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I broke it off because she wouldn't tell her parents about us...
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend because she didn't tell her parents about us. I gave her almost 3 months to tell them she said she didn't know what they may say and that she is stupid. Did I do right? ...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you were quite insensitive. three months isnt really that long hunny. Maybe she just wanted to make sure that you were the right one for her until she told her parents. They might be quite protective of her so she just wanted to make ... (read in full...)
Is it my personality they're interested in, or is it just sex?
Q. Every time that I start talking to a boy, it seems as if they always seem to bring up sex, but they also talk about other important things as well. I was wondering should I take it into consideration that all these boys want to do is have sex with ...
A. 25 August 2006: Hunny I myself have been used by men so many times before. I always fell for there sweet talk and always ended up in bed with them. Then I would not see them again. I always seemed to make the same mistake I just wanted someone special in my life ... (read in full...)
I think I might be in love with my friend! He's in my thoughts all day, until he texts or calls me at night!
Q. I've been battling with this confusion for quite some time now. I'm starting to get strong feelings for this boy that I have been knowing for about a year and half or so. It's obvious that we like each other, but we opted to keep things on a friend ...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you are in love with him. You have been friends for a year and a half now so its not like you have just met him and are feeling lust. Talk to him explain to him how you feel. He might feel the same, and by what you have said I think ... (read in full...)
It's a love hate thing...
Q. Please help me out. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months. I hate his feet which feet arent supposed to be attractive anyways. Sometimes the way he moves his hand up and holds it up i hate it. It reminds me of someone gay. Just little ...
A. 25 August 2006: Nobody is perfect hunny. The thing is when I got with my boyfriend I saw past his faults because I liked him too much. For example when I have dated blokes before I would notice something simple like a white head on his face and I was put off. But ... (read in full...)
Will my best friend say no if I ask her out?
Q. There is this girl i really like. She is my best friend and I think i love her but I don't want to ask her out incase she says no. What should i do?...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you should tell her, you never know maybe she is feeling the same but is too scared to tell you incase you don't feel the same. Take her out for a nice meal and speak to her then. Tell her how special she is and how much you care about ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin at 38 years old...do I tell this to my new guy?
Q. I have just met the man of my dreams, but i dont know whether i should tell him i am a virgin at 38 as he might think i am some sort of weirdo or something or will he work it out for himself, also as he is thin i am over weight he has not mentioned ...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you should tell him when you feel comfortable enough. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. Infact I think he will love the fact that nobody has touched you before and I think it will be special. Don't worry about being overweight ... (read in full...)
My fiancee wants to experiment with another girl!
Q. My fiancee wants to experiment with another girl, I see this as cheating, but also am quite turned on by the thought. She also wants a 3some with me and another girl, I just feel that seeing her being intimate with somebody else, end vice versa, c...
A. 25 August 2006: A lot of people want to experiment but when you are in a relationship this is not a good idea. She is thinking it will be fun but when she sees you touching another woman she will think the oppositte. Persuade her to change her mind. Watch some porn ... (read in full...)
I like my supervisor but he said he's in a relationship, but I can't help thinking he wants me!
Q. I really like the supervisor in my office and we have been flirting non-stop. I plucked up the courage to ask him out and he said 'for now I'm in a relationship, so at the moment anything other than a friendship would not be possible at this time.' ...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that he is keeping you hanging just incase his relationship doesn't work out. He obviously enjoys flirting with you and doesn't want it to stop. But it has too. It is not fair on you. Don't wait for him! Find someone special of your own and ... (read in full...)
I love my married friend...
Q. I am in love with my friend who is married but I am afraid that if I say anything I could loose him as a friend. What should I do?...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you should not say anything your friend is married and you should respect this. If you are finding it hard to remain friends with this man maybe you should keep your distance for a while so you can clear your head. It will be tough but ... (read in full...)
Why so many arguments?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We love each other very much but lately we keep arguing, I dont know what to do?...
A. 25 August 2006: Maybe you are spending too much time together and are running out of things to talk about so you just keep arguing. You obviously love eachother very much but you both need to do some things on your own. Suggest to your boyfriend that you do some ... (read in full...)
Go to the party that my ex will be at and annoy my current GF?
Q. OKay, so I got invited to this party by a good friend of mine, which i know some okay friends will be going to. But the problem is is that my ex-girlfriend is going to be there, and i have no desire to see her until i am forced to by school (seeing ...
A. 25 August 2006: Friends are very important and your present girlfriend should understand this. You should go, but avoid yourex. Just stick with your mates and ignore her. Show her your not bothered. Make sure you reassure your now girlfriend that she is the one you ... (read in full...)
He only sees our relationship as friends, as he says he doesnt have luck with the girls!
Q. hi my name is lilly i meet a young man a year ago ,when we just started seeing each other ,he told me he doesn't have luck with girl and he does want to put a label on me ,so as of now i am still his friend . I loved him alot ,it hurts me mor...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you should really talk to him explain that you love him and you cant bare to be around him as only a friend as it is tearing you apart inside. Maybe he really is interested but finds it hard to show his emotions. If he really is not ... (read in full...)
My GF dumped me, then tried to kiss me and said she wanted me back! I just don't know anymore!
Q. Please help me, i split with my girlfriend a couple of weeks ago as she seemed to have gone off the relationship but wouldnt talk to me at all, ignoring my calls n not answering the door, i tried everything. A few days ago she tried to kiss me ...
A. 25 August 2006: Give her up she is playing you. She really wants a single life but she also wants someone that when she clicks her fingers they will come running. She knows that she can pick you up and drop you whenever she feels like it and that is really unfair. ... (read in full...)
This man wants a relationship with me but I just don't know!
Q. I don’t know how to handle aspects of my male friend’s behaviour. He has recently asked me to be his girlfriend and said I could take some time to decide what to do if I wanted to. I am so guarded when it comes to men (haven’t dated anyone in 10 ...
A. 25 August 2006: The reason he goes quiet infront of you is because he likes you and he becomes nervous and doesn't know what to say. He mentions other women because he wants to see your reaction. If you reacted jealously he would see that you like him, if you ... (read in full...)
My 14 year old GF said she feels like we're a married couple!
Q. Okay so ive been with my gf for about a month and a half now, I'm 15 and she's 14. Everything has been great and then yesterday she told me she felt like we were a married couple, as you can imagine this took me by surprise. I was glad to hear it,...
A. 25 August 2006: If she said it in a nice way she probably meant it. She probably enjoys being with youso much and can see herself being married to you. Dont worry a lot of young girls have fantasies like this. Why don't you write her a really nice letter ... (read in full...)
My BF tells all his mates about our sex life!
Q. I just found out my boyfriend is telling all his friends about our sex life. I dont know what to do! Should i end it?...
A. 25 August 2006: Your sex life should be kept private it is something special for you and your lover to share, not the rest of the world. He obviously has no respect for you and your privacy. You should talk to him and tell him that you don't apprieciate your ... (read in full...)
I really like my mates girlfriend!
Q. I really fancy this girl in my class. I know her and we're friends but she has a boyfriend and he's my mate. How do i tell her?...
A. 25 August 2006: I think that you should leave it hun. There is a strict rule that you never like your mates boyfriend/girlfriend. Friendship is far more valuable than any relationship! If they break up, don't rush in there and tell her, wait a few months for things ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my friend but he is having a 'casual sex relationship' with someone else!
Q. I've fallen in love with one of my close friends and was thinking about telling him this weekend but now hes just told me that hes spent all day with a girl hes been seeing. He says its just a casual sex relationship and he doesnt think it will de...
A. 25 August 2006: Maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. He obviously has no feelings for this other girl and she has none for him as she has a boyfriend. So to be fair theres nothing stopping you. Invite him out for a drink and tell him how you ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm ruining his life because of my moods...
Q. I started seeing my boyfriend when we were both with previous partners. We work together, but in separate offices, I'm nearly 21 and he's 31. We have been together properly for about 5 months. He has a daughter from his previous relationship and ...
A. 25 August 2006: Well there is a big age gap but age is nothing but a number, although i expect you want to do things that he doesn't. Also he has a child with his ex so he has to be in contact with her. You should not be paranoid because he chose you over her so I ... (read in full...)
Horrified to find my lovely boyfriend has been posting his willy on "bi-curious" sites!
Q. I discovered my boyfriend of 2 years posted on adult internet sites seeking 'couples or females'. I recently clicked on the history tap on the internet and to my horror I found photos of my boyfriend advertising himself as a bi-curious male,...
A. 25 August 2006: I think he has betrayed your trust, he might not of met anyone in the flesh but he was obviously thinking about it. He should never of put pictures of himself on the net! I think it will be very hard for you to rebuild your trust for this man. Maybe ... (read in full...)
She hooked up with me then went back to her bf...but she still flirts with me What's up with this girl?
Q. ok, i'm completely lost as to what to do or think. i met one of my current best friends back about 7 months ago. i introduced myself to her because i could tell she liked me, and i was very interested in her, too. but it initially took me a while ...
A. 24 August 2006: She is being very unfair in you. She knows that you like her and is enjoying the attention, she knows that she can click her finger and you will come running. Don't fall for it hunny. Show her that you don't care anymore and that you can easily move ... (read in full...)
We've gone for counselling to help our relationship, but I'm falling for the counsellor!
Q. My partner and I are having sex counselling at Relate. It is going quite well, but I think I have fallen in love with the counsellor! I know about transference and it maybe only this but I am very attracted to him, (almost immediately-his sense of ...
A. 24 August 2006: I think that you are falling for him because he talks sense and you feel that because he knows what he is talking about he would become a good lover. You have to remember this is his job, he has to be nice and say all you want to hear. You only know ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or really concentrating on his school work?
Q. Me (14) and my ex (16) were dating for 2 months. Alot of people have said he cheated, and likes my cousin. He said he loves me alot but he said he brokeup with me because he needs to concentrate on school and he is worried about me cause i live in a ...
A. 24 August 2006: No he isn't cheating but 16 is a very important age and he must concentrate on his GCSE'S. His whole future depends on them. You will have to cope with coming second best I am afraid sweety. You will understand when you get to his age. Just give him ... (read in full...)
What to do with my not so "everyday" journals ?
Q. I know this problem may seem a bit silly, but it is worrying me, and I WILL have to make a decision one day. It has been playing on my mind more than usual as my father died recently, very suddenly, and at a young age, so I know how unpredictable ...
A. 24 August 2006: All your younger years are in them books, a lot of happy, sad and bad memories. I dont think that you should destroy them. I think you should get them published and remain anonymous. Dont feel worried that your family will be discraced as they love ... (read in full...)
All my guy friends always hook me up with thier friends, why dont they date me when they all say im hot!?
Q. I am a 21 year old single female and have a lot of guy friends. I just got out of a serious relationship so I am not looking for something real serious. My problem is that it seems as though all my guy friends are never interested in me, even though ...
A. 24 August 2006: I wouldn't feel worried about this hunny, they obviously just respect you too much to date you. They see you as a friend and nothing more. If they dated you it could damage your friendship. They don't see you as a charity case they just want you to ... (read in full...)
Newly married. My wife earns more than me, is against me socialising and is FULL of herself! Feel I made the wrong decisision...
Q. Please help me if you can, Well I don’t know where to start, I was a happy successful person, confident with life and my achievement in life and with people around myself, I was going to the gym, meeting friends and family nothing at all excessiv...
A. 24 August 2006: Well first of all I am glad that you are remaining faithful to her. She seems like a nightmare to live with. You should have a social life, remind her that it is important that you both have friends. Relationships are partnerships and should not be ... (read in full...)
10 ideas for things to do tonight?
Q. I'm bored, and at my Dad's place so can't hook up with friends. Begging for 10 ideas for things I can do tonight?...
A. 24 August 2006: 1)Watch a DVD.
2)Spend some time with your dad
3)Do some chores
4)Go for a walk
5)stay on this site and advise others
6)Go on www.bored.com theres loads of cool things to do on there, such as games and things.
7)Read a book
8)Try and make som... (read in full...)
Im worried that I have left it too long before being intimate with someone again and scared that now I never will be....
Q. I lost my virginity when I was 16 to my boyfriend and i havnt slept with anyone since i broke up with him. That was 3 years ago!!! furthermore, ive only kissed 2 people. The problem is that because im so self conscious about myself, whenever i have ...
A. 24 August 2006: I can understand your concern hunny, but I think you should stop knocking some of these blokes back and start dating. This will make you feel more comfortable around blokes once you have dated a few. Accept compliments this will make you feel more ... (read in full...)
Im not sure if its lust im feeling towards him or love!?
Q. How can you tell the difference between love and lust? Ive got really strong feelings for a friend but i dont want to tell him untill i know for sure its not just lust. I think about him 24/7, i cant sleep at night if i know he's gone on a d...
A. 24 August 2006: I think that you are experiencing love. Lust is usually when you meet someone new, so it is exciting. But this bloke is your friend and your feelings have gradually developed. I think you should speak to him and find out if he feels the same. But ... (read in full...)
Sunbed question:- Are you supposed to turn over when using one ?
Q. Stupid question on a sunbed are you supposed to turn around or not? I was on the sunbed this morning and my back got more red than my top side? Are you meant to turn on your stomach?...
A. 24 August 2006: No you are not meant to turn over but you should make sure you keep your arms away from your side otherwise you will gwt white sides... (read in full...)
My trainer flirts with me-but I'm married! Am I reading him wrong?
Q. I also have a trainer flirtation story. I need to know if I am reading this guy wrong. I started working with a trainer and we flirted...a lot. He was sweet and always said things that made me wonder about his feelings. We would have very int...
A. 24 August 2006: Most young men fantasise about older attractive women. It sounds to me that he has got a crush on you big time and you need to nip it in the bud. Tell him that you have noticed the way he looks at you and the way he behaves around you, and tell him ... (read in full...)
He suddenly asked if I would be ready for a baby ? He doesnt know im still a virgin!!!!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my b/f for 5 months.He told me he loved me 4 months into the relationship. We have not been 'intimate' yet, shall we say and I realy want to but the thing is he does'nt know I am a virgin.(He isn't) Anyway.... Yesterday i...
A. 24 August 2006: Don't let yourself be pressured into doing anything that you don't feel ready to do. Having children at the age of twenty is a bit young, you should be out there enjoying yourselves. I am proud to hear that you are still a virgin at your age, and ... (read in full...)
How do you tell if the affair is over ?
Q. how do you know if an affair is truly over? I only see my lover once a week anyway but are usually in contact throughout the week by either phone or texts,the last time we were together felt wierd because my lover is a friend who people knew i w...
A. 24 August 2006: I think his guilt is taking over, but he is taking the cowards way out. He needs to talk to you it is not fair to keep you hanging like this. I think that you should tell him it is over because he is too scared to say it himself. Then I think that ... (read in full...)
Love hurts
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years. After talking to a few friends, I am convinced that I did what was best for myself. However, I still love him and I am fighting urges to call him and tell him it was all a mistake. This is the first ...
A. 24 August 2006: Maybe because you were with your partner for such a long time your life had become a routine, and now your scared of change. Why don't you and a friend take up a hobbie something like aerobics, karate or even yoga. Something that you can do in the ... (read in full...)
What constitutes the 'ideal' relationship?
Q. Hi All, This is a quick question... Can anyone give me their view on what constitutes the ideal relationship partner? Is mutual love, respect and commitment/loyalty enough?? Thanks tons, Miss Doubtful x...
A. 24 August 2006: I think the ideal relationship is when your not with your partner but all you can do is think about them and wish you were with them. Also everything that you described too. You need to be able to talk in relationships. If you can't talk to your ... (read in full...)
My ex is ruining my new relationship and ultimately my life!
Q. I am a 27 year old guy and 2 yrs ago I was dumped by my 8 months pregnant girlfriend after 5 yrs of being together. She told me there was no chance of getting back together. So after 2 months of trying it was time to give up. About 4 months a...
A. 24 August 2006: I feel for you I really do. I think that she wanted you all along and was enjoying you chasing her. She didn't expect you to give up and meet someone else, when you did she realised that her game playing went too far. Now she is desperate to get ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to have relationship expectations?
Q. Is it right to have expectations in a relationship?...
A. 24 August 2006: Everybody has expectations in a relationship but we have to be careful about the amount we expect or we could end up killing the relationship. Relationships should be fun, loving and also a partnership. ... (read in full...)
My BF just doesn't seem interested in me sexually - is it because of his 'slutty' past or is it me?
Q. Ok so here's the deal. I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. We are great friends and we have a pretty good relationship with a couple minor fights every once in a while. When I first met him he was a total slut, he would sl...
A. 24 August 2006: I think that everybody is entitled to a past hunny, so you really have got to stop calling him a slut. Maybe try being a little nicer to him, make him feel good about himself. He obviously loves you and you him but because of your insecurities he ... (read in full...)
He's in a band and I trust him..but I don't trust the girls he's around. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend is in a band and are on tour now i managed to go to the first gig where a girl from another band was giving me dirty looks becuase i was talking to my boyfriend and now she is stayin at the same hotel as him for the next week, also my ...
A. 24 August 2006: Awh bless you, you seem like such a lovely girl. Paranoia is a killer in most relationships hunny, so be careful. Do you really love your boyfriend as much as you say you do? If he is in a band he is going to have girls dropping at his feet all the ... (read in full...)
Prison Break
Q. Dear cupid im going through something right now my boy friend is in jail for a couple of months and me and my girlfriend was hanging out with her boyfriend and his cousin and i really like him i dont know what to do should i tell my bf thats its ...
A. 24 August 2006: Your probably feeling lonely and vunerable because you miss your boyfriend and seeing your best friend loved up with her boyfriend makes you miss being loved up yourself. Knowing that you cant get to your boyfriend for the attention that you need ... (read in full...)
Did this girl just use me to have a baby? What do you think?
Q. my relationship with this girl to say the least started rocky,firstly i am a recovering alcoholic and willingly admit all of my wrongs and realise the trust and time thing,i have a 5 week old baby girl and accept the mother i would do the same.i ...
A. 24 August 2006: I dont think she used you to have a baby I think she used you to have sex and to repay you for rejecting her sister. I think the baby was an accident but she decided to keep it. I think that just because you used to be an alcoholic you should still ... (read in full...)
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