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writes: I broke up with my girlfriend because she didn't tell her parents about us. I gave her almost 3 months to tell them she said she didn't know what they may say and that she is stupid. Did I do right?
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I think that you were quite insensitive. three months isnt really that long hunny. Maybe she just wanted to make sure that you were the right one for her until she told her parents. They might be quite protective of her so she just wanted to make sure you were the right one before bringing it out into the open. I can understand where you are coming from though, I imagine you dont feel very spcial and feel like she doesnt want as much commitment as you do. I think you should call her and talk. I think things will work out for you, encourage her to tell her parents but don't push her. Promise her you are there to stay and you wont show her up in front of her parents.But be patient and supportive hunny. I hope it works out for you
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reader, layla +, writes (24 August 2006):
 i think you did do right because if shes not willing to tell anyone about you she shows that she embarresed of you and also shows that the relationship is not serious.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I think you are right to do this: a person who is not willing to accept the relationship they are in and tell the people they love about it is not ready for such a commitment. You did the right thing: you are proud of what you have and obviously don't see any reason to hide it.
However, I notice you are both girls. Maybe she was scared of how her parents would react? Some people are not as open and understanding as others and maybe she needed more time to come to terms with it herself and then, she had to decide how to tell them. This can be very daunting if they know their parents are against that sort of thing.
I think only you know if you made the right decision. I think, if she was serious about you, she should have told them, even if they would take it badly. It had to happen some day and she can't leave you hanging like that, it's not fair and doesn't show her commitment to you. Talk to her. If you want her back, she has to be honest about the relationship and things will get better. If she refuses to do this, you can do better. Good luck
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