We both know we could be good for each other but are afraid to date one another
Q. A friend of mine last week revealed to me that she loved me. I have known for quite some time that she felt that way and never said or acted on it because I did not want to risk ruining what we have. Now that she has made it clear her feelings for ...
A. 13 September 2009: Woah there, well the fact that she is in love with a MARRIED MAN with CHILDREN may well explain why she's a bit hesitant.
That's a pretty important detail just to drop into an update.
If that's the case then you can't blame her for wanting to k... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't care who I go out with. Does he really love me?
Q. My b/f loves me but is not at all possessive about me. I can go out with anybody and do whatever I feel like. He doent mind. On the other end I am extremely possessive about him and he respects it and feels really good about this . Then why he ...
A. 13 September 2009: He sounds a great boyfriend!
I wish all boyfriends were like that, it would solve a lot of misery.
If you want to get rid of this wonderful man and let some other girl enjoy having the perfect boyfriend then do it.
Find yourself a man w... (read in full...)
At 21, is it too late to learn and be loved ?
Q. I've always had problems socialising and making friends, as in I have no idea how to form relationships. This also means i've never had a girlfriend. I just have no confidence, feel like im imposing myself on people and generally just clueless. ...
A. 13 September 2009: No at 21 you are SO OLD that you really should be looking into retirement homes.
Are you serious?
You are just depressed. Yes it's hard to make friends. But you have to put some effort in rather than thinking you can't change anything in your... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that someone tried to kiss me?
Q. Hey, I'd like your opinion on the situation please! my bf and i have been together for a year now. because of his job we are long distance now, but still fully commited and faithful to eachother. Before he left, he told me he wanted to know e...
A. 13 September 2009: I would tell him, but you have to be careful about HOW you tell him.
Don't say "I did something I have to tell you about... I'm really sorry." because YOU did nothing wrong, and his head is going to jump to the worst possible conclusion before y... (read in full...)
Should I stay secretly unhappy in love?
Q. I need help? I am in a de-facto relationship of 18 months, we have bought a lovely home together. I love him very much but unfortunately it is the old hollywood line "I love him but I'm not IN love with him". I don't want to hurt him, I thought I ...
A. 13 September 2009: Well first off you should give it a try at fixing things.
I'm betting you spend a LOT of time with him since you moved in together so fast.
When 2 people spend every day together they stop being themselves and just pick up aspects of the o... (read in full...)
Husband cheated, don't want to stay but don't want to destroy our family
Q. I've been married for almost three years now my husband has put me down and called me names our whole relationship I left him july of last year for cheating on me but I came back cause I found out I was pregnant I thought that things would change ...
A. 13 September 2009: Leave.
If she grows up thinking that this is how a man treats his girlfriend then she is going to get into bad relationships as soon as she is old enough.
2 women a week die from domestic violence in the UK. I imagine it's far more in the USA.... (read in full...)
Could my daughter be lying that she is a virgin?
Q. My daughter has just turned 17 and she says that she is still a virgin. I believe her because when she gose places she calls me every five minutes, but my cousins all believe that she has had sex. I think that she has not because she dose not go to ...
A. 13 September 2009: Why are your cousins so involved anyway?
Just tell them to bugger off.
What your daughter gets up to is none of their business.
As long as you talk to her and tell her that it's her choice, explain how no means no, explain how to avoid bad... (read in full...)
We both know we could be good for each other but are afraid to date one another
Q. A friend of mine last week revealed to me that she loved me. I have known for quite some time that she felt that way and never said or acted on it because I did not want to risk ruining what we have. Now that she has made it clear her feelings for ...
A. 13 September 2009: Just get the hell on with it.
If you have feelings for her then you are not her friend. You are lying to her by saying you are. It's exactly the same with her as well.
The only reason she's back tracking now over what she said is because she r... (read in full...)
Ex is being a hypocrite trying to do this!
Q. i need help here. i had a messy breakup with my ex fiance. part of the reaon was i was friends with another guy and spoke to him on email which he didnt like. i have lived with my mistake ever since but now he has come back into my life on facebook...
A. 13 September 2009: You know why he's ok with it now, because he's a hypocrite!!
You don't end things with the girl you wanted to marry over a couple of emails.
He just used that as an excuse to get out of the engagement because he didn't want to be with you. It ... (read in full...)
Please help me save my sister!
Q. I know this isnt really a relationship question, but I could use some help. My sisteris 30 -- married and has 2 kids (from different fathers). She was a wild child from starting at age 12 all the way up to about 7-8 yrs ago. Such a little ...
A. 13 September 2009: Unless you are going to get her to see a doctor then you can't do a lot to save her.
What you should be concentrating on is your father and her children.
If they are not being looked after then report it. Don't let them suffer because you are ... (read in full...)
Can you get infection from anal sex?
Q. hey i just need to know what would happen if my boyfriend's sperms came into my back side ... i need to know is there any infections would occour in the intestine or not .. please i need reply as soon as possible thanks...
A. 13 September 2009: Well the biggest one to worry about is obviously HIV.
Go to a GUM clinic and get them to explain to you about safe sex and do some tests.
Put Gum clinic into google and find your nearest one. They are normally at the hospital.
Goo... (read in full...)
I"m in love with my wife's sister...I want to marry her!
Q. i am and have been overwhelmingly in love with my sister in-law (my wife's sister). first u must understand my wife and i are not in love with each other and haven't slept or been intimate with each other for a least 10 years. i had a few chances ...
A. 13 September 2009: Well if you don't love your wife then why are you still there married to her?
If she doesn't love you, why would she not be happy to move on and find a man who does love her?
First of all you need to stop thinking about what you want and sor... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is just flirty because he can be!
Q. Hi there, i was wondering if you could help me basically i like this guy he is just the everything to me not everyone but to me, he is the bomb! right i go to a night club and he is the DJ there and wen ever im on the dancefloor apparently he ...
A. 13 September 2009: Sounds like he has seen you checking him out, knows you are young and is just going to see what he can get.
Most women would have turned round and slapped him for grabbing their bum. His mates were probably watching and got a right laugh out of t... (read in full...)
Bites? Scabies? Allergic reaction?
Q. I've recently been waking up with what looks like mosquito bites but i did a little reasearch and i think it might be a dust mite bite but there is 5 of them , I am worried. Is it an allergic reaction? Is it scabies? when i first got bitten it hurt ...
A. 12 September 2009: There is nothing wrong with seeing your doctor just to get things ruled out, but in the mean time, put your pillows in the tumble dryer on high heat, buy a mattress protector, and strip your bed and vacuum it. Deep clean your room just be be safe.... (read in full...)
Relationship where we've never had sex, he's never said I love you
Q. Hi I am a 28 year old woman and have been in a relationship with a 32 year old guy for over 3 years now. He has never said I love you to me. Also he will not have sex with me- we have never even slept in the same bed. He always has an excuse and we ...
A. 12 September 2009: Have you done ANYTHING with him? If not then you are basically just friends. I think after 3 years you know he is never going to change so I think you have to be strong and take action here. I think it would be best for you if you could break ... (read in full...)
Strange physical sypmtoms are really concerning me. Please help!
Q. I know this isnt love advice but it is necessary. I have recently been feeling sick/nausea, always tired, i have lost my appetite and have a metallic taste in my mouth. Not to mention the hair on my legs seems to have a life of its own and is ...
A. 12 September 2009: Go to your GP and find out.
I've just asked my husband (who is a paramedic) and he says a metallic taste is a symptom of several illnesses. That's a bit of a worrying thing.
It could well be that you have picked up an STD from your boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
I'm turned off by my girlfriend's tattoo, this is causing problems during sex!
Q. I have a problem with my girls tattoo. Its quite large and of a tribal/spikey design. I love her to death and before people jump in and tell me about self expression and accepting her for who she is - I totally except her for who she is and love her ...
A. 12 September 2009: Well I don;t think it's fair for you to ask her to get rid of it, even if you pay for laser removal.
If you can't deal with it then you just have to be nice and tell her you want to be friends.
And in future, you need to ask up front if a girl ... (read in full...)
I don't like sex, it's despicable, what do you think?
Q. I don't like sex, I never have and I don't think I ever will. I'm not asexual, I'm anti-sexual. For me, sex has a negative impact on a relationship not a positive. I think as a man, if you have a sexual relationships with a women they ...
A. 12 September 2009: That's nice.
So if you are happy in yourself and your plan for life why are you here?
What's your question?
What drove you to come to a problem page and tell us this?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why do women have checklists for potential boyfriends? Is it all about box ticking?
Q. Ok so this is really a question for men who have been through the same thing and women who have told a guy this and what it really meant for them. I'm in love with this girl for quite some time now. She is my best friend. So much so that I d...
A. 12 September 2009: Well it is just the way we are.
You can't blame us in wanting to be a bit picky when it comes to choosing a man to mate with!
You wouldn't buy a car or a house just because it's perfect for later life, when it's completely unsuitable for y... (read in full...)
He said he owns me and I'm his property?
Q. My boyfriend has told me that I'm his and stuff before but the other day we were driving and he said in his famous 'joking yet serious tone' "you're mine...your My property and i own you your stuck with me" he said some other stuff pertaining to ...
A. 12 September 2009: You say you don't know what's normal. So I shall tell you.
This is not normal.
Any guy can make you happy and cuddle you. Any guy can be defensive and worry about the fact you could be in danger.
GOOD guys do not make you unhappy and try... (read in full...)
He said he owns me and I'm his property?
Q. My boyfriend has told me that I'm his and stuff before but the other day we were driving and he said in his famous 'joking yet serious tone' "you're mine...your My property and i own you your stuck with me" he said some other stuff pertaining to ...
A. 10 September 2009: Yeah you should be concerned.
This is the kind of thing that can be sorted out straight away, OR if left it can go seriously horribly wrong in a few months time when you've fallen for him and turns into a controlling psychotic.
You need to b... (read in full...)
I can't commit whats wrong?
Q. Ok then . . . I'm 26 (almost 27) and I CANNOT COMMIT. Seriously, when I think about it, I freak. Well, I don't but whenever a relationship gets too serious I just bolt. Completely. I'm out the door like a gunshot. All the bf's I've had are really q...
A. 10 September 2009: You sound just like me. I'm very jealous of your job.
The problem with strong independent fun women like us is that guys fall for us very easily. They think we are what they need in a girl, when actually they want a girl who will cuddle us and b... (read in full...)
Will I have control on cocaine?
Q. I have always wanted to try having sex on cocaine and my boyfriend scored some and we'll be getting busy on coke this weekend. The thing is that I don't want to lose all control of my actions. I smoke pot occasionally and it stimulates my se...
A. 10 September 2009: Well weed is not really cut too badly and it's not as strong as coke.
However, coke is cut with so much other crap that the stuff you have is probably 30% cocaine and 70% who the hell knows.
You don't know what the other stuff is and that can ... (read in full...)
Why do I always think I'm pregnant?
Q. hello everyone, im a 17 year old girl and i am on the contreceptive pill however every time i have sex im convinced im pregnant. No matter how many negative pregnancy test i have i still convince myself im getting pregnancy symptoms, even when i use ...
A. 10 September 2009: To be honest, fear is healthy, it stops us doing stupid things.
Pregnancy is the last thing you want unless you are willing to be broke and have no life and lose your body for the next 20 years.
The simplest solution for you is to take a break ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about our age or the length of our relationship?
Q. my bf and i have been going out for about 5 months and he said he was ready to have sex (we're both 18). should i be concerned about our age or the length of our relationship?...
A. 10 September 2009: You are old enough to vote drink and go to war so you should be able to handle sex.
If you want to wait a bit longer though then that is absolutely fine. Make sure it's what you want and not what you think you should do.
If it's your first ... (read in full...)
Does my husband have another life in the UK???
Q. I've become concerned at the amount of time my husband has been spending flying out to the United Kingdom. I've noticed a lot of flight bills for flights to "Manchester, United Kingdom" and "Bolton, United Kingdom". At first I thought it was b...
A. 10 September 2009: Best fake post in a while. Thanks for the giggle.
But I must be off to Bolton Airport now, I've got a flight to "White House Airport, Americanville"
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He told me if I left him he'd be a "walking dead person"
Q. I've been trying to break up with my long distance boyfriend for what seems like a month now...We live in different countries and I'd have to wait a lot of time in order to meet him again. Maybe even a year. I know it's horrible to break up thro...
A. 10 September 2009: Yep he's getting obsessive and that's not right. It's not healthy for either of you.
But you just have to save him from himself and get on with it.
You don't need to get him over you before you end things.
You just need to tell him that he... (read in full...)
How could I find my birth father having these few details?
Q. i am desperately trying to find my birth father. I know very little about him apart from his full name and his approximate year of birth. his details are not on my birth certificate. please help!...
A. 10 September 2009: Have you tried the phone book? Voting register? putting it into google?
There are also ways of checking birth and marriage certificates.
Have a look on the internet about tracing family histories. There are lots of ways to find people.
Good ... (read in full...)
I'm not really comfortable with having an open relationship, but I just don't want to lose her
Q. Hey, me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 months now, im 18 and she is 17. She as recently entered that phase in life where she wants to go out and have fun with other guys, but she also wants to stay with me. More to the point, she has ...
A. 9 September 2009: Yeah this really isn't fair on you is it.
She can either be with you, or she can go and have her fun.
You have to tell her that she can't have her cake and eat it. It's selfish and unfair.
Be strong and let her go. If you move on and she l... (read in full...)
Should I encourage her to keep her options open or just stay out of it?
Q. A friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for a long time. She loves him and he loves her. They have issues though. I've told her they will never change because he is unwilling to change the drinking addiction he has. He is also unemployed ...
A. 9 September 2009: As her mate you should encourage her to dump her guy. Yes.
But giving her a new boyfriend so soon is too much. Jumping from one relationship to another is never a good option.
Get her single and happy in herself and THEN suggest to this ... (read in full...)
I'm making myself sick over this... please help!
Q. I'm new here so hope I don't sound toO crazy. I do love my husband but the things I have found out and the lies ARE about toO much, my first marriage I put up with more than I should have and said I would never let another man hurt me again and I ...
A. 9 September 2009: You need to get away from the situation so I suggest going to stay with friends for a few days to get your head straight.
Decide if you think the marriage is savable.
Let him know what he needs to do to keep you and then if he doesn't do it th... (read in full...)
He likes to cuddle but not have sex. What's up with that?
Q. Long story short... 34 year old attractive female, divorced with kids got into an amazing relationship with an incredibly attractive 37 year old man over 2 years ago. Amazing sparks in EVERY area and life was great....no, no...PERFECT. We are now ...
A. 9 September 2009: This is getting to be a very common problem, try searching for stress leading to lack of sex and you'll get to read lots of answers.
When men get stressed or depressed their sex drive is the first thing to go.
If you can remove some of his stre... (read in full...)
Does her story make sense?
Q. My girlfriend who I have been dating for over a year came into town this weekend. We have not seen each other for over a month. She came into town with her friend a gay guy I have never met. She told me she would call me when they got into town and ...
A. 9 September 2009: Why on earth would she lie?
She as on a boat, was late, had absolute proof in the form of a written witness statement from the police....
So what is your problem??
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend. What should I do? I don't want to ruin what we have
Q. Alright so ive known this girl for about 2 and a half years and ive always had a little bit attracted to her. weve always been really good friends. But within the past few months she has gone through family issues and has become very dependent on me ...
A. 9 September 2009: Oh no! She needed you and you put your arms round her when she was vulnerable and felt like a man.....
Vulnerability is THE most attractive thing in the world to nice men like you. It happens all the time.
You feel great when you can make her... (read in full...)
How can I make going to college more interesting?
Q. hello, this may sound like a stupid question but it is something that is really getting me down. I have recently passed my AS exams and have returned to college to do my A2 exams. But most of my friends havent returned to school as they didnt pass,...
A. 8 September 2009: It's only the first week back so give it a chance.
You have the opportunity to make new friends now.
Ask some one new if you can sit with them in your classes. Take a chance. At the very least you will have someone to work on your subjects wi... (read in full...)
How do I get my x husband to stop causing drama?
Q. My x will not stop causing drama. We have a 6 year old daughter together im worried she will have long term effects by all of this. He continues to cause problems during pick ups and sporting events etc. I am in a new and wonderful relationship, ...
A. 8 September 2009: Why on earth haven't you called the police??? A man is threatening you and your family and you are just letting your children learn that this is acceptable? No. You teach your kids by example and you teach them to stand up to bullies like this... (read in full...)
Fiance broke up with me because he had never dated anyone else
Q. Hi I need help my ex of four years left me seven months ago, three months before our wedding beause he said that it would always be in the back of his mind he's never dated anyone else and he could't marry me until he knew for sure I was the right ...
A. 8 September 2009: I think you have to accept that he has made a stupid stupid gamble, and that he cares more about his own desire to sleep around at this point than about you. Start the process of getting over him. Spend time with friends, cut contact with h... (read in full...)
Do I confess my feelings or just enjoy the moment?
Q. I have been sleeping with this guy for roughly five months now but Ive started to develop feelings for him as we've started to get to know each other better on a level that wasnt strictly sexual. I enjoy the relationship we have now because it ...
A. 8 September 2009: Well to be fair, unless he is your boyfriend he doesn't get to say diddly squat when it comes to your love life. If you want a relationship with a guy then you go and get one. If he wants to stop it then he can offer to be your boyfriend and s... (read in full...)
I wish I was asexual.
Q. Is there any cure to help me with this disease that's called "hetrosexuality"? Can it be cured by medication or psychotherapy? This is not a joke, I hate my sexuality. During my teenage years I often thought about being castrated, to cu...
A. 7 September 2009: Just take this to a doctor.
If you want sex, then get it.
If you don't, then don't.
Take up yoga or get some therapy.
Sounds to me like you just need to move out and get a girlfriend.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Problems with my son since my husband passed away. Please help.
Q. Our eldest son is 15 and has gotten in the habit of borrowing my records without permission (it seems he likes Sixties music). While he was at school yesterday, I was looking for another album. I found two others in his room, so I started ...
A. 3 September 2009: I'm by no means an expert on teenage boys but I would imagine that letting him know that you KNOW what he's been up to would be HORRIFYING to him.
As his mum you are the LAST person who should know about his perfect and undying devotion to this ... (read in full...)
Help!!! He wants to take my virginity at 13!!!
Q. hi my name is kylie, i have a boyfriend and i dont think he loves me. all he really wants to do is take my virgintiy away from me, and it scares me. PLEASE help me im scared!...
A. 3 September 2009: Dump him, and if he won't go away then tell someone like an adult.
Call the police if you are scared. It's better to make a fuss than get raped.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My dating problems seem to come from preferring to be alone
Q. I've been thinking a lot about my dating problems (as you do) and I think what it all boils down to is that I just like being on my own. Does anyone else feel like this too? I like being independent, cooking and shopping for myself and I even prefer ...
A. 3 September 2009: I feel the same as you. I will never ever understand these girls who put up with crap boyfriends rather than "being alone."
Being alone is great.
I can spend ages alone, but I do also like having one to ones with friends or being in a group... (read in full...)
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