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writes:i am and have been overwhelmingly in love with my sister in-law (my wife's sister). first u must understand my wife and i are not in love with each other and haven't slept or been intimate with each other for a least 10 years. i had a few chances make a move on her but i didn't take it. idon't know why. it's been about 3 or 4 years now, and i think about her every day. i love it when sbe is around. i am so in love with her. i want to be with her. i want to marry her. what do i do. please someone help me.
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reader, califnan +, writes (13 September 2009):
 I cannot imagine two people being married, and not making love for ten years.. Are you sure this is true.. Marriage is about intimacy. You are in a marriage Under God. You had better start having communication with your wife and find out her feelings, and try to repair before you think about going to anyone else..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): I just don't get why people stay in unsatisfactory marriages while their life slides by. Assuming that your wife isn't physically unable to be intimate with you, I can't think why you would want to tolerate living like that. No wonder you have feelings for someone else. How does the sister feel about you? If she's in love with you and your wife isn't, then there's no really good reason why you can't change things and everyone come out of it OK in the end.
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (13 September 2009):
Shes your wife's sister dude. PLAIN AND SIMPLY OFF LIMITS. Dont do that to your wifes family. You dont love someone it ok, move on. In life we all got to have some boundaries, morals. Marrying your wifes sister, highly immoral. What ever your current wife did, or didnt do, she doesnt deserve that kind of heartbreak. This woman has given you years of her life, for the appreciation of that, forget about this other woman. Divorce your wife and find somone else that isnt related to her. Dont try and find ways to justify hitting the sheets with your wifes sister cause the answer is, wrong. Nothing you ever do in this lifetime will ever make this ok. Not even a divorce.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 September 2009):
Well if you don't love your wife then why are you still there married to her?
If she doesn't love you, why would she not be happy to move on and find a man who does love her?
First of all you need to stop thinking about what you want and sort your marriage out. Talk to your wife. Tell her that you don't think she loves you and you haven't had sex in 10 years and you are not happy. Ask if she'd be happier with a man who could make her happy since you obviously don't.
Either agree to give it one more try with your wife, or discuss how you can break up and stay friends.
After the divorce is done, the house is sold and you are BOTH happy with the arrangement, then you can try talking to the sister. But not before.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): So your wife's sister knows nothing about your feelings for her? You are making massive assumptions she would want you too! Putting your own feelings aside do you think you have the right to split up a family? It would be much less complicated to walk away from both parties and find someone who is available to love and which won't involve wrecking a family in the process. You have only got to know her sister because she is related. Finding someone independent is harder work and would mean leaving your wife first - climbing out your comfort zone. You might not be sleeping with your wife but I would imagine she cares for you? I think you need a reality check.
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