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writes: There is this woman who works in the wages office next to my office, we have known each other for years. Recently she has started flirting with me. She comes into my office all the time, she asks me who I am seeing and whats going on in my life! Its like an obsession with her!! She compliments me all the time. She seems like shes cant get me out of her head!! I am flattered but work is work, and I never date people from the office. Please help. I love my job and dont want to leave.
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reader, pica +, writes (1 September 2006):
I am reminded of a female friend of mine who behaves just like this .. if you make up a date, your colleague may well want to know all about it, as she is your friend, so that's likely a bad idea for several reasons. I'd say start out by being 'busy' if she comes to chat. This may well lead to her obsessing about why you're not talking to her. If you are lucky she will get the hint quickly, if you're unlucky she will tackle you about it at which point you'd have to be blunt. I think if you keep it pleasant she will get over it and working relations won't be too strained .. good luck!
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 dont leave your job. when she next comes into your office start talking to her and lie tell her you went on a date last night and you really like this girl and your so attracted to her she will then rather a) leave you alone for good not a bad thing or b)cut down on the flirting. if that doesnt work tell her that your not intrested ask her to stop flirting and constantely comeing in your office as you dont mix plessure with work. shell get the message then if she still doesnt heck you made 2 attempts to stop her report her to the main manager.
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Well I think that you should take her to one side and tell her that you don't see her in the way that she wants you too. Tell her that you do not feel comfortable with the way that she is always coming into your office and asking you personal questions. Make sure that you are not giving her mixed signals, you may just be being polite and answering her questions because you don't want to hurt her feelings. But she might feel that you like her. Next time she asks you a personal question just say something like " I dont mean to be rude but its my buisness not yours". Hopefully she will realise she has no chance and leave you alone. If however, she continues to flirt around you the way she does after you have nicely asked her to stop. Speak to your boss and ask him/her to do something to stop it. I say keep your chin up, Good luck hunny
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