bit of respect for you as your doing EVERYTHING for him, a bit like a mother and I'm sure you don't want to be his mum do you? He's a man not a boy. You got to stop doing everything for him, ... (read in full...)

We are getting married, but he's neglecting me in bed, is there hope I can turn this around?

Q.   Hello, Well I have a bit of a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we are going to be married in a few months. When we were first together, he was a sensual and giving lover, and did perform oral sex on me occasionally. But as time ...

A.   30 November 2007: Do you really want to be married to an selfish lover? sex is not the most important on the list but its right up there! and has broken up relationships. You deserve better than this, it's pretty strange his like this even before you marride but a ... (read in full...)

My friend's stategy to attract women. What do you think?

Q.   I recently spoke to one of my guy friends about how he gets girls/woman to like him ( because he always seems to have woman on the go) He said that he gives them attention and then cuts it off and this makes them want more? What do...

A.   28 November 2007: Depends, It would put me off the person if they run hot or cold, It just be like I can't be bothered! or player alert!... (read in full...)

I don't get turned on at all, is this normal?

Q.   I don't get turned on at all...No matter what my boyfriends or myself do, nothing really seems to turn me on..Is this normal?...

A.   28 November 2007: Don't worry give it a year or two then your be fine! OR it could be the guy your with, you may not be very attracted to him sexually. Some people don't connect, I broke up with an ex because of this, we just didn't have any chemistry!... (read in full...)

My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent

Q.   My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent. I have always been faithful to my wife, but we have on a few occasions attended swingers parties and through them hooked up and had sex with other couples. We have been married fou...

A.   27 November 2007: I can understand your worry as you were there when she had sex, now she wants to do it alone. I would tell her no and say your fine with swinging but meeting up with people outside of that swinging club where I'm not there, thats a no no. You both ... (read in full...)

How can I get him to respect me more?

Q.   hey, I am 18 and like my flatmate. We get along fine and have lots of fun. However, I have another flatmate, who is female, from Cyprus, and she gets along with him better than me. I think that I can see them flirting. However, she displays this ...

A.   27 November 2007: You know what? you sound really pathetic and weak. So what if your going to live with him for the rest of the year! do you have to do choures for him? nooo. No guy will respect you if your doing all of that before your even a couple! You sound like ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend isn't interested in sex. Has he seriously has lost interest in me? Could it possibly be he's THAT concerned about house issues?

Q.   Okay, so I've read the other questions about men not being interested in sex, but I think mine is different. Here's the deal. I'm 29 and my boyfriend is 38. We have been together a little over 3 years and a year and a half ago we bought a "fixer ...

A.   26 November 2007: Maybe he feels pressured by you and its making him scared to have sex with you. Or he could be gay and thats why he dosen't want sex at all... (read in full...)

Am I gay or is it common for straight women to be turned on by other women's bodies?

Q.   I have been wondering about my sexual orientation for quite some time now. I understand that doubts about your own sexual identities are common for teenagers, but I am already in my 20s and this question has lurked in the back of my mind for many ...

A.   26 November 2007: I really think you should try this out. It sounds like your hiding that side of you. You say your not attracted to men so I wonder how you managed to go all this time without trying women out! seriously try it, may be the best thing you do. ... (read in full...)

We had sex and now he wants it all the time! Advice?

Q.   hello i am very young and last night lost my virginity i am nervous but i don't no why i loved it but now my boyfriend wants to do it everytime we meat what should i do xxxx baffled beutyxx...

A.   26 November 2007: You loved it yet your scared too do it again? deep down you know what you did was wrong, that you were too young. I have no ideal why you had sex with your b/f, I don't believe you have peer pressure at your age as kids your age having sex are ... (read in full...)

He won't do oral on me but I do it for him. He said girls are gross down there..does that mean he'll never do it?

Q.   My ex fiance used to never go down on me, but always demanding and asked that I go down on him. He always said that he was waiting until marriage to go down on a girl. We had sex, but I was always trying to wait until marriage but he made me feel ...

A.   26 November 2007: This guy dosen't seem great overall, he dosen't respect your wishes for no sex till marriage and playing mind games with you. He may be gay, how does he know guys are better than girls down there? You never should have gone down on him, you should ... (read in full...)

How can I get him to respect me more?

Q.   hey, I am 18 and like my flatmate. We get along fine and have lots of fun. However, I have another flatmate, who is female, from Cyprus, and she gets along with him better than me. I think that I can see them flirting. However, she displays this ...

A.   25 November 2007: Girl your a push over! Who cares if you seem rude, he's rude for expecting you to do all these things. I'm 18 and I would never let anyone treat me like a fool like that man is doing. Don't do his laundry, don't do anything for him! Is he even your ... (read in full...)

For the first time I realise what a poor and selfish spouse I have been. How do I show her my love, how to do it without sacrificing family time?

Q.   I have been with my wife for 15 years. We have been married for 10. About 4 years ago I got caught cheating with multiple women. Additionally, about two years ago she found a letter that looks like I may have been doing it again though i actually ...

A.   25 November 2007: She's still with you, so yes your properly convince her. Most women would have left you by now. Just go through with your word and don't cheat again and put her first... (read in full...)

I realise I have friends, but not best friends; I am never invited to parties, etc. I'm usually a happy girl, but this depresses me.

Q.   Okay so usually im a happy girl. But lately, its been just so depressing. I realize i have friends, but not best friends. its so horrible. i never get invited to parties, i dont have a boyfriend, and im not miss popular, even thoug...

A.   25 November 2007: I was in the same sitaution as you was. I have no ideal why they don't invite you out, maybe they think your not in the drink scene and don't invite you? some people just don't, you may have to make more of an effort and ask them out. Things got ... (read in full...)

Am I ready?

Q.   i'm 15 and there's a guy i really love. we have talked about having sex lots of times but i don't know i'm ready or not. can you help me?...

A.   24 November 2007: If you have to ask, I don't think your ready yet. What Dr John said is true... (read in full...)

Infatuation with my Latin teacher is influencing my decision for subject change!

Q.   I've got a question that is affecting my schoolwork. I have a crush on a previous Latin teacher, who is also a female. I have a GPA of 4.0 in Latin and it is one of my best classes, and I also enjoy it immensely. This teacher took me last year, and ...

A.   22 November 2007: You shouldn't take the subject if your not going to learn. You sound very sensible so I'm sure your pick the best for yourself!... (read in full...)

My guy seems to use me as a convenience to do his chores. What can I do about this?

Q.   I am currently engaged to a wonderful man. We recently moved in together, and over the last couple months I have noticed something he does that drives me nuts. He is always asking me to do simple tasks for him - for instance, calling the cable ...

A.   22 November 2007: Think about what it be like when you have kids! you need to sort this out NOW. Do you really want to be married to an man who has a sexist attiude and expects you to do all the work? Refuse to run his errands anymore and sit him down if he isn't ... (read in full...)

I cheated, it will never happen again, but the guilt is driving me crazy, how can I go on like this?

Q.   Hi everybody....Im coming to you a as a cheater. I feel like such a horrible person. Although I know Im not, I made one terrible mistake. The worst I have ever made in my life. I have been with my GF for a little over 3 years, and cheated on ONE ...

A.   22 November 2007: Tell her, guys have before and they been forgiven but the women who found out not from their partner usualy ended the relationship. You are cable of cheating, you say you have a wonderful partner yet you still cheated? have you ever thought there ... (read in full...)

Am I wasting my best years by not having sex?

Q.   I'm in my teens. Now is the best time to be having Sex, and I'm not! I was not so long ago, and I think I took Sex for granted because I was enjoying my girlfriends company so much. Am I wasting my best years?? Do many guys suffer this when it com...

A.   22 November 2007: What? you want to be having sex all the time, is that what you mean?? I'm confused as you had a g/f a short while ago so you shouldn't be worrying about not gettung any and wasting your best years.... (read in full...)

How to get over these feelings?

Q.   Is it possible to get over someone that is so...perfect for you, yet everything is so against you, there's not a chance of being together? The person I am talking about is my best friend. I was definitely interested in him before we became close ...

A.   22 November 2007: Those feelings are hard to overcome but distance and time will help. ... (read in full...)

I get loads of attention from other girls but I really want my ex back...

Q.   Hi All, Well what an absolute nightmare. I’ve just ended a 15 month relationship. Everything was great at first but for the last 6 months or so we’ve been having petty rows pretty regularly. We never make up following a row, although I always t...

A.   22 November 2007: She really isn't worth it, personally I don't think she sounds very stable. Cut all ties with her, if she calls dont answer. Some people just aren't worth your time. Next time be more careful in who you get in a relationship with, you know the ... (read in full...)

I get loads of attention from other girls but I really want my ex back...

Q.   Hi All, Well what an absolute nightmare. I’ve just ended a 15 month relationship. Everything was great at first but for the last 6 months or so we’ve been having petty rows pretty regularly. We never make up following a row, although I always t...

A.   21 November 2007: She needs to get help, she's going to look back on your relationship and wish she didn't mess it up. You got to leave it alone now, she either got to get help or just go on the path she's taking. She might wise up in the future and want you back. I ... (read in full...)

He doesn't go down on me anymore... Should I stop giving him head?

Q.   hi,im in a stable relationship and have been for 2yrs until recently my partner loved going down on me and i him.it has been something like 2 months since he last went down and it seems he has no intensions of ressuming it,yet i have continued to ...

A.   21 November 2007: tell him how you feel AND stop giving him head. You say its the only way you get off and he's stopped doing it!! how selfish... (read in full...)

Is my friend bi curious?

Q.   Hi, i have a best friend for the last 5 years we get on really well., last year we kisses for a laugh to wind my mate up and never been mention since.. but been few weird small talks and flirting she is married and last week we were talkin on the ...

A.   21 November 2007: she may be joking but yes ask her, she may be bi curious... (read in full...)

My husband is cheating with a 20yr old, but I want to stay together for the kids, how can I deal with his cheating?

Q.   My husband of almost 14 years is having an affair with a 20 year old for about a month now. He says he loves me but not in love with me, which is confusing to me since we still have sex. I want to work things out not only for us but for our ...

A.   21 November 2007: There having sex, don't believe that! do you think he'll risk he;s family for a woman he's not even having sex with?? please, relgious people don't all wait for marriage ... (read in full...)

Do guys really break up with girls because they aren't shaved to turn them on?...

Q.   I read a comment the other day on here and it got me really nervous...a guy said that one of his girlfriends wasnt shaved in her pubic area and he didnt end up getting really serious with her. I love my boyfriend a lot and he loves me, but im not ...

A.   20 November 2007: No! I trim down there but haven't shaved all my hair off. I find that not attractive. That man is an arse hole, you got an b/f and he's happy with you, if he wasn't he tell you!! so chill!... (read in full...)

I had sex with him on the first night out, which I had never done before! Now he accuses me for that!

Q.   I am 45 just divorced and met this man. He seems genuine and caring and loving. I've been unhappy for a long time in my marraige for years. So I decided to go for this man. I had sex with him on the first night out. It's something I've never ...

A.   20 November 2007: Say, "well it takes two to tango so you must be a slag too!" Don't put up with this, maybe he wants you to dump him? very strange ... (read in full...)

We've been together since we were 5, now we are 13 and want to start having sex, what to do??

Q.   hi im 13 and im going out with a boy the same age and we have known eachother since we were 5 and have always been close. We sneak around because we dont want everyone to know about us. not even our parents know because they will tell people. ...

A.   19 November 2007: You are 13! I'm sure most kids your age aren't having sex. Why can't you both just be kids? hold hands and kiss... (read in full...)

What should I do about different sex views.

Q.   My girlfriend that I have been steady with for 5 months doesn't view sex the same way I do. She is very religious while I am not. However, we don't fight about religious views yet she won't do many sexual things because of it. She is very in...

A.   19 November 2007: Leave her alone, find another g/f who will have sex with you. She dosen't want that and properly dosen't till she's married or at least older, if you keep forcing her she will end up dumping you or you will have sex but when she's older she'll ... (read in full...)

How long should you wait until sex? I'm 12.

Q.   I am 12 i have a felling to have sex but i know it is wrong and i wont do it. Just to tell you now my b/f is not pressuring me but we both know it is wrong so we will wait. what age should i wait until? My b/f and i have been going out for about 5 ...

A.   19 November 2007: Horrible. My sister is 12 and I hope to God she dosen't get a b/f till a couple of years. I don't understand why kids can't just be kids, you can have a b/f just don't sleep with him. What's wrong woth holding hands and kissing? people you see on TV ... (read in full...)

This guy keeps staring at me but I'm not at all attracted. I hate turning people down, so what do I do if he asks me out??

Q.   Ok a situation. There is a lad in one of my classes at college. Doesnt everyone say that staring is a sign that someone likes you. I noticed a couple of weeks ago that he kept staring at me. Im not really atracted to him in any way. In todays l...

A.   17 November 2007: I had that problem at work, like you I knew the guy fancied me but I didn't like him, when he finally asked me out I said I didn't know him very well. 2 weeks later he asked me out again, me being a idiot and like you didn't want to hurt he's ... (read in full...)

So I am exclusive to her but she can sleep with women? Do I put my foot down here?

Q.   My Girlfriend is Bisexual. We’ve been going out for six months and I have known that she leaned both ways and accepted it. But she and I want to take our relationship to the next level. The problem is she tells me she can’t give up having sex ...

A.   17 November 2007: I'm bisexual and your g/f is giving us a bad name! we're all not like that and we can stay faithful too one person though it can be hard at times. At least your g/f being with you and isn't sleeping around behind your back, your going to have to ask ... (read in full...)

Do players always move on??

Q.   GUYS, again, bringing up the player question. I asked about it yesterday under the heading "Does a player ever change his tune." I met with him last night and we had a talk. He swears that he is true, but I really would like to solicit some of ...

A.   14 November 2007: If he hasen't stopped by now it's unlikey he will now! sounds like a George Clooney type, decent guy but can't settle down. It's your risk and time by pursing a long term relationship with this man, later down the line he may get scared and do a ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him I lied before we have sex.

Q.   im 22 and am still a virgin. ive been seeing this guy on and off but its hard because he goes to school in a different country.the last time met up i lied and said i was with another guy for a while and we had sex but didnt. im going to visit him ...

A.   14 November 2007: tell him, you can do it over the phone or email if your too shy too do it to he's face. Most guys won't mind, if he really likes you he really won't care... (read in full...)

He acts about satisfying only his pleasures during sex.

Q.   I am scared at what i am becoming. My boyfriend is so lazy that when we have sex he only wants to climax himself only. It has been such a long time since ive last climaxed and it is making me turn to a wierdo. I am now masturbating myself every ...

A.   14 November 2007: play fire with fire, like the poster below me said, don't satisfy him. You need to tell him how your feeling though, admit your tempted to cheat because of this and if that dosen't change he's mind then he isn't the man for you.... (read in full...)

Dressing/fitting room...

Q.   Good Day! Lately my lover and I have been talking about our sexual fantasies. This has led to exploration of our fantasies. Lately he has been fulfilling my sexual fantasies. Having said that I want to fulfil one of his sex fantasies. One o...

A.   13 November 2007: I don't think thats a good ideal, what about all the poor people having to listen outside? or kids may be in ear shot and see something they shouldn't. Can't you two do it in a car or in a park at night?... (read in full...)

Is my unstable relationship with my father the cause of all this?

Q.   I've got a problem that I've only really been able to talk about with one person. See, I seem to fall in and out of infatuations so easily. I'm not sure why this is, exactly. I'm 14, nearly 15, and I've gone to an all-girls school all my life. I'm ...

A.   13 November 2007: I had crushes on my teachers your age but I knew it was wrong and deep down I wouldn't do anything to further these crushes. Maybe you should see someone, sounds like your very highly sexually motivated for your age and it's not directed at boys ... (read in full...)

Nausea from sexual encounters

Q.   Ok so im a 16 year old boy, and when i get in a sexual encounter with a girl (fore play, not sex), i get nauseous, soo bad that i sometimes have to run to the bathroom and throw up. Now its specific though, when i pleasure her its fine but when she ...

A.   12 November 2007: Mental and you can't help it so you can say all you want about not wanting to be gay but if you are, you can't help it. It sounds from your question your like this with other girls you been with? not just this girl? I really think you need to do ... (read in full...)

Why are there double standards when it comes to men and women having sex?

Q.   why is it that if a guy sleeps around hes just being a lad and its alright cos hes having fun, but if a girl sleeps around shes a slag and a slut and dirty... even if she just wants to have fun why is this?...

A.   12 November 2007: I don't think much of guys who sleep around and I notice more girls looking down on men who are players. Their just good for sex, thats it and everyone knows it. ... (read in full...)

Nausea from sexual encounters

Q.   Ok so im a 16 year old boy, and when i get in a sexual encounter with a girl (fore play, not sex), i get nauseous, soo bad that i sometimes have to run to the bathroom and throw up. Now its specific though, when i pleasure her its fine but when she ...

A.   12 November 2007: Maybe you are gay, maybe your hiding it so deep inside it's coming out in this way. There's nothing wrong with being gay. ... (read in full...)

Sleep around or wait for the one.

Q.   I’m a 19 year old male, reasonably attractive though nothing special, I’ve been told I have a great personality and I have plenty of girl-“friends” but I don’t know what direction to take in my “love” life, and it really gets me down. I’ve never ...

A.   12 November 2007: Lots of girls would want a guy like you, your just not looking in the right places. Not every girl is a player just like not every guy is one. As your young it really shouldn't be hard to find a decent girl, yes she may not be a virgin but that ... (read in full...)

So am I a lesbien

Q.   alrite... hmm i kno this seems to b a common Q but i'm relle wondering if i am a lesbian? well i think about girls 24/7 i mean in like a sexual way. n i tend to b attracted more to girls then guys. there is only one guy i care about (sexually n...

A.   12 November 2007: You are bisexual, thats for sure. You aren't a lesbian as you fancy a guy and want to have sex with him, you are most properly bisexual but lean more towards women. Theres nothing wrong with that! your find out more about yourself when you get older... (read in full...)

He stares and makes comments on other girls.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time now going on three years. for the past year whenever we go out in public he stars and makes comments constantly about other females, in the begining it was a glance here and there, and a small ...

A.   11 November 2007: He's being very disrespectful, my b/f has never said those things to me about another girl, yeah I catch him looking sometimes but he never tells me how the girl is hot or anything. I don't know why your still with a guy who says things like that ... (read in full...)

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