A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:during a conversation with a stranger (for example, at a place of work), what are signs a guy is flirting as opposed to just being friendly? what do you consider the stereotypical "weather" conversation? what kind of things would you do/talk about in each situation ... ? thanks in advance :)
View related questions:
flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (26 February 2012):
 Friendly guys usually get confused with those who are flirting because the lines get very blurred. A friendly guy might say hello when he sees you; may joke around a bit or tell you a funny story, occasonally helps you with a project, maybe opens a door for you when your arms are full. But uses "We" statements, implying there is another person in his life that he does stuff with (Example,"Hey have you tried that new Thai place? We went there this week-end the food is great". Has photos of a specific woman sitting on his desk. Mentioned his wife or girlfriend's name occasionally and sounds positive about that person; "My wife, God bless her is such a good cook but for some reason she burned the meatloaf the other night." Flirting is more like this: eyes linger on you; you find him watching you from across the table during a meeting, he smiles when caught then looks away, only to look back at you in a moment with a sexy grin. He finds excuses to come by your desk and always stops to chat; frequently tells you you look nice that day or likes your hair. Asks about your personal life, "What did you do this week-end? Uses "I" statements (Example, "I've been meaning to go see that new movie"....or "I love sushi, I went this week-end to that new place around the corner.") Always manages to get assigned to projects you're working on so you can work together. Invites you to lunch or coffee or out for drinks. Never talks about a wife or girlfriend. Has no pictures of other women sitting on his desk. Hope that helps you out a bit.
A
male
reader, GoodDog +, writes (26 February 2012):
 Flirting can be shown in different ways: touching (arms, shoulders, etc) laughing / smiling a lot during conversation, making fun of each other in a playful way, etc. Depends on the person I suppose. I think you just notice the way they behave is different with you than others around you.
What I would say to the other person depends on where I am. You can talk about the weather, etc to break the ice, but if there was something of mutual interest then I would mention that.
Hope this makes sense!!
...............................
A
male
reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 Many people have a difficult time interpreting what's friendly talk and what's flirting. For most there's a fine line. While others do it so naturally, their flirting get mixed in with their friendly nature.Some ways to tell if someone is flirting is to pay attention to their body language, *their tone of voice, and WHAT they say. If a guy compliments you- and says it in way that shows interest, he's flirting. If he mirrors what you do, leans in your direction, slowly licks his lips, looks deep in your eyes (or at your body), etc., he's interested. Shooting the breeze, "weather talk" is more talk than anything else. There's no indication through body language of interest, no change of voice, no... nothing. It's usually a brief conversation that feels more like you're talking to a friend/acquaintance of yours that you're not really close with. Hope this helps!
...............................
|
