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writes:I know this isnt really a relationship question, but I could use some help. My sisteris 30 -- married and has 2 kids (from different fathers). She was a wild child from starting at age 12 all the way up to about 7-8 yrs ago. Such a little hellion, I was turned off on having kids. Anyway, I thought she was getting better, and trying to make something of herself, until about 3 mos ago, she started cheating on her husband, and neglecting the kids. This is REALLY bad, she even brought this other guy over to the house on her husbands birthday -- real nice. She has little income, spends most nights out drinking with god knows who, her house is a disaster (kinda like you would find on a show where they confiscate animals). To make things more complex, my mom died 3 mos ago, and my dad moved in with her shortly after. He needed her help to get along, but she pretty much ignored him too. Now dad is in the hospital with little time left himself. Although never officially diagnosed, she is likely bi-polar, and these family events will certainly not help her. ------------- Is there anything I can do to keep her from going down this path of distruction any further?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 September 2009):
Unless you are going to get her to see a doctor then you can't do a lot to save her.
What you should be concentrating on is your father and her children.
If they are not being looked after then report it. Don't let them suffer because you are worried about her. Go round there and talk to them, see how the KIDS are getting on.
Spend as much time with your dad and take the kids to see him if you can. Just make sure they are fairly clean before you take them into a hospital. If their house is as bad as you say then they could kill a whole ward. Make sure they (and you) wash your hands when you arrive at hospital.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2009): She is in dire need of professional help. Contact social services to make sure her children are provided for and their welfare secured. If she is mentally sick they should seek treatment for her as well.I'd speak with someone at childhelp [CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD]and state what you've stated here and see what professional advice they have for you.http://www.childhelp.org/resources/learning-center/for-kidshttp://www.acf.hhs.gov/http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_Protective_Services
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