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writes:Im happily single dont get me wrong ive been having fun with a few guys (with protection and the pill obviously) but everyone keeps asking me if im with anyone and when im going to get into a relationship. Im only 20! Im enjoying being a single woman ive never knowingly been with men who are taken so im not hurting anyone having fun. Im just wondering if i should settle down and get into a relationship or just carry on as i am?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): Do what you want and don't listen to anyone else's input too much.
But you must also accept the consequences of your actions later on. Not everyone else (male or female) is doing what you are doing right now. Those people usually won't be too thrilled about settling down with a partner who once lived a lifestyle that they find distasteful. You will reap what you sow so be careful what that is.
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reader, GoodDog  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 It's your life and you decide what's best for you!!
There will always be people around who think they know what's best for you. Even if you are in a relationship there might be someone telling you "he's not the one for you, etc" so tell them to butt out!
You are still young and have many years ahead to settle down in a seriouse relationship when you find the right man.
So, take no notice of the others, no matter what they say!
Have fun!
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reader, elcamaron  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 If you "settling down" is based on pressure from others then I would say absolutely do not do so. There is a stigma that young women should not be without a man at their side and those that are single should be pitted. That lie drives people to feel pathetic rather than independent and creates a false need for a partner--often pushing people into relationships based on anything but true attraction and love.Do yourself a favor (as I'm sure you will) and skip all of the bull and dysfunction that comes with a relationship until you truly want to commit to someone. When you find the person that you want to stick around it will be actually worth it because having had many experiences with men, you will be able to identify what will work for you and provide strength for the relationship via long served independence.
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