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What makes girls act like this?

Q.   Hey guys. Thanks for ur answers because im in desperate need for advice. I had been talking to this girl for about a month and everything's was fine. We talked daily and went to see a movie a.couple weeks after seeing eachother, her friends ...

A.   22 August 2012: It happened to me too some months ago, same story. What I did to get over her was to ignore her! After we haven't talk for a month I saw her one day accidently and she looked so happy to see me. I knew though that it was a fake interest so i ... (read in full...)

Unsure of my colleague's intentions

Q.   I am in a weird situation. My co-worker gives me all kinds of indicators of interest and for the longest time I didn't want to return any, because I nearly got fired from my last job because my supervisor wanted me. My current co-worker, started ...

A.   13 August 2012: This scenario happened to me quite a few times and I was also puzzled for this illogical female behaviour which doesn’t make any sense. Over time I realized that these women never had a genuine interest; they were manipulative teasers who like to ... (read in full...)

I want to lose my virginity before I turn 22 in a month's time, but I do not want my first time to be horrible.

Q.   Growing up I was taught to respect women, and to never use them. As I finally turned twenty one last year I realized something very sad, that I'm the last of a kind. The 21st century dating world is very different from what I was taught to live in. ...

A.   11 July 2012: Why do you put so much pressure to your self and you must have sex before 22? What's the rush?... (read in full...)

Did my bf take something to improve his sexual performance?

Q.   Did my bf take something to improve his sexual performance? I recently had sex with my new bf. I really found this strange or maybe it's normal. After he had intercourse, i was a bit surprised to notice that he remained errected though he has ...

A.   10 July 2012: No way!! Be sure for that. He took some pills definitely 100%!! Even porn stars can't do that.... (read in full...)

I feel like she just wants a boy to chase her!

Q.   I'm utterly heartbroken here. I met this girl who I wasn't that attracted to at first and we became really good friends very quickly. She showed a lot of interest in me and she eventually started hanging out with me at the movies and my house. This ...

A.   28 June 2012: The term attention "whore" that Honeypie uses couldn't be more appropriate for such characters. Indeed, women can be very manipulative you have to be very careful. As you get older you will see this happening to you and other men quite often, in ... (read in full...)

Why all of a sudden has she started saying that she can hang out but when I ask her when she's free she doesn't reply?

Q.   alright, long question here: ok so about a year or so ago i had told this girl whom i had been really good friends with for about 2 years that i liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she told me that she liked someone ...

A.   23 June 2012: I agree with person12345. If you want to meet with someone, even if you can't you will make efforts to meet as soon as possible. Not making the effort=not interested!! Have no doubt about that!... (read in full...)

Why won't she give me her number?

Q.   I tried to get this girls number off of, here's how the conversation went: Me: You have really pretty hair :) Her: Aha,thank youuu Me: You're welcome :) Her: :) Me: Can I have your number? Her: No Me: Ok. Why w...

A.   17 June 2012: My are too young to understand how manipulative a lot of girls can be, but i am sure over the next years you will be able to spot instantly those evil characters and avoid them. First of all, she posted that message to "test the ... (read in full...)

Keep my safe, secure job, or move abroad with hubby?

Q.   Hey! Been married a few months, been with my hubbie forever. He's just found out he's gonna have to move abroad for 5 years for work (his firm asked him that and he cannot refuse). He's got a great job and it's gonna be nearly impossible for him to ...

A.   6 June 2012: Definately go with him!! You two sound like you have a great relationship since you speak with such enthousiasm about your husband. 5 years is a loooong time appart...tsts....not good for a healthy relationship. Look at the bright side: He will be ... (read in full...)

Broke up a year ago but I'm missing her and want her back

Q.   Me and my girlfriend of about 1 year broke up a year ago. We both moved on and started seeing other people but I'm finding myself missing her again, I'm thinking about her all the time and I'm starting to want her back... I've no idea how she feel...

A.   31 March 2012: Move on my friend. From my experience, once they leave they rarely come back, don't waste any more of your time. It's over....sorry. Be a man and deal with it. Best wishes.... (read in full...)

I am lonely and need words of kindness.... Advice for making friends and dating??

Q.   Hi Aunts, I'm just feeling a bit low and need some words of kindness. Where do you suggest I go? I don't feel like going to a place of worship and I have no friends who would ever help me. They'd only get me to help them. I'm nearing 30 and h...

A.   11 January 2012: Hello friend! Sometimes I feel, like you, that I am an alien in this world. I also find myself often wondering why I don't find fun and amusing what other, "normal" people do. I just don't see their point of few towards life. But that doesn’t mean ... (read in full...)

My mom will not help. How old do I need to be to get birth control without a parents permission and without prescription?

Q.   I was just curious about how old i have to be to get birth control without a parents permission or without prescription. I'm 14 now, and i know i shouldn't be on it now, but it's not what you think. I have horrible cramps to the point that i stay ...

A.   6 January 2012: How old? The answer I would give to my daughter if she had asked me this question would have been: "Old enough so if the birth control fails to work, you will be in a possition to raise the child that you will bring to this world properly and be a ... (read in full...)

How can I get her back? I was wrong and called her nasty names. She left. Now I want to know how to repair the trust?

Q.   I broke up with my girl and I feel terrible. I told her not to lie to me and she lied to me 3 months ago and I kicked her out of my house. After 4 days apart, we made up and the relationship was going beautifully again. She assured me she would neve...

A.   6 January 2012: Don't fall into her trap! Women like to play these silly games when they know they have the power over you. You are saying "I am lost without her..." and be 100% sure that she knows it, she sences it and she takes advantage of it! She has the power ... (read in full...)

Should I contact this girl again? Or is she just being nice?

Q.   Hello, This is kind of a pathetic story, but I would appreciate any help. When I was in college senior year I spotted this beautiful girl that would routinely eat in the cafeteria around the time I was there. I sadly could never time exa...

A.   5 January 2012: She is just being nice. I am 35, I've dated many women and trust me on this: when a woman is not interested just leave! If a girl has even the slightest interest in you then you feel it. If you are in doubt then most probably you are right, she is ... (read in full...)

Confused, but wanting to love.

Q.   I met this girl at a party and I kissed her in my drunkeness, among a few other girls. I found her interesting and got her facebook details I added her and we started to chat. After weeks of chatting online noticing we get along really well and ...

A.   5 January 2012: I have been in a similar situation recently and, just like the anonymous male who asked this question, at first i couldn't really see what was going on, I couldn't explain her behavior. After a while though, I realized exactly what all of you have ... (read in full...)

How can I get over these feelings of frustration without cutting her out as a friend?

Q.   alright, long question here: ok so about a year or so ago i had told this girl whom i had been really good friends with for about 2 years that i liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she told me that she liked someone ...

A.   4 January 2012: The answer is you can't! Sorry, there's no other option than to let it go and cut her out of your life for your own sake. You are only around 20. As you get older you will realize that there are no magical solutions in problems regarding the ... (read in full...)

Coping out with the pain...

Q.   I had a break up with my ex last three months but i just cant move on that easily. Every night when i go to bed i can't help thinking of him and by this i get too much pain. He kept on sending emails but i'd rather refused to reply because i find it ...

A.   4 January 2012: I don't understand the case, can you be more specific? It seems you are not happy with the break up, you keep thinking of him and he keeps writing to you which means he is thinking of you too...then why not be together??... (read in full...)

Our friendship is slowly going downhill.

Q.   This girl and I have worked together for a little over a year. I never really talked to her much until around July. We seemed to hit it off and we would hang out every lunch and break. I found out she had a boyfriend and I was fine with that. We ...

A.   2 January 2012: I totally agree with all comments "dearkelja" wrote. Very well written and clear answer! Definitely stay away.... (read in full...)

Getting over someone when you don't want to?

Q.   How the hell do i get over someone that i really don't want to get over? It's been 2 months and i'm still sitting here at 2 in the morning unable to sleep. ...

A.   2 January 2012: My poor friend...that's how life is, unfortunately. Some girls that we like will not reciprocate. We have two options: 1) Being miserable thinking of them and daydream and hope that they will change their minds (99% will not change their minds) or ... (read in full...)

Should I carry on having fun, or should I settle down with a nice man?

Q.   I'm 28 and have recently been getting out and about hitting the clubs a lot. I've also met a few guys from internet dating sites. This is the first real time in my life that I've been going out a lot, and meeting new men regularly. I'm really ...

A.   21 November 2011: Think twice of what you will decide, only you can know the right answer to your puzzle. Two different roads and you can't travel both! You are not ready to settle down but what if, when you are, you can't find someone decent. What do you think is ... (read in full...)

Friendly flirting or more to it?

Q.   Hi. I have a question about a girl I like. We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and...

A.   27 October 2011: I have had this exact same behaviour done to me!! She gave me the false impression that she could be interested in me: hugging in the elevator at work, meeting just the two of us outside workplace, enrol in an art class with me etc. When I made a ... (read in full...)

She started off friendly but now she's reserved. I wanted to ask her out, what should I do?

Q.   Hey, i started uni a few weeks ago and in my first week, met a really cute girl. We got talking and exchanged numbers and chatted with each other a few times a week in person and via text. I was thinking on asking her out – go for a walk and get a ...

A.   27 October 2011: Most probably she is not interested dude. As you get older you will see this happening often: You have great chats with a girl, she gives you the impression that she is interested and then when you show a little attention she pulls back. They ofter ... (read in full...)

Everytime I'm with him, he gets a hard on!

Q.   Hello! I am just beginning to date a new man (5 dates, its still early days and not yet 'official' in terms of being classed as bf/gf). He is a total sweetie, and a real gentleman, I really couldnt wish for a nicer man. I really do like him,...

A.   23 October 2011: That’s definitely a sign that he finds you attractive and also that probably he hasn’t had sex for a while. After all you are saying that he is a sweetie and a gentlemen, he doesn’t sound like a sex maniac or something. How did you feel about this? ... (read in full...)

Any idea on what this guy may be thinking??

Q.   Ok, so me and this guy have been talking for about two months now. We talk on the phone every night, text throughout the day and go out on dates (lunch, dinner, movies ect.) In the beginning he led on to the fact that he was looking for a actual ...

A.   23 October 2011: Probably something is going on with another girl. Maybe he likes someone else and she gives him mixed signals to him and he is confused so this would explain his attitude change. Try to play a little hard to get, be a little challenge to him. Be ... (read in full...)

I can't get my ex out of my mind. Do I try to become good friends with him? Or do I try and forget him?

Q.   Hi. About a month ago my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me. I know it sounds silly, because we weren't together very long, but I REALLY miss him. My family loved him as he was so level-headed and we've had many amazing memories. He treated me ...

A.   20 October 2011: Definitely try to forget him. Men frequently appreciate a woman when they loose her. Best wishes!... (read in full...)

She rejected me because she doesn't want to risk our friendship!

Q.   Hey there, after a long friendship I finally built up the courage to ask a this girl out. We've always had a very flirtatious and hands on relationship so I thought it was the natural step. Apparently not. I asked, I got a on. She didn't want to ...

A.   20 October 2011: Sorry dude, I agree with all the rest. She is not interested, it's clear 100%. Just make sure you don't offer too much and be mr. nice guy expecting that you will make her change her mind because you will not. Watch out so you won't get hurt even ... (read in full...)

Guy hitting on heavily in public in quiet in private!

Q.   Hi everyone, Could you please help me decipher this guy's behaviour? We're colleagues working in a very big organisation and do not have any common work projects. He's recently divorced (probably for about 6-7 months) - his wife left him for ano...

A.   20 October 2011: I think he is interested in getting to know you better but he is giving these mixed signals because you didn't give him any indication that you are interested in him. He basically wants to avoid the embarrasement in case you are not interested ... (read in full...)

Does she have hidden feelings for me? How can I get over her if she keeps appearing out of the blue?

Q.   Hi, I broke up with a girl three months ago who I believed was the one and for some reason still do. We are still friends but it is hard to fight my previous feelings. The trouble is about a month ago I began to try and move on by not texting her ...

A.   19 October 2011: Hmm..that's a very weird behavior. She comes on to you like this and then she says she wants to be friends?? I think she doesn't have hidden feelings for you, she is just teasing you for her entertainment. Probably when she left she had a nice laugh ... (read in full...)

Help me get over these 3 "speed bumps" so I can ask her out!

Q.   alright, kind of a long question here. There is this girl in my class at university who is really really cute and i want to get to know her/ask her out, but a few things, first, i am really really shy and usually have problems starting conversations ...

A.   11 October 2011: "There is this girl in my class at university who is really really cute and i want to get to know her...": I've heart this line so many times my friend. You are still young to understand some things and i am sorry to say but these stories are mostly ... (read in full...)

My wife is the breadwinner now and wants me to be a house-husband, should I do it?

Q.   Hi I m from Detroit city age 35. I lost my job couple of years back because of the recession ; haven't been able to find another one. However, my wife,33, has a great job with big fat pay package. Surprisingly, she got a promotion during the rece...

A.   11 October 2011: Hmm...that's really a tough one! On one hand she is right, since you are jobless that's a nice way to contribute your share to the family. On the other hard you are in danger your woman to loose respect in you and start acting like she is "the man ... (read in full...)

Embarrassed of getting erection while hugging my date. Opinions needed!

Q.   Something very embarrassing happened to me and I would like female readers' opinions: There's this girl at work with whom we've been flirting for a few months now. Finally she initiated to go for a friendly coffee where we had a really nice and...

A.   9 October 2011: Thank you all for the slap on the face! I needed that. Often, in this game of love, we choose to ignore the obvious and hang our hopes on that 5% chance there is that, we might have not understood right and things might not acutally be as they ... (read in full...)

Should I play hard to get too? I want more from her. But she's always 'too busy'

Q.   Time is my worst enemy. I have a friend who I think I am really in love with. The problem is, there is no time! Anytime I ask her to hang out, or even chat, she tells me that she doesn't have time. She is contantly busy with homework, etc... ...

A.   8 October 2011: My dear friend...there's not such problem as no time!! The truth is, she's not really into you... Suppose the woman of your dreams makes a move on you and asks you out. Would you say (a) sorry babe, i'm crazy about you but i don't have time for this ... (read in full...)

If a girl is slow to reply to your messages, does this mean she isn't interested?

Q.   If a girl is slow to reply to your messages, does this mean she isn't interested? I went out with a girl this week and we seemed to have a really nice night together. It started timidly, but then we relaxed and enjoyed our evening. It even ended ...

A.   7 October 2011: From my experience, I believe that your instict is right! A girl who is interested, makes sure you know and makes sure she gives you a green light. A slow response means she has other more important things to do or she is trying to give you the ... (read in full...)

Why did my last guy refuse to give me another chance? I know I cheated. What should I do?

Q.   Since as long as I can think back I have cheated on every guy I dated. I had been with my soul mate now for 9 years. For 2 years I did resist cheating except for the first 6 months. We was about to set a date to marry when he found out I was sex ...

A.   6 October 2011: It seems that you find difficult to comprehend that some men, not a lot but a few, have morals, ethics and stick to their values and beliefs no matter what. You were lucky enough to have one but you didn’t appreciate him. What you did was totally ... (read in full...)

What do 18 year old girls mean when they call boys 'hun', 'babe' etc?

Q.   I bet everyone is going to call my question dumb, but I reckon a lot of lads wonder the same. I often struggle to know whether girls see me as a friend, 'brother' or sexual attractive. What do 18 year old girls mean when they call boys 'hun', 'babe' ...

A.   2 October 2011: It doesn't mean anything! Certainly don't take it as a hint that it means "I like you" or "I want to have sex with you". A piece of advice here because I see you are very young and inexperienced: Don't puzzle your mind too much to understand women. ... (read in full...)

Do girls like sweetheart guys?

Q.   Do girls like sweetheart guys? I'm still single and I feel like I can't harm anyone, I would drive my girlfriend home from school or work etc. I would pay for meals, when shes cold I would warm her with a nice hug and might even offer her my jacket. ...

A.   2 October 2011: My friend, you are still young and you have a lot to learn about life and women. Let's start with a small briefing: You say “I've been waiting over one or two years”. Girls can smell this from miles away and they think “What kind of a guy sits aro... (read in full...)

Wife cant take her eyes of other men

Q.   I have questions about my wife looking at other men. As an example, we went to a family event and my wife could not take her eyes of one of the other fathers. The guy was tall and more muscular than average. I know people look, but this was ...

A.   15 September 2011: I don't know if that's normal but it surely is disrespectful!! “I tried to talk with her and she ignored me because she was so into looking at him.” – How did you allow her to behave like this??? How did you accept such disrespectful attitude... (read in full...)

Why do guys flirt one day and act distant the next?

Q.   So this is just a random question that I just wish I knew the answer to. Yes we all know how the male specie is so confusing and how they frustrate us women. So anyway, I just wanted to know what you aunts and uncles think about why guys act ...

A.   15 September 2011: For the same reason girls do it. To play and to boost their confidence and ego and cover their insecurities a little. "Leading on" is the right expression and I believe it's mostly performed by females rather than males.... (read in full...)

My bad attitude is pushing him away! How do I change this?

Q.   I really upset my boyfriend, i always keep him awake at night, because i find it hard to sleep, so i keep nudging him to wake up and it really pisses him off, i also have this childish attitude when im upset, and i talk a lot, and ask him a lot of ...

A.   9 September 2011: I don't understand! You realize all the things you do wrong, you act selfisly and in an annoying way towards your boyfriend and you wonder what to do? Change! Become a better person! Learn not to be selfish! You cannot wake up your boyfrien... (read in full...)

Why can't I just like him?

Q.   Why Can't I just like him? I knew this guy for four years. He 's pretty catchy--good looking (enough), REALLY intelligent, understands my cultural/religious values and embraces them and I embrace his views, shares other similar values (non-judg...

A.   8 September 2011: He sounds like the man of your dreams but you don't like him! You mention so many things that you like about him but none of what you don't like. Do you find him attractive enough to sleep with him? That's the most important. If he keeps distant ... (read in full...)

What's the point of asking me out if he's just going to cancel?

Q.   Why would a guy cancel a date that HE asked me out on and then say they'll reschedule but never do? whats the point of asking me out in the first place? whats the point of calling me up and sweet talking me?? i dont get why he even bothered to, or ...

A.   8 September 2011: Usually it's girls who have this sort of inappropriate, unexplainable attitudes but I guess some men too. I think the same rule applies though. Not really interested! Sorry. A man/ woman who is really interested and anxious to get to know someone ... (read in full...)

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