He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 27 February 2011: Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear this. Deep down, I think you knew this was likely to happen. Even so, I’m sure you are feeling terribly hurt right now. It’s time to move on from this man and begin concentrating on yourself and your children.
Is he... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 19 February 2011: It sounds like you both had a blast! Did your wife have any regrets about it? I guess it's too early to know that, considering it's only been a few hours. I don't think I could ever do this, but I do find it very interesting. I'm curious to hear ... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 18 February 2011: I hope it went well. Please let us know what happened! ... (read in full...)
He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 17 February 2011: I'm glad your boyfriend is being a responsible father, and taking the time to care for his child. However, he is spending a lot of time alone with this woman at her house. I'm sure they are bonding with the baby, and quite possibly each other. ... (read in full...)
Should I allow my husband to have sex with other women because of a fetish for huge boobs?
Q. Should i let my husband have sex with other women because of a fetish for huge boobs? My husband and I have been together for 4 years (married for almost 2) we have a 1 year old little boy and our second baby is due in june. He has a fetish/...
A. 17 February 2011: I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I imagine you are feeling very hurt right now. Many men find large breasts desirable, but your husband is so consumed by this fetish that it has become an obsession. Is your husband open to getting ... (read in full...)
My ex and I dated and had a child together in high school. We've both moved on and married others, so why did he ignore me in public?
Q. My ex and I dated and had a baby in high school, we were together 2 years. After we broke up he started seeing someone. On two occasions he asked me how I felt about him and I said I no longer have feelings, which was a lie. We both have moved on...
A. 17 February 2011: I can understand why you are upset, but try not to dwell on it. Next time you are out, say a simple, “hello” to this man and his wife. Your son spends a lot of time with his father and his stepmother, so the important thing is to remain on good ... (read in full...)
Karma, our meeting...and now 7 years together!!
Q. I was 40 and I had a string of failed relationships behind me. I guess I had given up. My best friend and I would talk about men and love and we'd share our lonely tales. One day I helped her create a profile on a dating website. She decided to w...
A. 17 February 2011: I love your story! It brought a big smile to my face. Thank you for sharing it with us. I wish all four of you the best! ... (read in full...)
Three-way relationship advice needed!
Q. 3way relationship advice. I'm in a relationship with a bi sexual girl right now, we've discussed the idea and both have agreed its something we would like. Not just 3 way sex but a real relationship. I have a big heart and a lot to give in ways of ...
A. 17 February 2011: My advice is to can this pipe dream immediately. It hasn’t even happened and you’ve already hit bumps in the road. You said, “I have a big heart and a lot to give in ways of emotion and sexual desire it would be a dream come true and I believe can ... (read in full...)
She is trying to ruin my professional-reputation!
Q. Here’s my problem I started seeing this guy at work about a year ago. Nothing serious, we were just hanging out since I just broke up with my ex 2yrs bf. This new girl came working with me, I trained her. We were getting along pretty goo...
A. 17 February 2011: This is terrible! I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. This woman is manipulative, calculating, and vengeful!
First, I may be wrong, but I would imagine you would have to receive a reprimand before being demoted. Did you rece... (read in full...)
How do I get her back? I know I was in the wrong, so what next?
Q. Okay, here goes. What do I do? I really need some solid, sound advice. I (first) met my girlfriend when I was 21 and she was 17. When I first saw her I fell for her immediately. She was beautiful. At the beginning I took her out. I courte...
A. 17 February 2011: You’ve received some good advice from others, but I have a question for you. You said, “This female contacted me telling me her boyfriend had slept with my girlfriend. Thing is they had quite a concrete story.” Later, you stated, “I then found out ... (read in full...)
She teases and flirts with me, and occasionally we touch each other. So, why did she call me her toy?
Q. This girl and I are friends. We tease, flirt and even physically touch each other. One day, we were flirting a bit and well she said "You are my toy". I know she likes to joke around a lot, but I don't get why she said that. I am not sure how I f...
A. 16 February 2011: Honestly, I don’t think she meant it as an insult, so don’t over analyze this comment. She likes flirting and having fun with you! She feels comfortable around you and enjoys your company. Unless she acts this way with other guys, flirting, ... (read in full...)
My ex and I dated and had a child together in high school. We've both moved on and married others, so why did he ignore me in public?
Q. My ex and I dated and had a baby in high school, we were together 2 years. After we broke up he started seeing someone. On two occasions he asked me how I felt about him and I said I no longer have feelings, which was a lie. We both have moved on...
A. 16 February 2011: From what you’ve told us, the two of you have moved on with your lives. If his mother is the go-between, it appears that you two ended your relationship on a bad note. Perhaps he feels bad about the way he treated you, and he thinks you hold a ... (read in full...)
29 days of no contact and I miss him so much!
Q. I am 28 year old female and have been dating my 35 year old boyfriend for 10 months. Our relationship was rosey the first 4 months. I met all his family and he met mine, i know all his friends and he knows mine, he even said that I was the one that ...
A. 16 February 2011: You have been through quite an ordeal. You chose not to bring a baby into this world without a marital commitment from this man, and that is completely understandable. Being a single mother is no easy feat.
It does sound like he is trying t... (read in full...)
Help needed with his psycho ex-girlfriend!
Q. Ok so i have been dating this guy for only a few weeks. Everything has been lovely, but since this weekend his ex gf has been causing problems and sending him messages about her and other guys. Since this he has been really down. I don't know what ...
A. 16 February 2011: I would need more information to really give you good advice. How long did they date, how long ago did they break up, and who initiated the break up?
If she is sending him messages about her new romances, I would guess that she is trying t... (read in full...)
Should I try to relight the flame with my exwife?
Q. Ive been divorced from my wife for 20 yrs. Two years ago she asked me to teach her to ride a motorcycle,work on her car ect... I pretty sure she was looking to see if we could re light that flame but I blew it off like no big deal. Now 2 yrs later ...
A. 15 February 2011: Are both of you single? If so, what do you have to lose? You're older and wiser now, so maybe things will work out this time. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Best friend is pregnant and no longer wants me as a friend...and I really don't know where Iv gone wrong
Q. I am single and not really dating, my BF is happily married but I thought we were best friends. We have been friends for over 3 years. When I moved to town and met her at church she instigated the friendship and I felt overwhelmed by h...
A. 15 February 2011: I’m so sorry your friend is acting like this. I’m sure you are hurting right now. Are you absolutely certain you didn’t say something offensive to her? I’m sure if you had, you would know.
You said a few things that made me think. First, y... (read in full...)
I have so much hair down there, that prick-free sex with my guy is near impossible!!
Q. I've been seeing a lot of questions about shaving/waxing down there lately and I figured I'd chime in with my own. My dad blessed me with thick body hair (note the sarcasm). When I shave, it usually starts getting prickly the same day. Then t...
A. 15 February 2011: Have you looked into laser hair removal? It's expensive, but it is well worth every penny! I have dark hair and I live in Florida, so I had my legs done. Also, I had the hair around my bikini line removed... just the hair that would show if I was ... (read in full...)
If I insist that my daughter complete her Scholarship studies against her will, will this damage her and her mental health long term, or will it teach her to become stronger and more resilient for her future years?
Q. Hi readers. My daughter won a Scolarship at the Catholic Agricultural School in Bindoon. She has been there for 2 weeks and wants to come home already. She says that she is trying to stick it out but she wants to know that if she wants to that sh...
A. 15 February 2011: Your daughter has only been at school for two weeks, so it is way too early for you to even think about letting her come home. She is likely feeling homesick, and this is to be expected. When I first went away to a University a couple hours from ... (read in full...)
Broke up with partner who was using escorts, and I feel more relieved than sad. Is this normal?
Q. I am a 42-year-old woman who just found out that her partner of 2 years has been visiting prostitutes. I ended the relationship yesterday afternoon when I found solid proof that he had been lying to me about his internet porn use, but got the final ...
A. 15 February 2011: I think you may be right about his sex addiction. How often was he seeing escorts? And is he still seeing them? From what I’ve heard, sex addiction is very difficult to overcome. I do think he needs help, and it is very thoughtful of you to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend talks to other girls and I feel jealous
Q. I'm probably being childish. I'm sure I am so I would like some advice from you guys... My boyfriend is a great guy, and I am in love with him. We used to be best friends, and confide on each other even the most intimate stuff. Now that we are ...
A. 15 February 2011: I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. This is a girl that he admitted he had a crush on in the past, so it's quite possible he still does.
It's one thing to have friends of the other sex, but this is different because at some poi... (read in full...)
What can I do to prevent razor burn?
Q. Girls only please! My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time next month. I'm a little nervous, but excited. The only thing knocking my confidence is my shaving. I used shaving foam and new razors, and moisturizer afte...
A. 14 February 2011: I've read that it helps to clean the area with an antibacterial soap first. Then use shaving cream for sensitive skin. Hope this helps!... (read in full...)
How can you compare an old person dying to the death of a child???
Q. Our child died, not long time ago. The grief is unbelievable. But we are trying to deal with it. What is really a big question to me, how come the extended family doesn't seem to understand our pain. And, my really big problem is, that they com...
A. 13 February 2011: I am so sorry to hear about your son. The death of a child is probably one of the most heartwrenching events that one can ever experience, especially when that child dies before reaching adulthood. My brother died of cancer a few days before his ... (read in full...)
My over protective childhood makes me feel like a teen, not 23. what do I need to do to grow up and face the world as it is?
Q. I've grown up being sheltered from the big bad world, and it's biting me back right now. My parents were always about the whole true love deal and only getting into a relationship when you thought it could be long term/forever. They always want...
A. 13 February 2011: Your parents have your best interest at heart, so try not to blame them for this. There are plenty of terrible parents out there, so be thankful that yours actually care about your well-being.
First, there’s nothing wrong with being picky. ... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 13 February 2011: I have to admit, I'm glad you do not plan to participate. The only reason I suggested bringing condoms is because you never know what will happen in the heat of the moment. Again, this is not something I would do, but I'm definitely curious to ... (read in full...)
My piercing is ruining my sex life. Does anyone else have tips on how to fix these problems?
Q. Hey, back in November i got a VCH piercing. I spent years researching it and was 110% sure i wanted one. Fast forward to now and it is still tender and ruining my sex life. Especially when i have to ask my boyfriend to stop doing what he's doin...
A. 13 February 2011: You need to go to your doctor to get this removed. They have a manual device used to cut through metal. When I broke my arm, my hand swelled up, so the orthopaedic surgeon had to use one of these devices to cut off my rings. One of my rings was ... (read in full...)
Did he have an affair and can we ever get past it?
Q. Did my husband have an affair? I have been married for 17 years this year.Our sex life for the last 10 years had been almost non existant. It all came to a head about 2 years ago. My husband was being flirty with a work colleague and going out wi...
A. 13 February 2011: It is time for you to get in touch with a good divorce lawyer. You have put up with way too much from this man!
The reason your husband doesn’t feel any remorse is because he wasn’t the one who decided to break off the affair. If his girlfrie... (read in full...)
Wife making my fantasy come true - how best to support/encourage her?
Q. Ok, we're both in our late 30s here and have been married for several years, together for much longer than that. As a Valentine's present to me, she's agreed to let me indulge a long cherished fantasy; two watch two women together. She's ...
A. 13 February 2011: Wow! I don't think I could ever do something like this, but I am curious to hear how it goes. I wouldn't recommend doing this in your home, so you may want to meet these women at hotel. And bring some protection, just in case! Please keep us ... (read in full...)
The last couple of years of my marriage have left me feeling rather depressed, and I wonder if I should take a walk on the wild side with the new guy
Q. I am 30 years old, and have been married to my husband for four years, but with him since I was 19 years old. We do not have any children. We are great friends. The problem has been our sex life. He has forced me to do things that I have not wanted ...
A. 13 February 2011: Have you and your husband tried marriage counseling? Before you run off with this younger man, I would give your marriage one more try with the help of a counselor. Please let us know what you decide to do. Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Can I stay friends only with my married lover?
Q. Hi.. I have been having an affair with a married man (co worker) for 2 years. I am married aswell. We are both in unhappy marriages and here for our children only. We have had many ups and downs in the 2 years. On Wednesday we went away for ...
A. 12 February 2011: In any relationship, breaking up is never an easy thing. From what you wrote, I get the impression it was his idea to end the affair. Am I correct? That would mean you are the one still clinging to the hope that he will change his mind and come ... (read in full...)
How can I better manage social situations? Can anybody relate to my lack of social skills?
Q. I've recently turned 33 and over recent years have experienced an increase in people enquiring about my love life status. This in turn forces me to assess my personal circumstances, specifically my lack of social skills. I have always struggled with ...
A. 12 February 2011: I agree with the others… you write very well! Unless you received help writing this question, you should be very proud of your knowledge of grammar and vocabulary.
You wrote, “Mentally I am very slow, which makes following conversations in real ... (read in full...)
Stretch marks at 13! Will they ever go away?
Q. Hey so I have VERY sensitive skin I mean in 6th grade I coughed so much I got bruises on my face! So I'm 13 and I have stretch marks! I'm not obsesse not even fat really i think I just grew to fast and with sensitive skin it reacted =\ is there any ...
A. 12 February 2011: I've read that Bio Oil is one of the best things you can use on stretch marks. It's not cheap, but you can find it at a pharmacy/drug store, and maybe even the grocery store. Good luck!
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Was this more than a friendship hug?
Q. I met my co-worker by coincidence. He tapped me on the shoulder. He put his hand out to shake his hand. Then, we looked eye and eye and reached his arm over for a half hug with a gentle squueze. I patted him on the back. Since then, I can't get over ...
A. 11 February 2011: It doesn't sound like anything more than a friendly gesture. Especially since he did it in front of his wife and children. I am confused by one thing you wrote. What did you mean when you said, "He told people at work he saw me"? ... (read in full...)
Flirting with a friend of my ex, but the friend doesn't know his friend is my ex, or that it's his child I'm pregnant with!
Q. I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant, my partner walked out on us both leaving me to move back to my parents and give my job up. He doesnt want anything to do with his baby or me which is fine. The problem is I'm currently speaking to a friend of his who ...
A. 11 February 2011: Definitely tell your new love interest that his friend is the father of your baby. It doesn't sound like they are close friends anyway. Besides, he will find out eventually, and if he's really a good guy, he won't have a problem with it. Let us ... (read in full...)
I need long distance relationship advice ASAP!
Q. Hi... So I was living in a different part of the state for work when i met this amazing girl in October 2010. We went on 3 dates and became boyfriend/girlfriend. We both did this knowing that I had to temporarly move 450 miles away for 6 months, ...
A. 11 February 2011: Things seem to be looking up for you! That's great! I have to admit, I don't understand her parent's reasoning. Anybody who would encourage their daughter to date a man who has cheated, and emotionally and physically abused her, needs to have ... (read in full...)
Does love honestly overcome anything?
Q. OK. Does love honestly overcome everything? I have been seeing someone for around a year and a half. I have my daughter (8)and she has a daughter (7) and a son(5). We have both been single for 3-4 years so are both use to doing things our own ...
A. 11 February 2011: There are definitely some red flags here and you are wise to question your compatibility with this woman. I realize you love her very much, and I have no doubt she has wonderful qualities of her own, but I wouldn’t advise to jump into marriage with ... (read in full...)
I found out my partner has HIV. What can I do? Please help!
Q. I’m a single mum of 2. I met this partner online and he sounded like a good guy on the phone. 2 months into emails and phone calls we decided to meet. By the way, it’s a long distance relationship. He separated from his wife 2 years ago and they ...
A. 11 February 2011: Of course this man knew he was HIV positive! Why else would he have that pill in his pocket? In some places, it's a crime to have sex with someone without revealing they are HIV positive.
If I were you, I would be furious with this man. He play... (read in full...)
I'm 20, and my Muslim parents are too overprotective. What should I do?
Q. Ok, to make a long story short, I come from a Muslim family and my parents are way too overprotective. I’m 20 years old and I’m not allowed to go out with my friends or anything, I can’t even go to the corner shop on my own. Everyday I go to ...
A. 11 February 2011: Whatever you do, do not run away! That will only create more problems. So get that idea out of your head.
First, you said you are feeling depressed. Have you gone to see a doctor at school? Most schools provide mental health services to their... (read in full...)
I'm widowed and slept with a married man. For once in my life I want to be selfish and just do what I want!
Q. I have been widowed for a year and have 2 children. This doesn't leave me a lot of time to date or even meet someone. I do miss having sex but I am not ready for a relationship and may never be, given the circumstances of my previous marriage and ...
A. 10 February 2011: I’ll be honest with you… I read a lot of posts on here, and this is one of the most disturbing. Don’t get me wrong, people write questions everyday pertaining to infidelity, so it’s hardly a new subject. The problem I have is with your attitude ... (read in full...)
Do married couples over 65 still have sex?
Q. I would like to know, can a 65 yrs old woman can still be active in sex? Do you think a married couple at this age make love still? To men who's wife are from ages 60-65, is sex enjoyable with her or you prefer to look for younger women to satisfy...
A. 10 February 2011: Why on earth would you waste your time with a married man? He has already told you that he loves his wife. This means he has no intention of ever leaving her. He is not in love with you. He just wants to use you for sex.
Have you ever con... (read in full...)
I need long distance relationship advice ASAP!
Q. Hi... So I was living in a different part of the state for work when i met this amazing girl in October 2010. We went on 3 dates and became boyfriend/girlfriend. We both did this knowing that I had to temporarly move 450 miles away for 6 months, ...
A. 10 February 2011: This is a difficult situation, and it’s hard to say exactly what is going on in your girlfriend’s mind. Before I answer your questions, I would like to point out a few things.
You stated, “The relationship was never easy.” Is this purely d... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to tell me the truth?
Q. How can I get him to tell me the truth?I think my husband is seeing/sleeping with someone he used to work with. I suspected this when he still worked with her and he stated they were just friends. I suspected more but he never admitted to it. Now I ...
A. 10 February 2011: Oh no! This doesn't sound good. There are several things you can do to confirm your suspicions. First, I would call up the hockey rink, and ask them what time they close during the week. Have you thought about surprising him on hockey night? ... (read in full...)
Do married couples over 65 still have sex?
Q. I would like to know, can a 65 yrs old woman can still be active in sex? Do you think a married couple at this age make love still? To men who's wife are from ages 60-65, is sex enjoyable with her or you prefer to look for younger women to satisfy...
A. 10 February 2011: If you don't mind me asking, why are you so interested in this? Are you thinking about having an affair with an older married man? ... (read in full...)
My husband's mistress faked a pregnancy!
Q. My husband's mistress faked a pregnancy and he asked her to terminate the pregnancy. They had many ugly fights following that. Then he finally told me yesterday that she said she isn't pregnant and just wanted to see if he cares about her. Since ...
A. 9 February 2011: You said, “He says he will never leave me and loves me but I am suspecting that he is now feeling bad because of all the ugly things he told her when he told she was pregnant.”
Feeling bad? For her? Are you kidding me? You’re the one who was ... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay or bi? What should I do???
Q. My husband (of 27 years) was sexually abused when he was 8, by a man. Over a year ago I caught him looking at gay porn. He said he does not enjoy it does not masturbate to it, that it is just some sick obsession he has, almost like a self ...
A. 9 February 2011: I completely understand why you would be concerned. Not only could he decide to up and leave you some day, but he could expose you to STD's if he decided to experiment with men behind your back. Would he be willing to see a marriage counselor with ... (read in full...)
My husband's mistress faked a pregnancy!
Q. My husband's mistress faked a pregnancy and he asked her to terminate the pregnancy. They had many ugly fights following that. Then he finally told me yesterday that she said she isn't pregnant and just wanted to see if he cares about her. Since ...
A. 9 February 2011: Oh my! This woman sounds immature and manipulative! You asked, “Does he love that woman?” If you haven’t already, you need to ask him this. How long has the affair been going on? And, why is he still in contact with her? He needs to block her ... (read in full...)
Broke up with partner who was using escorts, and I feel more relieved than sad. Is this normal?
Q. I am a 42-year-old woman who just found out that her partner of 2 years has been visiting prostitutes. I ended the relationship yesterday afternoon when I found solid proof that he had been lying to me about his internet porn use, but got the final ...
A. 7 February 2011: This guy has some serious issues. It's hard to believe someone would continue to lie, even when confronted with solid proof! I love how he completely deflected the blame when he told you, "he would "forgive" me for violating his trust by looking ... (read in full...)
He fathered a child to another woman
Q. I have been in a wonderful new relationship for 3 months with someone i have known for many years and we were best friends, we didnt get it together before because of past relationships we were in. We just found out a girl he had a one nighter wi...
A. 19 January 2011: I am so sorry to hear about your situation. If there wasn’t a baby involved… I’d encourage you to stay… but this child will inevitably form a bond between your boyfriend and the woman he had a one night stand with. Your boyfriend is doing the ... (read in full...)
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