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writes: Hey,I'd like your opinion on the situation please!my bf and i have been together for a year now. because of his job we are long distance now, but still fully commited and faithful to eachother. Before he left, he told me he wanted to know everything that happened to me. He also said that if anyone tried to kiss me, or that if i kissed somebody I should tell him.A friend today tried to kiss me, but i pulled away immediately and nothing happened. My question then is, should I tell him or not? Should i respect his wishes or left it unsaid, because i think that it is unnecessary information because it will/could complicate things between us. yet, i feel bad because i dont want him to find out from others..or even if he doesnt, i feel bad hiding things from him.what do you think I should do?
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reader, Help is here  +, writes (14 September 2009):
you should tell him, that will show the trust you 2 share,
my girl is in KY i am in AZ, last week a friend of her ry to make a move on her, so she just stoped it, and she has got distance from this guy now, the point is that she told me waht happend, and we know that we will face difficulties like this, also when something happens to me, she is the firstone to know about it, that comunication and trust has been the engine for our relationship to keep going. now if your guy freaks out and does not trust you 100% then it will be extra difficult for you guys..
good luck, and i hope i helped...
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reader, Sugarmuffin  +, writes (13 September 2009):
 Babe, does it not feeling good when your boyfriend gets jealous?
It proves he loves you.
But I agree with the other answer someone gave,
be very careful how you phrase your words,
Never say
I did something... dont freak out
Because like that other person said,
YOU didn't do anything wrong
Infact, you pulled away, you could've kissed that person but you did not.
And that tested your love to your partner!
Well done love.
Now,
Tell him, because if you keep it and tell him like 6 months down the line, he will be hurt that you lied.
So tell him
Get it off your chest.
Give him details so he knows you're telling the truth
and just..
Go with it.
Ok?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 September 2009):
I would tell him, but you have to be careful about HOW you tell him.
Don't say "I did something I have to tell you about... I'm really sorry." because YOU did nothing wrong, and his head is going to jump to the worst possible conclusion before you have a chance to explain.
Tell him that you are feeling down because you've had a big row with one of your friends. When he asks what then tell him "Tom was talking to me and then he tried to kiss me. I nearly slapped him! So we've had words about it obviously and he knows he's in the wrong.... I just hope I wasn't being too nice to him or anything. He knows about you so he KNOWS nothing would ever happen...."
You get the idea.
Good Luck!! xx
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