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writes:Some advice please folks!I met a girl from Germany in a park at the start of July, we got talking, she was the one who asked for my number and that we could have a coffee. Unfortunately, she was going home on holiday the next day, but I did text her a happy holiday and that it was great to meet her. She said she'd be back in August.Here is my conundrum now, she is a lecturer at a local university, so I really don't want to appear to forceful and overly eager, I think that may have been my downfall a few months ago, maybe being too 'needy', but always in good intentions, to get to know someone and make them happy, making others happy makes me happy. She may need lots of time to get her things in order before school starts in mid September too.So what I want to know what is my next step? I think she is back, I rang her UK number from a callbox to see if it would ring, it did, so means she is back! Should I give her time to organize herself, if so, how long, mid August, end of August? I want to make it a point of principle for her to contact me, chasing isn't too good! Maybe it is cultural differences, but she did also say in her text before she left, "see you in August."I just don't want her to think that I have forgotten about her either. I have remembered small things she said she likes ie cycling, rock climbing, mountain walks, galleries etc etc, so I have a rough idea what to do if we get that far!PS, first time I've ever met anyone organically in a park like that, normally through work, uni etc etc..Ladies, gents, please give me your thoughts! I'd be happy to hear anyone with the German/Austrian mindset too!
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reader, GoodDog +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Yes, ask her for a coffee or a drink somewhere. Just be casual and friendly and think of it as asking a friend out instead. Don't show you are anxious or worrying about rejection - be positive!
If she says yes and it goes on to other things then that's great - if she says no, then don't be too hard on yourself about it.
Get in touch with her and be yourself!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Go for it, you aren't getting any younger...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMmmm, I do tend to over analyse things quite a lot. I'm not that experienced with women, so when 1 does say something nice, I may read too much into it?!
I am scared of being rejected too!
Plus it's very hot these days, I should maybe suggest an ice cream/ drink?! And that the coffee, she can take me too later to set up a possible second meeting??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMmmm, I do tend to over analyse things quite a lot. I'm not that experienced with women, so when 1 does say something nice, I may read too much into it?!
I am scared of being rejected too!
Plus it's very hot these days, I should maybe suggest an ice cream/ drink?! And that the coffee, she can take me too later to set up a possible second meeting??
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 August 2011):
Geeze Buddy! You are way over-thinking this. Just call her up and ask her out for some coffee and take it from there.
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reader, GoodDog +, writes (1 August 2011):
Why not send her a text or give her a quick call asking how her holiday went? Nothing too heavy - just a casual thing to show that you are still there and interested.
Give her a day or two to reply and see how you it goes. Worth a try!!
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