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What does 'whiskerbiscuit' mean?

Q.   some one called me "whiskerbiscuit" any1 know what this means?...

A.   12 November 2006: hmmm never heard of it! prehaps explain the situation it was said in and we can make an educated guess? ... (read in full...)

I think women need to stand up to the men who insist on using porn..what do you all think?

Q.   How bloody stupid can some men be????? Despite the fact women are telling them over and over again porn is degrading and unacceptable (as they obviously dont have the intelligence to work that out by themselves) they still persist in trying t...

A.   12 November 2006: "Christ woman, lighten up! Guys learn most of their best moves from watching porn. They'd all be useless in bed if we took that away from them." OMGOD!are u having a laugh or something????? All men learn from porn that women get wet in about 20 ... (read in full...)

I think women need to stand up to the men who insist on using porn..what do you all think?

Q.   How bloody stupid can some men be????? Despite the fact women are telling them over and over again porn is degrading and unacceptable (as they obviously dont have the intelligence to work that out by themselves) they still persist in trying t...

A.   11 November 2006: Yos + your post seriously brings me hope that there are men operating on an intelligent level out there! i would also like to say i have some male friends who respect women who really cannot understand where i am coming from when i get frustrat... (read in full...)

coffee on teh first date...but why is he too cheap to take me to dinner for a 2nd date. Should I ask him?

Q.   I'm going on my second date with a man that I met on-line (we are both middle-aged). We met for coffee on our first date. However, we are going out for dessert on our second date. He is quite comfortable financially as he owns a home, is a ...

A.   5 November 2006: Whats wrong with dessert? i like dessert! wish someone would take me for dessert! its the best part of dinner! god lighten up and enjoy it!... (read in full...)

Do I have the dreaded "pencil dick"? What do you all think?

Q.   Is my penis too thin? My penis measures 4.5 inches around when I'm erect and I've heard 5 inches the average. I'm worried because I've read women care more about girth than they do length. Am I OK here or do I have the dreaded "pencil dick?"...

A.   29 October 2006: that sounds fine im pretty sure 5 inchs is the average length not the girth!in fact ive never read what the average girth is!but 41/2 inchs would be quite thick so dont worry!... (read in full...)

She wants sex everytime I sleep over? How can I say No without hurting her feelings?

Q.   me and my gf been goin out for nearly a month and already slept together and now she wants it everytym i sleep over hers how can i say no 2 her with out hurting her feeling or making her think im goin off her?...

A.   29 October 2006: hey! it is harder 4 guys to explain their tired etc and not in the mood!how often do you stay over? ... (read in full...)

Ladies...do girls mind it if they know that males masterbate?

Q.   hi do girls mind if males masturbate. i do it about 3 times a week but i can't help thinking that girls dont like this....

A.   29 October 2006: couldnt care less so long as theres energy left for me! ... (read in full...)

Can't get past the age difference...

Q.   Hello, I am a 27 y/o guy that is in love with a wonderful, truly unique 19 y/o girl. We've been close friends for almost a year (met at work), and we like each other's company a lot. However, anytime I am with her, all I can focus on is the ...

A.   23 October 2006: im 21 my last boyfriend was 33 i couldnt have cared less i like older guys i dont connect with guys my own age because my life has been tough i grew up fast! be happy man!enjoy what you have as long as you have it!your not that much older no judgi... (read in full...)

My relationship with my ex has caused me to become cyncial and mistrustful! Is this normal and will I get over this?

Q.   i need some advice i just broke up with my boyfriend he's being very depressed and changed alot when he dumped me it was like we didnt even know each other now thats fine ive accepted its over hes not the person i wanted to be with anymore. basica...

A.   23 October 2006: thanks for all the advice!it is tough when you stop trusting your own judgement but in this case i dont think anyone could have predicted how much he would change all our friends are shocked! ive hurt lovely guys in the past after coming out of a... (read in full...)

Invited to two parties! Which one do I choose?

Q.   hey, about 2 or 3 weeks ago i was invited to a girls halloween party and i said i would go... but yesterday i found out that my best friend was having a party on the same day for his birthday. what should i do?... im going to have to pick one but i ...

A.   22 October 2006: a birthday is more important to someone than a halloween party!go to your friends birthday!... (read in full...)

Every girl I've been involved with continues to be in contact with their ex...why??

Q.   I've always have this problem in my relationship. Why do girls Always keep in contact with their ex's? Even when they are in a relationship with someone they would still always hang outwith their ex. I'm not saying every girl does that, but alot d...

A.   22 October 2006: if you like someone enough to go out with them its such a waste to just never speak again cause the relationship doesnt work out! im only friends with exs i dont have any feelings left towards sexually or any bad feelings cause it ended badl... (read in full...)

Why is masterbating while laid on your front dangerous?

Q.   dear cupid, i have always masterbated by lieing on my stomach but now ive heard tht this is dangerous y is this dangerous? cculd i be in dangering my self?? plz help anyone im reali worried thnx xx...

A.   22 October 2006: just curious does it not hurt your hand and arm being squished by ur body!thats the only danger i can see!oh and how is it am i missing something gud?... (read in full...)

My crush is my slave for spirit week !!

Q.   Ok then I hope you can help lol Ok yea yea I'm in high school still but I really like this guy. I'm pretty sure he knows, it kind of got around but not every one knows. So there's a slim chance he doesn't know. Anyways I guess you need to know some...

A.   21 October 2006: Hey Hun Listen be yourself stop trying so hard just be you! cause if he doest like u 4 u theres no point! just try have a laugh with him! if hes into hip hop stuff maybe make him head bang with you too some rocking songs for a laugh!or ma... (read in full...)

My first lesbian relationship has ended, now it seems she is playing mindgames. Its screwing my head up, please help

Q.   Please I need some advice. Until my last r/ship I have always been straight, but I ended up very close to a female friend who is a lesbian and ended up with her. I moved away from family and friends to be with her, we moved near her family. Anyway 8 ...

A.   27 September 2006: what do you want? why are you giving her all the power? you decide if its over or not! you dont need her to get over it! youve gotta take the power back! ... (read in full...)

I dont want my bf to think my life revolves around him. What can I do?

Q.   hey My bf and i are long distance at the min, for about another month. We text quite a bit and when my phone buzzes and shows his name i feel so great i cant describe it. Firstly i worry that i might text him too much Although he somet...

A.   27 September 2006: hi hun god i know exactly what you mean i text my bf alot im just a very yappy person and we get free texts to each other he doesnt care cause he knows how i am! hed always text and say gonna be a bit busy now and stuff like that when he cant t... (read in full...)

My gf gets very physical during sex. Does she expect me to do the same?

Q.   Right, I have been with my girlfriend for a few months now. All is good, but, Im a little confused about our sex life. There is a bit of an age gap between us, and to my knowledge women enjoy a romantic passoinate experience in the bedroom, but this ...

A.   27 September 2006: i agree with david being comfortable discussing your likes and dislikes with each other is the key to a gud sex life! if your a lil shy ive found sexy text messages are a great way to find out new things about each others desires but remember s... (read in full...)

I get panic attacks when my guy has to go away for a bit, its driving me mad, how can I deal with this better??

Q.   Please help me as I feel as though im going mad. I really like my boyfriend, I guess you could say im in love even though we haven't said that yet. He goes away with work and its not for a major long time but the feelings I have are driving me n...

A.   19 September 2006: hey hun i know exactly how your feeling i suffered from panic attacks and thought i was going mad and would never be normal again. even worst mine happened 4 no reason i couldnt control them! its nothing to do with how much u love your boyfrie... (read in full...)

Will his break-up affect his view on marriage forever???

Q.   Quick question - at what point do you discuss your attitude to marriage in a relationship? I know it seems a ‘how long is a piece of string’ question but if before you get in a relationship one of you casually mentions they would like to get ...

A.   13 September 2006: only he can tell you 4 sure! try bring it up casually maybe a general conversation in a group setting and see what he has to say? he might be more honest in a situation like this!... (read in full...)

I'm not good at relationships...I need some advice and help here.

Q.   I need some advice on relationships as I am not very good at them, even though I am 30 years young. My boyfriend is 22. My longest relationship has only been for a year, whereas he came out of a 4 1/2 yr relationship early this year. I always ...

A.   13 September 2006: hey hun. this might not be what you wanna hear the only person who can answer these questions is your boyfriend! you need to tell him how you feel and find out how he feels. it may seem scary but if you cant have an open honest talk with him it ... (read in full...)

We want to celebrate or anniversary but he is 4 hours away...

Q.   Tomorrow will be the one year anniversary of when my boyfriend and I started dating. Both of us feel it's a day worth celebrating. However, we are in a distant relationship and he usually drives down and see me in the weekends only. We both think it ...

A.   12 September 2006: i had a 1year anniversary on a friday recently my boyfriend was working i had a hospital appointment! we dont live to far away but we decided 2 leave celebrations till the weekend we spent the whole weekend together having a meal etc spending time... (read in full...)

I really love him but cant tell him im a virgin!! Im size 8 would this be why any form of penetration hurts ?

Q.   My bf and i live together he's 27 and has a daughter aged 8 who doesnt live with us, Im older than him and i have the ordeal of still being a virgin. We love each other very much, however ive not told him im still a virgin, hes slept with 27 girls ...

A.   12 September 2006: honey i think maybe you might wanna have a chat with a nice doctor you trust and see wat your options are cause there are psycological reasons that could be causing this tightness and i dont want you to cause yourself anymore pain or make sex any ... (read in full...)

I like him - but he is gay!

Q.   There is this one guy I was interested in dating, but I found out that he is gay. He and I have a lot in common, but I am worried about this....

A.   11 September 2006: theres no ifs no buts no hows gay is gay! even if you guys were friends you could be unintentionally led on because hel assume you know and accept his sexuality and wont think your looking 4 little signs he likes you. be his friend if you can tota... (read in full...)

What can I do - I don't want to lose her

Q.   I need help my gf wants a break for two weeks I've gave her one but I think she is going to break up with me I dont want to lose her and I want to phone her as well what should I do ?...

A.   11 September 2006: i agree with all these guys personally my boyfriend has asked me for some space ive given it! much as i love the guy id rather he found out if he misses me! cause if he doesnt id rather know some say familiarity breeds contempt! who knows space ... (read in full...)

I'm married but I have a crush on a guy at work...Help!!!

Q.   Please excuse the fact that this is rather long but i really need to get this out of my system. 6 months ago our manager brought this new guy around the office to do intros etc. From the moment we shook hands, something happened, he said that he ...

A.   11 September 2006: hey hun im sorry to hear your feeling so confused! you talk briefly about your marraige fizzling out. i think that you need to sort this out first and formost decide wat you wanna do there are counciling options etc in the end only you know in... (read in full...)

I think he is cheating because he accusses me of it....

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over one year, and now i think that he is cheating on me,. I cant be sure of it but there are defiante signs that he might be, and i need some advise. He lives with me and he uses my car, when we first started ...

A.   11 September 2006: hey there! it is a worrying sign hes suddenly accusing you! has he given any reasons he thinks you might cheat? asides from cause you think hes cheating!which u say u never said! all you can do is try have an open honest conversation wit... (read in full...)

Stuck between a rock and hard a place and dont want to be left feeling unattractive...

Q.   my boyfriend is goin through some depression and before this i was having panic attacks things are ok with me now but hes still goin through his depression waiting to get some help etc! basically we have not had sex for months i understand this mus...

A.   11 September 2006: thanks baby girl the stuff about feeling gud about myself no matter wat really helped! ive come so far and if i dont wanna feel tat way again i have to like myself guy or no guy! as 4 him i cant get him to go anywere or do anything new! i do have... (read in full...)

Feel like im being held down because of my ex boyfriend!

Q.   Me and my bf have just split cause of an ex bf who i still kinda like. I would like to get bk with my bf cause i do really like him. But my ex still never seems to be out the background he is vile to me at any opportunity given usually calling ...

A.   11 September 2006: im really sorry to hear ur being treated like this but the new guy is right you should ignore him! i know thats alot easyer said than done! if you guys went out him insulting you and calling you names is complete BS because he must have found u ... (read in full...)

Why is the new guy angry with me??

Q.   I met a guy I like a lot, only problem is I had started dating someone two weeks before. I wasn't sure what the new guy's intentions were, although he gave hints that he liked me. I told him I was seeing someone, but he still wanted to get to know ...

A.   11 September 2006: he sounds like an A hole pure and simple! if he wants his jacket let him find the time 2 come get it! dont give him another thought he wants you running around worrying feeling bad just for an ego boost or something! it sounds like you were str... (read in full...)

Ive been with my guy for a year now, but its really odd that I dont know what he does for work!!?

Q.   Iv been dating my bf for nearly a year... i feel as though i know him quite well except for ONE thing... i dont know where he works or what his occupation is. Is this strange? im 21 and at university and hes 26. Each time i mention it, he evades i...

A.   11 September 2006: something is definatly up if your going out a year without knowing surely he must know u dont care if he doesnt have a great job! id be extremely suspicious!!!!!! hes spending 40hrs a week doing something he doesnt want you to know about! ... (read in full...)

Im 24 hes 19, I feel a bit wierd about the age!

Q.   I'm 24 years old and seeing a 19 year old I feel really weird but he acts very mature and i do like him am i wrong?...

A.   11 September 2006: age is just a number my boyfriend is 33 im 21 ive never connected aswel with people my own age all my friends are in their late 20s early 30s but none of them have settled down yet some are wilder then me! im old beyond my years and it sounds like... (read in full...)

I was prepared to up and leave and live in the Middle East with him, but now hes gone cold ??

Q.   So confused, ive been seeing my boyfriend for 1 year and 2 months he moved abroad in jan 2006 and ive been out there twice to see him and he has met me once in a country nearby. We have been under pressure as he wanted me to move abroad to be with ...

A.   10 September 2006: im really sorry to hear youve been treated like this you really dont deserve it. i think you have to accept its over. he seems to think theres nothing more to say and doesnt want to have to deal with it anymore! he behaved extremely badly by end... (read in full...)

I Love my best friend and its killing me!!!

Q.   i love my best friend, but i know she doesnt like me like that and its been killing me inside. I dont know what to do anymore...

A.   10 September 2006: you need some space and time away from dis friend to get over her. accept she doesnt feel the same and that tats no bad sign on you! on the gud side friendship lasts alot of relationships dont! if she knows you liked her tell her you just need so... (read in full...)

Hes never affectionate to me when out with friends, hardly see him and he still has feelings for his ex!!!

Q.   Write me 'n' my boyfriend have been going out 6 months now and were really nice to each other but he will never be affectionate in front of his friends he is never with me and we hardly get to see each other i don't know what to do because he has ...

A.   10 September 2006: if your not happy in a relationship or not getting what you want or need from someone youve got some questions to ask yourself! are these problems or issues changeable can they be worked on and sorted out but keep in mind people only change if they... (read in full...)

Stuck between a rock and hard a place and dont want to be left feeling unattractive...

Q.   my boyfriend is goin through some depression and before this i was having panic attacks things are ok with me now but hes still goin through his depression waiting to get some help etc! basically we have not had sex for months i understand this mus...

A.   10 September 2006: im all sorted on meds 4 panic attacks 4 a few months now hes been to the doctors and is waiting 4 a appointment with a pysciatrist.my worry is have we become to comfortable and stopped seeing each other sexually and if so can we get tat back it was ... (read in full...)

Im confused about the girl at work and shes driving me crazy!!

Q.   I am bring driven crazy by a girl at work!! We recently took a liking to each other, and have been on a couple of dates. I suggested, that for our next date, we could stay out in the city all night and get a hotel room. I promised to be on my ...

A.   10 September 2006: hmmm sounds to me like theres something else going on here! some personal reason why she couldnt or didnt want to maybe thinking shed have to follow up on what she said! i dont think its anything that you did! if you really like her tell her not... (read in full...)

My boyfriend farts alot...Is something wrong with him???

Q.   This might sound like I'm weird, but my boyfriend seems to fart alot. I know everyone does and it's a human thing, but sometimes I feel very embarrassed with him doing it in public. My questions is: Is he doing it because he doesn't care what other ...

A.   10 September 2006: men are weird my boyfriend takes freakish pride in his farts so do some of his friends but plenty others dont ah you just have to not worry about it sure so long as he doesnt start trying to blame them on you!!!!!!!... (read in full...)

I passed wind and my boyfriend dumped me!!!

Q.   My fella has finished with me because i accidently passed wind!I said i was sorry but he wouldn't listen,he said i was disgusting.I really miss him,what shall i do?...

A.   10 September 2006: block up his butt hole and see how long he lasts without farting!... (read in full...)

I have lost interest in her because of her breasts!

Q.   My gf and i have been in a relationship for over 3 months. I am begining to loose interest in her becasue she has very small breasts. This sounds really immature but I can't help but feel it. I really like her and she has the best personality and ...

A.   10 September 2006: are u gods gift to women or something! yes us women put on earth as pieces of meat to be judged by men!!!!!!!!!!!!! while men can be as fat ugly old unattractive smelly stupid and brain dead as they want! they all have the right 2 grade this m... (read in full...)

Called my girlfriend my ex's name ..help!

Q.   Hi, well recently i had my girlfriend over, we watched some tv and then went up to bed, and i accidentaly called her my ex-gf's name, which i found odd becasue the girl whos name i called her we didnt even have a good relationship with, let alone a ...

A.   10 September 2006: it clearly ment nothing make sure she knows it really was a slip of the tongue god ive called my boyfriend by my brothers name accidently not in the bedroom tho of course just ask her is she cool about it reassure her if dshes not and then dont even... (read in full...)

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