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writes:There's been a lot of drama going on! I try to ignore it, but they've been going back to the teacher saying that I've been saying these awful things about them, and spreading rumors that really embarrass me! I don't say anything to them, I just ignore them and laugh at them and say grow up for goodness sake. But inside it's really starting hurting me that the fact I might get in a lot of trouble, and get kicked off the course. They are also going to make a fake page of me on facebook and pretend that I'm abusing them. I haven't got them as a friend anymore. How do I deal with this childish behaviour? I've sat down with the teacher about it, and so have they. They twist everything so the teacher doesn't know who to trust.I think it's gone too far with this "fake page" could I get the police involved?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 December 2010):
 1. you can contact Facebook, if they use your picture or name, that is a violation. And yes, you can also contact the police, as it is considered cyberstalking" or bullying. They can track their IP's.
2.Also have a meeting with your school counselor and explain what is going on. They ought to help you out as well.
3.On top of that, tell your parents. They can help you file a report.
4. Ignore Ignore Ignore. DO not get into any verbal altercations with them, just WALK away, let them be the ones standing there looking stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Ignore them, don't stoop to their level. I've been there and girls can be real bitches. If they say anything nasty just smile and walk past them. Don't give them the time of day.
The more you let it affect you the more they are getting what they want. Don't report them to your teacher because this just shows them it's bothering you. If you were a child then i would say go to a teacher but college is when you start to be a bit independant.
The more you ignore them the sooner they will get bored because they aren't getting a rise out of you. They will find another victim soon enough.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Absolutely! If someone is harassing you on the internet, you should contact the police. Use the "print screen" option on your keyboard to make copies of anything they do or say that is threatening. Also, if they create a fake page in your name, you should contact Facebook, so they can take it down.
These girls are bullies who enjoy tormenting others. You need to keep a record of anything they do to you, along with the date and time it occurred. Also, note the names of any witnesses.
Is there a school counselor or another teacher you can talk to about this? I would highly recommend you do this ASAP.
When these girls say mean things or try to embarrass you, don't react or say anything. They receive satisfaction from your reactions. Just act like you don't hear them. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. In the U.S., bullying is getting a lot of attention in the news lately. I hope the same can be said of the UK.
Try not to let these girls get to you. Please keep us updated. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Talk to your tutor again at college. Say you are isolated and at a loss to know what to do and also mention the Facebook page just so they know that this is going on. The school have a duty of care to you and must act on your behalf. Don't react in any way that might come back on you. Can your parents help here by also contacting the college. This is a common problem, bullying etc and all schools and college have proceedures which they should follow. I know that does not help you in the short term. There are bullying helplines which will be able to advice on what to do about a bogus Facebook page. I would look up one of those phonelines and talk to someone to get verbal support and advice. 'Childline' may be of help as you are under 18. Good luck. Take heart that many people have been in your position and come through.
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (2 December 2010):
Hey, well maybe if you go and talk to each girl induviduly or by a group? Tell them how youu feel.
Im not telling you to get the police involved but it has gone far too far?
Maybe tell your mum and see if she thinks you should?
Good luck sweetie x
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reader, Nime +, writes (2 December 2010):
 How is this childish drama going on in your college and why is your professor putting up with it? She's not your babysitter. You're all practically adults and you should be working this stuff out on your own!
Your first step should be to stop trying to get the professor involved, because you can be sure she's going to lose respect for you. If you want to redeem yourself you might even try apologizing to her. If the girls make a fake facebook page about you 'abusing them' (I'm not sure what that even means) then you'll have to contact support on facebook and ask them to take it down. Bullying at your age is usually more or less two-way, so although you don't say, you must be doing something to provoke these girls in turn and you need to stop that. If I were you I would just ask these girls directly what their deal is and call a truce.
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reader, Simply Jane2011  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 ive been in that exact situation, Girls always used to pick on me, teachers didnt belive me, All i can suggest is just ignore them, and dont tell the teacher anything, sooner or later they are going to get bored and find someone else to pick on. dont even laugh or say anyhting, be the grown up and dont listen to them. sooner or later they will show themselves up,
hope this helps
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