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Mty boyfriend is aggresive and im worried about breaking up...
Q. I find my boyfriend very aggresive and I'm worried about breaking it to him that we're over. He would never hurt me but he shouts a lot and punches walls and stuff. I'm not used to this (my parents are very passive in arguments) and I sometimes ...
A. 4 September 2006: At least you know that he will never hurt you physically. I think that you should sit him down and just tell him that you are over, tell him that you cannot handle his aggressiveness any more. If he gets in a strop and starts hitting walls and stuff ... (read in full...)
I have decided to give up drinking and people think I'm a freak!
Q. Hi I recently made a decision to give up drinking. I have drank for 10 years and to be honest never massively enjoyed it...... I loved the social aspect but it always gave me headaches and terrible next day hangovers, as well as occasional memor...
A. 4 September 2006: Well I say good on you mate. Seriously I want to give up drinking but am finding it difficult. Its not that I need a drink because I dont and I can go without its just I like the social aspect of it aswell. The thing is like you I suffer from huge ... (read in full...)
Why does my GF resist being touched all of a sudden?
Q. hi I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years and all of a sudden she won't let me touch her. I can't even kiss her without her sighing. Someone please tell me what I can do. I can't talk to her because I would'nt know how to put it. Please ...
A. 3 September 2006: I think that you should sit her down and ask her what she really wants. It sounds to me that she is becoming bored with the physical side of your relationship. Maybe you should try and spice things up a bit like bringing in some toys. If it doesnt ... (read in full...)
Whats a special way to tell someone you love them ?
Q. how do i tell someone special that i love them in a special way? ...
A. 3 September 2006: You should do it spontaneously. Find a nice peaceful night and pack a romantic picnic and take your love for a nice walk under the stars. Find a nice quiet place to sit like a big park or your local sandy beach. Put your blanket on the floor and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell his dad that I still like his son ?
Q. hello, i am 16 and went out wiv this boy for 5 months then we broke up cos we wanted to consentrate on our exams, i havent seen him since and that once about 3 months ago. i still like him and i am good friends with his dad cos i see him at my ho...
A. 1 September 2006: Make his dad a nice cuppa whilst he is working and casually ask him how his son is doing? Why dont you say that your friend is having a party and theey have invited him along too but cant get hold of him, so can he ask him to go on msn too sort the ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and I think I'm pregnant. Can my 18 yr old bf get into trouble for getting me pregnant?
Q. ok i have a boyfriend that is 18 years of age. well i have a feeling i maybe might be pregnant and im 16 (gonna turn 17 soon tho) we are a year and 3 months apart. so can he get in trouble for being 18 aand im pregnant? jus wonderin thanks...
A. 1 September 2006: No you are at a legal age now. The main thing is are you both ready for this, you are very young. I think you both need to talk to your parents for some advice and guidence hunny. Take care... (read in full...)
Its been 9 months, im finding it hard to move forward from my ex...
Q. I was with my ex for 9 years,he left me 9 months ago,with no explanation,changed his mobile number,so i couldnt contact him. i have been waiting for things to start getting better,but its just not happening,every day,i miss him more and more,a f...
A. 1 September 2006: Well it is very hard hunny when the person you love decides that they want to leave you. It took me a year to get over my first love, but I drank a lot of alcohol went clubbing every night and had a few drunken one night stands. I was so deppressed, ... (read in full...)
Its been 9 months, im finding it hard to move forward from my ex...
Q. I was with my ex for 9 years,he left me 9 months ago,with no explanation,changed his mobile number,so i couldnt contact him. i have been waiting for things to start getting better,but its just not happening,every day,i miss him more and more,a f...
A. 1 September 2006: Well it is very hard hunny when the person you love decides that they want to leave you. It took me a year to get over my first love, but I drank a lot of alcohol went clubbing every night and had a few drunken one night stands. I was so deppressed, ... (read in full...)
Are her orgams real or fake?
Q. I think i gave my girlfriend an orgasm but i dont no! the last three times me and my girlfriend have had sex she has been on top and after about 10 mins she says she feels a pulsing inside of her a few mins later she says she has 1 big pulse an...
A. 1 September 2006: I am sure that it is hunny. why don't you suggest she lay down on her front and you enter her vagina from the back. I tell you what that gets me going everytime. Try it and I guarantee she definately wont be faking it then. Only do it if she is ... (read in full...)
Its my best friends birthday, I have no money, any ideas on what I can make him ?
Q. its my best male friends birthday today and Im totally broke! I dont think even if i did have any money i couldnt decide what to get him. Any ideas guys? I want to make something (im reasonably arty) or something thats personal to him or us. I kinda ...
A. 1 September 2006: Have you got some photos of you him and other friends on various nights out or just chilling. Why dont you gather as many as possible and get a large frame. Make a collage of his friends. If your arty you will enjoy cutting them up and sticking them ... (read in full...)
I'm a week late, could I be pregnant?
Q. well i had unprotected sex when i was ovulating, about 5 days after i started spotting i took 3 pregnancy test but all are negative, and i'm almost a week late for my period. pregnant? ...
A. 1 September 2006: I have unprotected sex with my boyfriend all the time and my periods are always late but I am never pregnant. I say wait another week and do a test. Until then I wouldn't worry too much... (read in full...)
What is the average penis size?
Q. what is the average penis size?...
A. 1 September 2006: I couldnt tell you hunny, but to be honest its not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean so dont worry. My boyfriend is not very big but he is the best sex I have ever had because he knows how to use it.... (read in full...)
What nicknames do guys like to be called?
Q. What nicknames do guys like to be called? Girls get called names like babe and sexy etc. But what do guys like to be called? Thanks...
A. 1 September 2006: I always call my boyfriend baby. sometimes sweetie but mainly baby. ... (read in full...)
Her bf is tearing her apart and i'm secretly in love with her!!!
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm best mates with this girl, shes seeing this guy who is awful and has cheated around 16 times on her and is just horrible. She wont leave him because "she loves" him, shes 14, he's 17 and im 14 too. She lost her virginity to him...
A. 31 August 2006: Oh hunny do not put yourself down so much. It doesn't matter what you look like, Its what your like inside that counts. I don't think that it is a good idea to tell your girl mate how you feel at the moment because I think all she needs right now is ... (read in full...)
Torn between long-term bf and this other guy! But the other guy has a new gf, now. Should I just forget about him?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for nearly two and a half years. i love him but things aren't the same anymore. i know a man through friends who i am very attracted to and last year we ended up kissing. nothing ever came of it, as he knew i had a ...
A. 31 August 2006: Maybe you are just a bit bored in your relationship and you are starting to think that the grass will be greener on the other side. But will it? Maybe you just need to spice your own relationship up a bit. Suggest to your partner that you go away ... (read in full...)
He just wants to be friends with benefits...
Q. I'm in love with this man, we have been going out for a year, He left to Michigan for a month to go visit his grandma. Plus on top of that it was our year anniversity at the same time. I had a day planned for us when he came back home, and then when ...
A. 31 August 2006: He is young and wants other things than you do. He has just moved and there is a new city with a new lot of girls to explore. He is not mature enough for an adult relationship, but at least he is being honest with you. He could have still kept a ... (read in full...)
When I try and contact him the phone cuts off.....
Q. I am going with a guy who is 21 i am 22 i have not heard from him for nearly three weeks and when i try to phone him it cuts off please tell me what to do as im really worried about him ...
A. 31 August 2006: Why worry about him? He obviously isnt worried about you. He is taking the cowards way out, he doesnt want to be with you but he hasnt got the guts to say it to your face. So he is hoping that by cutting the phone off everytime you phone, you will ... (read in full...)
We couldnt have kids, I went back to the affair for comfort, now its all over ...
Q. Hi, I have recently broken up with my girlfriend of 16 years. IT is mostly my fault. I had an affair sometime ago in the past eight years ago to be precice. we patched things up after that and have been pressing ahead since. back in 200...
A. 31 August 2006: Well what do you expect? Finding out that you cannot have children is the most horrifying news for a woman ever. It is like part of you is destroyed. Every woman in the world dream of having children, to find out that you cant makes the world ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gettin bored of me....
Q. I have been seein my boyfriend for 10 months now and a think he is starting to get bored of me beczuse everytime i ask him does he want to come to my house he always has a excuse as to why he cant come and i am reli worried because i like him alot ...
A. 31 August 2006: I think that he is getting bored and to be honest do you really want a boyfriend that treats you like that? I think you should stop calling him for a while he will soon realise that you are no longer chasing him and I guarantee that he will then ... (read in full...)
I have an arranged marriage where I serve my husband and his family...but I need a social life, too! Help
Q. 29 yrs old lady , having 3 yrs old baby boy.my husband is of 35 . We got married 5 yrs back .but having conflicts from very beginning.I don't know , that how I explain it. We belong to a Sub-continent family , having so many ethical n religi...
A. 31 August 2006: Oh hunny, I feel for you. That is no way for you to live your life, or for your kids to live theirs. I think personally no matter how hard it will be, get a difforce!!!! He is never going to change, He is still living in the past when women had no ... (read in full...)
My colleague is obsessed with me!! Help!!
Q. There is this woman who works in the wages office next to my office, we have known each other for years. Recently she has started flirting with me. She comes into my office all the time, she asks me who I am seeing and whats going on in my life! ...
A. 31 August 2006: Well I think that you should take her to one side and tell her that you don't see her in the way that she wants you too. Tell her that you do not feel comfortable with the way that she is always coming into your office and asking you personal ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend's brother and she's pissed off at me! What should I do?
Q. I am an 18 year old girl who has fallen for her best friend's brother. I understand it may be weird for my friend to imagine us together, but we really love each other and I do not understand why she can't be happy for us. She has made it clear...
A. 31 August 2006: Well it is very awkward for people when there friends date there siblings. I did the same to one of my friends when I was younger, I thought that it would be fine as I was alsways joking to her about how fit her brother was and she didn't mind. Then ... (read in full...)
Will I get another chance to be with the guy I like ?
Q. There's this guy i really like, but he's seeing someone else. We were together for about 2 months, and they've been seeing each other for about that long too. Will they end soon? Will i have a chance with him again?...
A. 31 August 2006: I think that you had your chance and it didn't work out. He is with somebody else now so let him continue his relationship, he will only end up hating you if you try to destroy it. Just move on hunny. If in time you are both single see what happens ... (read in full...)
How can I build up his trust in me ? He was hurt badly before, and will only commit to being friends!
Q. Hi my name is Hels. 6 weeks ago I was approached by a really nice guy in a club, we talked for ages and he asked me out for a drink etc. Couple of days before we went for this drink he asked are we meeting as friends as im not ready for a ...
A. 31 August 2006: Just be friends with him for the moment. He obviously likes you as he approached you. But he is very insecure and who can blame him? Just be there as a friend and in time his trust for you will become deeper and he will probably make a move. Until ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my Co worker that I like him ?
Q. Should I blurt out my feelings ? There is a mutual attraction between myself and a work colleague which has been building up for months. The frustration of not saying anything is really taking it's toll and me. It also seems to be taken a toll on ...
A. 31 August 2006: How can things become worse than they are? Take him to one side and explain your feelings, it could be the best move you will ever make. If he doesn't feel the same, ask him ehy he is treating you the way he is. Ask him to stop, tell him it is ... (read in full...)
Things are not the same since I cheated, I really regret it, I love her!
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend a good while ago and I am very sorry. I was going to tell her but I couldnt get up the courage. Eventually one of her friends told her. She didnt talk to me for a while but after a while she gave me one more chance things ...
A. 31 August 2006: Sorry to say this but you obviously didn't love her that much or you would never have cheated on her in the first place, and to let her find out from her friend is appaulling. You should have told her yourself straight away and begged for ... (read in full...)
He gets texts from his ex but says I shouldn't have contact with my ex! Double-standard? Is he playing me?
Q. hi i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months now and already we have a problem. ive found out that hes been recieving text messages from his ex-gf and then deleting them straight away, and telling me they are from one of his gay mates. to be ...
A. 31 August 2006: Some people do have possesive ex's. Maybe she keeps txting him, but have you any proof that he has been txting her back. Tell him that if he has nothing to hide to show you the txt's when he receives them. If he refuses to share the txt's with you ... (read in full...)
My friend says I should make a move on this girl I like..but I'm afraid of rejection! What should I do?
Q. i'm 19, and the girl in question is 18. i have know her for about 4 years, she was my gf briefly in the past. we always stayed friends. in the past 5 months we started talking a lot more on the phone and texting each other. after a while i got the ...
A. 31 August 2006: I think this girl just wants to be friends with you. She knows exactly how you feel about her and this is probably the reason she doesn't like to be alone with you because she doesn't want to be in the situation where she has to let you down again. ... (read in full...)
I was his standby girl and now that I'm moving away-he seems frantic to get in touch! Is he having 2nd thoughts?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for a long time. We broke up over a year ago now and he moved back to him hometown. It was hard at the beginning but got better as time went on. I did occasionally hear from him...not often, only when he was drinking and was ...
A. 31 August 2006: There are two ways to look at this hunny. He could be trying to get hold of you because he misses you and realises there could be a chance of the two of you getting back together. Or he could be trying to contact you because he fears that you may ... (read in full...)
He's a great bf and helps me with the kids...but I fear it's too much responsibility for him!
Q. Iam a solo parent in a long distance relationship with a great guy. We have only been together about a year and a half, 8 months of which I have been out of the country. Due to work commitments I had to leave my children with my parents for a year ...
A. 31 August 2006: I think that you should count your blessings and realise how lucky you are. I do think that you should sit your children down and explain that he is not there real father, but a father figure. Just incase things do not work out. I think this man ... (read in full...)
Ive waited 2 weeks for her to call since our breakup...but no contact. Should I just move on?
Q. I had a short relationship of about a month and half. Everything seemed cool but my girlfriend decided to break up saying "she was confused". It has already been two weeks since the break-up. However I am still hopeful that she will call back. But ...
A. 31 August 2006: Maybe she is waiting for you to call her! Stop sitting waiting by the phone for her to call you, Pick it up and call her. If she ignores you or tells you that she is not interested then move on. Your relationship was not a long one and I think once ... (read in full...)
My online guy wants to meet in person, im a bit worried incase he doesnt like me....
Q. Hi all, ive met a guy online and we have been chatting for a bit and exchanged photos, he now wants to meet me which is great, but im worried about meeting him in case he dont like what he sees. Also i maybe overreacting but i think he talks to ...
A. 31 August 2006: I think that you should take a friend with you when you meet him and make sure you meet him in a busy public place just incase he turns out to be one of them internet weirdos. He has obviously seen pictures of you and likes what he see because ... (read in full...)
Is he a rebound relationship ?
Q. 3 months ago my girlfriend split with me the next day she went of with another man however she kept coming back to me for sex and telling me she misses me, in the 3 months they see each other everyday and have been away 3 times together, is he the ...
A. 31 August 2006: I think maybe he could be a rebound but she is being very unfair on you and the other man. You have to put your foot down next time she comes back to you. Tell her that she has made her bed and now she must lye in it. Ask her what she really wants, ... (read in full...)
My best friend slept with my crush!! Should I forgive her?
Q. My best friend slept with my crush. ive had a crush on a guy named pete for 5 years now and i HAD the bestest friend ever. She helped me get with my crush and she said we were perfect together and i was pleased that she did all of this for me. ...
A. 28 August 2006: There is one strict rule that I beleive in, and that is friends do not get off with friends boyfriends, ex's or crushes. She knew how much you liked him and yet she still did it making you beleive that she was getting close to him for your benefit. ... (read in full...)
Her parents won't let me see her any more after they heard us foolin' around!
Q. My girlfriends parents wont let her see me anymore. Her mum and dad let me stay over with no hassle and even let me stay in the same bed as her, when i did we fooled around a bit but i made sure we didnt have sex as it would be too loud. However her ...
A. 28 August 2006: It is probably a shock to her parents, they probably still see their daughter as being innocent and cannot imagine her doing things other than holding hands and kissing. You said that her mum already knew you were having sex together and was fine ... (read in full...)
Any Sheffielders? Say "hi"
Q. Just curious if anyone else is from Sheffield, England? xx...
A. 28 August 2006: I am not from sheffield but from portsmouth in england. So hi
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Friendship and bisexuality confusions
Q. I have a very good female friend who I usually discuss sex and kinky stuff with more than anything else. We know the ins and outs of eachothers relationships with guys, and recently i've been jokingly suggesting a threesome with her and my bf. She ...
A. 27 August 2006: Talk to her about it and tell her you support her 100% and there is nothing wrong with being bisexual. But remind her that you are in a relationship and only see her as a friend. I suggest you stop joking about the threesomes because it is very ... (read in full...)
Confused about virgin things
Q. this is probably a stupid question but here it goes... My boyfriend fingered me for the first time the other day, I really enjoyed it but it really hurt aswell, im a virgin at 17 and i was'nt sure if i had lost my virginity to him by him fingerin...
A. 27 August 2006: No you have not lost your virginity. Not everybody bleeds either. I didnt bleed when I lost my virginity. So don't worry you are perfectly normal.... (read in full...)
I think I _may_ have married too soon... My wife can't bear to be touched by me!
Q. How do you tell the difference between settling down, and just settling? Married, and regretting it. Finding my wife and I are quite incompatible sexualy, and I often wonder whether I just gave up looking, and settled too early. I feel unwanted, and ...
A. 25 August 2006: You need to talk to her and explain how you feel. Tell her you feel unloved and confused but tell her you love her so much and want to get things sorted, that you dont want to leave her. Tyr and persuade her to go counceling with you. I hope you ... (read in full...)
Don't care for the boys at school. Where are other places I can meet guys?
Q. I'm 14 and all the lads in my school are not boyfriend material. I'm looking for a boyfriend and don't go to any clubs. Where can I meet some nice guys other than school? thanks x x...
A. 25 August 2006: When I was younger me and my girl mates would go to the local swimming bars and meet boys from other schools, there are always boys of the same age group there. Also go down the arcades because there are always boys in there. But be careful and do ... (read in full...)
I broke it off because she wouldn't tell her parents about us...
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend because she didn't tell her parents about us. I gave her almost 3 months to tell them she said she didn't know what they may say and that she is stupid. Did I do right? ...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you were quite insensitive. three months isnt really that long hunny. Maybe she just wanted to make sure that you were the right one for her until she told her parents. They might be quite protective of her so she just wanted to make ... (read in full...)
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