I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 25 November 2010: You have stated that you will not proceed with this relationship if you do not have her parent's blessings. There is a good chance her parents will not approve of their daughter dating a man who is 17 years older. Fortunately, her parents are 12 ... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 24 November 2010: It’s possible that this could work out… my great grandparents had a 19 year age difference, and my grandparents were 14 years apart… and both had wonderful marriages. However, you can’t ignore the fact that she is only 18… and as mature as she may ... (read in full...)
Stepfather vs. Daughter with mother caught in the middle!
Q. My husband continues to nag at my 15 year old daughter. She is a slop and can be moody, but she is 15. When my daugther is not around, my husband and I get a long awesome...we never argue unless it is about her. She is a good kid (honor roll for ...
A. 24 November 2010: Have you thought about trying a different counselor? I would do that ASAP. ... (read in full...)
He just doesn't get it!
Q. Hi there , i'm the ex partner of the guy who posted 'i think i'm wrecking everyones lives ' on november the 18 . He says he has now finished with his girlfriend of the last 7 months who i caught him cheating with when i was 8 months pregnant...
A. 24 November 2010: This is supposed to be a time of joy and celebration in your life. Instead, you have been abandoned by the father of your baby, you’ve lost your job, and now you are stuck living with your brother. Meanwhile, the father of your newborn son is out ... (read in full...)
Was what I did as bad as what she did?
Q. Ok, So I am struggling with my emotions on this issue. So me and my girlfriend are both Christians and we have been dating in an exclusive committed relationship for 3 years. About about a 1 year ago or so I went to an Asian massage parlor and g...
A. 23 November 2010: Your actions were just as bad as hers. If you want to get nit picky about assigning blame… you cheated on her twice and didn’t feel an ounce of guilt… she cheated on you once, and her experience was likely more meaningful, but at least she felt ... (read in full...)
Stepfather vs. Daughter with mother caught in the middle!
Q. My husband continues to nag at my 15 year old daughter. She is a slop and can be moody, but she is 15. When my daugther is not around, my husband and I get a long awesome...we never argue unless it is about her. She is a good kid (honor roll for ...
A. 23 November 2010: From what I gather, something about your daughter bothers your husband. The things that you have described… eating in her room, taking long showers, leaving lights on… are typical of any teenager. Since he has older children, this shouldn’t be ... (read in full...)
Can our relationship be successfull even though he lies and cheats?
Q. Do you think its possible for a relationship to be successful when in the first 4 months of the relationship the man has consistently lied and cheated through it? ...
A. 23 November 2010: You have only been in a relationship for 4 months and he is already lying and cheating??? Not a good sign. Unless he experiences a life altering revelation, or has a brain transplant... he will never change. This man does not respect you and I ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my GF who has love addiction and now feel sick
Q. Thank you for the wonderful advice from wonderful people like FloridaCatGirl and others for a question I posed a few days ago. I will paste the link to the question at the bottom if you care to read it. I kind of knew what had to be done, I just ...
A. 23 November 2010: First of all, I am flattered that you found my advice so helpful! Thank you!
More importantly, I want you to know that I commend you for having the strength to end your relationship. Breaking up is never an easy task, especially when you stil... (read in full...)
I'm married but have feelings for another guy
Q. I don't know what to do about this. The more I try to gain control over myself the more I am slipping away. I met Mr.A over a year ago during a time of chronic stress. At that time, I had found him very irritating and annoying. Though, I tried ...
A. 23 November 2010: Before you go any further with this friend, you need to figure out what you want to do about your marriage. If you are unwilling to fix the problems in your marriage, then you need to file for divorce. Once that has happened… you can freely ... (read in full...)
Should I try to be friends with my ex again?
Q. Here's some background on the situation. I'm 18. All last summer, I carried on an Internet relationship with a 40-something-year-old man. At that point, I was 17, so obviously we could not do more than talk online. We met in person years earlier, so ...
A. 23 November 2010: I agree with everything Cerberus has written. It would be wise for you to reread his response very carefully, and take his advice.
Also, you really should listen to your parents. You are their daughter, so they have your best interest in mind.... (read in full...)
What exactly can I do to get her to open up and talk to me more?
Q. Okay here's the story. I'm a college student currently in a relationship with a 17 year old girl. I'm 19 and even though I get clowned on for being with this girl because she's "underage"...we've both known each other for a few years now, even ...
A. 23 November 2010: You have only been a couple for 3 months, so the relationship is still quite young! This is her first relationship, so you don’t want to pressure her into moving any faster than she is comfortable with. If you do, she will resent you, and she will ... (read in full...)
My husband just disappeared but is all over her facebook page!
Q. 21 years married 24 years together, two kids, I was happy I thought I had the best husband, he was so good to me then the unexpected happened 3 1/2 years ago he had an affair, from the internet, I was unable to forget....I fougnt with him ...
A. 22 November 2010: You are so much better off without this man. At the very least, he should be trying to repair his relationships with the kids. The anonymous email you received is very interesting. My guess is that it came from his girlfriend… or another jilted ... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 22 November 2010: I'm glad to hear you are feeling better! Let us know what happens when you talk to your friend. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My husband just disappeared but is all over her facebook page!
Q. 21 years married 24 years together, two kids, I was happy I thought I had the best husband, he was so good to me then the unexpected happened 3 1/2 years ago he had an affair, from the internet, I was unable to forget....I fougnt with him ...
A. 22 November 2010: This is terrible. Nobody should have to deal with something like this. When did your husband leave? You said he just disappeared. Do you mean he disappeared from your life… or do you mean that you have no idea where he is?
Obvio... (read in full...)
Is she marriage quality?
Q. I have been going out with this girl for 1.5 years now. We are both in our forties. She has had many many relationships in the past. I discovered that she falls in love very quickly (like she did with me) and she started many of her relationships ...
A. 22 November 2010: Are you the guy whose girlfriend took another man with her when she went on a business trip (to babysit her daughter)? Sorry if I’m confusing you with someone else.
Your girlfriend probably has low self esteem… that’s why she needs constant... (read in full...)
What kinds of topics should be taboo between married friends of opposite sex?
Q. I posted a question yesterday and I guess I shouldve said that my husband's female friend wants to get a boob job and asked my husband his opinion. She comes to him to discuss problems in her relationship and get advice. They both make sure they ...
A. 22 November 2010: Thanks for the update! It gives us more insight into the situation. So, it appears your husband is having an emotional affair with this woman and I wouldn’t be surprised if it has become physical. I would wonder if they are really meeting for ... (read in full...)
I kissed a guy when I was drunk, told my boyfriend and now I don't know what to do!
Q. As background, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and were quite happy together. We were near engagement, so it's a very serious relationship. I went to a going away party this weekend and got blackout drunk at the end of the ...
A. 22 November 2010: Your boyfriend is probably trying to sort out his feelings right now. Obviously, he feels devasted that his girlfriend cheated on him... and he was also extremely humiliated when this other guy told his friends he had done much more than just kiss ... (read in full...)
Is it terrible to stop liking someone because they are fat?
Q. Right, I like this girl but shes a bit fat. She's got a great personality and we get on great and she's a good laugh. I'm afraid to ask her out in case I will soon stop liking her because she's big and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I kinda fi...
A. 22 November 2010: If you don't ask her out, you will never know... so go for it! Maybe you can get her interested in some type of physical activity that you can do together. Or set up daily walks where you can enjoy one another's company while getting fit. You may ... (read in full...)
How can I just go with the flow with dating and not obsess over everything?
Q. I've been single for nearly three years after a healthy, long-term relationship. I've been told I am very attractive and I have been fortunate enough to meet quite a few men in these three years who have been interested in me but nothing ever seems ...
A. 22 November 2010: Do you think you may suffer from anxiety? I can identify with so much that you have written… and I have anxiety. When you said “my brain goes into over-drive and I over-analyze absolutely everything,” I couldn’t help but think… this is a classic ... (read in full...)
Why do I attract the kind of men that I do?
Q. So, I have never had a relationship with someone that I met IRL walking down the street, via a friend, etc. Every guy that I have dated, I have met online or through a dating service. I believed that this was because I am morbidly obese, and a lot ...
A. 21 November 2010: You sound like a really great gal with a lot of great things going for you. To be honest, your weight seems to be the only thing that may be holding you back from meeting the type of guy you deserve. As unfair and superficial as that is... guys ... (read in full...)
Why won't my husband watch porn with me?
Q. Ok, I have been with my husband for years,married 7 mons. ago. We have a great relationship except this 1 thing...He has always liked porn,mostly "barely legal"teen girls(or so they say)and I guess im at a loss cause I have said hey!why dont we ...
A. 21 November 2010: I don't see anything wrong with looking at porn... but it sounds like your husband may be addicted to it. He's downloading pics on his phone and mp3 player? Why? Does he need to look at porn when he isn't at home?
Have you asked him to keep ... (read in full...)
Coming out later in life. Who has experience with a changing sexual interest?
Q. What I want to ask are there other people like me. Or: are there any people who solved this problem and find a good solution for them self? Also why is my sexual interest changed? Hi, I got a problem with relationships and sexuality. S...
A. 21 November 2010: It is surprising that you didn’t exhibit sexual feelings for men until later in life. I tend to think you may have suppressed these feelings in order to conform to social norms. From what you have told us… I would definitely say you are bisexual, ... (read in full...)
Every time I see him I like him more but he has a girlfriend!
Q. So, I'm a freshman in college and there is this guy that I met who lives down the hall from me. I spend a lot of time in his and his roommate's room and they are both juniors. Every time I hang out in there, I start to like him a little more than ...
A. 21 November 2010: From what little you have told us, it's really hard to say whether he has any feelings for you or not. Sometimes when you like someone, you will overanalyze and misinterpret things he does and says because you are secretly hoping he feels the same ... (read in full...)
Why does her past bug me so much!
Q. Hi I have posted a few items now and I am sure a number of you will recognise which ones when I write on.... this is another post to see if I can tap into your wisdom again. My girlfriend and I get ever closer and also ever closer to having o...
A. 21 November 2010: I have read many posts about guys who are struggling to accept their partner's past sexual history. Your case is a little different because your girlfriend was a sex worker. How did she get involved in this line of work? Was she forced into it ... (read in full...)
I regret that I texted all of his friends about our breakup!
Q. i sent a text to all of his friends of what he did to me in our break up and now i regret it do i tell him im sorry or do i just leave it alone......
A. 21 November 2010: That probably wasn't one of your better ideas... but we all make mistakes... and it's in the past. So... try not to dwell on it.
What did he do during the breakup that you felt his friends needed to know? And did his friends respond to your ... (read in full...)
After six weeks of no contact my ex has sent me an email
Q. My ex boyfriend has emailed me saying he gets scared with relationships and stuff and that he has applied to work abroad for 18 months. He told me how much he would earn and come back with. He also told me he had had his mobile phone stolen. He ...
A. 21 November 2010: Did you ask your boyfriend where he had been for the last 6 weeks... and what kept him from calling or visiting you? Unless he was in the hospital, you should not get back together with him. Could he have been in jail?
This man has a serious ... (read in full...)
What kinds of topics should be taboo between married friends of opposite sex?
Q. I posted a question yesterday and I guess I shouldve said that my husband's female friend wants to get a boob job and asked my husband his opinion. She comes to him to discuss problems in her relationship and get advice. They both make sure they ...
A. 21 November 2010: I don’t think it is appropriate for a woman to be asking your husband what he thinks about her getting a boob job. That’s a question she should ask her own husband. Think about it… why would she care what your husband thinks, unless she has a ... (read in full...)
Neighbour's constant coughing is driving me nuts!!!
Q. My neighbour converted one of the bedrooms in his house into a bathroom. Unfortunately, it happens to be the one the other side of my bedroom wall and for months now he has been coughing incessantly but tends to go into the bathroom to do it. This ...
A. 21 November 2010: I'm sorry you are having difficulty sleeping, but your neighbor has done nothing wrong. It's not like he is blaring music at night. And he is entitled to convert a bedroom into a bathroom if he pleases. It sounds like you are a light sleeper wh... (read in full...)
Friends, lovers then friends again... but what are we now?
Q. I dated/lived with my ex-boyfriend for about 7 months. (we broke-up 5 months ago.) At the end or our realationship I became very insecure and was convienced that he wasnt into me anymore. This eventually broke us up. At first when we broke up we did ...
A. 21 November 2010: However you are acting towards him now… don’t stop! He likes to see you positive and upbeat. Like many guys… he is turned off by your insecurity. But this doesn’t mean you should pretend as if it doesn’t exist. Are you doing anything to improve ... (read in full...)
He keeps making profiles on sex sites! Should I just let this go?
Q. Anyone else go or going thru where in a committed relationship and boyfriend/husband on the internet(phone) alot not just porn but also make profiles on sex seeking sites (discrete hookups etc).I didn't know he was doing this until a fluke msg came ...
A. 20 November 2010: I understand you are reluctant to give up on him so easily because you share 5 children with him. But if he is not willing to make drastic changes, you MUST find the strength to move on.
Now that you have told him that he needs to stop see... (read in full...)
In love with a married man. What is my future? Is this a sin??
Q. i am unmarried and in love with a married man who's 22 years elder than me. He's got his wife and daughter in India and says if he divorced his wife she would commit suicide. I don't want to make her sad either. Currently he works in Dubai. His love ...
A. 20 November 2010: Have you lost your mind? This is absolutely crazy! I realize you are in your 30’s and do not require parental consent… but do your parents know about your plans to run off and marry a man (who refuses to divorce his wife) that you have never met ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my girlfriend who has love addiction?
Q. I have a dilemma: I think my girlfriend has love addiction. I have been dating this woman for over a year now. She is 44 and I am 47. I have discovered that she has been in lots and lots of relationships before we met, some lasting a few days to ...
A. 20 November 2010: You are wise to be concerned about this woman. Reading your post… red flags were popping up all over the place! From my experience… if you have a gut-feeling about something… your instincts are usually right.
Given her history, I agree th... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know I want him to feature more in our daughter's life?
Q. I had a love child with a married man and she is now 2 years old. It was a mistake but shes here to stay and is a lovely kid. He has never met her but we live quite close and she will go to the same school as his 4 year old. He has seen us in town ...
A. 20 November 2010: I see your point in wanting to keep the affair and child a secret. Honestly, I don’t see how this can be kept a secret forever. If you could be 100% certain that his wife and son would never find out about this, I would say... keep it to yourself. ... (read in full...)
Moving in with my boyfriend, how do I break the news to my housemate?
Q. Hey Guys and Girls Me and my boyfriend have decided to move in together in a few weeks time and we have found the perfect house. I currently live with a housemate of 3 years and I am wondering if anyone has any tips to break the news to him th...
A. 20 November 2010: I absolutely agree with Aunty BimBim... you MUST give your roommate several months notice, so he can find a new roommate. You need to tell him NOW! And then... let your boyfriend know that you will have to postpone your move-in date for several ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Will she come back?
Q. My ex and I have been broken up for about 10 weeks now and the entire ordeal has been rough for me, especially when I found out that she's been dating somebody new right when our relationship ended. I've done everything that I can think of to move ...
A. 20 November 2010: Breakups are always painful. I have no doubt that you are going through a very sad time right now… especially since your girlfriend moved on to a new relationship so fast. There is always a possibility that your girlfriend will come back to you, ... (read in full...)
Where is the best place to look for a "decent" guy?
Q. Hi guys I would like some advice please. Every guy I am interested in, sadly has a colorful past. Way too much for my taste. I have tried different environents even at church! And those men still have secrets that you can't imagine! Anyway, I ...
A. 20 November 2010: Have you tried joining a coed adult sport's league... like softball, kickball, or bowling? Don't worry... you don't have to be good at the sport to join. You will meet a lot of new friends that way and possibly find someone you click with. The ... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know I want him to feature more in our daughter's life?
Q. I had a love child with a married man and she is now 2 years old. It was a mistake but shes here to stay and is a lovely kid. He has never met her but we live quite close and she will go to the same school as his 4 year old. He has seen us in town ...
A. 20 November 2010: That must be so painful to see him around town with his family. I can't speak for others, but personally, if my husband had cheated on me and fathered a child... I would definitely want to know!
And when I put myself in your shoes... I have to ... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 20 November 2010: I agree... you need to keep eye on your hubby and friend. I was under the impression that YOU were the one that initiated the threesome. Did you talk to your husband and friend about it yet? You need to let them know it was a mistake that will ... (read in full...)
Am I blowing things out of proportion?
Q. Iv been with my current bf for almost five years. At The beginning of the week he left a table in my car and I culdnt see out of my back window on the interstate so wen I got home I told him to take it out n take it home well then it got blown out ...
A. 20 November 2010: You have already apologized for something that really doesn’t seem like a big deal. Nobody’s perfect… and you were probably hormonal. As long as you made it very clear that you feel terrible about starting an argument over a table… then he should ... (read in full...)
How do I face them after our drunken threesome?
Q. I feel so sad guilty and ashamed. Yesterday my hubby and me went out for drinks after work, we were having so much fun that we didn't want to call it a night so we went home and continue drinking and my best friend tagged along we were having a ...
A. 19 November 2010: Try not to beat yourself up over this… the mistake has been made. If you haven’t done so already… definitely speak with your husband and friend (separately), and let them know that it was a mistake. I have read plenty of posts about marriages that ... (read in full...)
He keeps making profiles on sex sites! Should I just let this go?
Q. Anyone else go or going thru where in a committed relationship and boyfriend/husband on the internet(phone) alot not just porn but also make profiles on sex seeking sites (discrete hookups etc).I didn't know he was doing this until a fluke msg came ...
A. 19 November 2010: Oh no! This is not good. NOT all men do this… only the ones who want to cheat! This is completely different than just looking at porn.
If he has joined sex sites for discrete sex… then it’s pretty obvious he is looking for discrete sex! SE... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know I want him to feature more in our daughter's life?
Q. I had a love child with a married man and she is now 2 years old. It was a mistake but shes here to stay and is a lovely kid. He has never met her but we live quite close and she will go to the same school as his 4 year old. He has seen us in town ...
A. 19 November 2010: You likely feel a bond to him because he is the father of your child, but from what you have told us, it doesn’t sound like he feels the same way. If he truly cared about you and your daughter, he would have had the decency to support you through ... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know I want him to feature more in our daughter's life?
Q. I had a love child with a married man and she is now 2 years old. It was a mistake but shes here to stay and is a lovely kid. He has never met her but we live quite close and she will go to the same school as his 4 year old. He has seen us in town ...
A. 18 November 2010: If he hasn’t made a single effort to meet her by now, it’s unlikely that will change. It’s as if he has completely blocked her out of his mind because she represents a threat to his current family.
He should have told his wife about the affa... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know I want him to feature more in our daughter's life?
Q. I had a love child with a married man and she is now 2 years old. It was a mistake but shes here to stay and is a lovely kid. He has never met her but we live quite close and she will go to the same school as his 4 year old. He has seen us in town ...
A. 17 November 2010: Does his wife know that her husband had an affair with you? If so, does she know about your child?... (read in full...)
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