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18-21,
Jess_Ka
writes:I have been seein my boyfriend for 6 months and have had a very healthy sex life until recently when i found out he was lying about going to strip clubs and masturbating to porn regularly. Now i feel disgusted and sick to my stomach when he tries to be intimate with me and I cant allow myself to get close to him. Please help me to get over these issues!
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (6 March 2008):
 Six months is still a young relationship. Has he lied about going to strip clubs whilest with you or has he just not told you about going with friends in the past?
A lot of people are embarrassed to talk about masturbation and are afraid of being judged if they like porn and strip clubs. At your age boys and some girls are very curious about these things, so give him a chance!
You need to encourage honesty in your relationship and you need to be open to forgiveness!
Noone is perfect and noone will be honest with you if you react by getting really upset and judging them.
You have a right to be upset, but you need to learn to deal with it. In time he can earn your trust. If he turns out to be a compulsive lier and won't meet you half way, then get rid, but make sure you don't through away love just because you can't forgive...
God bless you and good luck!
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reader, love-him +, writes (6 March 2008):
 HEY!!
Well hon, i honestly think your boyfriend needs to start telling you the truth, instead of you finding out him lying. You need to think about your future, if you tell him to stop going to the clubs and he says he will but doesnt, then is the time to maybe say that was your last chance..
GOOD LUCK! Feel free to mail me at any time x x x
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 At your age, this mate is probably not going to matter much longer. You are very young, so please know that it will easily be put behind you as a learning experience. You are still just beginning to experience life, and this particular man is demonstrating a preference for fantasy sex, rather than intimacy with a real woman. Some of this activity is acceptable, perhaps, but if his interest in having personal warmth with you begins to subside, then I think you may be in a troublesome relationship.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (6 March 2008):
 It's not your issue it his, I can understand you being turned off. I believe going to strip clubs when your a couple is a big no. If I was you I tell him to stop going to the strip clubs and if he didn't, that properly be the end of the relationship. The porn not really a big problem, though I guess he can cut down if it's making you really upset, I mean not all men watch it. Most do though!
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