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writes: Iam a solo parent in a long distance relationship with a great guy. We have only been together about a year and a half, 8 months of which I have been out of the country. Due to work commitments I had to leave my children with my parents for a year while I worked in another country. My BF has been going round to see the kids a couple of days a week, taking them for the night to give my parents a break once a week. My kids are now asking if he is their father which he is happy to be called, he will even tell people they are his kids and he is talking marriage. I really do love him and want him to be a part of our lives, but I cant escape this huge fear I have that it is going to be too much responsiblity for him to take on me and my 2 kids (hes only 22). What should I do, should I rock the boat and risk losing him or just count my blessings and enjoy the fact that I have a great guy?
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reader, j'sgurl +, writes (31 August 2006):
j'sgurl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe kids are aware that he is not their real father. I have explained to them that they are lucky, they get to have 2 dads. I do realise that it is my own insecurities about not being good enough that are making me fearful and will just have to work through them. I appreciate your answers and will make sure I let him know how much I appreciate him and most of all just enjoy it. He is a good man! Thank you.
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 I think that you should count your blessings and realise how lucky you are. I do think that you should sit your children down and explain that he is not there real father, but a father figure. Just incase things do not work out. I think this man genuinely cares about you and your family so be grateful to him. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): Enjoy it, love, you deserve it. Men like that do not come around often.
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reader, channelangel +, writes (31 August 2006):
Well, to me, it sounds like you have a wonderful guy there. He gets on well with the kids and I am assuming they get on well with him?I think you should enjoy the fact that you have this great guy who is willing to make you and your kids very happy and wanting for you all to be a proper family. I say go for it! Be happy and enjoy! :)
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