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My ex wants to see me as a friend, but he wont accept we are over, is it possible to be friends in this case ??
Q. I ended a relationship with my lover because i felt it wasn't going anywhere and i told him that.We couldn't agree to compromise so i walked away.Trouble is my ex will not accept this and says he misses me alot.He wants us to remain friends and just ...
A. 20 September 2006: Hi hunny I know that it will be hard in your ex but you have to be firm with him. Tell him that you would like to be his friend but you feel it is best that you dont get in contact witheachother for a while. This bloke needs time to get over you, ... (read in full...)
My husband hardly wants to sleep with me
Q. Hi, I’m 25 yeas old I write from USA, I have been married for one month, we have been together for two years, before I mead my husband my sex life was very active, my previous boyfriend and I hade sex 2 or 3 sometimes 4 times a day, him and I were ...
A. 19 September 2006: I suggest to you that you both see a sex councellor. It is obvious that you both love eachother very much and before the situation causes more problems in your relationship seek help hunny. Good luck... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 19 September 2006: Hi Andrew,
To be honest I never really visit any other sites, since I found this site I have found that I have become addicted. I love helping people with there relationship and sexual problems as I have experienced and overcome most myse... (read in full...)
He says he loves his cats more than more!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and 4 months and in the beginning everything was really good. He used to be really sweet and tell me that he loved me more than anything and that I meant everything to him, but recently I've discovered ...
A. 19 September 2006: I think that you should sit him down and talk. Tell him that you feel unimportant and unloved.
You deserve to be respected and I am afraid he is not respecting you.
If his attitude doesnt change then leave him, he will realise he loves you more... (read in full...)
Do long distance relationships ever work ?
Q. hey i need help big style, im still not really over my ex and i need 2 b i think about him every day and we split up cause his lil boy died and went bk 2 his ex!! anyways i have met loads of new guys jus dont feel like goin out with them as i am ...
A. 19 September 2006: No I dont think that long distance relationships work at all. There will always be jealousy beause you wont really know what the other person is doing and who they are with.
I think that you are on a rebound from your ex and are looking for atte... (read in full...)
Im 22 and never had a serious relationship, where can I meet guys that will love me for who I am ??
Q. Hi all, okay im 22 and have never been in a serious relationship and its really getting me down. I havent been happy about my weight for the last couple of years and have been dieting and exercising but the weight just isnt shifting. All my ...
A. 19 September 2006: First things first you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. I suggest that you stop putting yourself down hunny. Look in the mirror and smile, tell yourself you are beautiful and in time you will start to believe it. Find your best ... (read in full...)
Should I tell the guy at work how I feel ??
Q. there's a guy in work I'm crazy about. we are friends, the thing is I think Ive fallen for him big time. I know he has a girlfriend but its killing me to see him every day and want him. I'm considering leaving my job because of this. Should I tell ...
A. 19 September 2006: I don't think that you should, he already has a girlfriend and it would be unfair to try and spoil his relationship. I know it is going to sound harsh but if leaving your job is the only option you have to help you forget your feelings for him then ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy of 22 to act a bit of pervert in public ??
Q. This may sound like a really daft question!! I've had just one serious boyfriend and have only just got serious with him a few months ago. We went on a foreign holiday, but it felt like he is a real perve whilst away - constantly feeling my bum ...
A. 19 September 2006: I think it can be normal yes, a lot of blokes are like that. It is very immature though but at least he was perving on you and nobody else. Also he was on holiday and he probably thought that he was being funny, but he obviously was not.
I thin... (read in full...)
My Bf broke up with me, told me he loves me to bits but cant be with anymore!!
Q. Hey! Bad news, my bf and I have split up. He text me saying he loves me to bits but doesnt wanna be with me anymore. How can i get over him and become a single girl who's over it? I'm dreading seeing him happy with someone else. I did every thing ...
A. 19 September 2006:
Are you sure it is not because of his male pride? He might feel bad that you have spent so much money on him and he cannot do the same in return.
My boyfriend was doing the same for me as I was out of a job and I had no money, he paid for ever... (read in full...)
Been dating 2 months and I still dont have that big of an attraction for him, hes so nice, will it grow in time ?
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 2 months now, just meeting up one evening a week and texts occasionally. I think he really likes me, he says he wants to see me more (I am just finishing my studies so am incredibly busy until the end of the ...
A. 19 September 2006: I think that you should nip it in the bud now before he gets hurt. I think you like him but just as a friend. You obviously have more on your mind at the moment then having a relationship. Just tell him that you are not ready for commitment at the ... (read in full...)
How are you supposed to feel in between seeing your boyfriend ??
Q. this is kind of a random question....how are you supposed to feel when you're by yourself after your boyfriend has finished spending time with you and until you get to meet again?...
A. 19 September 2006: When I firs got with my boyfriend I would feel like I had butterflies in my stomach constantly and when I knew I was not going to see him for a while I would feel anxiety.
Now I live with him and I see him every day. But like now I am waiting for ... (read in full...)
I get panic attacks when my guy has to go away for a bit, its driving me mad, how can I deal with this better??
Q. Please help me as I feel as though im going mad. I really like my boyfriend, I guess you could say im in love even though we haven't said that yet. He goes away with work and its not for a major long time but the feelings I have are driving me n...
A. 19 September 2006: I am exactly the same with my man, it is very normal and unfortunately I cannot give you advise on how to stop it because I get the exact same feeling.
I will tell you one thing though you are definately in love with this guy!!!
All I can advi... (read in full...)
How do I get the ex to leave me alone ?
Q. Hi. I dated a guy about 4 years ago, then he moved across the country and is now back. He contacted me shortly after getting in the area to get together and I told him that I was married. Then suggested that he and I get together. I said okay, ...
A. 19 September 2006: Well first of all I would make sure your husband knew about every call and email he makes/sends to you, just incase he does become suspicious that something is going on when it is actually not.
I suggest to you that you tell him straight. Just... (read in full...)
My bf blames me for everything, we broke up, I had a miscarriage, he treats me bad but I love him!
Q. Wrote earlier when I was pregnant. My bf blames me for everything. I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks. My bf blames me for telling his parents that I was pregnant. I know I did not do it but he blames me for it. His parents got sick because of it. ...
A. 19 September 2006: Hunny why waste your time on such a loser? I know you say you love him but please try and get over him. He loves the fact that he can click his fingers and you will come running. I think that he is very selfish, you are a very brave woman and I am ... (read in full...)
Pete told me he loved me! I froze wasnt expecting it, I love him but didnt say so, is it now too late?
Q. So ive been dating a guy, pete for quite a while and ive posted many posts on here. But ive come across a big problem. Yesterday evening we went out together and as he dropped me home we kissed, hugged and while we were cuddling he said "i love...
A. 16 September 2006: No it isnt too late hunny. He caught you by suprise thats all, I am sure he will understand.
Maybe you should invite him out and find a nice moment to lean into him and just quietly say I love you too. You dont have to say anything about the othe... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex that I still love him after a year ?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I have been broken up for a little over a year and i still love him. I never stopped loving him. We broke up for many different reasons. Some tings were my fault and some things were his fault. I do not talk to him anymore but I ...
A. 16 September 2006: I think you should think of all the reasons that you split up for in the first place. Also you have to remember that he is an ex for a reason and things are never the same when you go back.
I respect you for admiting that some of it was your faul... (read in full...)
He dates one of my friends..should I act like her to get him to like me? Or just be myself?
Q. Me and this boy have been talking on im and me and him talk more on im then in person. When we talk in person he actually talks more then me. And i dont know if i like him or not.... and i dont know if he likes me he likes alot of girls and is going ...
A. 16 September 2006: Dont try and be someone that you are not hunny. If he got to know the pretend you, how would you ever know whether he really likes you or someone else. Just be yourself, he obviously has time for you as he spends time talking to you. Try and speak ... (read in full...)
Will this guy I like know I'm a virgin, when we do it for the first time?
Q. hi i need some advice! im 17 and im a virgin but this lad im seeing doest know i am! i have done sexual things beofre but i have never gone the whole way lol will he know im a virgin when i have sex for the first time???? ...
A. 16 September 2006: Why are you ashamed of being a virgin? Honestly it is a good thing, you are only 17! When I was at school we were all under pressure to lose our virginity, because if you were a virgin you were not cool. So I lost my virginity to a boy I hardly knew ... (read in full...)
It's his baby, I told him and he won't respond to me! What should I do?
Q. My ex-boyfriend wont respond to me regarding our new baby! First Im married and I had an affair for two years Things were not going good with my husband and I. I just wasnt in love with him anymore but I was to afraid to leave him. I met this ...
A. 16 September 2006: I am sorry to hear that hunny. Unfortunately he is scared, he is only twenty and has his whole life ahead of him. I know this is going to sound harsh but it is my opinion, okay?
I think he was really excited at the thought of having an affa... (read in full...)
We split but we are taking the kids on a holiday. Is there a chance we can reconnect while we are away?
Q. me and my husband split up 2 weeks ago but are still going on holiday in 2 weeks time for the sake of the children, do you think there is any chance for us to get back together while we are away....
A. 16 September 2006: I think it may be a good chance to have a serious chat, but make sure you do it when the kids have gone to bed. You have to remember that you are on holiday for your kids, so you cannot spoil it for them.
I think that it may be a good time to t... (read in full...)
Im scared he will get swayed by all the girls in the internet Chatrooms!!!
Q. Hi, I have been with my Bf for 3 years. Just lately im starting to feel very insecure, I shouldnt as we are very much in love but im scared... My Bf is a very sort of social type person and will have a laugh and chat and always go out of his...
A. 14 September 2006: I think that you are intitled to feel the way that you do hunny. The thing is it seems to me that your boyfriend loves you very much and will not do anything intentionally to hurt you. I mean, he is not going behind your back. He tells you that he ... (read in full...)
Im scared he will get swayed by all the girls in the internet Chatrooms!!!
Q. Hi, I have been with my Bf for 3 years. Just lately im starting to feel very insecure, I shouldnt as we are very much in love but im scared... My Bf is a very sort of social type person and will have a laugh and chat and always go out of his...
A. 14 September 2006: I think that you are intitled to feel the way that you do hunny. The thing is it seems to me that your boyfriend loves you very much and will not do anything intentionally to hurt you. I mean, he is not going behind your back. He tells you that he ... (read in full...)
He doesnt think that the communication between him and his stepmum is any of my business, I do!!
Q. stepmother amd stepson she is 58 he is 51 she recently moved to another state,she e-mails,sends letters in the mail and calls him all the time,everything is very secretive between them.He says it is none of my bussiness.I think it is....
A. 14 September 2006: I think that he is intitled to his privacy hunny. But I agree with you, I think that there could be something a bit fishy going on. I mean there is not a very big age gap at all. The thing is you are going to have to trust him until you find out ... (read in full...)
His ex will not leave us alone, its really upsetting me, all I want to do his make him happy!!
Q. Please help me, I am 22 years old and am seeing a man that is 8 years my senior. He has four kids and an ex that just wont leave us alone. I have to put up with her constant threats and this is really getting me down. But most of all whats rea...
A. 14 September 2006: I think that the true answer would be to leave him. I know it will probably be hard but honestly it may be the best thing. You are only twenty two and this man has four kids, are you prepared to take this on? You should be out there having fun. Also ... (read in full...)
What Can I text him to turn him on ?
Q. what can i text him to turn him on??? ...
A. 12 September 2006: Why dont you txt him and tell him you are in bed wearing nothing and you are feeling really naughty. He will definatey get turned on by the thought of you in bed and naked. have fun lol... (read in full...)
My 16 year old gay sone likes to look at little boys...
Q. my 16 year old gay son likes to look at little boys, he has never had a sexual encounter with a boy or man, however as his parent I am concerned about this and don't know what to do? ...
A. 12 September 2006: Well if he is gay there is nothing you can do to stop him as his sexual preference is his own choice. But if he is looking at little boys he has some serious issues that you need to help him with. He needs to know that it is wrong, I think you ... (read in full...)
Could he have snogged another while he was away???
Q. Hi there, This is a really silly problem but i cant get it out of my head. My boyfriend has just spent a weekend in New York with his best friend, who is single. I asked him whether his friend scored any women at all and he said yes, he did...
A. 12 September 2006: Basically hunny you will never know, so you have to get thi thought out of your head. If he loves you I doubt he would cheat on you. I suggest you just trust him until you find out otherwise.... (read in full...)
We have been together for 3 years, he gets all the home comforts at his mums, he wont move in together as he says he needs back up money ?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3yrs, I live in my home with my 5yr old son from my previous relationship and he comes and stays with me every night and weekends but has all his stuff and eats at his parents. I am 25yrs and he is 34yrs old. ...
A. 12 September 2006: No I dont think that you are wrong at all. I think it is time that your boyfriend grows up a bit and realises that you have needs and feelings also. Why cant he move in and help his love out especially since you are pregnant with his child. He seems ... (read in full...)
What can I do - I don't want to lose her
Q. I need help my gf wants a break for two weeks I've gave her one but I think she is going to break up with me I dont want to lose her and I want to phone her as well what should I do ?...
A. 12 September 2006: I think that you should give her the break that she needs hunny, I know it will be difficult but it may work out for the best. She may decide that she really likes you and wants to stay with you or she could decide that she wants to split for good. ... (read in full...)
My male friend is gay, we had sex, now im pregnant!
Q. I have been in love with a male friend for a long time, but he's gay. I intentionally got him drunk and seduced him. Even though we had really great sex, he said that he still prefers men. I just found out I'm pregnant with his child. Part of me ...
A. 12 September 2006: I think that you should stop trying to make this guy fall for you. He is gay and that is that, you cannot change him. If you really did love this guy you would want him to be happy, and stop playing with his mind. You should also be honest with him ... (read in full...)
My ex that cheated got back in touch to apologise, I said it doesnt make things right and now hes not talking to me!
Q. I dumped my boyfriend of four years over six months ago, because I found out he was cheating. I was devastated at the time because I really loved him. He tried contacting me in the beginning, but I ignored him and got on with my life, he hurt me ...
A. 12 September 2006: My suggestion to you is forget about him! He is obviously a complete loser. If he wanted you so much he would never of cheated on you in the first place. He might of realised after all this time just how much you mean to him and he wants his cosy ... (read in full...)
Hes worried about the age gap and thats why we are not together!
Q. hi wonderng if anyone will help i'm 17 gonna be 18 soon, and i like this guy i work with. i know he likes me back because his spoken to a friend that works with us. the only problem that is stopping him telling me is the fact hes 21 and is worrie...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi, why dont you approach him first and speak to him. Nowadays that is not a big age gap at all. You will find that most girls go out with blokes a few years older than themselves. I am twenty and my boyfriends twenty-six and we love eachother very ... (read in full...)
I really love him but cant tell him im a virgin!! Im size 8 would this be why any form of penetration hurts ?
Q. My bf and i live together he's 27 and has a daughter aged 8 who doesnt live with us, Im older than him and i have the ordeal of still being a virgin. We love each other very much, however ive not told him im still a virgin, hes slept with 27 girls ...
A. 12 September 2006: I think that you should tell him, his opinion wont change about you honestly. Just explain that you lied because you felt embarrassed, he will understand. It is very clear that this bloke loves you very much as he has waited for a while already. I ... (read in full...)
Can you really be in love with two people at the same time?
Q. Is it truly possible to be in love with two people at the same time? or is that just something people say when they're afraid to admit how they truly feel, or are scared to say they don't love their partner anymore? I always thought that it wasn't ...
A. 7 September 2006: my personal opinionis no. I do think however it is possible to lust over two people. Maybe you should stop seeing your friend for a while and let her follow her heart. I am sure that she will be able to get her head together if you give her some ... (read in full...)
I met a guy through a dating site for married people, I dont want to spoil things by asking him how he feels!
Q. i joined this dating site for married people,my relationship with my partner is over anyway and we are both moving on,thing is i met this guy and we hit it off really well and we have been seeing each other for 4 months now,i feel guilty has hell ...
A. 7 September 2006: For a start you said that you feel guilty as hell for what he is doing to his long term partner, well you are doing it too, not just him. I think you should leave him. He has no intention of leaving his partner by the sounds of it, and anyway even ... (read in full...)
My friend is selfish and doesnt like not to get her own way, should I leave her to it ?
Q. Hello. I have a problem with my friend. We are both girls. I am 25 she is 29. We went to a concert a few weeks back and met up with one of my male friends. We stayed at his place so we could drink as he lives close by. We had a really goo...
A. 7 September 2006: I think that you should leave it for a while and see if she contacts you. She may not of even recieved your emails, so just be patient and dont bother her until she bothers with you again. At the end of the day you have tried and thats all you can ... (read in full...)
He says he doesnt trust me, and hes really insecure, hes making my life a misery but I dont want him to dump me! Please help!
Q. Sorry if this is long.....I have been dating my bf for almost a year, we are very serious, and seem to be madly in love, however he is very insecure and has jealous rages and we always argue. I go to university and im 20 and he works and hes 25...
A. 7 September 2006: Your boyfriend has probably been treated badly by past girlfriends and this is why he feels insecure. My boyfriend has the same problem but it is my fault really because at the beginning of our relationship I would flirt with other men to see his ... (read in full...)
I can't find where to put my penis when I try to have sex!
Q. Hi, i'm an 18 year old male and twice I have gone to have sex with a girl. The first time I was very drunk and couldn't find where to put my penis but I put it down to me being drunk. But a few days ago I had a girl over and the scene was perfect ...
A. 5 September 2006: The only thing you can do is ask the woman to take hold of your penis and guide to her vagina. She will guide you inside her. Honestly don't be shy just ask her for some help. It will work honestly. Goodluck... (read in full...)
I want to make a big impression on him when we go back to school.. any ideas?
Q. Hi there :-) I'm going back to school in a few days, and I feel like I've changed how I feel about myself. I ended the last term realising how I felt about this boy in my class. I really like him! Only problem is he likes someone else, but she do...
A. 4 September 2006: How about getting a new hair style hunny? I used to love going back to school after the summer holidays and seeing all my friends that I hadn't seen for a while, and the best part is that everyones image had seemed to change one way or another. I ... (read in full...)
Ive recently come out that Im gay, but I've never had a proper BF can anyone offer advice ?
Q. I am gay and have just come out I have never had a proper boyfriend could anyone help me out please ?...
A. 4 September 2006: All I can say is if you want to meet a man go to a gay bar or use gay chat rooms to meet people. When you meet someone take your time in getting to know him before you sleep with him. Don't feel pressured into doing anything if you don't want to. ... (read in full...)
Mty boyfriend is aggresive and im worried about breaking up...
Q. I find my boyfriend very aggresive and I'm worried about breaking it to him that we're over. He would never hurt me but he shouts a lot and punches walls and stuff. I'm not used to this (my parents are very passive in arguments) and I sometimes ...
A. 4 September 2006: At least you know that he will never hurt you physically. I think that you should sit him down and just tell him that you are over, tell him that you cannot handle his aggressiveness any more. If he gets in a strop and starts hitting walls and stuff ... (read in full...)
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