He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 27 February 2011: Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear this. Deep down, I think you knew this was likely to happen. Even so, I’m sure you are feeling terribly hurt right now. It’s time to move on from this man and begin concentrating on yourself and your children.
Is he... (read in full...)
He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 17 February 2011: I'm glad your boyfriend is being a responsible father, and taking the time to care for his child. However, he is spending a lot of time alone with this woman at her house. I'm sure they are bonding with the baby, and quite possibly each other. ... (read in full...)
Last year I slept with a co-worker. Now she will not let me forget it. How do I handle the problems she's causing me?
Q. In November, I slept with a co-worker. I'm married and I know I screwed up. Right after it happened, I felt guilty and told her that it would never happen again.Well, my wife works with us, and the co-worker has been dropping hints left and righ...
A. 24 January 2011: Thanks for the update! You are making the right decision. There is too much of a chance your wife will find out about the affair from this woman or other co-workers. Has this woman told any of your co-workers? You might want to find this out. ... (read in full...)
I find myself falling for a man who already has a girlfriend.
Q. Hi I am 45, recently divorced and redundant. Due to all these reasons I have been fairly depressed. I recently met a 37 year old guy at a party socially who befriended me and showed me a lot of sympathy. He also seems attracted to me. As a result I ...
A. 24 January 2011: Thanks for the update! Since you are not an assertive person, I'm not sure you will have the strength to stand up to this man... so it's best that you cut ties with him altogether, or at the very least... maintain only a phone/text/email friendship ... (read in full...)
I cant have children but would like to date a woman who has children so I can be a role model
Q. I'm 32 years old and recently divorced 11 months ago after a 3 year marriage. My ex left me after we were trying to have a child, she couldn't get pregnant and after numerous tests it came back that I'm sterile and unable to father a child, she ...
A. 23 January 2011: You sound like a great guy! Personally, I don't think you are being unrealistic or shallow at all. You have a lot to offer a single woman with children. There are women who have been widowed, or have had children with deadbeat fathers... and ... (read in full...)
I've been asked to participate in a threesome but have conflicting feelings about it
Q. Been asked to partisipate in a three some but have very pro/con views on it plus I like the guy and dont know who the other person is. Am worried that I'll chicken out, it wont be as good as expected and am very nervus about this. Should I do it...
A. 23 January 2011: If you want a future relationship with this guy... you will say no this threesome. Otherwise, he will view you as non-girlfriend material... and just someone who is easy sex. It sounds like you like him, so don't ruin your chances for a future a ... (read in full...)
I find myself falling for a man who already has a girlfriend.
Q. Hi I am 45, recently divorced and redundant. Due to all these reasons I have been fairly depressed. I recently met a 37 year old guy at a party socially who befriended me and showed me a lot of sympathy. He also seems attracted to me. As a result I ...
A. 23 January 2011: You and this man are engaging in an emotional affair, and if you don't stand up to him now, this affair will soon become physical. If this happens, you will only end up falling harder for this man. Unfortunately, he has a girlfriend, so you will ... (read in full...)
Creative advice needed!
Q. I am in need of some help from those who are creative. I have an on going "battle" with my gf for doing little things for each other that are out of the ordinary. so I am looking for self made crafts or creative ways to tell her how im thinking. ...
A. 22 January 2011: What a wonderful boyfriend you are! This is great! I absolutely love petina1's idea... but I'm not sure how you could carry that out without getting in trouble.
Here is something I have done... make a homemade coupon for a free massage ... (read in full...)
Am I in love? And how do I go about telling her I have feelings for her without causing any awkwardness?
Q. I really like this girl... and have liked her since I met her 5 months ago. We're not going out, but I want to. I have had crushes before on celebrities and people I know, but this doesn't feel like a crush. Since November (3 months ago), I have ...
A. 22 January 2011: I agree with petina1... you don't want to scare her off by professing your love to her. You need to be tactful... get to know her outside the classroom. Ask her to a movie, invite her to join you for some coffee or lunch, or ask her if she wants ... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend is ruining my self esteem. Was I right to break up with him?
Q. Hi there. I was recently in a relationship with a guy briefly. This is someone I've known for a couple of years. I'm 5 years older than him and he knew this from the onset. The problem that i have is - during our first 'get together' when w...
A. 22 January 2011: Clearly, this man is insecure, and he felt the need to break you down in order to gain some control in the relationship. This is not the type of man you need in your life. People in healthy relationships do not belittle or demean those they love. ... (read in full...)
Last year I slept with a co-worker. Now she will not let me forget it. How do I handle the problems she's causing me?
Q. In November, I slept with a co-worker. I'm married and I know I screwed up. Right after it happened, I felt guilty and told her that it would never happen again.Well, my wife works with us, and the co-worker has been dropping hints left and righ...
A. 22 January 2011: Your co-worker is feeling rejected and angry. If her feelings build up, she will likely say something to your wife. As hard as this may be, it is best that your wife hear the news from you, instead of your co-worker. Yes, your wife will feel ... (read in full...)
Last year I slept with a co-worker. Now she will not let me forget it. How do I handle the problems she's causing me?
Q. In November, I slept with a co-worker. I'm married and I know I screwed up. Right after it happened, I felt guilty and told her that it would never happen again.Well, my wife works with us, and the co-worker has been dropping hints left and righ...
A. 22 January 2011: Your co-worker is feeling rejected and angry. If her feelings build up, she will likely say something to your wife. As hard as this may be, it is best that your wife hear the news from you, instead of your co-worker. Yes, your wife will feel ... (read in full...)
My ex-wife and fiancee cannot both be at my father's funeral...what do I do?
Q. I have a dilemma that I doubt I will get much sympathy from here. I recently divorced after a year long separation following an affair. I live with my mistress and we are in love and planning to get married in a year or so. She has met all of m...
A. 22 January 2011: This is a difficult situation. Normally, I would say that both women should be able to go… but this is a funeral. This is a time for those who are closest to your father to celebrate his life. That being the case, the last thing you want to do is ... (read in full...)
He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 19 January 2011: I am so sorry to hear about your situation. If there wasn’t a baby involved… I’d encourage you to stay… but this child will inevitably form a bond between your boyfriend and the woman he had a one night stand with. Your boyfriend is doing the ... (read in full...)
Why cant I move on? What's wrong with me?
Q. why can't i move on?? im still not over our breakup we had in 2004 to 2007.. he tells me that we are gona be together forever and he said aren't you happy you could never get me to say that before.. true he never said that before during our time ...
A. 18 January 2011: The first thing you need to address is your depression. Only a doctor can determine if you suffer from a chemical imbalance, so please do this immediately. I”d recommend making an appointment with a psychiatrist. Your assumption regarding ... (read in full...)
I want to watch my wife have sex with another man!
Q. I am another husband that would love to watch my wife having sex with another man. We have talked about this for the past year and I want to take it to the next step. She loves to talk about doing this while we are having sex and says she wants to ...
A. 5 December 2010: It's one thing to fantasize about this while you are having sex with your wife, but it's another thing to act on it. There are so many ways this could go wrong and end up ruining your marriage. I am curious... How long have you been married? And do ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with these horrible girls in college?
Q. There's been a lot of drama going on! I try to ignore it, but they've been going back to the teacher saying that I've been saying these awful things about them, and spreading rumors that really embarrass me! I don't say anything to them, I just ...
A. 2 December 2010: Absolutely! If someone is harassing you on the internet, you should contact the police. Use the "print screen" option on your keyboard to make copies of anything they do or say that is threatening. Also, if they create a fake page in your name, you ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my children I'm gay?
Q. How can I tell my children I'm gay? I have 3 children, teenage girls, and their mother died a couple of years ago. I think it's the right time to be true to myself (for the first time in 50+ years) and look for a relationship with another man. ...
A. 2 December 2010: I have some friends whose dad divorced their mother and revealed he was gay. The kids (3 girls & 1 boy) were all in their teens or twenties at the time. Since then, he has married his partner and the kids remain extremely close to their father.
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Do his actions mean he likes me?
Q. Well, theres this guy in my Algebra class. I've known him for YEARS, but I had never really known him. Before this year, I only knew WHO he was. but this year, we've started talking alot. And I feel REALLLYYY stupid for asking stupid questions! ...
A. 2 December 2010: From what you've shared with us, it certainly appears that he likes you. Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Is he on some power trip or something?
Q. So i've been messing around with this guy for a while now. Last time we fooled around he pinned me down face first on the bed. I'm all for rough sex, but that was strange. Is he on some power trip or something?...
A. 2 December 2010: If it bothered you in any way, I suggest you speak with him about it. From your post, I am assuming he wasn't trying to smother you. Unless you found it painful or uncomfortable, I don't think there is anything to worry about. Some guys like to play ... (read in full...)
How to tell if my future partner has a high sex drive without asking her?
Q. I am someone with a high sex drive. i am in my early 50's and I have the same drive as when I was in my 20's. I broke up a few months ago and am trying to get back in the dating scene. I know that a relationship is more than sex. Ideally I'd ...
A. 2 December 2010: Have you tried any dating sites that match you up with women based on similar interests? Perhaps sex drive is one of the traits that they ask about. Just a suggestion. Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Does a guy mind if his girlfriend has pimples?
Q. Will a guy mind if his gf has pimples? Like more pimply now?...
A. 2 December 2010: It shouldn't be an issue, but if you are having problems with stubborn acne that doesn't respond to over-the-counter medications, then go see your doctor. This can be easily treated with prescribed medication.
Good luck!
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Am I being too paranoid? Do I have good reasons to be paranoid?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for about a year now. We meet every so often in real life, but are now working on saving money to move in together as soon as his papers are done (long story). He lives in the US and I ...
A. 1 December 2010: I agree with Jmtmj's advice, but I would like to add some suggestions. Is it possible to play World of Warcraft without going online? If so, maybe you would feel more comfortable if he played against the computer rather than people on the ... (read in full...)
I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years.
Q. I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years. I have never told anyone this and I have never acted upon my feelings. Recently I felt that he may have feelings for me too! He hasn't directly told me so or made a pass at me ...
A. 1 December 2010: Thanks for the update! I think talking to both parties about your feelings will be the best way to deal with this. I suggest you talk to them together rather then separately. Otherwise, he may try to talk you into having an affair.
Please keep us ... (read in full...)
He is still not totally over his ex, what should I do?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months. I am in love with him, I can picture having a life and future with this guy. But a part of him is still not over his ex. She was kinda his girl that got away. I told him if the main reason as to why ...
A. 1 December 2010: As CaringGuy said, you can't have a relationship with this man if his heart is elsewhere. He needs to deal with his feelings for his ex first... And this should have been done before he started relationship with you.
How many months have you been... (read in full...)
I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years.
Q. I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years. I have never told anyone this and I have never acted upon my feelings. Recently I felt that he may have feelings for me too! He hasn't directly told me so or made a pass at me ...
A. 30 November 2010: You need to avoid him completely. If he shows up at a party or function you are attending, you need to leave. Period. If his wife already picked up on your behavior, it's only a matter of time before others pick up on it as well.
Do you really w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves the attention, should I be worried?
Q. The first encounter which lead me to believe I have something to worry about is when he was at his brother's house and they were there.He was talking to me and he told me to hold on.They were talking about the fact that he has my name tattooed on ...
A. 30 November 2010: It isn't clear whether your boyfriend is cheating on you or not, but I think you have every right to be concerned. You've already caught him lying about these girls and he doesn't seem to care about your feelings. I'm sure your bf enjoys the ego ... (read in full...)
My roomate's suggestion makes me really uncomfortable! How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi. I have a random question not related to love. My roommate has a boyfriend and she has asked me if he could stay in the room with us (she said they would not do anything.) At first I told her I was ok with it, but then I told her honestly it ...
A. 30 November 2010: I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. I am curious... Is her boyfriend coming for a visit? How long will he be there? Do you have a friend who would let you sleep in her room for a night? Assuming you are in a dorm room, is there a tv lounge ... (read in full...)
My husband's boyfriend!!!
Q. HEllo there i am having really a big problem with my husband, i am in states and he is in germany, i think he had sex with his boy freind, first of all last month he went to his freind's house and called me and talked to me and then said i will cal...
A. 30 November 2010: I'm a bit confused. You caught your boyfriend hanging out with his friend... but what makes you think they are having sex? Has he admitted to having sexual feelings for men? If this is the case, there's really nothing you can do to change him. ... (read in full...)
Is he just being nice to me, trying to not hurt my feelings by playing along until he has to leave?
Q. This will be long so please bear with me. I am very confused about this situation and I just want to see the 360 without people being biased. I have had a crush on this guy for close to 10 months. He is older than me and graduated from t...
A. 30 November 2010: This guy's words contradict his actions. I sense that he is interested in you. I do find his last few texts concerning... since he wasn't responding in a reasonable manner or time. After your last night together, you said his roommates confronted ... (read in full...)
My crush hit on my childminder the other day...but I want him! How do I resolve this?
Q. I had a baby recently and a guy who was a good friend of mine (well my crush) who wanted to go out with me back when I was preg..in fact he wanted a sexual relationship with me at the time but it never happened between us..anyway I met him the other ...
A. 29 November 2010: Thank you for the update! I think it's pretty clear now that he and your au pair are interested in one another. I know this must have been quite hurtful for you. You seem like a very nice, caring person... but there's a point when you have to... (read in full...)
A bit infatuated with my stalker
Q. I have made an unbelievably bad decision. This might be a little long, so thank you in advance for reading. I have no one to turn to, not because i don't have anyone but because i do not think anyone would understand. Ill start at the beginning...
A. 29 November 2010: This guy sounds mentally disturbed. You are misinterpreting his mysterious behavior as romantic. For all you know, this man could be dangerous.
Do you know his name, where he works/lives, who he hangs out with, or anything about him? I would fi... (read in full...)
Am I or we (me and my ex) still in love?
Q. I never dated after my divorce until 2 years later I met this woman who was out of her divorce for a bout a year. We clicked instantaneously. The chemistry between us was unlike anything either of us had encountered in the past. The main ...
A. 28 November 2010: It sounds like you still have feelings this woman, so you are hoping she feels the same way. You are living in fantasy land. This woman found the love of her life and now has a family with him. I know this is difficult to hear, but she is not ... (read in full...)
Short affair, and only oral sex
Q. Back in Sept. My husband had a month and a half affair. I didnt find out till the friday before Thanksgiving. The woman's husband called me to let me know what has happened. I told the guy there was no way. Thats not him. We have been together for ...
A. 28 November 2010: As I read your post, I couldn't help but notice you consistently minimize your husband's role in the affair. Also, you put more blame on the woman. Sadly, I think you are in denial. Let's face it, your husband cheated on you... and he went back for ... (read in full...)
We both hang out with other people, and I'm tempted to cheat, can our relationship be saved?
Q. can our relationship be saved? my boyfriend begun to allow his female friends in our relationship. i will explain. he is allowing girls that are interested in him to hang out with us, when i told him how unhappy that makes me, now he hangs out with ...
A. 28 November 2010: I'm sorry to say this, but your relationship is in serious trouble. You said, "I told him how unhappy that makes me, now he hangs out with them without me." Obviously, his female friends are more important then you. I wouldn't be surprised if he is ... (read in full...)
Didn't know it at the time, but I had sex with my future teacher
Q. Sorry, guys, this is kinda long. STORY TIME When I was 17, my boss held a huge Christmas party at a hotel. There, a friend of mine introduced me to his single friend who was very charming and sexy. Long story short, we ended up having a one ni...
A. 28 November 2010: The first thing you need to do is to request a different Study Coordinator. If anybody found out you were seeing this man, both of you could get in trouble with the college... and he could lose his job.
This guy used you for sex. If he had want... (read in full...)
I feel so lost after losing this baby...
Q. Me and my husband have together for 5 years and have been married for 3... We got pregnant about 9 months ago but i lost the baby and didint tell him because he said he would leave me... I dont know what to do because he is going to tell everyone i ...
A. 27 November 2010: I'm so sorry you lost your baby. Why didn't you feel you could tell your husband? If you can't rely on your own husband to love and support you in your time of need then something is wrong. You need to tell your husband that you lost the baby. ... (read in full...)
Married and in love with my ex-boyfriend who is always married
Q. I got married over two years ago and am still in love with my ex who is also married. My ex and I were together for over 3 years, I cheated on him one night after a lot of drinks. I went home and told him instantly since I felt so guilty and ...
A. 27 November 2010: In your post, you said,"It seems like I am the problem and therapy can't change how I am or act." This tells me that you are unwilling to work on your issues because you don't have any interest in saving your marriage. Obviously, you never got ... (read in full...)
I'm 28 and no girl in my life, am I normal?
Q. Dear All, I just wanted to know one thing is it normal not to have a woman in life even when you turn 28. I must am not that bad looking (not to say that it makes any difference). It’s a fact that never had girlfriend. I must admit I do get attr...
A. 27 November 2010: I agree with the other posters. It sounds like you have a lot of things going for you! You would benefit from joining some clubs or an adult coed sports league... any activity that will bring you in contact with new people.
I do wonder..... (read in full...)
We have an open relationship, but how do I go about explaining to him that I'm not comfortable with this one girl?
Q. My partner and I have been together for three and a half years, and have been living together for one and a half of those years. We've recently both been feeling quite trapped (he more so than I, admittedly), so we've decided to try out an open ...
A. 26 November 2010: You mentioned in your update that you and your boyfriend talked about your concerns and worked things out. Would you mind sharing that with us? I'm not trying to judge you, I'm only curious to hear what you two decided to do. :) ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my mates back without looking weak?
Q. A while ago my life was going great, people trusted me. Now my life has fallen apart, iv lost 4 mates! Close ones. The first 2 i lost because a girl made up some stuff i said about them, which i didnt say! Then one of them was alright with me, but ...
A. 25 November 2010: I'm sorry you are going through this rough time. I had some similar experiences when I was young. I'm in my 30's now, and those problems (which seemed monumental when they occurred) seem like a lifetime ago! In ten years... you will roll your ... (read in full...)
Opinions on ex's spending holidays together "for the kids"?
Q. What are some opinions ex's spending holidays together "for the kids". Does anyone else think it may send the wrong message to the kids that there is hope of a reconciliation between their parents? Especially when one of them has to leave their new ...
A. 25 November 2010: If you have been with this man for 2 years, you should be included in his Thanksgiving plans. I understand his desire to spend the day with the kids… but why can’t they spend half the day with their mother and the other half with their father? ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to have sex with her friend just once to see if anything is there?
Q. I need some advice... My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years now, late last year she started to hang out with a friend who she used to know, he seemed nice to me, a bit weird but he was okay. Last December she went through a r...
A. 25 November 2010: This is terrible! She has cheated on you twice already with this guy... and now she wants permission to go back for thirds??? Unbelievable! Why would you even consider this an option?
There is no hope for your relationship, and you need to ... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 25 November 2010: You have stated that you will not proceed with this relationship if you do not have her parent's blessings. There is a good chance her parents will not approve of their daughter dating a man who is 17 years older. Fortunately, her parents are 12 ... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 24 November 2010: It’s possible that this could work out… my great grandparents had a 19 year age difference, and my grandparents were 14 years apart… and both had wonderful marriages. However, you can’t ignore the fact that she is only 18… and as mature as she may ... (read in full...)
My crush hit on my childminder the other day...but I want him! How do I resolve this?
Q. I had a baby recently and a guy who was a good friend of mine (well my crush) who wanted to go out with me back when I was preg..in fact he wanted a sexual relationship with me at the time but it never happened between us..anyway I met him the other ...
A. 16 November 2010: Ok, so he DOES know that you were interested in him. What about the au pair? Did she know you were interested in this man? The fact that she tried to hide her cell phone, tells me she either knew or suspected you liked him. The part that bothers ... (read in full...)
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