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Did this girl just use me to have a baby? What do you think?
Q. my relationship with this girl to say the least started rocky,firstly i am a recovering alcoholic and willingly admit all of my wrongs and realise the trust and time thing,i have a 5 week old baby girl and accept the mother i would do the same.i ...
A. 24 August 2006: I dont think she used you to have a baby I think she used you to have sex and to repay you for rejecting her sister. I think the baby was an accident but she decided to keep it. I think that just because you used to be an alcoholic you should still ... (read in full...)
My parents are upset that I am dating a co-worker! What wrong with that??
Q. I really need help!! My parents are upset that I got invovled with someone from work! Is getting invovled with someone that you work with that bad or is it just them? Help PLEASE!!...
A. 24 August 2006: I personally don't see the harm in getting involved with someone from work but I can also see your parents point of view. They are probably concerned because they think that it will affect your attitude torward your work. Plus if it all goes wrong ... (read in full...)
A co-worker treats me disdainfully! How do I nip this behaviour of hers...in the bud??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for awhile and work with his ex. She broke up with him a year and a half ago, has a new boyfriend whom she seems happy with so her current behaviour has me puzzled. She is a player and puts on a really good face to ...
A. 24 August 2006: Basically she is jealous. She may have been the one to end it with your boyfriend but she still cant bare the fact that he too has moved on. I expect she imagined that he would stil be pining for her now but because he is not it has damaged her ego. ... (read in full...)
After a huge argument he dumped me, but I want to make him love me again!
Q. My boyfriend and i had a huge argument ..... and it caused him to break up with me. I was fine with it because I was just so cross with him ... but now I'm begining to miss him and i dont know how he feels about anything but i want him to feel the ...
A. 24 August 2006: I think you should phone him and arrange to meet for a chat. You still love him and maybe he still loves you. Maybe all he wants is to chat to you to but being a typical bloke he is waiting for you to make the first move. So supriae him and speak to ... (read in full...)
Why do I fall for attached men, what is it that is missing from my life ?
Q. why am i involving myself with married men.just over a year ago i had a affair with my second cousin,i finished it all and it all became very messy,i told my long term partner what i did,well we decided we both didnt love each other anyway and ...
A. 23 August 2006: Move on! Its not fair on you and it certainly isn't fair on the other woman. If you really are looking for love, look for someone single. How can you be happy? You are coming second best. Try a dating agency where there are loads of single people ... (read in full...)
She loves her online guy more than me...
Q. Im 23 year old male, I've been dating my girl friend for about 4 months now. Recently our communication has kinda gone down the drain, we have hit a wall we cant get past. 2 days ago I found out after talking to her that she loves this guy she talk...
A. 23 August 2006: Your being very understanding and must feel a lot for this woman, but she is not being very fair on you or this other guy. She should not expect you to sit back and wait while she chooses between the pair of you. Even if she does choose you, do you ... (read in full...)
My brother gets away with everything and its really not fair! What should I do ?
Q. hi am 14 years old and i am fed up with my brother who is 16 he always swears and my mum hardly does anything about it a part from shouting at him but he still does it again. But recently i hid my brothers game and my mum told me to give it back but ...
A. 23 August 2006: There is a differnts between swearing and swearing at someone. Your mother thought you called her a f bitch, whereas if she heard you properly and heard you say f sake she would have probably only shouted at you. This is why your brother probably ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age!!
Q. Hello, A few weeks ago I met a boy who I instantly got along with. He told me he was 18 and so I lied about my age and said i was 17, a year older as I'm actually 16. At the time I didn't think I would see him again, so i didn't think It would ca...
A. 23 August 2006: Right I think that most young girls have done this. Blimey I used to do it all the time and I always got found out in the end. I think you should be honest with him a year is not that much difference and its not like your a lot younger than him. Of ... (read in full...)
I enjoy getting off to lesbian porn, but dont actually fancy women !!???
Q. am i gay? i am 19 im attracted to guys and love having sex with guys but i keep havin lesbian fantasies and it turns me on to watch lesbian porn but im not attracted to girls, i am so confused........
A. 23 August 2006: It is fine and perfectly normal. I have the same thing I am 100% Hetrosexual but I always fantasized over women and lesbian sex. One day I got so fed up and really had to do something about it, so I went to a gay bar and met this attractive lesbian. ... (read in full...)
I orgasm when I got the loo!! Seriously how can I can stop this ?
Q. Ok I need some serious help. About two years ago I started doing kegel exercises every day. Needless to say it really helped. I experience way, way better orgasms, and I can grab a hold of things a alot better. If you know what I mean. Now sometimes ...
A. 23 August 2006: Well I think that you are a lucky woman!!! Although I can imagine how embarrasing it is for you when you are in a public loo. Try and go when you know nobody is in there. Take something in there that you can put in your mouth so it can muffle out ... (read in full...)
I was in bed with my boyfriend's best mate... When my boyfriend walked in on us
Q. my boyfriend and his best mate are really close there together all the time and class eachother as brothers. i was at my boyfriends house over the weekend while his mum an dad where away and we had a party and i got pretty drunk and ended up in bed ...
A. 23 August 2006: I think that you and your boyfriends best mate are the ones in the wrong. Why would you do that to someone you are supposed to care about? Your boyfriend has probably lost a lot of respect for you now and who could blame him? When he walked in I ... (read in full...)
The dreaded ex!!
Q. she dumped me 11 months ago for her married boss with 3 kids and i was devestated. Now im trying my best to move on but she keeps texting me virtually every week and finding any excuse to try and strike up some sort of conversation between us,i have ...
A. 23 August 2006: Right is impotant that you don't get back with this woman as she betrayed your trust before and she could do it again. She is being completely unfair txting you all the time. I think that you should change your phone number for a start. Shes ... (read in full...)
Handy Work!!
Q. hi all i was just windering if anyone could tell me how to toss a lad off i don't ave a clue what to do.... plz help xxx...
A. 23 August 2006: right I find it is better if you use baby oil. Put some baby oil in your hands and rub them together and then gently hold on to your patners penis. start pulling it gently up and down, not too hard but not too gently either. Also if you feel ... (read in full...)
Girls Gone Wild!!
Q. Ok back in 2004 I was on the show girls gone wild in Miami, Florida. I loved it. Being with girls, having sex with girls. But now that I don't see them that often as I used to, How do I find a girl to get with? There it was so simlpe because every ...
A. 23 August 2006: Maybe you should try going to a gay bar or try using a gay dating agency. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you find what you are looking for.... (read in full...)
What's the secret question?
Q. What is the "Secret Question" to ask a stranger if they are gay?...
A. 23 August 2006: I think you should ask them if they have a girlfriend, they might then say no Im gay. Or you might be lucky and they might not be but have brilliant dress sense. Never make it obvious you think there gay because if there not you could end up hurting ... (read in full...)
What a boy wants
Q. hi im 13 and i am just learning about boys and how basically all they think and care about is sex and women. i am now really upset cos thts all boys want :( so they have no respect for girls tht means :( i hate it! i hate tht that is all they care ...
A. 23 August 2006: Oh hunny, at the age of 13 boys are just starting to notice girls and to be honest most are after one thing. Just remember not to feel pressurised into doing anything with anyone until you are ready. Don't think that if you do something with someone ... (read in full...)
The person who gave my boyfriend an STD 10 years ago turns out to be someone I know!
Q. My boyfriend has recently informed me that someone I know is the person who gave him an STD 10 years ago. I have to see this girl all the time and it kills me. He doesn't know whether or not she knew she had it at the time but he ended up with it ...
A. 23 August 2006: Hi there, Maybe your boyfriend isn't reacting because whats done is done. There is no way that he can change it. I think that he just wants to live his life as normal as possible and to do this he probably wants to ignore this woman as it is a ... (read in full...)
Is my sneaking bad?
Q. Hi, I'm 13 and my step cousin is 15,and I think i fancy her. Ok, shes family (in a way) but I'm attracted to her and take pictures of her on my mobile saying i'm texting. I've even sneaked into her room when she was out and saw a bra on her bed...
A. 23 August 2006: Hi there, I think it is normal to develop these sort of feelings at the age of 13. You may be feeling this way torward your step cousin because she is older than you and you probably spend a lot of time around her. I think that maybe you should not ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose her - should I marry her?
Q. 5 months into a relationship, and i feel like she's the world to me. Even with other girls offering me to go out with them instead of my current gf, my gf means the world to me and i would never want to lose her. yet, i am too young for marriage in ...
A. 23 August 2006: I think that you should not rush into things hunny. You have only been with your girlfriend for five months, this is a short time. She may mean the world to you at the moment but what about in another five months time? I suggest that you wait a ... (read in full...)
I asked why he won't talk to me on msn and he wrote "F**k ya!"
Q. He says he doesnt want to speak to me. but i dont understand why.i asked him on msn and he said cz, i drew ... and he wrote f*** ya and went offline. shud i ask him agen? or leave him to it and see what he does? its really confusing me....
A. 23 August 2006: I would leave it. This person obviously has no respect for you. If he had a problem with you he should of sat you down and spoke to you about it, not say that. He is rude. To be honest he probably wants you to chase him and he is getting a lot of ... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriend having contact with his ex-wife!
Q. I am 24 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 months and am 10 weeks pregnant by this man. My boyfriend is great, he treats me like a queen, is happy. We are having a baby and we are planning to get married sooner then later. The downs...
A. 23 August 2006: I think that it is important for your boyfriend to be friends with his ex wife as there are children involved. How do you think it would feel like for his children if all they saw was there mother and father arguing all the time? Also if you are ... (read in full...)
Will I regret it if I go... further... with my boyfriend?
Q. okay i have a question (obviously). my boyfriend and i love each other very much and i trust him deeply. lately we have been going further than we used to (physically speaking) and while in the moment i'm okay with things i am not sure if i should ...
A. 23 August 2006: Hi there hunny, you should never feel pressurised into losing your virginity. It is special and you can only lose it once, so you have to think about it carefully. does this guy really mean that much to you? can you still see yourself being with him ... (read in full...)
My husbands mother passed away and now he won't have sex with me!
Q. What should I do? Last year my husband's mother passed away. Since then he has refused to have sex with me! They had an extremely contentious relationship, and many issues remained unsettled between them. I know he was subject to her emotiona...
A. 22 August 2006: Your husband is obviously still grieving. I can tell you obviously care about this man huge amounts, but a woman has needs. You need to sit him down and talk to him, explain that your feeling unwanted and rejected. Make it clear that you care about ... (read in full...)
I have 3 failed marriages behind me - should I tell my new love?
Q. I am a 49 yr old male, three failed marriages behind me, 1 my fault the others not. i have recently met the women of my life and not of my dreams, looks fade personality is forever. She does not know about my first two marriages and I am really ...
A. 22 August 2006: If this woman means as much to you as you say she does then be honest with her. You dont want a relationship based on lies and deceit. Honesty is the best policy. Tell this ladie exactly what you told us that she is the woman of your life and that ... (read in full...)
I try to talk to my crush at the bus stop but I get tounge-tied!
Q. I have been going to the same bus stop as this guy and everytime i try to speak to him i can't. I have been asking my friends for help but they dont take this seriously. I need some advice please help. I find this realy silly because i am 13....
A. 22 August 2006: If you like him go for it girl. Whats the worst that can happen? Just ask him for the time or when the bus is due, just start with small talk. So he notices you. If he is interested he should carry the conversation on, if not then you can just walk ... (read in full...)
I like my best male friend - should I tell him and risk our friendship?
Q. Hi my best friend is the guy that I like and I'm not sure whether I need to just tell him and see how he reacts, or whether I should keep it a secret incase he has different feelings for me and wants to stay friends. I am afraid that if i tell him ...
A. 22 August 2006: I think that maybe you should leave it until you are certain he feels the same. Dont risk your friendship with him because if he doesn't feel the same this could scare him away. Good luck... (read in full...)
my secret bi-curious wife is on a dating website!
Q. I was working on our home computer yesterday, which my wife uses far more often, and found by accident that she had visited a dating website. I was very surprised since we've been together for a long time, have two young children and I thought we ...
A. 22 August 2006: I can honestly say that this is probably innocent. I am in a happy relationship and would never cheat on my boyfriend but I did the same thing the other day. I was bored so I decided to have a look on a dating site just out of curiosity. Of course I ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex with my married cousin!
Q. dear cupid. I'm in desperate need of guidance. Since having unprotected sex with my cousin I'm worried I might be pregnant. He has a wife and four children that he lives with and another child that he has refused to see for 14 years. What do i do???...
A. 22 August 2006: I think that you should get yourself testedand if you are pregnant its ashame to say and I personally don't usually agree with it but you should abort it. What were you thinking? Not only is he married with children but he is your cousin aswell. To ... (read in full...)
I can't get my girlfriends past sex life out my head
Q. Hi - hope you can help. Have been going out with my girlfriend for 5 months and just found out that she has been a lot more sexually active than I - sleeping with at least 14 different partners (she is 32). I think this is a lot personally, I am ...
A. 22 August 2006: Right listen everyone has a past okay, and 14 partners at the age of 32, BIG DEAL!!! Thats not that many considering the world we live in today. You should still feel the same about your girlfriend as you did before you found this out. I know your ... (read in full...)
Should I ask for this girl's number?
Q. This is gonna be kinda long. Ok I met up with a (girl) cousin of mine for a few drinks a couple of weeks back. She was in town with her work mates. I got on really well with one girl, we had a lot in common and there seemed to be a spark. We c...
A. 22 August 2006: Sure ask your cousin for this girls number. What have you got to lose? Your cousin should want you to be happy and if she cares about her friend then she should want her to be happy too. The girl that you like should feel flattered by you asking for ... (read in full...)
Do other people interlock fingers during sex?
Q. I recently slept with a male friend of mine (we aren't going to be dating, just messing around) but I've never had sex before this and was wondering if it's normal for a guy to hold your hands during sex. He was on top, and kept interlocking his ...
A. 22 August 2006: I think that shows that he cares about you. He obviously wanted you to remember it as gentle and tender rather than just a rough 1 nighter. Maybe he is after more than just sex. Me and my boyfriend often interlock fingers during sex, to me it makes ... (read in full...)
Was the teacher hinting at something inappropriate?
Q. A teacher at my school recently said 'fancy a job, (name)?' and then winked at me while smiling at me. One of my mates says thats really inappropriate... is it? I'm so confused :S... thanx xxxxxx...
A. 22 August 2006: I can imagine that he was just having a laugh. He probably wants to be a cool teacher and gain respect from his pupils. So he does this by joking with you. He probably didnt realise that you would take it the wrong way. Just forget about it hunny. ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my married man, he said we have to stop as so far divorce isnt an option...
Q. i'm in a very bad condition. I broke up with a person who is married and has a child,he was telling that he loves me and and he will get a divorce, but after he was talking with his relatives,because he doesn't have parents, he said to me that we h...
A. 22 August 2006: I say leave him. It is not fair to leave you hanging like that. Also it is not fair on his wife and child. I think that you should find a nice single man and move on. This guy obviously doesn't care about you that much, does he? Can you really ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends oral on me left him tasting of beer! Harmful or just grose?
Q. Sorry this is pretty gross but I have thrush but my bf gave me oral sex anyway. I kissed him afterwards and ended up with a yeast taste in my mouth like beer. When I realised that this taste was the thrush discharge I began feeling ill, and have ...
A. 22 August 2006: You should go to your nearest sex clinic and get treatment for your thrush otherwise it will become uncomfortable. Also thrush can be transmitted to your partner during intercourse. It is easily treated and very comman. The discharge you tasted will ... (read in full...)
Love someone with realising it? - is that even possible!!
Q. Is it possible to love someone without realising? theres this lad i used to like but i dont anymore. but when he said he didnt want to speak to me anymore i cried. do i still love him without realising it? he was also my friend though before things ...
A. 22 August 2006: Maybe you dont love him, perhaps it is just because you have shared a past with him and were once friends that you feel like this. Nobody likes rejection, being told that someone doesnt want to speak to you hurts. I dont think you love him hunny, ... (read in full...)
We have a perfect relationship except I get nasty when I drink and he can't take much more of it!
Q. Hi I am 19 and my boyfriend is 25. I love him with all my heart and I know he feels the same. We have a perfect relationship except for one thing. Everytime I get drunk I change. I turn into a nasty spiteful person. I shout and say nasty hurtful ...
A. 22 August 2006: Thankyou to all who have given me advise on my alcohol problem. My man is far more important to me than alcohol. I will not mix my drinks anymore and I certainly will not drink if I am feeling in a bad mood already. thankyou ... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to be getting married, but I have feelings for someone else!
Q. I have a partner of 3years and we are due to get married next July. I love him to death but there is a guy at work I think is really nice n gorgeous and he is a bit older than me and married. We get on so well and flirt alot. Do i tell him how I ...
A. 22 August 2006: I think that you should leave it. Its perfectly natural to get these feelings just before you get married. You are just getting cold feet and your starting to realise that if you get married you can only have one guy. This older guy is married and ... (read in full...)
Caught him with his pants down, was it more to it?
Q. hi, my bf and i have been together 3 years, about 10months ago i saw my bf doing something which i have always qestioned in my mind. im 20 his 25. one day i was coming home afer school early , i opened our front door and walked in and saw my bf st...
A. 22 August 2006: Hi there, Im not suprised you suspect him as that was a difficult situation to find your boyfriend in. The thing is most men don't think about there actions clearly. To him he might of just been showing her his scar harmlessly. I doubt he would have ... (read in full...)
Husband admitted having feelings for someone else!
Q. my husband of 10 years has just told me he has feelings for another woman who he works with but there is nothing in it and just feels comfortable being with her. It has left me devastated and hurt. Please someone give me some advice...
A. 22 August 2006: Hi there, I think that if you are feeling uncomfortable with your husbands friendship with this woman you should tell him. Tell him you love and care about him and you don't want to lose him, Reassure him that you trust him or he might be hurt for ... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 22 August 2006: Hi there, I say go for it. I am 19 and have had a few bad relationships all with people of my age group. Then I met the love of my life who is 26. I love him so much and he feels the same. We are both on the same level and we don't even notice the ... (read in full...)
My unfounded paranoia is tearing our relationship apart...
Q. Me and my boyfriends relationship used to be bliss. but now i have become really paranoid. In my heart i know i trust him but my paranoia is tearing us apart and he's my first love, he's my everything. Please help...
A. 22 August 2006: Hi there, Paranoia is a killer in most relationships. You should learn to trust your boyfriend. If not you will push him away. He is probably innocent and loves you with all his heart. But if he thinks your suspecting him of things he might just ... (read in full...)
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